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March 2011 Footprints
March 2011 Footprints
Why Kids Misbehave If you're ready to take on what Leman calls "the
ankle-biter battalion," read on and learn how to
by Shana Schutte become a super parent!
I'm a product of the 70s, a time when everyone in Here are three ways parents encourage their kids
my third-grade class sat and listened silently while to misbehave.
our teacher, Mrs. Sampe, expounded on a concept.
When she finished talking, we followed directions. No parenting game plan
The greatest problems in our classroom were
chewing gum and passing notes. Imagine a football coach having no plan to lead his
team to victory. What would it be like if he never put
You can imagine my shock when I became an any plays into action? What if he didn't discipline
elementary school teacher twenty-five years later. his team or expect them to perform? What if he let
During my first week of teaching, one of my them run wild everywhere without direction? No
students stood in the middle of my explanation doubt, life with his "team" would be chaotic and
about Vincent Van Gogh, approached me, tugged exhausting.
on my skirt and tattled on his buddy at the back of
the room. I couldn't believe I was being interrupted Parents lead kids much like a coach leads a
in the middle of a lesson! I later discovered that this football team, and to experience victory, parents
behavior — and much worse — was the norm. need a good parenting game plan. Part of having a
What happened to good, old-fashioned respect? plan means defining the attitudes, behaviors and
character traits you want your children to possess.
In his book Have a New Kid by Friday, Dr. Kevin When you can define these, you'll be able to begin
Leman asks similar questions, but in relation to to develop a plan to become a super parent.
parenting. "Why is it that these days that so many
children tend to diss their parents, to act In his book Have a New Kid by Friday, Dr. Leman
disrespectfully? Why are so many parents caught in helps parents put a one-week parenting game plan
the roles of threatening and cajoling and never into action that helps reduce parental frustration,
getting anywhere? What's going on here?" put parents back in the coach's seat and transform
their child's attitude, behavior and character.
Granted, many things have affected kids since
Beaver Cleaver and black and white television. Not only should you develop an "overall" parenting
Technology has made huge advancements but plan, but it's also important to have a scheduled
sends millions of negative messages to kids about minute-by-minute plan, especially with your
authority. Drug use has increased. The family smallest children. As an elementary teacher, I
structure has all but fallen apart. However, the real learned that the best defense against bad behavior
answer to Leman's question (and my teaching is having a good lesson plan that would keep their
problem) is that because kids misbehave because little hands busy. The same applies to parenting.
they can and because adults let them. Keep your kids busy with things to learn, with stuff
to do and with an agenda, and your parenting job
In his book, Dr. Leman says, "It all comes down to will be much easier with fewer discipline problems.
who is really in charge of your family." He points out
that many parents are so concerned about being Inconsistency
their child's friend — not hurting their child's
feelings or making sure that their child is always As an elementary teacher, I learned the hard way
happy — that they fail to parent well. that children have brains like elephants — they will
latch onto even your the smallest promises
Leman's comments lead to several pointed (positive or negative) and remember them a day,
questions: Are you willing to do whatever it takes to week, month or year later. Therefore, I learned that
take charge of your family? Are you willing to look consistency was of utmost importance in discipline.
like the "bad guy" at times in order to parent your If I said I was going to dole out a pink slip and a trip
children so they will stop rolling over you? Are you to the school's front office the next time I saw a
particular student, I needed to deliver rather than
make threats or promises I didn't intend to keep.
Road Passages
And if you don't do what you say you will, they
won't respect you.
Power struggles
You need: Put cookies sheet in the oven. Close door and turn
oven OFF. Give each child a piece of tape and seal
Bible the door. Explain that Jesus tomb was sealed.
1 cup whole pecans
Read Matthew 27:65-66
Mixing bowl
3 egg whites
Wooden spoon Go to bed! Explain that they may feel sad to leave
1 cup sugar the cookies in the oven overnight. Jesus' followers
1 tsp. vinegar were in despair when the tomb was sealed.
Zipper baggy Read John 16:20 and 22
1 pinch of salt
Wax paper On Resurrection Morning open the oven and give
Cookie sheet everyone a cookie! Notice the cracked surface and
Tape take a bite. The cookies are hollow! On the first
Resurrection Day Jesus' followers were amazed to
Preheat oven to 300 degrees. Place pecans in the
find the tomb open and empty.
baggy and let the children beat them with the
wooden spoon to break into small pieces. Explain Read Matthew 28:1-9
that after Jesus was arrested, He was beaten by
the Roman soldiers.
Read John 19:1-3 to them. He is risen! He is risen, indeed!
Someday, inevitably, you are I will look into that For some of you, your spiritual life is as dehydrated
grave dug into the ground or we will focus our eyes as the dry bones described in the book of Ezekiel.
on a box of ashes of the body of our loved one who Your life is relatively unaffected by spiritual things.
has just died. Inevitably, it will happen to you. You Two days ago on Good Friday, you barely even
cannot escape it. On that day, if my wife precedes thought of Jesus Christ, when Jesus was nailed to
me in death, my heart will break into a thousand the cross. The monitor of your brain, the line of your
pieces. On that day, if my child or grandchildren will brain waves, is almost flat, and you barely
precede me in death, my heart will be truly remembered Christ on Good Friday. The study of
shattered, as nothing else could shatter my heart. Scripture and daily prayer are beyond your world of
In the midst of my sorrow and in the midst of my comprehension. The pangs of hell? The pangs of
brokenness, I will hear that record repeating itself hell don’t frighten you. The joys of heaven? The
endlessly, ―shall never die, shall never die, shall joys of heaven don’t really attract you. This life is so
never die, shall never die,‖ and those words will be all consuming for you and your brain. And deep
stronger than my sorrow. down inside, in all honesty, you may – as people
would say – not give a rip about God or Christ or
Why? Because that obituary was wrong. life lived under and with God daily. Oh, you may
I love the Easter poem that states it this way: pray when in a jam, just like about everybody else.
―The stars shine over the land, Oh, you may believe in the ―Man Upstairs,‖ but that
The stars shine over the sea, daily authentic walk with God is not part of your life.
The stars look up to God, ―Boop…..boop….boop….boop.‖
The stars look down on me.
The stars will shine for a million years, Tell me, can a person who is deaf be afraid of the
For a million years and a day, thunder? ….. No. ….. Can a person who is blind be
But God and I shall live and love, afraid of the piercing flash of lightening? ….. No.
When the stars have passed away.‖ Neither can a person who is spiritually deaf truly
hear the Word of God speaking to them every day,
But there is more. Easter is not only concerned nor can the spiritually blind see the piercing light of
about God’s victory over physical death, but Easter God shining on their lives. The spiritually deaf
is also concerned about God’s victory over spiritual cannot really hear the voice of God and the
death. God raises up both dead bodies and dead spiritually blind will not be overjoyed at seeing the
spirits. Spiritual obituaries and spiritual death beauties of God in Christ. For some of you, you do
notices are also premature and don’t tell the whole not fear of God’s power. Nor is there a joy in God’s
story. God raises spiritually dead people to life all awesome beauty and grace. Because your lives
the time, and I have seen it again and again. I have have become dead, rattling like the dry bones of
seen and heard and experienced real life stories all the skeletons described in the book of Ezekiel. …
the time of people who were spiritually dead, with No thunder of God do you hear! No light of God do
spiritual obituaries, with spiritual death stories, and you see! No delicacies of God do you really taste or
God put new life back into them. That is also what eat!
Easter is all about.
And the Easter message is that the awesome
“Most likely.‖ No, that is not a strong enough power of God, who raised Jesus of Nazareth from
phrase. ―Inevitably,‖ there are people here today the dead, can miraculously take your dead life and
who are spiritually dead or who are so close to mine and make it alive. God can take people who
being spiritually dead, you would never able to tell are spiritually dead and give us resurrection power,
that they were alive. Looking at them and talking Easter power, and vibrant power so that life is lived
with them, you feel that they are spiritually with a passion for the ways of God. And it is time. It
is time for you to wake up, to come out from your story. It won’t tell the Easter story of God’s
spiritual coma, to be raised up from your spiritual resurrection power that takes dead bodies and
lethargy by the powers of God. dead spirits and raises them up to new life. It won’t
tell the story of how God makes new men and
You are here today, not simply because of tradition; women, boys and girls, so strong that they changed
not simply because you are two times a year the course of human history. I am here to tell you
Christians; not simply because you smell that the obituary was wrong. Amen.
springtime and Easter in the air. You are here today
because God wanted you to be here, so that you
can listen to this particular Easter message that
God raises up both dead bodies and dead spirits.
God brought you here today to hear this Easter
message. It is time. It is time for you to get up and
walk spiritually. It is time for you to awaken from
your spiritual coma.
by Rev. Phil Reinders While I’m tempted to chuck the whole worship
show, I’m holding out for the practice of public
Jan 1, 2011 — Dirk, thanks so much for your good Christian worship to reclaim its countercultural edge
thoughts and gutsy gospel endeavor to plant a new again. Where else do people gather together with
church. Church plants and campus ministries are others they usually don’t associate with, to focus on
the R&D department of our denomination, and I Someone other than themselves, and pay attention
need to listen well to the issues and struggles you to news that mostly contradicts their personal
encounter. assumptions and challenges their idolized cares?
Lashing ourselves to the mast of weekly worship
I like your instincts. You recognize something is off might be the most important practice for the church
in how we understand the church. I feel that in my to orient our lives around Jesus and resist the siren
bones too, and I’m convinced we must allow call of consumerism.
mission to organize and shape our church life.
To do that, we’ll need to help people reimagine
I’m equally certain, however, that we have been worship within God’s mission, to understand it as a
discipled by our consumer culture. It has seeped in relationship (covenant) renewal ceremony, where
way deeper than we ever thought, shaping even our unique identity in the gospel is formed and fed,
our expectations of church and worship. Worship where the reality of the resurrection is reinjected
has become a commodity that we take in or into our living, where we’re formed in the way of
casually take a pass on, depending on our lifestyle Jesus and learn to live yielded lives to the King.
preferences and personal tastes: Did I like the That’s hard work, especially when we’re groomed
music? Did the sermon feed me? Was it at a to bow to the authority of our desires. But that
convenient time/place for my busy schedule? Did it makes it all the more vital that we give the best of
deal with the issues I care about? our thought, prayers, and energy to this
reimagining.
Church plants sometimes get accused of selling out
or dumbing down to be relevant to culture, but I find So how can we call people to follow Jesus in a way
many established churches equally, if not more so, that doesn’t force them to make massive cultural
shaped by this individual-focused consumer mind- leaps, but find in Jesus the most hopeful reality for
set; they just have code words that mask it well: living in our world? I hope that we can continue this
Was the worship ―uplifting‖? Did the sermon ―feed‖ conversation, because together we’re better.
me? These may be valid questions, but notice that
the reference point is still me!