Scribd Logo
Upload

Welcome to Scribd!

  • Dependacny Issues 3

    Uploaded by

    MArko
    45 views1 page
    This document discusses dependency issues and how unresolved dependency issues can prevent people from being self-sufficient. It defines different types of dependency such as dependent, independent, interdependent, and codependent. It stresses that a parent's role is to equip children with self-esteem, life skills, and a spiritual foundation so they can answer questions about who they are, where they are going, and how to get there. For those without a full "toolkit" from parents, they must fill it up themselves. It then lists various ways that people depend on each other in relationships.

    Original Description:

    Original Title

    dependacny issues 3

    Copyright

    © © All Rights Reserved

    Available Formats

    PDF, TXT or read online from Scribd

    Did you find this document useful?

    Is this content inappropriate?

    Report this Document
    This document discusses dependency issues and how unresolved dependency issues can prevent people from being self-sufficient. It defines different types of dependency such as dependent, independent, interdependent, and codependent. It stresses that a parent's role is to equip children with self-esteem, life skills, and a spiritual foundation so they can answer questions about who they are, where they are going, and how to get there. For those without a full "toolkit" from parents, they must fill it up themselves. It then lists various ways that people depend on each other in relationships.

    Copyright:

    © All Rights Reserved
    Download as PDF, TXT or read online from Scribd
    Flag for inappropriate content
    Download as pdf or txt
    45 views1 page

    Dependacny Issues 3

    Uploaded by

    MArko
    This document discusses dependency issues and how unresolved dependency issues can prevent people from being self-sufficient. It defines different types of dependency such as dependent, independent, interdependent, and codependent. It stresses that a parent's role is to equip children with self-esteem, life skills, and a spiritual foundation so they can answer questions about who they are, where they are going, and how to get there. For those without a full "toolkit" from parents, they must fill it up themselves. It then lists various ways that people depend on each other in relationships.

    Copyright:

    © All Rights Reserved
    Download as PDF, TXT or read online from Scribd
    Flag for inappropriate content
    Download as pdf or txt
    of 1

    • YOU MAY PRINT AND COPY AND USE THIS HANDOUT FOR YOUR PERSONAL OR PROFESSIONAL USE • AS IS • AS FREELY

    AS YOU WISH •
    /Formats/depend01
    /Formats/depend03

    DEPENDENCY ISSUES - 3
    R&M SEMINARS UNRESOLVED DEPENDENCY ISSUES GET IN THE WAY OF PEOPLE DOING THEIR OWN GROWN-UP WORK.

    Dependent -- Contingent on another -- Subordinate -- Relying on or requiring the aid of another for support: dependent children -- Also
    one who relies on another especially for financial support.
    Independent -- Self-governing -- Free from the influence, guidance, or control of another or others; self-reliant: an independent mind-- Not
    determined or influenced by someone or something else -- Not relying on others for support, care, or funds; self-supporting.
    Interdependent -- Mutually dependent: “ Today, the mission of one institution can be accomplished only by recognizing that it lives in an
    interdependent world with conflicts and overlapping interests ” Jacqueline Grennan Wexler
    Interdependent -- Healthy, clear, negotiated, flexible, dignified, give-and-take, agreements to get individual and mutual needs met. (LQ)
    Co-Dependent -- I am OK and you are OK, if that is OK with you ?

    A PARENTS JOB IS TO SET THEIR CHILDREN FREE TO ENTER THE WORLD ON THEIR OWN WITH A TOOL KIT
    CONTAINING RESPECT FOR THEIR BODY, GOOD SELF-ESTEEM, AN INTEREST IN LEARNING AND CHANGING,
    SKILLS TO GET ALONG WITH A WIDE VARIETY OF PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS, AND A SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION.
    THESE HELP A YOUNG PERSON TO HAVE SOME BEGINNING ANSWERS TO THE THREE GREAT QUESTIONS OF LIFE:
    WHO AM I ? - WHERE AM I GOING ? - HOW AM I GOING TO GET THERE ?
    WITHOUT A FULL TOOL KIT FROM YOUR PARENTS YOU MUST FILL UP YOUR TOOL KIT NOW -- YOURSELF

    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : TELL ME WHEN YOU ARE MAD - SAD - GLAD - SCARED
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : TREAT ME WITH DIGNITY
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : PROTECT YOURSELF FROM UNNECESSARY HARM
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : BE HONEST WITH ME IN SIGNIFICANT MATTERS
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : KEEP YOUR WORD - MAKE AGREEMENTS AND KEEP THEM
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : CHERISH ME - CHERISH YOURSELF - CHERISH US TOGETHER
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : RESPECT YOURSELF - LOVE YOURSELF - CARE ABOUT YOU
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : TELL ME ABOUT YOUR HISTORY SO THAT I CAN KNOW YOU MORE FULLY
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : LISTEN TO ME WHEN I TALK ABOUT MYSELF
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : NOT TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY WHEN I AM TALKING ABOUT MYSELF
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : BE SUPPORTIVE OF ME WHEN I AM HURT , CONFUSED , LONELY , TIRED , STRESSED
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : RESPECT THAT WE ARE DIFFERENT AND THAT IT IS OK THAT WE ARE DIFFERENT
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : BE PATIENT WITH ME WHEN I DO NOT UNDERSTAND FULLY
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : SUPPORT MY EFFORTS TO STRETCH MY GROWTH AND KNOWLEDGE
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : EXPERIENCE DIFFERENCE AS OK , NOT AS RIGHT AND WRONG
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : ASK WHEN YOU DO NOT KNOW - DO NOT TAKE ME FOR GRANTED
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF , NOT RELY TOTALLY UPON ME FOR CERTAIN THINGS
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : PLAY - (PHYSICALLY - EMOTIONALLY - INTELLECTUALLY - SOCIALLY - SPIRITUALLY)
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : LEARN - BE CURIOUS - GROW - CHALLENGE - STRETCH - DO NEW THINGS
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : REACH-OUT TO ME ON PURPOSE - FIND OUT HOW I AM - TALK TO ME
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : BE OPEN ABOUT YOURSELF - WITH OUR AGREEMENT TO DO EACH NO HARM
    I DEPEND ON YOU TO : HANG-IN-THERE WITH OUR LIVES TOGETHER - FOR THE LONG HAUL
    • TA-TUTOR.COM • R&M SEMINARS • RELATIONSHIP & MANAGEMENT • LEWIS QUINBY LCSW • 1671 MYRTLE AVE • EUREKA CA 95501 • (707) 443-3637 •

    You might also like