The document discusses finding meaning and purpose in life. It argues that while some think there is an objective meaning revealed by a creator, most find it more fulfilling to choose their own purposes. Finding depth of meaning in relationships and careers is important for a fulfilling life. Two examples are given of how teachers and one's family can have varying levels of meaning and purpose, from shallow to deeply impactful. Pursuing activities that genuinely interest you can lead to a richly meaningful life.
The document discusses finding meaning and purpose in life. It argues that while some think there is an objective meaning revealed by a creator, most find it more fulfilling to choose their own purposes. Finding depth of meaning in relationships and careers is important for a fulfilling life. Two examples are given of how teachers and one's family can have varying levels of meaning and purpose, from shallow to deeply impactful. Pursuing activities that genuinely interest you can lead to a richly meaningful life.
The document discusses finding meaning and purpose in life. It argues that while some think there is an objective meaning revealed by a creator, most find it more fulfilling to choose their own purposes. Finding depth of meaning in relationships and careers is important for a fulfilling life. Two examples are given of how teachers and one's family can have varying levels of meaning and purpose, from shallow to deeply impactful. Pursuing activities that genuinely interest you can lead to a richly meaningful life.
been interested in the ultimate question - what is the meaning of this existence? What is this all about? Why are we here and what are we supposed to be doing here? Some think that to have a life that is fulfilling and meaningful we need to discover answers to these questions. They also rationalize that since there is a world there must be someone who created this world and this creator must have had something in this mind when he created this world. He must have had a purpose or reason or meaning behind his creation. Some people spend an entire lifetime trying to decipher this meaning and they find this enquiry meaningful. Assuming there really is a purpose and it was revealed to us then it would probably do us more harm than good. Instead what the creator has done is to give us the freedom to choose our own purposes and meanings. As many people so many meanings that can be created. Imagine if all of us were chasing the same purpose. What a boring world it would be. That is one of the problems with religion. They tell you that every single human being has only one purpose in life and that is to realize God. And everybody has his own understanding or rather misunderstanding of what realization means and what God means. Even assuming that the transformation of human consciousness is the purpose of our existence it may not really be of interest to all people. It is not worthwhile pursuing something that does not mean much to you. We are all on a life long wild’s goose chase, forever seeking a meaning which we think is ‘out there’ and not ‘in here’. When each person chooses his own meaning then we can have a Mother Teresa who found meaning in tending the downtrodden , a Gandhi who found purpose in liberating our country and a Kalidasa who gave meaning to his life through sublime poetry. Those who have found meaning in any activity should really feel blessed. There are millions in the world who are struggling to find real meaning in anything in their lives. There are millions who keep asking others to tell them what would give them most meaning. There are also millions who don’t bother about such things. What meaning weaning? Life is too short, let us have a good time, they say. They find meaning in ‘having a good time’. But unfortunately that is never going to fulfil them in the long run.
Meaning can be found in almost any activity.
For instance there are some who find purpose in taking care of their families, others in building an industrial empire, others in helping others, yet others find meaning in studying birds. To some taking care of sick cows is meaningful while to others it is a waste of time. What is meaningful to one person may not be so for another. There is no need to go looking for activities that are considered superior by society which seems to be the general mindset. Whatever work anyone is doing will always benefit society in some way or the other. If painting or dancing or writing software gives more meaning, than say social work, it would be better to pursue these. If you find anything good which gives you meaning just hold onto it tightly. Don’t abandon it because it is not something superior.
What is really important is the depth of
meaning we give to any activity. The greater the meaning the more enriching and fulfilling life will be. The sense of emptiness many of us feel within is largely due to lack of depth of meaning in what we do. Let me illustrate the power of meaning in two very important areas of our life – relationship and career. If we don’t find sufficient meaning in these two areas it is unlikely that we would be leading fulfilling lives. When meaning is developed to a high level we will get the necessary resources and powers for actualizing and fulfilling that meaning. Our thoughts and actions will be aligned to the meaning. Greater the meaning more powerful and imaginative will be those thoughts and actions. Meaning is like a magnet. It draws life energy powerfully into itself. Life rewards those who create powerful meanings.
The teacher
Let us say you are a teacher. Being a teacher
means many things to different people. That meaning makes all the difference between an ordinary teacher and an empowering one.
At the lowest level teaching could mean just
another job for earning a livelihood. Then all that will happen is you would be going to your place of work, doing a mechanical job eager to get back home. The clock will rule your day. You are not really all that interested whether the students get what you are teaching or not. You have done your duty of teaching for which you get paid. If the students haven’t grasped it, tough luck for them. You may even get irritated if asked to take on additional responsibilities. Home and other activities have more meaning for you than your teaching. That which has more meaning will always have a greater pull on us and we will naturally gravitate there. At this level the meaning you give to your teaching profession would not allow you to be and do anything else. This is a level where work in itself is meaningless, it is just a task done for the monthly paycheck. There is no spark within.
At another level the subject you teach means
so much to you that you want your students to be as passionate about it as you are. You impart the teaching with enthusiasm because you love your subject. The subject excites you. You are at your best when teaching your subject. The fervor with which you teach catches on with the students. They then become as excited about the subject as you are. You are not only transmitting knowledge but also your enthusiasm along with it. An animated teacher can animate her students. This is a level where there is a spark in you.
Let us go to yet another level of meaning. At
this level teaching could mean not just teaching but an urge to contribute to the existing body of knowledge in the area of your specialisation. This will motivate you to engage in research and think independently instead of accepting what others have said about the subject. At this level you will automatically get more energy from the universe to fulfil your meaning. You would be willing to spend more time and invest more energy on research and both time and energy will become available to you mysteriously. It is almost as though the universe is saying – give more meaning to what you do and I will give you the necessary resources. You look at the subject with enormous respect. You literally live with the subject and it envelopes your whole being. At this level the spark is becoming a glow.
Let us proceed to the highest level of meaning.
At this level you are not merely concerned with transmitting information to a group of students. Teaching means much more than that to you. You are as much interested in the students themselves than in what they are learning of the subject. The students mean a lot to you. You become a ‘teacher’ not in the sense of being a specialist in the subject but also in developing the students potentialities. Their growth and development is your concern. You are ruthlessly committed to making a difference in their lives. You then operate at two levels- on the level of subject and on the human level. When there is the human touch then there is a different quality to your teaching. It has, what one may call, ‘soul’ to it. It is just not imparting bits and pieces of information to pass an examination. Knowledge fuses with being and transmission at this level is the highest attainable. The subject emanates from you effortlessly. There is tremendous love and passion in your teaching and it is felt by all. At this level of meaning your entire being transforms. The role of teacher has taken a new dimension altogether. Everyone looks up to you. You empower people around you and they empower you too. Here the spark has become a flame. The Family
To the majority of people family means the
most to them. As far as relationships go we operate from a very limited circle. Beyond family, relatives and friends the rest of the world means very little to us. If every human being meant a lot to us the world would be a very different place altogether.
At a very selfish level the family could mean a
place where you are with familiar people whom you can take for granted and order around. You can be your nasty little self and drop all the masks and pretenses required in the outside world. At this level the spouse and children are looked upon as social obligations. They are there because you got married and you got married because your mother pestered you to. You will not participate in the household chores as well as in the homework. That is for the others. You are there only to bring in the money and watch television. Your work cannot be sacrificed for family. If they disturb your peace you will oblige by shouting at them. You will go where you want without informing anyone and come home any time you want. Your friends mean more to you than your family. Communication with the family members is very limited. The family is there only as a means to an end for your needs. There are still a few people who live at this level of meaning.
At the next level you do everything out of the
textbook. You are ‘nice’ to everyone in the family, very pleasing and good natured. You don’t rub anyone on the wrong side. Yet the notion of ‘family’ has not really gotten into your head. You are unable to anticipate their expectations. You will do something for the family if asked to. It is more a reactive relationship than a proactive one. The meaning of family is not powerful enough for your imagination to think up new ways of keeping your family happy. So also your communication is not powerful enough to empower them. The time you spend with them is more because that is what you are supposed to do and that is what the seminars and self help books say. Disputes and disagreements put you off. You would rather not have them. Many people live at this level of meaning. It is a fairly good level of meaning but not deep enough.
At the highest level of meaning thoughts of
family occupy your mind at various times during the day. You call up at least once to find out what is happening at home. You are happy to hear the voice on the other end. You come home with eagerness and are happy to see the faces of your loved ones and they are happy to see you. You spend time together, discuss things together and play games together. You are constantly creating memorable moments for them. You consciously make it a point to talk to everyone at home everyday. Nothing profound is discussed but you make your presence felt that they mean something to you. This is conveyed through your body language and emotional language. The manner in which you talk to them and the choice of words makes them feel that they mean a lot to you. You frequently hug them and actually say it out loud that they mean so much to you and you would be at a loss without them. You are perceptive enough to know their expectations without them telling you and you surprise them by fulfilling their unspoken wishes. You are careful while speaking and don’t fling words carelessly causing hurt and bruised egos. You resolve conflicts with maturity. When you say something you keep your word and your family knows that you say what you mean and will do what you say. You also keep in touch with the extended family of relatives on a regular basis. You make your wife feel like a queen, your parents feel blessed to have a son like you and your children think they couldn’t have asked for a better father. All of them mean the world to you and you mean the world to them.