Module 4 Marriage and Courting: Then vs.
Now
Catherine Raeff expressed that culture influences how people perceive Relationships which is
evident with the difference for each culture and the changes that occurred to it over time. Make
a Table Comparing the difference for Marriage and Courting from then and now
COUNTRY THEN
1.Philippines is one known complex form
of courtship. Man must show
sincerity by sending live
letters/poems, singing
romantic songs (harana),
doing household chores to
get parents’ permission, and
buying gifts for the woman.
There are many kinds of
marriage in Philippines
because of different religion
cultures and traditions.
Generally, marriage before is
more sacred and bounded.
2.China As is the case with most
societies, in primitive times
the concept of marriage did
not exist. People of a single
tribe did not have fixed
spouses and they could have
multiple sexual partners.
Marriage in ancient Chinese
culture went through a lot of
changes. Initially, people
bearing the same surnames
were allowed to get married,
marriage between siblings
was allowed too.
 Matchmaking
 Chinese Zodiac Love
Compatibility
 The Three Letters
and Six etiquettes
 Foot Binding
 the Wedding Tea
Ceremony
 Joining of Hair
 Post-Wedding Rituals
 Marriage Related
Taboos and Customs
3.America Prior to the late early 1900s,
NOW
This time there are some
guys that do what the
traditional courtship until
now but majority they just
need to impressed girls in
social medias. Chats and
video calls are more likely to
do when courting. Now you
can file an announcement
whenever the married
couple wants to as long as
they are financially capable.
Chinese society and a lot of
people still rely on the
matchmaker’s wisdom to
find the perfect match. Tea
and the tea ceremonies still
play a vital role in the
modern Chinese weddings, it
is still a source of paying
respect to the elders and an
integral part of the formal
introduction of the couple’s
families. Confucian wedding
rituals have become more
popular among couples
recently. In such innovative
ceremonies, the bride and
the groom pay respects to a
large portrait of Confucius in
the banquet hall at the start
of the ceremony. Before
entering the bridal
chambers, the bride and
groom exchange nuptial cups
and perform the following
ceremonial bows.
Entering relationships now
 courtship was a much more became faster and lot easier
private, unemotional affair. to deal. It may be because of
Marriage before was entertainment/pleasure and
characterized as more casual can also be true/serious. Like
and serious. other countries Americans
also used some media
platforms to court and
others still do the traditional
courtship. When it comes to
marriage, they also do the
proposal before marriage.
4.India There is an article about flute Indians are commonly known
courting if Philippines do about arranged marriage
(harana) use a guitar, Dakota even now. This is what they
uses flute. say “first comes marriage
In India the majority of all then comes love”. In India,
the marriages are arranged marriage is thought to be for
by the parents after the birth life, and the divorce rate is
of their child and the extremely low.
children do have a say if the Eventually, it became a
men do not grow up to be a precursor to marriage the
suitable mate for the bride. If giving dowries became an
they end up getting married infamous ideal.
then they would get married
after the women turns 18
and the men turns 22.
Women traditionally would
live the life
of a mother and a wife
following the footsteps of
their ancestors
Leaving one's home after
wedding or for some other
important task is a significant
occasion. Thus, Indians often
consult astrological charts to
fix an auspicious time for
this. Giving Dowries (love
gifts) after marriage.