How To Talk To Your Partner

About Taking

FINISHING SCHOOL
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In Finishing School itself, I’ll teach you exactly how to talk

to your partner about everything you’re going to learn,
even if you’ve never talked about sex before. I know that
talking about sex can feel really intimidating initially, so
I’ve broken everything down for you into step-by-step
scripts.

But before you get all of those incredible resources and

support, you may need to have a conversation with your
partner about the fact that you even want to take Finishing
School in the first place!
You may want your partner to understand why you want
to start this journey in the first place. You may want to
know that they’re on board with you signing up. If you
and your partner share finances, you may want to tell
them about the fact that you want to invest in your
pleasure.

To help support you in having this conversation, I’ve put

together a guide to the most common fears that women
have when it comes to talking to their partners about
Finishing School, plus suggestions for how to address all of
these concerns!

But before we go any further, let me just offer some

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more likely
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than you think! than you
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Your partner wantsyou to have a better relationship with
your body, your pleasure, your orgasm, and sex as a
whole! Your partner would probably love for the two of
you to have a more pleasurable and active sex life. Maybe
your partner has even asked you to work on your sex life
before!  

I know these initial conversations can be scary, but think

about your favorite sexual memories with your partner.
Maybe you guys had incredible sex when you first started
dating, or when you went away on vacation. Remember
how deeply connected the two of you feel when you’re on
the same page about sex. Maybe you’re more affectionate
with each other, or sweeter to each other. Maybe you
laugh together more, or you get really playful and goofy.

Maybe you fall in love with each other all over again.
 wouldn't your partner want to get back to that place
Whywouldn’
with you?

So take a look at my suggested responses, put them into

your own words, take a deep breath, and tell your partner
that you’re ready to learn how to have more intimate,
pleasurable, playful, and orgasmic sex!
IF YOU WANT YOUR PARTNER TO
KNOW THAT YOU RE SIGNING UP FOR
’

FINISHING SCHOOL BUT YOU DON T

, ’

KNOW WHAT TO SAY ...

“Hey babe? I want to talk to you about something, but I’m feeling

really nervous about it. It’s nothing bad, I promise, but can you

just try to listen and be supportive?

I’ve been following this sex therapist online for a while, and she’s

releasing this course that has really got me thinking about our sex

life. I realized that I’m so lucky to have such an incredible partner

that I’m so attracted to. I love our sex life, and I want to learn how

to take things to the next step.

This course is all about learning how to orgasm. I start on my own

for a bit, which I'm excited about. Then I can get you involved. It's

set up in a way to help us both explore new techniques and ideas

for keeping our sex life exciting for years to come. I think it could

be a really fun thing for us to do together, but I just want to know

that you’re on my team. Would you be willing to be a part of this

with me when the time comes?”

IF YOU DON T WANT TO ADMIT TO
’

YOUR PARTNER THAT YOU DON T ’

HAVE ORGASMS WITH THEM ...

“So you know that sex therapist that I’ve been following online

for a while? She’s releasing this course for women who want to

explore getting even more pleasure out of their sex lives. Our

sex life is really important to me, and I want to make sure we

keep working on prioritizing it and making it as incredible as it

can be.

This sex therapist has been releasing a lot of free videos online,

and talking about how women can experience so much more

pleasure than most people realize. So I thought it would be fun

to explore more! Some of the course is set up as exercises that

we do to each other, so you get instructions for what to do to

me, and I get instructions for what to do to you. It sounded

really hot, so I thought it would be a great thing for both of us if I

join!”
IF YOUR ORGASMIC PROBLEMS HAVE
ALREADY CAUSED PROBLEMS IN
YOUR RELATIONSHIP IN THE PAST ...

“I know that my struggles with orgasm have been a source of

tension for us in the past. I want you to know that my orgasm

and our sex life is important to me. I’ve been researching

options, and I found this online course taught by a sex therapist.

It’s all about helping women learn how to orgasm with their

partners, and it sounds perfect for me. This sex therapist

released a bunch of free videos about female orgasm, and the

videos made me realize that my challenges are actually totally

normal and common, and more importantly, that I can move can
past my blockages and learn how to have orgasms.

I’d really like for us to put the past in the past and focus on

moving forward. This course is going to have a lot of fun

techniques and exercises that we can try together, and I think it

would be so fun if we could do this together, as a team. Can you

be on board with me?”

IF YOU RE WORRIED ABOUT YOUR
’

PARTNER S REACTION TO THE

’

REGISTRATION FEE ...

“Vanessa said something really interesting that made me

shouldn't
think… She said, ‘Why shouldn’t we invest in our sex lives? Are

new clothes or fancy dinners out more satisfying than having a

passionate, pleasurable, and fulfilling sex life with the person

we love the most in this world?’

I’ve never thought about it that way, but she’s right. When you

and I are in a good place with our sex life, it’s feels like nothing

else in the world matters. It feels like we’re an invincible team. I

know it sounds weird at first to spend a bunch of money on

orgasm, but then I keep thinking, ‘Why not?’ I deserve to have a

good relationship with my body. And it brings us both so much

happiness to feel connected and on the same page. That’s worth

our hard-earned money, isn’t it? What else could we spend

money on that would bring us more satisfaction?

I know that this course is going to help us transform our sex life.

I’m willing to take a good, hard look at our expenses so we can

afford this.”
IF YOU RE SCARED THAT YOUR
’

PARTNER WILL THINK FINISHING

SCHOOL IS SILLY ...

“You already know this about me - I put everyone else first, and I

don’t take care of myself. I need to change that. I’ve been burning

the candle at both ends for too long, and I need to stop and take

care of myself before I completely lose contact with who I am.

When I feel connected to myself, confident in my own skin, and

empowered in my sexuality, I know that I can tackle anything that

life throws at me. I know that I’ll be a better

wife/girlfriend/partner, a better mom, a better employee, a better

everything!

Plus, this course has been around for years, and thousands of

women have gone through it and learned how to transform their

sex lives. It has been reviewed in places like Glamour Magazine,

Refinery29, and Bustle, and the sex therapist who created it has

written for The New York Times, so she clearly knows her stuff.

I know you might not understand it, but this is really important to

me. I would really love for you to be willing to support me in this.”

If you have any other fears or concerns, don’t

hesitate to reach out to me at info@vmtherapy.com!

I’m here to help you figure out how to talk to your

partner and get them on board with you making this

powerful decision for your sex life!