Transcriber:

Judith
Matz
Reviewer:
Tatjana
Jevdjic
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welcome!
Hello,
San
Francisco!
TEDx
–
oh
my
God,
blinding
light!
Hi,
everybody!
How
are
you?
(Audience
cheering)
Fine?!
Oh
gosh!
Okay,
so...
My
name
is
Mel
Robbins,
and
for
the
last
seventeen
years,
I
have
done
nothing
but
help
people
get
everything
that
they
want.
Within
reason!
husband's
here.
So,
I've
it
in
courtroom,
boardroom,
bedroom,
people's
living
room,
whatever
room
you
want
to
be
in,
if
I'm
there,
will
by
any
means
necessary.
For
three
years
host
a
syndicated
radio
show.
Five
days
week,
go
live
forty
cities
talk
men
women
across
America
who
feel
stuck.
Do
know
third
of
Americans
dissatisfied
with
their
lives
right
now?
That
hundred
million
people!
That's
insane!
And
come
face
this
new
show
doing,
which
also
insane,
it's
called
"In-laws".
move
families
(Laughter)
You
guessed
it!
at
war
in-laws.
We
them
into
same
house,
verbally
assassinate
everybody,
we
open
up
Pandora's
box,
stop
arguing
about
donuts
hosting
Thanksgiving
dinner,
real
stuff.
that's
what
about.
here
you.
going
tell
less
than
eighteen
minutes
how
So
take
millisecond
now
think
You!
selfish.
Screw
Simon
"We"
thing.
This
me,
now!
(Applause)
Sorry,
Simon.
What
do
want?
here's
deal.
don't
sound
good
other
people.
Being
healthy
not
your
ass
on
treadmill.
Losing
manboobs,
so
can
hook
somebody,
motivation.
know:
lose
weight?
triple
income?
start
nonprofit?
find
love?
it?
Get
it,
is,
analyze
death,
just
pick
something.
part
problem.
won't
pick.
we're
talking
frankly,
getting
simple.
But
notice
didn't
say
was
easy.
It's
very
In
fact,
most
amazing
moment
time.
thing
here,
may
be,
use
eating
cure
diabetes,
figure
out
care
elders
hospice
center,
Africa
build
school...
Guess
what?
walk
book
store
buy
least
ten
books
written
credentialed
experts
hell
it.
could
Google
probably
least,
-
thousand
blogs
documenting
step,
step
transformation
somebody
else
already
doing.
anybody
online
cyber-stalk
them!
footsteps
science
drafting.
Follow
everyone
has
done,
because
doing
why
want,
when
all
information
need,
contacts
there
free
tools
allow
business,
or
join
group,
heck
want!?
It
comes
down
one
word:
F*©#.
Shut
front
door,
about?
The
f-bomb.
everywhere!
hear
time!
honestly
understand
appeal
word.
mean,
smart
really
expressing
feel.
sort
cheap
shot
take.
course
word
"fine".
"How
doing?"
"Oh,
fine."
Oh,
really?
are?
Dragging
around
those
extra
pounds,
you're
fine?
Feeling
like
roommates
spouse,
haven't
had
sex
four
months,
Really?!
so!
see,
deal
saying
fine:
actually
genius.
Because
fine,
anything
"fine",
makes
me
angry.
Here
conference
being
alive
describe
experience
as
"fine"?!
flimsy
feeble
word!
If
crappy,
crappy!
amazing!
Tell
truth!
only
goes
social
construct:
burden
fact
hate
life",
or:
"Hey,
would
make
terrible."
bigger
issue
"fine"
yourself.
guarantee
you,
you've
convinced
yourself
fine
having
pushing
areas
life
where
given
up.
Where
said,
fine.
mom's
never
change,
can't
conversation."
"I'm
We've
got
wait
until
kids
graduate,
before
divorced,
we'll
sleep
separate
bedrooms."
lost
job,
barely
pay
bills,
hard
job."
One
reasons
annoys
much
scientists
calculated
yeah,
coming
down!
Scientists
odds
born.
right.
They've
crunched
numbers.
see
there.
numbers
Yeah,
guys
standing
up,
sit
this.
took
account
wars,
natural
disasters,
dinosaurs,
else.
realize
odds,
put
computer
away,
stand
Doug!
Doug
turn
around,
"hi"
everybody
born
time
he
born,
parents
were
to,
DNA
structure
have,
trillion!
Isn't
amazing?
Doug:
lucky!
Mel:
Yes!
You're
fantastic!
life-changing
ideas
reason,
torture
Thank
Doug.
Christine
she
said
stage.
category.
trillion.
All
day
long
change
life,
world,
way
feel,
them?
Nothing!
(Grunts)
Hopefully
moon
that.
minute,
love
analogy
"the
inner
snooze
button"
these
bubble
You've
been
watching
ping
pong
balls
bam-bam-bam
everytime
an
idea,
do?
Hit
snooze!
What's
first
decision
made
morning?
bet
back
bed.
"Yeah,
today,
trillion,
sleep."
Your
bed
comfortable!
cosy,
warm!
lucky,
next
case,
husband
two
possibly
dog.
reason
bringing
alarm,
area
there's
need
know.
one:
Ever.
No
one's
coming,
motivation
isn't
happening,
call
activation
energy.
force
required
from
autopilot
something
new.
try
test
tomorrow.
fancy,
know,
attending
TED.
Try
Tomorrow
morning,
set
alarm
thirty
earlier.
then
off,
sheets,
throw
day.
snooze,
no
delay,
no,
"I'll
five
seconds
Mel's
here"
physical,
mean
physical
behavior.
needs
weight
ever
feels
diet?
Of
not!
boiled
chicken
peas
instead
croissant?
energy
away
walk,
on,
exact
amount
takes
push
warm
cold
room.
interesting
adult
become
eighteen,
nobody
tells
job
parent
"parent
yourself",
crap
do,
supposed
be.
damn
busy
waiting
to!
son
off
his
DS.
job!
DS!
Kendall,
clean
Barbies!
nude
party
bathroom,
up!
chew
mouth
closed!
We're
barn,
crying
loud!
Alright,
dinner
pantry.
As
parents,
kid,
things
won't.
Not
now,
then,
ever!
even
something,
you'll
do.
plateau
out,
bored,
"I
job.
Blah
blah
boring."
look
one?
No!
You'll
bitch
one.
very,
simple
force.
"force"
Roz
emotion
tracking,
picture
sides
brain
way.
Only
side
emergency
brake.
speeds
get:
autopilot,
guess
likes
better:
autopilot.
driven
work
like,
"Oh
remember
driving
here."
weren't
drunk!
functioning
level.
problem
mind
anytime
different
normal
routine,
does
—
brake!
reaction
everything.
Everything!
kitchen
everybody's
left
breakfast
dishes
hundredth
time,
kill
them.
gonna
leave
it."
goes:
load
pissed,
sex.
do."
"force",
break
routine
require
kind
funny
adults,
spend
trying
our
some
stable
grow
bored
wake
every
day,
largely
breakfast,
drive
way,
work,
busy,
avoid
making
calls,
update
Facebook,
attend
meeting
doodle
whole
plans
evening,
more,
home
eat
variety
watch
media,
bed,
over
again!
wonder
mind!
killing
theory
stuck
life.
taken
Basic
Psych
101
class,
bumped
Abraham
Maslow's
"Hierarchy
Needs"?
Well,
body
kinda
cool.
basic
needs.
wired
send
signals.
food,
feel?
water,
sex,
signal.
signal
broken.
met.
exploration.
Everything
body,
grows!
cells
regenerate,
hair,
nails,
grows
entire
soul
exploration
growth.
forcing
uncomfortable.
Forcing
outside,
head.
head,
behind
enemy
lines.
God
talking,
okay?
speaker
broadcast
yourself,
institutionalize
hang
head!
feelings!
feelings
screwing
you!
feel!
want!
listen
outside
comfort
zone.
taking
risks,
Those
blow.
once
great.
sitting
stadium
says,
"Get
dance,"
think,
should
that,"
"Uhmm."
impulse
brake
pulled
crazy
people,
dance..."
happened
came
Rachel,
started
she's
tweeting.
friends.
boom!
outside.
magic
is.
trillion
exists.
oh,
OK,
part.
Sorry.
more
use,
five-second-rule.
process
facial
expression
33
milliseconds.
pretty
quick.
quickly
little
impulses
pulling
marry
action
within
seconds,
pull
idea.
Kill
dance
while
band
playing,
about,
inspired
somebody's
speech
write
note,
text
ideas.
act
fault.
anybody's
Stop
counting
stuff
do!
happen
practice
today.
When
party,
thank
soon,
cocktail,
impulse,
interesting?
Walk
there!
request?
Make
here!
Experiment
shocked
happens.
thing,
whether
show,
television
wrote,
column,
over,
mouth,
request.
Good.
Go
yes!
Stand