Ego / Stubborn

What Qur’an & Hadith says ?

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Stiff-necked
and Stubborn

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 Definition
Ego:
An identity of your own construction, which is false.

Stubborn:
Have or show determination not to change your attitude
or position on something, in spite of good arguments or
reasons to do so.

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Why Iblis / Saitan refused to obey Allah?

1. Superior – Obey Allah better

2. Pray better
3. Adam made from Mud, Angel from fire
4. Leader of Angels
5. Most powerful

Failed to realize the order of Allah!

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 Why Ego / Stubborn ?
There are many reasons for this harmful behavior.
1. Saitan is working on you
2. You are mad / angry / hardheaded
3. Your family pushes you
4. Your society / country dictates you
5. You know it is wrong but can not accept the real truth
6. You want to show your manly attitude
7. You hate woman

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 Why Ego / Stubborn ?
8. You can not compromise, think differently
9. You can not accept criticism
10. You can not accept that you can be wrong
11. You want to prove you are right
12. You can’t give up / sacrifice little for bigger benefit
13. You don’t see bigger picture
14. You care less about consequences
15. You care less about Akherat

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 Impact of Stubbornness
✓ Stubbornness is the cause of evil.
✓ Stubbornness causes harm to the human intelligence.
✓ Stubbornness is the cause of conflict and enmity.
✓ Stubbornness harms a person the most in this world
and Hereafter.

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 Dangers of Ego / Stubbornness
✓ Can destroy / harm self, family, country.
✓ Create new issues / problems with unnecessary
sufferings.
✓ Confusion / suffering / killing etc for generations.
✓ Can transform global issue.
✓ Can cause permanent damage.
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 Current serious Issues
✓ Global worming, weather changing
✓ Ozone depletion
✓ Carbon pollution, mist / fog
✓ New diseases
✓ New Arms race

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Qur’an says about stubborn…
‫عنِي اد‬ َ ‫َك ََّّل ۖ ِإنَّهُ َك‬
َ ‫ان ِِليَاتِنَا‬
Nay! Verily, he has been stubborn and opposing Our
revelations. (Al-Muddaththir 74:16)

‫عنِي ٍد‬ ‫ار‬

َ ٍ َّ ‫ف‬‫ك‬َ َّ
‫ل‬ ُ
‫ك‬ ‫م‬َّ ‫ن‬
َ َ َ ‫ه‬‫ج‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ف‬
ِ ‫ا‬َ ‫أ‬
‫ي‬ ‫ق‬
ِ ْ
‫ل‬ َ
(It will be said): "Both of you (Order from Allah to the
two angels) throw every stubborn disbeliever into Hell...
(Qaf 50:24)
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 ُ ‫ض ٍ ِّر لَّجَ اوجو فِي‬
َ ‫غ ْييَانِ ِه ْم يَ ْْع َم ُه‬
‫ون‬ ُ ‫ش ْفنَا َما ِب ِهم ِ ِّمن‬
َ ‫َولَ ْو َر ِح ْمنَا ُه ْم َو َك‬
And though We had mercy on them and removed the
distress on them, still they would stubbornly persist in
their transgression, wandering blindly.
(Al-Muminun 23:75)
‫ون‬
َ ‫ع‬ُ ‫ض َّر‬ ِ ‫َولَقَ ْد أ َ َخ ْذنَا ُهم ِب ْالْعَ َذ‬
َ َ ‫ب فَ َما ْست َ َكانُو ِل َر ِبِّ ِه ْم َو َما يَت‬
And indeed We seized them with punishment, but they
humbled not themselves to their Lord, nor did they
invoke their submission to Him. (Al-Muminun 23:76)
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 ۚ ‫سا اد‬ َ َ ‫ف‬ ‫َل‬َ ‫و‬
َ ِ ‫ض‬ ‫ر‬
ْ َ ْ
‫ْل‬ ‫ي‬ ‫ف‬
ِ ‫و‬
ًّ ُ ‫ج‬ ‫ع‬
ُ ‫ُون‬
َ ‫د‬ ‫ي‬‫ر‬ِ ُ ‫ي‬ َ
‫َل‬ ‫ين‬
َ ‫ذ‬
ِ َّ ‫ج‬ ‫ل‬
ِ ‫ا‬ ‫ه‬ ُ
َ َ ‫ج‬ ‫ْع‬ ‫َج‬
ْ ‫ن‬ ُ ‫ة‬ ‫ر‬
َ ‫خ‬
ِ ْ
‫ِل‬ ‫ر‬
ُ َّ
‫د‬ ‫ل‬ ‫ك‬
َ ْ
‫ج‬ ِ‫ت‬
َ ‫َو ْلْعَا ِقبَةُ ِل ْج ُمت َّ ِق‬
‫ين‬
That home of the Hereafter (Paradise), We shall assign
to those who do not rebel against the truth with pride
and oppression in the land nor do mischief by
committing crimes. And the good end is for the pious.
(Al-Qasas 28:83)

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Prophet r said…
ِ ‫اك َو لَّج َجا َجةَ فَِِ َّن أ َ َّولَ َها َج ْه ٌل َو‬
‫آخ َرها نَ َد َمة‬ َ َّ‫ِإي‬
Avoid stubbornness; verily it begins with ignorance and
ends in regret.
‫َمن ِ ْستَبَ َّد ِب َرأ ِي ِه َهجَك‬
Whoever insists on his opinion would perish.

ِ ‫َّلل أَْلَلَ اود ْلخ‬

‫َِ ُم‬ ِ َّ ‫لر َجا ِل ِإلَي‬ ُ ‫أ َ ْبي‬
ِّ ِ ‫َض‬
The most detested person in the sight of Allah is the
stubborn antagonist.
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 Bigger Picture

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 Examples…
Treaty of Hudybiah.
Prophet’s shaving hair, take off Ihram clothes.
Prophet’s consolation to Ansars of Madinah.
Usman Gani accepts Sahada vs. Fight.
Bukhari, silent collector of Hadith.
Abu Hanifa refuses position of Chief Justice, died in Jail.

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Let us change attitude…

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How to overcome Ego / Stubbornness?
✓ Seek Istegfar, fear Allah
✓ Be flexible, adjustable, trainable
✓ See bigger picture, bigger benefit to community / family
✓ Benefit / Comfort of giving up
✓ Absorb the impact / loss of Money, Power, position
✓ Look long term benefit
✓ Akherat vs. Worldly temporary benefit
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 Few bad examples…

Hitler of Germany
Saddam Hossain of Iraq
Col Gadhafi of Libya
Robert Mugabe of Zimbabwe
Bashir Al-Asad of Syria

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 Few good Examples…

Nelson Mandela of South Africa

Mahatma Gandhi of India
Mother Terisa of Calcutta
Abdul Satter Edhi of Karachi

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How to convert Ego into Positive Force ?
1. Accept you are wrong
2. Listen to Consensus
3. Withdraw yourself
4. Give up Money, Power
5. Delegate to others
6. Excuse yourself
7. Surrender your rights, feel relieved
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For more information, Please contact:
Ego / Stubborn

Abdul Hye, PhD

832-877-7922
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