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Look On The: You Are Not Alone!
Look On The: You Are Not Alone!
In the complicated Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of our and hope in support of each other. Newcomers are
society we live in today, many families don’t program. First names only are used. We avoid welcome to just sit and listen; or they may speak,
realize they share similar pain, anger, anxiety, rendering opinions on outside issues; we do not if they wish, asking questions about the program
shame, self-pity, and fear caused by their concern participate in public action groups; and we do not or sharing their concerns and struggles that have
about the disruptive, destructive behavior of a lend our name to any outside enterprise. These brought them to FA.
loved one involved with substance abuse or parameters allow us to stay focused on our
related behavioral problems. Although just one recovery and keep principles above personalities. HOW CAN I FIND A MEETING? Simply
person in the family may be using drugs, the look on the FA website (under “Find a Meeting”
problem rapidly expands to include the entire ARE THERE REQUIREMENTS FOR or “Virtual Meetings”), or call or email the World
family in “a kind of madness,” often called MEMBERSHIP IN FA? FA welcomes anyone Service Office (WSO) (see the contact informa-
codependency. concerned about a loved one who is, was, or is tion on the back panel of this pamphlet). Choose
suspected of being involved with drugs or alcohol. the meetings that are best for you:
We at Families Anonymous™ (FA™) have found
There are no dues, fees, or other obligations for
a safe haven where we can share our problems Attend a TRADITIONAL MEETING. Face-to-
membership.
with others who understand. The details of our face meetings are the original (and still the most
personal stories may differ, but our feelings and Each FA group is self-supporting through common) type of FA meeting. Many groups that
heartbreak are the same. In FA we learn to voluntary contributions received at each meeting. have traditionally been meeting face-to-face are
recognize the roles we play in our families—and FA groups pay their own rent, buy FA literature, also adding web-based components, so members
how these roles aggravate our situations, making and provide their own refreshments. Groups also can choose to attend remotely rather than in
them worse. We learn how to change ourselves; in make donations to the World Service Office to person. More than 400 face-to-face meetings are
doing so, we achieve serenity in spite of turmoil. support the FA fellowship. held weekly in the United States and at least a
dozen other countries. (Interested in starting a
WHAT IS FAMILIES ANONYMOUS? FA WHAT CAN I EXPECT AT MEETINGS? new group in your area? Find information on the
is a Twelve Step self-help fellowship based on the FA groups hold regularly scheduled meetings, FA website, or contact the WSO.)
adaptation of the Twelve Steps and the Twelve and leadership is rotated among the members.
Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous. We who Attend the MEETING WITHOUT WALLS.
Some meetings focus primarily on the Twelve
belong to FA are family members and friends This real-time, online, voice meeting follows the
Steps, with the group studying a single Step each
concerned about our loved ones who are involved format of our traditional, face-to-face meetings.
week, each month, or for several weeks in
in substance abuse. To participate, you need an Internet connection, a
succession. Other meetings explore FA’s Twelve
microphone, and speakers. Simply download the
Traditions, a framework of guidelines that define
FA began in the early 1970s and has become an free software from the FA website, install it, and
our groups and help keep them strong and healthy.
international fellowship that helps people who you’ll be ready to go.
Still others focus on a topic selected by the
suffer the fallout of substance abuse in their
meeting’s leader: a key word or slogan (such as Attend the E-MEETING. This email-based
homes and families.
expectations, enabling, control, or one day at a discussion group is the largest and most active in
time); or a page from FA’s book of daily readings, the fellowship. It has more than 500 members
IS FAMILIES ANONYMOUS A RELI- Today A Better Way™; or excerpts from other FA from all over the world and is available 24 hours
GIOUS PROGRAM? No! Although FA has a literature pieces that contain the wisdom of a day, 7 days a week.
spiritual basis formed on the principles of the longtime members.
Twelve Steps and the Twelve Traditions, this does Attend the PHONE MEETING. Anyone with a
not make us a religious program. Each member’s Using the meeting’s focal point, and always being telephone can dial in to this meeting. Connecting
belief (or lack of belief) in a Higher Power is guided by the principles of the FA program, we with your fellow FA members can’t get much
personal and private. take turns discussing our experiences, strength, simpler than this!
HOW DOES FA HELP A MEMBER? At our 9. Are you trying to compensate for some
meetings, we share our successes and struggles. family misfortune, divorce, death, illness?
By telling our stories and listening to those of 10. Are you embarrassed to discuss your
situation with a friend or relative?
ARE YOU
others, we gain strength, hope, and courage to try
new ideas and new ways of coping with our own 11. Do you find yourself lying or covering
situations. Each person “recovers” at his or her up for ____?
own pace and, in turn, encourages others to 12. Do you feel resentful or hostile toward
persevere in their own situations. ____?