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Chap.2.6. The Digital Self
Chap.2.6. The Digital Self
Chap.2.6. The Digital Self
Like it or not, we all have a digital self—a mask that we put on to engage the technological
world.
Physician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicot once proposed a theory of self which posited
there is a "true self" that is the instinctive core of our personality and must be nurtured and
realized. This is in contrast to the "false self" that is created to protect the "true self" from insult
and danger. The takeaway is, we all have a "true self" that is complex and fragile, but ultimately,
is our essence. In an attempt to share that self with the world, we engage our decoy selves to
manage the day-to-day anxieties and challenges that come before us.
This blog engages thought and discussion about our digital self. For the past two decades in the
mental health field, we have seen countless individuals explore and navigate the many aspects of
their self-identities. Put another way, the digital self has become a frequent visitor on the
couch. We have treated patients who have become divorced over Facebook affairs, couples who
met on Match.com and wound up happily married, adolescents who became suicidal due to
cyber-bullying, single moms now with the flexibility to work at home, and the embarrassing
consequences of "drexting" (aka drunk texting).
In the last 15 years, we have been introduced to:
You have more control over your digital identity. It’s not possible to have 100% control, but
by building your own online presence you’ll always maintain the lion’s share.
You can build a consistent identity, and reduce the impact of problems that might put hirers
or recruiters off contacting you. Think of the damage control that celebrities do when
salacious stories start circulating—it’s this kind of approach, but on a much smaller scale.
You have the chance to develop your own reputation as an expert or thought leader in your
industry. This can mitigate the negative effects of issues such as employment gaps or an
otherwise spotty work history.
Elements of the Digital Self
Your online identity is like an investment. You start out with a small amount of capital, and the way
you use it over time determines how much you end up with later on. The difference is, it’s actually a
lot easier to control your online identity than it is to predict the stock or real estate markets.
What goes into building your digital self? It can and does include everything you say and do under
your own name. Some elements of your digital self include:
o When you post online, what do you say? Are you controversial, contentious, or
otherwise inappropriate?
o Do you add value to conversations?