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Alex Allman Conquering Fear
Alex Allman Conquering Fear
About a week after I recorded the audio for this portion of the program, I was on a group
call with Anthony Robbins, a man who - like him or hate him - is responsible for success of
thousands of people who would not have otherwise taken action on their dreams.
Tony said 3 things on that call that summed up the message of this part of my own program:
“You either have results or you have a story.”
He gave some examples from his own life where he had constructed elaborate stories in his
own mind to excuse his personal failures in some endeavor or other… whether it was in his
personal life, his business, his health, or his spiritual pursuit. Then one day he’d wake up
and realize what he was doing… that he had been telling himself a story.
“The only thing that keeps you from getting what you want is the story
you have for not getting it.”
What happens to most of us is that we confront an obstacle to getting what we want, and
that obstacle then becomes our story. But then a dangerous shift happens… Our initial
failure to get our result created the story, but then it turns around, and the story we keep telling
becomes the thing that prevents us from getting our result. When you understand this, you can clearly
see that the story is what keeps you gripped in the fear of failure.
“Put aside your story and dance with the fear.”
Nisargadata Your willingness to dance with your own personal fears is, in the end, what will define your
Maharaj: life, your relationships, and your capacity to gain self-trust. In the end, it will determine your
“It is an personal satisfaction with your life. Dance with your fear and the story and the fear go away.
observable
fact that one
becomes self
conscious only Extinction-- A process of reducing fear through repetition...
in the conflict Action Steps:
between
pleasure and Face your fears as often as possible. Cultivate the habit: Whenever you have that
pain. It is this
clash between bad feeling in the pit of your stomach or realize that something is outside of your
desire and fear comfort zone… immediately agree to do it. Dance with your fear
that causes
anger, which is Actively seek out situations that are out of your comfort zone to train your mind
the great
destroyer in and your spirit
life.”
Make a hobby out of putting yourself in new situations and new places that you
have never been. Eat new foods, try new activities, travel to strange lands, participate
in different cultures
Ambrose
Redmoon:
“ Courage is not
the absence of
fear, but rather
the judgment
that something
else is more
important than
fear.”
Step 1: What is the fear that is If you are still in fear about
Step 3: REFRAME it...Take the going for it, about really taking
holding you back?
same facts or other facts that exist what you want in your life, then go
What are the thoughts or stories in your life around this issue and back to step 3 and do it again.
that you routinely run in your write a new story…
head that are the “reason” you Find something that works
And question the old story-- for you. This is a tool, and it can
don’t live your deepest truth… the
“reason you don’t do that thing Is it true? be a powerful tool if you take the
that you’ve always dreamed of time to do it right.
Why is true?
doing, or having the passion
What if it weren’t true?
Courage:
What beliefs is it based upon?
The Hua Hu Jing: Doing vs. Thinking
What if these beliefs weren’t
“ Spiritual Freedom and oneness true, or what if they could mean Sometimes it’s not reappraisal
with the Tao are not randomly of our fearful thoughts, but just
bestowed gifts, but the rewards something else?
of conscious self-transformation not thinking so much that is
and self-evolution.” Who would you become if you required.
believed something else?
I used to do some boxing, and
What else could be true about I remember getting into the ring,
this situation? my heart beating fast, and just
getting hammered… until one day