CRT LEARNING MODULE

Course Code PerDev

Course Title Personal Development

No. of Hours 80 Hours

Module Title Personal Relationships of Adolescents

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 College for Research & Technology of Cabanatuan
HOW TO USE THIS DIGITIZED LEARNING MODULE
Welcome to the module in Empowerment Technology. This module contains
training materials and activities for you to complete this module.

Distance students will be graded on their participation based on posts after

each class to the course blog. Generally, writing a paragraph that either poses some
questions, makes a comment on the lecture or class discussion, or otherwise
demonstrates that you have thought about the material discussed is sufficient

You are required to go through a series of learning activities in order to complete

each learning outcome of the module. Each of the learning outcomes is provided with
Modules. Follow these activities on your own and answer the self-check at the end of
each learning outcome.

Talk to your online facilitator and agree on how you will both organize the Training
of this unit. Read each through the module carefully. It is divided into sections, which
cover all the skills and knowledge you need to successfully complete this module.

 Work through all the information and complete the activities in each section.
Read Modules and complete self-check. Suggested references are included to
supplement the materials provided in this module.
 Most probably your facilitator will be your supervisor or manager. Your online
facilitator will support and correct you.
 Your online facilitator will tell you about the important things you need consider
when you are completing activities and it is important that you listen and take
notes.
 You will be given plenty of opportunity to ask questions and practice on the job.
Make sure you practice new skills during regular work shifts. This way you will
improve both your speed and memory and also your confidence.
 Talk to more experienced workmates and ask for their guidance.
 Kindly the self-check questions at the LMS (EDMODO) to test your own progress.
 When you are ready, ask your online facilitator to watch you online via Zoom or
Google Meet to perform the activities outlined in this module.
 Ask your online facilitator work through the activities: ask for written feedback
on your progress. Your online facilitator keeps feedback/pre-assessment reports
for this reason. When you have successfully completed each element, ask the
facilitator to mark on the reports that you are ready for assessment.

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 When you have completed this module, and feel confident that you have
sufficient practice, your online facilitator will arrange an appointment with
registered assessor’s to assess you. The results of your assessment will be
recorded in your competency Achievement Record.

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 Personal Development

Contents of this Learning Module

No. Module Title Topic Code

9 Personal The Social Life Module 9.1

Relationships Development of the Module 9.2

of Adolescents Social Self

Self-knowledge Module 9.3

Perceived Self-control Module 9.4

Self-serving Bias Module 9.5

Self-presentation Module 9.6

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 MODULE CONTENT

MODULE TITLE : Personal Relationships of Adolescents

MODULE DESCRIPTOR:
Personal development is the process of improving oneself. But you can only improve
yourself if you know who you are. How well do you know yourself? Developing oneself opens
you to new discoveries and new growth. It may take time but it is worth the journey. Starting
to build your life now determines what your future will be.

Number of Hours:
3

LEARNING OUTCOMES:
At the end of this module you MUST be able to:

1. An adolescent’s on what responsible and healthy interpersonal

relationships can help them from better relationships in the future and
effectively manage their current relationship as well.

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 MODULE 9

Personal Relationships of Adolescents

Learning Objective: After reading this MODULE, you should be

able to:

1. Discuss an understanding of teenage relationship

2. Discuss an understanding of acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions

Adolescents' lives revolve around themselves as well as the people around them.
How you feel, how you think, and how you behave can all have an effect on your family
members, your friends, and even that new person you find yourself liking. This lesson
will help you understand how knowing one's self can help you better yourself and have
better, healthier relationships with the people around you.

9.1 THE SOCIAL SELF

Try completing the sentence: “I am "Your answer—what you know or believe

about yourself-will give you an insight into your self-concept.

Your self-concept consists of two elements. First, is self-schemas or how you

define yourself. These greatly affect how you perceive, remember, and evaluate your-

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self and others. The second element is your possible self or who you might become.
Possible selves include the self we dream of becoming someday. Do you dream of be-
coming rich? Losing weight? Becoming famous? Your possible self can also include the
self you fear becoming--poor, unemployed, or perhaps, an academic failure. All of these
possible selves motivate you to achieve the life you want or to avoid the life you dread.

9.2 Development of the Social Self

What determines self-concept? Although genetic influences play a part, social

experience is also a factor, such as your roles as a high school student or a friend.

Your social self is also influenced by social comparisons, or comparing yourself

to others and seeing how you differ. For instance, we feel smart when others seem
average or attractive when others aren't. The more you succeed, however, tend to raise
your standards and compare yourself with others who are doing even better, and this
may diminish your satisfaction.

Self-concept is also determined by how other people think of us. For in- stance,
children that are labeled as gifted or hardworking tend to incorporate the same ideas
into their self-concept and behavior.

Culture also plays a role in defining one's identity. For some people, especially
industrialized Western cultures, they develop individualism, prioritizing your own goals
over a group's goals. The independent self is the formation of one's identity as a unique
individual, and is defined during adolescence-time of self-reliance and separation from
parents. Meanwhile, most cultures native to Asia, Africa, and Central and South America
value collectivism by prioritizing the goals of one's group (i.e., family or friends) and
identifying one's self accordingly. They nurture the interdependent self, or the
formation of one's identity in relation to others, whether it's with family, friends, or
colleagues.

9.3 Self-knowledge

How well do you actually know yourself? Why did you choose your course in
college? Why did you fall in love with that person? Why did you lash out at your friend?
When asked why we feel or act the way we do, we are usually able to give accurate
answers. But when influences upon our behavior are subtle or unconscious, our
explanations may differ because we may dismiss factors that matter and focus on ones
that don't. The same holds true when we try to predict our behavior. When it comes to
our feelings, we often have a difficulty predicting the intensity and duration of our
future emotions. For instance, if you overestimate the intensity and duration of the
pleasure you would get from buying gadgets, you might make an ill-advised decision to
immediately buy the new iPhone as soon as it's out.

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 Self-esteem is the overall sense of self-worth that we use to evaluate traits or
abilities. This can go both ways: if you see yourself as attractive, intelligent, or talented,
the tendency is to have high self-esteem; and if you generally value yourself, you are
also likely to value your looks or abilities. Think back to a time when your self-esteem
was threatened, perhaps due to failure or a comparison with someone else. How did
you react? People with high self-esteem might react someone else or perceiving others
as failing, too. This helps protect their self worth.

On the other hand, people with low self-esteem might blame themselves or just
give up. People with low self-esteem are less satisfied in their relation- ships and are
more vulnerable to clinical problems, such as anxiety or loneliness. Meanwhile, secure
self-esteem--or feeling good about who you are rather than grades, looks, or
approval—likely leads to greater well-being.

Social rejection motivates us to meet others expectations, therefore

maintaining or increasing our self-esteem. For example, if you were rejected by
someone you like, you subsequently feel inadequate. This feeling of rejection can
motivate you to act by improving yourself or searching for acceptance with someone
else.

Although having high self esteem is generally more beneficial, it becomes

problem when it crosses into narcissism or an inflated sense of self. Narcissism have
high self-esteem, but their self-centeredness often leads to relationship problems over
time.

9.4 Perceived Self-control

Stanford psychologist Albert Bandura defines self-efficiency as how competent

and effective we feel when doing a task. How does it differ from self-esteem? If you
believe you can do something, that is self-efficiency; if you like yourself that is self
esteem. It is worth noting that self efficacy, like self-esteem, grows with
accomplishments. Still, self efficiency feedback ("You worked very hard") leads to better
performance, compared to self-esteem feedback ("You're really talented").

Locus of control is the extent to which people perceive control. The internal locus
of control refers to the belief that you are in control of your own destiny while the
external locus of control refers to the feeling that outside forces determine u fate.
Picture getting poor grades in class. What goes through your head? Dove believe that
you need to develop better study habits and self-discipline? Or will your grades on
forces beyond your control, like "bad" teachers or hay cope and achieve more than
others. The perceived lack or loss of control over a si also lead to learned
helplessness, which occurs when multiple attempts to improve a situation have no
effect and there is a subsequent sense of resignation. In contrast, self-determination
is developed when you are successfully able to practice personal control and improve
your situation.
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9.5 Self-serving Bias

Most people exhibit self-serving bias, or the tendency to see yourself in a

favorable We often take credit for our success and attribute failure to external factors.
This phenomenon is called self-serving attributions, a form of self-serving bias. For
instance, you attribute a high grade to studying hard, but will attribute a low grade to
an "unfair" teacher. Self-serving bias also appears when we compare ourselves to
others. Most people see themselves as better than the average person in terms of
subjective, desirable traits (i.e., attractiveness or intelligence).

We also exhibit self-serving bias about our future, many of us having "unrealistic
optimism" about future life events. For example, parents may have unrealistic optimism
by assuming their child is more likely to finish school, graduate top of the class, and
stay healthy. Students may see themselves as more likely to get a stable job and higher
salary than their classmates. This optimism leads us to believe we are immune to
misfortune, so we tend not to take precaution. However, defensive pessimism, or
anticipating problems and lowering expectations to prepare for the worst, can help us
avoid unrealistic optimism.

9.6 Self-presentation

We adjust our words and actions to create an impression that will suit our
audiences. One example of this phenomenon is self-handicapping, wherein you protect
your self-esteem with behavior that will conveniently excuse failure. Imagine you have
a big exam tomorrow, and decide to watch movies all night instead of studying. Why? If
you fail while being “handicapped," you can attribute failure to something external ("I
was watching movies and lost track of time”) rather than a lack of intelligence. If you
watched movies and still got a good exam score, then it boosts your self-image.

False modesty, self-serving bias, and self-handicapping prove how important

self-image is to us. Self-presentation refers to our desire to present a favorable image
to other people (external) and ourselves internal). There are some people on a scale of
self- monitoring by continuously adjusting behavior in response to external situations in
order to gain a desired effect. Thus, they are less likely to act on their own attitudes.
For those who score low in self-monitoring, they are more likely to act as they naturally
feel and believe, regardless of their audience. Someone who scores extremely low in
self-monitoring may come across as insensitive, while those who score extremely high
may come across as dishonest. Most of us fall somewhere between the two, and
creating the right impression you think you who score high is a balancing act.

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Self Check
9.1 As a Senior High School Student what is the role of social life in to your
life now a days? (Explain your answer)

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9.2 Define the following terms.

1. Social Self

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2. Self-esteem

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3. Narcissism

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4. Pessimism

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