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Irving Dart Tressler - How To Lose Friends and Alienate People-Stackpole Sons (1937)
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Irving Dart Tressler - How To Lose Friends and Alienate People-Stackpole Sons (1937)
AND
BLIENRTE
PEOPLE
IRVING TRESSLER
1. What are the best ways to bore a bore?
2. How does one discourage would-be overnight
guests?
3. What are the best ways to penetrate to the sensi-
tivities ofpeople with elephant-like hides?
THE sole
problem you
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face:
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By IRVING D. TRESSLER
A BURLESQUE
by
IRVING D. TRESSLER
Persona Non Grata
MANUFACTURED THE U. A.
IN S.
ADOLF HI TLER
CONTENTS
Chapter 9. The Personal Remark 117
Chapter 10. Dining Out for the Last Time 127
Chapter 11. The Friendly Traveler 137
Chapter 12. Always Turn a Conversation
into an Argument 147
Chapter 13. Everybody Wants Sympathy 157
Chapter 14. If You're Wrong Don't Ad-
mit It 165
Chapter 15. No One Wants to be a Goat 175
Chapter 16. So You Live in a Suburb ? 183
Chapter 17. Give the Dog a Bad Name 193
Chapter 18. Letters that Produced Mirac-
ulous Results 203
Chapter 19. Tired of Your Husband ? 215
Chapter 20. Tired of Your Wife ? 225
Chapter 21. Tired of Your Boy Friend? 235
Chapter 22. Making an Offense Your Best
Defense 243
Tear Out and Mail 249
A SHORT CUT TO INDISTINCTION
by Thomas Lowell
ON thousand
January night in 1937 two
a blustery, cold,
hundred men and women
five
thronged the grand ballroom of the Mills Hotel
in New York City. Every available seat was filled
by half-past seven, in fact, many of the seats
were more than filled. The balcony was jammed,
standing space was at a premium and hundreds
of people stood up for an hour and a half that
night to witness —
what?
A radio broadcast by a favorite murderer?
A dogfight A quilting party
? ?
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A Short Cut To Indistinction
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The first speaker bore the name of Burnblatt.
Born on New York's East Side, Pat Burnblatt
had attended school for the first 20 years of his life
and was finally dismissed from first grade at the
request of his teacher. At 40 Pat was working as
a salesman of vacuum cleaners and succeeding far
beyond his dreams or hopes. People seemed to
buy from him regardless of what he did. Even
when he cleaned a rug with the special soap ato-
mizer attachment and cleaned just enough so
that the clean spot stood out like a boil on Miss
America, they didn't seem to mind. People
seemed to like him instinctively. They liked him
because he was too self-conscious to talk and they
could tell him everything. His income sky-
rocketed in spite of all he could do to prevent it.
He hated making out income tax statements, he
hated the bother of buying new cars, new clothes,
new furniture. At times he grew so discouraged
he would return home in the middle of the day,
throw himself on his bed, and sob like a woman
on her thirtieth birthday. He had wanted to earn
$2,500 a year and he was earning $25,000. It was
discouraging.
He tried selling padded brassieres, but gave up
when his first customer, a 75 year old man, bought
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A Short Cut To Indistinction
vision of the —
young fellow he knew that the
typewriter was bound to come sooner or later so
he sold it. And he followed this example all the
rest of his life, with conspicuous success in oil.
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down and try to get a worm's-eye view of it. You
will probably be tempted then to pick up the
Reader's Digest, but don't. Reread each chapter
thoroughly. This won't help much, but it will oc-
cupy some of the long evenings you're going to
have alone if you follow the advice of this book.
2. Stop frequently in your reading to j ot down
the ideas which occur to you as you read. For ex-
ample : Must wash tomorrow
hair Wish I . . .
of my time ? What
could I have said that would
have made him turn purple and stride out the
door ?"
8. Bernard Pshaw once "The man worth
said,
while is the man who can smile when his pants
split on the street." Pshaw was right. Friendships
are like pants — they sometimes split. This book
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is to teach you how to split and break them with
the least trouble and maximum efficiency. You
will find it difficult to apply all the lessons in this
book at once. That is, no man can think fast enough
to tell a person who bores him that he looks like
the devil, is stupid and dull, doesn't know what he
is talking about, and needs those protruding teeth
ONE in
afternoon in January, 1937 an executive
one of our biggest corporations, a man who
knows Section 77B forwards and backwards, told
me the following story as I peeked in his office
through the transom
"Listen," he said, "I'm so angry right now that
I could chew up a New York Telephone directory
and not taste the Peppers !"
"What's the trouble ?" I asked, "Have you been
given the wrong number twice in succession ?"
He snorted. "Business is fine And the kitchen
!
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With that he launched into a Niagara of pro-
fanity and abuse. He told me how
months for six
salesmen whom he had known for years had been
coming into his office and employing identical
sales techniques."Some damn fool has been giv-
ing them courses in how to be popular and make
and they've swallowed it whole
friends, !
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This book is aimed at the millions who can't
come to me personally and learn the secrets of an-
tagonizing associates. It is aimed at the millions
who don't know how to avoid being bored daily in
office and home, on street and at table by people
who are just plain dull. It is aimed at the I'm-
Going-to-Make-You-Like-Me Movement, the
most ominous movement since the Lambert Phar-
macal Company made everyone so conscious of
their breaths that lunch counter stools were placed
six inches further apart.
In preparation for this book, I read everything
I could find — everything from Flying Aces, the
real estate transfer records of Manhattan, the
backs of old cigarette coupons, the ads in subways
and elevateds, to Variety and Walter Winchell.
In addition, I hired a trained research man to
spend four months accepting invitations to teas,
dinners, bridge parties, luncheons, literary recep-
tions,and everything else that promised to be
unexciting and dull.
This book is the outgrowth of years of experi-
ence in being bored. It is the product of the expe-
riences of dozens of friends in being bored. It is
philanthropists —
you want to erect something
that will carry on your name after you're dead.
As a result, we've got so many third rate museums
and galleries in this country that it will take dec-
ades to tear down the buildings and sift out the
rubbish from the things worth saving. Why don't
you quit trying to make posterity identify your
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name with something besides axles and transmis-
sions and give away a thousand of your cars a
year to all Westerners who would make a trip
East and all Easterners who would make a trip
West ? You'd give more pleasure and profit than
10,000 of Thomas Edison's workshops will ever
give to visitors at Greenfield Village."
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My wife had only two chops in the icebox and I
had just enough sherry for the pair of us when
an acquaintance dropped in at dinner time one
evening. Obviously, if we invited him to dinner it
meant running out for extra meat and wine. So I
asked myself, "What is there about this chap that
I can honestly dislike ?" In this case it was simple
as getting a spot on a white linen suit.
"My that's a beautiful wart on your nose !" I
remarked.
He looked up, nettled, and blew out the match
for his cigarette. "I'm going to have it taken off
some day," he said.
"Wart's your hurry?" I laughed, "But you
don't know wart's wart. I'd say you needed a
better fitting set of false teeth first. Where'd you
—
get these Montgomery Ward's?"
He puffed angrily on his smoke, "They were
done by the best dentist I could find around this
town !" he snorted.
I proceeded to ask him how he could wear his
shirts three days and he bridled instantly.
"Why, haven't you worn that shirt three days ?"
!"
I said, "It looks it
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The little gibes went on for five minutes more,
with my guest growing angrier. He was getting
awfully thin on top, wasn't he ? I knew where he
could get a first class suit for very little one —
that wouldn't look quite so old and faded as the
one he had on. Did he want the address of my cob-
bler ? He could fix those run-down heels in twenty
minutes. It wasn't long before he left, bowing
stiffly.
movie they
just as they are about to depart for a
have long wanted to see calling upon others only
;
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your friends to the local gossip-column conductor.
(Mrs. Richard Jones is tiny garmenting sometime
in March or The Paul Connerts are really renting
the Painley home which everyone thought they
had purchased.)
Not quite so rapid, but still effective is the Ner-
vous Nellie Method. This consists of utilizing
little mannerisms in the company of others. To
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turn the corners of your mouth down. Think of
Nicholas Murray Butler Think of the Arch-
!
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on slapping you on the back and shouting, "Well,
?"
it's a great day for the race, hey ?" "What race
Think of that —
the Grand Llama of Tibet, the
powerful ruler of a country where strong measures
are required, a man who had been educated at
Harvard, Oxford and the Folies Bergere, yet he
had never learned how to deal with one of the
worst pests since the boll weevil
Snarl
Don't Forget to Forget Names
CHAPTER FOUR
NEXT
man's name
a
on the house, boys !"
to the phrase "It's
is to him the sweetest, most
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his house to dinner and have been told that if you
ever want a cowhide he can get one for you whole-
sale. And there you are, embroiled in another
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Most everyone has a nickname that he or she
Find out what it is and use it. Soon you'll
dislikes.
find that you aren't meeting that person as fre-
quently as you used to. Grade school nicknames
are best and always bring down the house at
it will
any gathering if you can reveal the previously un-
known fact that your host or hostess used to be
known as "fish-eyes" or "fat" or "dough-face".
Usually you need never worry about another in-
vitation to that house.
known as a Heel.
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dachshund puppy. And as I was sitting there re-
flecting, there was a blinding flash, like a side-
show barker's stickpin, and from out of a cloud
appeared a beautiful woman bearing a sign with
the word 'Loveliness'. It was the first vision of
Loveliness I had ever seen.
"The vision cleared her throat and straightened
the seams of her stockings. 'Want to buy a
diamond ring cheap V she asked, 'I've got to leave
town tonight.' I shook my head. 'O. K.,' she said,
'but here's something for you from the boss.' She
handed me a curiously engraved gilt ash tray with
the Statue of Liberty on one side. Then there was
another blinding flash and she disappeared some-
where over the Public Library, traveling like a
bat out of hell.
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something to someone, somehow. But the rule is
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in trying to find a new carpet of just the right
shade for the living room.
LIFE
Life is but a jest
Man is only clay,
Let us do our best
Day after day after day
For me that holds a lesson. I hope it does for
you, too. Write it on a slip of paper and carry it
kind of a party.
As we sat down on the sofa, I readily saw
through her. She had just returned from a trip to
Yellowstone Park and she was itching to tell some-
one all about it. I was just as eager not to be told
about it.
"You've just come back from Yellowstone ?" I
commenced rapidly. "Really, is it still there ? I
thought they'd torn the place down years ago. Do
they still keep those mangy pet bears by the road-
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side ? Are those ancient steam boilers still able to
raise the geysers above the ground every hour ?"
She grew slightly red. "Why, what do you
mean ?" she asked.
All : Ha Ha Ha ! ! !
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Your Conversation — Watch It!
"Let me see, it was on a Tuesday — no,
it was
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he inquired. "I remember California well. I went
there shortly after theGold Rush and made a
strike. Then I made another one " —
"Were you a baseball player ?"I asked, but he
ignored this and I could see that wisecracking
would be lost upon him. Waiting for a suitable
thread in his talk, I soon seized one.
"You mentioned the pet canary you once had
to warn you of the presence of gas in your mine,"
I interrupted. "Did I ever tell you what my three
year old son said when I asked him why he liked
to hear our canary sing ?"
"I have a grandson just the same age," the old
gentleman burst doggedly regaining the reins.
in,
!"
interesting
"What's the matter ? Is something wrong with
my throat ?"
"Nothing to be alarmed about, Mrs. Stuffy, I
assure you. It's just that you have a very badly
diseased pair of adenoids. You see, we usually find
such conditions among the lower classes or among
those not quite up to normal mental par. I remem-
ber the case of a half-witted boy —"
When in front of the entire gathering, which
usually halts all conversation as it realizes what
is going on, this method can be extraordinarily
effective. I have another friend, a dermatologist,
who has made more hosts grind their teeth by pro-
fessionally inspecting "a bad case of dandruff"
or "an interesting facial eruption" than most of
us could have done in three times the number of
identical situations.However, all of us can't be
dentists, or dermatologists or oculists. If you are,
be thankful.
WE have all
quaintances
faced the problem of the ac-
whom we "haven't seen in
who have "just arrived in town," who "can't
ages,"
stay but a minute," and who want to know "the
name of a good hotel." Most of us consider our-
selves very fortunate if these friends aren't still
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cutting out for a new afternoon dress. I followed
it by getting out all our gas and electric bill re-
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house. If you follow these instructions carefully
your guests should leave shortly after arising in
the morning, unable to get back home fast enough
to tell about the awful night they spent with you.
WHEN is
well directed, the personal remark
a dancing partner
like —
the person you
are with turns against you. For the average con-
versation it is a deadly weapon, even more effective
than looking at one's watch, or saying, "Please
excuse me — what was that you said?" If you
really wish a Limburger Personality, then use the
personal remark.
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for some time and isn't particularly anxious to see
now. What's wrong with the following expressions
and questions ? Nothing, if one is endeavoring to
make ice instead of break it
"Hello, Josephine Haven't you a new hat ? I
!
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itwas the first night of the course no one knew
;
instructor.
I let the fruit cocktail pass without comment,
then I commenced inserting a remark here and
there :
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then they all up and one by one gave me a
lined
punch in the nose. It was a splendid tribute, but,
to save my face, I was forced to discontinue the
course soon after.
Doyou shudder every time you hear the tele-
phone ring ? Does it mean a "Can't you come
over ?" or a "Are you free on Tuesday night next
week?"
Lincoln was never troubled by people calling
him on the phone. Neither was Napoleon. Two
of the greatest heroes in the world's history, yet
they knew what happiness really was. True, the
telephone hadn't been invented in their day, but
isn't that beside the point ? Isn't the real point
caught in these immortal lines of Burne -Woods ?
The Ring
I never knew
How sweet life was
Before the invention
Of that Goddam buzz !
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voice sounded so unnatural, not like you at all —
!"
it's so clear and soft
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"I used to be terribly fond of Currier & Ives
prints, too, and then everyone started hanging
them in their rooms !"
FEW tions
of us have never received dinner invita-
which we wanted to accept about as
badly as the Dionnes need advice on fecundity.
The point is most of us accept such things as an
unavoidable part of the inviolable order of things,
like a toothache or Jack Benny, and actually set
it on my stummick —
it comes right up !" or "It
HAVE
man
you ever been in a hotel lobby, a Pull-
seat, or room and run
a ship's smoking
across the person who sits down beside you and
remarks, "Well, we have good weather for the
trip Going the whole way or are you getting off
!
at — ?" If
you reply to him, he immediately at-
taches himself to you for the rest of the trip and
any preplanned rest and relaxation of yours is
gone like a hat on a windy day. How does one get
rid of these traveling leeches, found in every
country and at all times of the year ?
Some lines and railways are now attempting to
aid the person who wishes to travel by placing life-
like dummies in their ticket office waiting rooms.
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When a person attempts to introduce himself to
one of the dummies with one of the customary in-
troductions ("I see you are going to Minneapolis,
too. I have a cousin there who is head of one of
the largest " — "Your first trip across the
. . .
in the summer of —
" ) it breaks an invisible violet
ray which releases a carrier pigeon which flies to
the Immigration Bureau in Washington, D. C,
where it is captured and a note recommending de-
nial of passage or accommodations to this person
is filed for reference ; the Immigration Bureau
then closes for the week-end. Weeks later the jan-
nosing around the desks for cigarettes, comes
itor,
upon the note and immediately wirelesses the
U. South Seas and or-
S. S. Indianapolis* in the
ders her to proceed to Railway, New Jersey under
forced draft. Immediately upon arrival in Rail-
way, having stopped at Havana to take aboard a
cargo of empty Coca Cola bottles, the Captain of
the Indianapolis lands a force of marines who pro-
ceed at forced draft to the nearest saloon. There,
under forced draft, they proceed to get cockeyed,
finally getting around to the ticket office where the
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little group inquires gruffly what's
leader of the
wanted and who's insulted the flag of the United
States ! By this time, of course, the management
has forgotten all about the incident, so the marines,
after probing all the stuffed chairs and old ladies
sitting about, depart with flags flying and band
playing. This is just one of the many hundreds of
unseen, unsung services offered by our transpor-
tation lines in conjunction with the U. S. Govern-
ment. (Send for free illustrated catalogue en-
titled, Where the Taxpayer's Money Goes and
How!)
On the whole, however, the majority of com-
panies who offer transportation facilities treat
these pest-travelers as they do normal human be-
ings. As a result you find them in all classes of
accommodations. It is up to the individual traveler
to get rid of them, although I understand that
the State Department is now working on a recip-
rocal pest agreement with Finland which will limit
such travelers to the forward holds of each ship,
with shuffleboard and deck tennis privileges on
rainy days.
It is always possible, when such a person at-
tempts to introduce himself to you on a train or
ship, to point to your mouth and ears and then make
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finger signs, indicating that you are deaf and
dumb. This self-imposed silence is difficult to main-
tain, however, especially when you catch your toe
on those brass-bound steps on the stairway leading
down to the ship's dining room or when the wash-
room door of the Pullman has been locked for
two hours.
It is a well-known fact that wild ducks always
fly in flocks and are sworn to protect each other
from any old bird who tries to engage them in con-
versation. It is believed that the extreme flying
your first —
?" Some people use belaying pins ly-
and fists.
14G
Always Turn a Conversation
Into an Argument
CHAPTER TWELVE
for dead.
When you enter a small gathering, try to size
up the group and determine their political stand.
If, after listening quietly for a few minutes, you
decide it is an all-capitalistic group, then launch
into a spirited defense of current labor policies
and make indignant protests against the "dirty
money changers." On the other hand, if you find it
is a left wing gathering, then make some uncom-
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"Did you ever see such drivel in your life as
Mrs. Roosevelt's daily column ! Who in the world
!"
ever reads that sort of thing
or
"Did you read Mrs. Roosevelt today ? I think
she has about the best column of any that's being
syndicated — it's so interesting !"
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You "I had four of them out last year."
:
bad one —
he said he'd never had such a difficult
!"
time. He had to use forceps and a chisel
You "You
: should have joined the Christian
Scientists before you had it out —
there is no pain !
Ha Ha Ha
! ! !
You "Reminds me
: of the Irishman who was
driven wild by the whistles of the trains that went
past his house. Claimed he had a toot-ache ! Ha !
Ha Ha
!
!"
Ha!"
According to normal reaction tests, it should
take only one more wisecrack of this type to send
Ella Drips on her way, and it will be some time
before she will feel very kindly towards you. Mean-
while, you can think up other means of keeping
her at a distance.
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When the girl you are with catches her stocking
and starts a run — laugh !
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Everybody Wants Sympathy
The entire Corps burst into a laugh and I could
have crawled away on my stomach. I fairly shook
with humiliation and rage. "I won't forget this I"
I screamed. Today I still feel a ripple of resent-
ment whenever I think of the incident, but it
taught me a lesson. I had expected a hot water
bottle of sympathy from Sir Wearen and he
slipped a piece of icy laughter down my neck.
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lay, near the 18th green. ''It looks," I said laugh-
ingly, "as though you had lost the game for the
good old U. S., doesn't it ?"
Today, whenever Mr. Hoover and I pass on the
street he never speaks to me.
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If You're Wrong Don't Admit It
CHAPTER FOURTEEN
Thanks.)
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If You're Wrong Dont Admit It I
scheduled for, say a tuberculosis sanitarium in
South Africa (foreign consumption, as it's some-
times called), they drive the car underneath the
press, the driver leaps out, and crunch In ten !
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in a bathing suit for a company advertising copper
sulphate. Unfortunately I had drawn the girl so
that she looked as though she had a suit on instead
of leaving nothing to the imagination. I knew I
was wrong, yet I didn't have the time or inclination
to do the drawing over again. I delivered the
drawing to the art editor of the advertising com-
pany handling the job and started to leave. 'Just
a minute V he called out to me in an ugly voice,
'What kind of a girl do you call this ?' I looked him
straight in the eye. 'That's what I call a bathing
suit girl, don't you, friend ?' I snarled, leaning over
hisdesk so he could see my brass knuckles and the
bulge on my hip. He looked at me, then laughed.
'Can't you take a joke ?' he asked, 'Why of course
that's a bathing suit girl
!'
— one of the best you
ever did
"His eagerness to prove me wrong had disap-
peared and all because I had stood up for my
wrongs as though they were rights. He ended up
by taking me out to lunch and telling me never to
enter that office again."
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No One Wants to Be a Goat
CHAPTER FIFTEEN
THERE a famous
is
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No One Wants to Be a Goat
Little attentions like these will go a long ways
toward unraveling friendships.
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No One Wants to Be a Goat
There is the tale of the young Hollywood
gentleman who had no great love for a friend of
his who was about to be married. Afew days be-
fore the event he got into the apartment where the
couple were to spend their wedding night and con-
cealed a microphone over the head of the bed. Then
he led the wire from the microphone to an adjoin-
ing apartment and on the proper night invited all
the friends of the couple in to listen before the
loudspeaker to which the wire was hooked.
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So You Live In A Suburb ?
CHAPTER SIXTEEN
spirit."
The first person to ring our bell was the local
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Methodist minister. I greeted him on all fours,
barking like a dog. I was fostering a new move-
ment, my wife explained, a Going-to-The-Dogs
Movement, which was about to sweep the coun-
try. It was based on the fact that our ancestors
had walked on all fours and the fact
originally
that I was a direct descendant of Rin Tin Tin on
my mother's side. My wife looked at the minister
and tapped her head threw
significantly as she
me a rubber bone, which I seized and took off to a
corner. "I'm afraid it's hereditary," she added
sighing and taking out a plug of tobacco which
she first offered to the pastor and followed by tak-
ing a mammoth bite herself. "My father always
chewed," she explained. "What was good enough
for him is good enough for me."
The minister stayed just long enough to warm
the chair, then he left and we were never troubled
by pastorly visits again.
Next day Mrs. Tellall, the neighborhood nosey,
rang the bell (we had been forewarned of her).
We graciously invited her into a living room bare
of chairs or places to sit of any kind. A
few pillows
were scattered about on the floor. In one corner a
pot of incense sent up a sickening stench. From
the center of the ceiling a giant Bermuda onion
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So You Live in a Suburb ?
was suspended by a red silk cord. ("The spirits of
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alienate your neighbors. One of the best ways to
accomplish the latter is to hold a party as soon as
you move in and invite as many of the neighbors
as your home will comfortably hold.
In the first place, your inviting them violates
the fundamental principle of the small commun-
ity They should do the inviting, not you. How-
:
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And then there are other ways. Let your lawn
grow long and shaggy and keep your shades
drawn. A dog who barks at everyone walking past
will help. So will an extra loud radio (if you can
stand it) Burn soft coal in your furnace. Hold a
.
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Give The Dog A Bad Name
CHAPTER SEVENTEEN
icant nod. My
neighbor bristled. "Nonsense !" he
said. "I've known Potter for ten years ; it's ab-
surd !" I shrugged my shoulders. "Well, of course,
you may know, but just the same, I have good
reason to believe in the truthfulness of the man
who told me. Then, too, I've often wondered why
he . . ."I went on to describe a few fictitious ob-
servations of Potter.
The neighbor who had come to call stayed only
15 minutes, then left with a curt "Goodnight !" I
had sown the A
few more such whispered
seed.
pieces of gossip would stamp me forever in his
mind as a talemongerer and one to be avoided.
Furthermore, he would relay it all on to Potter
and I would have killed two boring birds in one
zone.
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The raised eyebrow, the nudge, and the wink
accompanying a statement about a person can do
more than even the words themselves ("Gridley :
"No one knows it, but she's had false teeth for
years. They're a perfect match !"
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"They can't keep a maid more than a week be-
cause of his temper. I heard he bit off his wife's
little toe one night when in a rage."
company."
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holders for the kitchen. The bath tub was scrubbed
only once a month, tables and books went un-
dusted, and I threw cigarette stubs, pipe cleaners,
and matches around the living room until the rug
disappeared from sight. I had made a real and
liveable home and all because I had built up a
savage-dog reputation for poor, harmless, love-
able Max, who wouldn't have snapped at even a
Shirley Temple picture.
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Miraculous Results
CHAPTER EIGHTEEN
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Miss B. A. Bitbold
35 Andolder Street
Single, Kentucky
My dear Miss Bitbold :
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Dear Joe,
Martha and I are planning a little trip down
East next month and we're wondering whether
you'll be home during the week of the 10th ?
The point is, we haven't been to Boston in years
and we'd kind of like to stay a little while and
see the sights. Do you have a spare bed or a floor
on which we could flop for a few nights ? We're
terribly anxious to see both of you and talk over
the old college days. I would appreciate it if you
could let me know as soon as possible whether
you'll have space for us because if you don't
we'll probably change our plans.
Sincerely,
Bill Willaman
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Dear Bill,
It was good to get your letter because it's
been so long since we've heard from you and
Martha. Let's see, it must be all of fifteen years,
isn't it ? Of course you can stay with us ! We
don't have but one bedroom, but we'll find room
for you and don't you worry I guess you'll be
!
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Dear Al,
I have your nice long letter telling me all
about what has happened to you since I last
saw you and wondering whether I could loan
you a little to tide you over the present emer-
gency. Well, Al, you know there is no one in
the world I would help sooner than you, if I
possibly could, but I seem to have a little sob
tale of my own.
Al, since I last saw you a few things have
happened to me, too. First of all, I had to have
all my teeth out and for that got a dentist bill
of $500. Then our house burned down the day
after the insurance had expired. Next Auntmy
died and I had to pay for her funeral. My
car
gave out and I had to make a down payment on
a new one. My wife broke her leg and got a di-
vorce, so I am paying both hospital bills and
alimony. I am supporting my parents. I owe
money to every grocer, butcher, baker and clo-
thier in town. My eyesight is failing, my stom-
ach is going back on me, and the doctor told me
I would have to go to Colorado if I want to live
another five years.
Now, Al, I wonder whether you could loan
me $50 until next month. You can see how it
would help, and I'll pay it back to you sure with-
in 30 days.
Sincerely,
Abe
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And then there are a great many little notes
which must be written, but which we so seldom
take the pains to make truthful. Let me cite a few
which have done wonders :
Dearest,
It seems just a few minutes ago that I was
with you, instead of last month. I have your
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Darling Emma,
You could have knocked me over with the
family Bible when I read your announcement
of the arrival of little Percy last week. My God,
isn't this the third one in three years ? Did any-
one ever tell you that there was such a thing
pres-
as birth control ? I'm sending along a little
ent, and I hope this will be the last one. I've a
notion to have twins myself just to get even with
you for all the gifts I've sent in the last three
years.
Always,
Ella
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CHAPTER NINETEEN
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I once attended a Golden Wedding celebration.
It was enough to make a Mdivani turn over in his
grave. Imagine being tied to one man or woman
for 50 years Animals don't do
! Fish don't. it.
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a D. A. R. reception. "Honest, it's a circus !" the
explorer told me, and he should know — he's mar-
ried to the biggest elephant I've ever seen.
Now comes the serious business of married life.
The couple sets up housekeeping and all the herd
waits around to see if they'll start fighting. Nat-
urally, sooner or later, though it may be ten years
or more, a fight starts. If the bride starts the fight
mate and retires to the
she whales the hide off her
bed room with a loud slamming of the door, taking
her mate's hide with her. If the groom starts the
fight he does the same to his bride and retires to
the furnace room. This is known in the elephant
world as Hide And Go Seek. In simple English
it means if the one who has lost his hide loves the
At Breakfast
Be fastidious and regular about appearing in
a soiled kimono and curl papers. Don't put a grain
of makeup on until after he has left for the office.
See that you slop things on the table and slump
into your chair with uncovered yawns and eyes
half -opened.
Open his mail. Chatter to him while he attempts
to read it.
At Dinner
Never allow your menu to be monotonous. Burn
your food one day, undercook it the next.
If he has a favorite dish, serve it to him day
after day, and when he objects mildly, whine,
"But I thought you liked it !"
Place all meat roasts on a too-small platter and
see that the carving knife is consistently dull.
Have a centerpiece over which it is impossible
to see. Insist on candlelight.
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Insist upon buying all his neckties for him.
Talk baby-talk and continue to do so when
you go out in public with him.
Keep reminding him of all the other chances
you had to marry men who are now earning five
times what he is getting.
Borrow his razor. Leave stockings in the wash
basin. Coat your face with cold cream before
climbing into bed.
Keep the light on when he wants to go to sleep
so you "can finish a story."
Follow the foregoing suggestions and you'll
be mateless quicker than you can say Reno.
Remember :
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CHAPTER TWENTY
—
You are a wicked, wicked leech of society be-
sides, I am a married man !" Whereupon he turned
and reeled firmly homeward.
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He was met by Mrs. Esquire from
at the door
whom he involuntarily shrank. There was some-
thing about her that offended him. He dared not
tell her, yet he knew and all her friends knew that
itwas perspiration odor caused by unclean pores.
For years he had wished to be separated from this
woman who violated all social delicacies by a simple
ignorance of elementary hygiene rules. Odor
tragedy of it all
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have received many hundreds of dollars. But that
was in the days before men earned their living by
the sweat of other people's bodies.
is, and I'll fight anyone who says it isn't. But this
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is America and Americans pride themselves on
being insane. We take roundabout ways of doing
things, like getting drunk to forget the things we
wouldn't think of if we weren't drunk. However,
this chapter is for men who want a divorce and
want it quickly. Following this paragraph are a
few suggestions. If you'll study these suggestions
and put them into practice I can guarantee you a
wife who will go home to her mother inside of a
month :
At Breakfast
Bury yourself behind your newspaper and
growl when spoken to.
Shave only after the meal. Wear the oldest,
sloppiest dirtiest dressing gown you can find.
Complain about everything on the table.
At Dinner
Never come home at any certain time. Gripe
loudly if the meal is not ready and waiting when
you arrive.
When you know your wife has spent hours on a
fancy salad and an elaborate cake, grumble, "I'm
getting sick of all this delicatessen junk ! Why
don't you make something once in awhile that
doesn't taste like boiled rubber ?"
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Complain about the high food bills and then ask
why in hell you have to eat hamburger and Swiss
steak all the time.
Tell her of the delicious meals they serve at the
restaurant where you eat every noon.
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CHAPTER TWENTY-ONE
to others !
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Making an Offense your Best
Defense
CHAPTER TWENTY-TWO
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Instead of Sir Walter Raleigh smoking to-
bacco, use a smelly, old style brand which offends
everyone with its odor.
24.7
Tear Out And Mail
a. stay at a hotel
b. forget our address
c. keep on going
d
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3. Why do you always call upon us just when we
want to :
a. have dinner
b. go out to a movie
c. good radio program
listen to a
d '
a. shallow pocketbook
b. punk dancing
c. vacant expression
d
a. "Definitely!"
b. "Is that clear V
c. "Adorable!"
d
a. stamps
b. dried chrysanthemums
c. first editions
d
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Irving D. Tressler
was voted the biggest heel in
his college class.
With his friends he is as welcome
as John L. Lewis in the
is
Ford home. People stay
away from him in droves and not even
the police
want him. People dislike
him for what he is, and
he possesses more
privacy than the mooring
mast of
the Empire State
Building.
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