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Mindset Makeover Lookbook
Mindset Makeover Lookbook
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LOOKBOOK
WHAT IS A LOOKBOOK?
A lookbook is what a stylist uses to collect her ideas, inspirations and
“looks” for the future season. It’s a creative way to tell the story of
your brand.
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Your Makeover
YOUR BEFORE AND AFTER
The reason why you desire anything is because you want to feel a
certain way.
Yet, the way most women go about feeling better is to attempt to
change their circumstances, which never works long term.
Have you ever created what you thought would make you feel better
only to feel the same (or maybe even worse)?
It’s like the time I starved myself down to a size 2 and was more
insecure and miserable than ever.
True change comes from styling your inner world — your thoughts
and feelings.
In order to makeover your life, you must makeover your mind to
create an amazing and lasting “after.”
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Here’s a peek into my mental “before:”
I’m not good enough.
A girl like me doesn’t do things like that.
I’m stuck and confused.
I’ll never find a good man.
I have no control over my future.
I’ll never have enough money.
There’s not enough time.
I’m not a good mother.
I never follow through.
I hate my body.
I’ll always struggle with my weight.
Life is hard.
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For years, I tried to “fix” my life by taking a lot of action —
trying the next new diet, getting organized, swearing that I’d
start a budget, changing jobs, joining the gym, looking for better
relationships — but everything felt so hard. Inevitably, I’d come
back to my old ways of being.
Outer WorldChanges
Money is fun and easy.
I’m an amazing mother.
I can do hard things.
My future is bigger than my past.
People get to be who they are.
Each day is amazing.
It’s okay to fail.
I love learning and growing.
For your lookbook, I recommend that you think about a specific area of your life
that you want to makeover.
Your health
Your career
Your relationships.
Your finances
Your career/business
Your stress levels
You can always choose another later, but part of the “after” I see with clients is
their ability to make decisions and focus, so let’s practice that now.
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MINDSET MAKEOVER #1:
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st y l e yo u r f u t u r e
If you want to be the artist of your life, you must start thinking
and living from your future.
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So, let’s jump into my time travel device and take a trip to the future where you’re
living your “after” version.
Ask yourself:
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a n ot e f r o m
YOUR FUTURE SELF
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I began to paint my life with brighter and beautiful thoughts. I
practiced confident and empowering states of being. I took bigger
and bolder risks.
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No longer was I reacting to the old, familiar patterns and trying
to fix them. I started to imagine things that had never been and
practiced believing them even though I couldn’t see them yet.
To create a future you’ve never had,
you must become someone
you’ve never been.
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Read your letter from your future self and decide what 3
things you’ll start embodying now.
Does she have a life full of loving friends? Reach out to a friend and invite her to coffee.
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MINDSET MAKEOVER #3:
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st y l e yo u r q u e st io n s
Style your Questions
Our mothers were onto something when they told us to mind our “P’s
and Q’s.”
However, I’m not speaking of your manners.
I’m speaking about your language. More importantly, your questions.
Most of our thoughts are based off of the unconscious questions
we ask ourselves. Unfortunately, most women are asking the same
habitual questions day after day, styling their minds with negative
responses.
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Most likely, your answer will be something like:
• Because you love food so much.
• You have no willpower.
• You’re lazy and hopeless.
Do these answers inspire you? Do they get you excited about your future?
Not. At. All.
The future you who is flaunting a size 8 dress and feeling amazing styled her
questions to receive better answers.
She asked:
To create your “after,” you must style your questions to provide the answers that will
get you there.
“Why can’t I find a good man” becomes “What type of man am I excited to meet?”
“Why is my marriage so terrible” becomes “How can I appreciate this man more?”
“Why did that happen to me” becomes “How can I learn and grow from this?”
“Why can’t I grow my business” becomes “How can I provide so much value that
people are dying to work with me?”
“What if I make the wrong decision” becomes “How can I feel great about whatever
decision I make?”
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It’s time to style your questions to create your amazing “after.”
BEFORE QUESTIONS
Think about the area of your life that you want to change.
What types of questions are you currently asking that’s created your “before”?
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AFTER QUESTIONS
Fast forward to you living your “after.”
How did your questions change? What types of questions provided you with more
empowering answers?
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If you’ve created a loving, passionate marriage, maybe you
asked questions such as:
What questions are you currently asking about this area of your
life?
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EXTRA INSPIRATION
because a stylist can never have
too much of it!
In order to create a future you’ve never had, you must constantly remind yourself of
the “after” you crave. If not, your mind will slip into old, familiar patterns.
When you’ve thought a certain way for a long time, you must be diligent in
reminding yourself of where you’re going. You must rewire your mind with new
ideas and experiences.
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Create a Visual Lookbook
They say a picture is worth a thousand words.
When you read your letter from your future self, what images are part of your
“after”?
Collect them and look at them often to remind you of the woman you desire to be
and the life you want to create.
Here are different ways of creating your visual lookbook:
• Create a book filled of images. Think of it as your next collection.
• Create a board of inspiring images that embody your “after.”
• Create a Pinterest board. You can also create sub-boards for different
areas of your life.
• Create a collage of images as a screensaver on your computer
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About
TONYA
In a world that encourages women to push, prove and
pressure our way to success, French Kiss Life offers an
enticing alternative:
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