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Depression How To Cope With Feelings of Anger
Depression How To Cope With Feelings of Anger
OF ANGER
MAY 24, 2018 | LIVING WITH DEPRESSION | BY THE BLURT FOUNDATION |
Sadly, our irritability is often directed at others, who happen to be in the wrong
place at the wrong time. This isn’t acceptable, but it is understandable. It’s good to
wait until you feel calmer, then apologise, and explain how you felt at the time – it
can be helpful for others to understand your perspective and give them a chance to
help.
There’s not an easy fix, but we can learn to manage some of our symptoms,
allowing us to get back to doing the things that we enjoy. Meditation and
mindfulness exercises often help with sleep issues. We can explain to our friends
that we’d really love to catch up with them, but we struggle with feeling so tired.
Perhaps they can come to our house instead? We can make small changes that
will allow us to cope with our symptoms, and still feel engaged in our lives – easing
the anger we feel.
DEPRESSION IS A THIEF
If we’ve been living with depression for a while, it can start to feel like it has been
stealing from us. Before we had depression we might have enjoyed parties, packed
concerts, and sports games. Now, these situations feel too overwhelming,
too noisy and too busy. It can feel like we have lost an aspect of ourselves, of our
identity; we are forced to come to terms with a new ‘us’. We may wish we could go
back to how we were before. Depression can force us to give up work, or our
studies, putting a stop to our life, for months or years. It’s common to feel that
depression has stolen time from us, and to feel angry about what could have been.
Depression can also make us lose touch with friends, or push awayour loved ones.
We might feel angry – both with the depression, but also with them. It’s very easy to
get lost in thoughts of what could have been.
It can help to try and look towards the future, rather than ruminate in the past. We
can’t change what’s happened, but we can set new goals that interest us, as we
are now. We can reflect on the things that depression has taught us about
ourselves, and what makes us happy – and make plans based on this. We can
even try reaching out to the people that we previously pushed away, and explain
what was going on for us at the time. They may have been hoping from afar to hear
from us again. Looking forwards, and achieving new goals, can ease the anger we
feel at depression’s thievery.
Depression can make us feel angry for so many different reasons. This anger is
totally normal, common, and understandable – it doesn’t make us a terrible person.