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Luisedmundo Vicente Hsnrs 348 End of Life Activity 14
Luisedmundo Vicente Hsnrs 348 End of Life Activity 14
Luisedmundo J. Vicente
HSNRS 348
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The topic of death can be an unlikable subject, as it focuses on approaching our final
moments of life. Who would want to talk about death when talking about our daily lives is so
much easier? Yet even though we may want to accept the fact that dying is a natural part of life,
we still have to talk about it. It’s important to discuss with those who are closest to us of our time
of passing, they should know what will happen and how we want it to end. To gain some insight
into discussing death, I have chosen the activity of death over dinner to give me a better
The activity started off by providing me questions on who I wanted to bring over to
dinner. Those that I have decided to come to my dinner were parents, friends, a significant other,
grandparents, and kids. Then I had to choose my intentions of having the dinner, out of the list I
chose that my intention of having the dinner was that, “I think being prepared for a decline in
health and end of life is super important.” Lastly, I had to assign some homework for those who
are attending to my dinner to read, watch, and listen. To read I have chosen “Five Things That
Death Can Teach About Living to the Fullest” by Frank Ostaseski, to watch I chose “Find a
Place of Rest” by Frank Ostaseski, and to listen I have picked “Sam Harris Podcast: Lessons
from Death”. After finally going over all three steps, I've then inputted my email address to
The personalized script that was sent to me focused on the criteria that I've chosen and
came up with discussion topics to address during the dinner. At the start of the dinner, our
introduction would go around the table, and to “raise a glass” to someone who is no longer with
us. That someone can be who is admired deeply and in no more than twenty words then share
why admiration for them is there. After we have completed our introductions then we move onto
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the main discussion topics. I would then list some of the major discussion topics that I found
favorable. These were the following discussion topics: have you ever helped provide care for a
good friend or relative who died in a way that you wouldn’t consider a good death? Were there
ways the experience was harder than it needed to be? Who would I want to speak at my funeral?
After I die, what do I want to be done with my body? If I were suddenly injured in a car accident
or in rubble after the big quake and knew that I would likely die within a few minutes, what
would I worry about being left undone? Once we have gone over the main discussion topics, we
will then conclude the dinner with admiration of one another before leaving the table.
Now as I went over the entirety of the forum, there are quite a few things that I learned
from doing this activity, but as well will change. Starting off from what I learned, the importance
to address some may concerns prior to death that needs answers, appreciating those who came to
your dinner and admiring those whose souls are no longer with us as we near death. I thought it
was interesting assigning homework for those who are attending your dinner to do, especially
how it informs those about what happens during a person's end of life and what comes afterward.
I learn the importance of discussing my near-death with those around me, as it can act as a way
to relieve some tension as we approach my final moments. In the article “Family Communication
at the End of Life” by Keely, it states that “Communication at the end of life, before there is an
impending death, can help remove the stigma that surrounds the topic of death and dying”. Most
importantly I realize that when nearing the end of life - it doesn't only involve yourself, but also
Now as I was nearing the end of this activity it brought to my attention that there were
things that I would like to change. As I was going over my mind on certain areas that I would
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like to change, I also realized that I will have to actually think about the way that I would want to
settle the discussion of nearing the end of my own life. Nevertheless, changes that I would make
would be taking away the homework assignment from my guest, as this is a dinner. I want people
to come and enjoy dinner with me at ease not having the pressure of getting the assignments
done. As much as I did appreciate the introduction that the forum has provided to me, I would
like it to be a nice and simple greeting as to how everyone's day is going and what is new in
everyone's lives. The two major changes that I would like to add to the discussion is did I keep
my promise to my parents and to assure that they won’t be sad over my death.
The promise that I made to my parents is that throughout all their hard work to put me
here today where I am, that I would reward them in the future when I am successful. This is not
to be a sign of repaying debt, but a sign of gratitude for what they did. Some people deserve to
have their faith rewarded and that is what I plan to do for my parents before dying. As to my
second change, I don’t want anyone to feel sad over my passing, don't make my death a big deal,
it's natural in life. I want those around me to express to me their emotions before I die so we can
have a heart to heart and so that they won't have a difficult time coping after my death. In the
article ‘Perceptions of Death and the Effects of Emotion” by Prater, it states that “When dealing
with death, different emotions come into play, based on how well a person copes”. I know that
it's only natural to be sad but not because of the word “he died,” but because of the life we saw
prior to the words. Overall, this activity gave me great insight into the end of life.
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References:
Prater, E. S. (n.d.). Perceptions of Death and the Effects of Emotion. Retrieved from
https://www.mckendree.edu/academics/scholars/issue1/prater.htm
Keeley, M. P. (2017, July 14). Family Communication at the End of Life. Retrieved from
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5618053/