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Unit 1 Friendship
Unit 1 Friendship
Unit 1 Friendship
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Almost everyone feels the need for friends, although some of us make lirends more
easily than others. Some of us make friends in childhood, and star- ti-rends for the rest
of our lives. Some of us quarrel rvith our friends and are constantlr- nrakurg ne\\r ones.
What about you? Do you think that friendships just happen, or do celtirin factors
determine with whom ne r'vill become friends? What do \.ou think rlakes people
become friends rather than just acquitances?
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Friends are people who regularly cross our paths, for example our Four basic behaviours have been
classmates or our team-mates. But why do we become friends with one idenrified by psychologists as
particular classmate rather than another? Perhaps both our mothers are necessary to maintain the bond of
single parents, or perhaps we are both computer geeks - whatever it is, friendship:
we have things in common. 1. Self-disclosure
2. Supportiveness
3. Interaction
The key is self-disclosure.'Can I talk to you for a minute?' or'May I 4. Keeping the friendship positive
share something with you?' are questions which could move an
acquaintanceship into a friendship. You are taking the risk of disclosing These firsttwo (self-disclosure and
information about yourself, but the acquaintanceship is not going to supportiveness) are facilitated by
develop unless there is reciprocity. If your acquaintance listens to what communication.'We must be
you have to say - perhaps about your problems at home - but does not willing to extend ourselves, share
divulge anything personal in return, there is no reciprocity. That our lives. Iisten, and offer support.
acquaintanceship is not going to tip over into friendship. Don't worry if you move away
- emails and phone calls may be as
good as being there. The third
Having established a friendship through self-disclosure and reciprocity, (interaction) involves spending
the glue that binds it is intimacy. This involves emotional expression, and time together, while the fourth
unconditional support, followed by acceptance, loyaity and trust. Our (keeping the friendship positive)
friends are always there for us through thick and thin - but there are necessitates more consideration of
limits. If a friend proves to be over-critical of our clothes or our the quality of the relationship.
behaviour, the friendship may not last. On the other hand, if our friend Self-disclosure isn't an unrestricted
asks for help, we will value the friendship more highly. Iicence to off-load or iet off steam.
The intimacy which makes a
friendship thrive must be enjoyabie
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more rewarding a friendship, the
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Ancient Greek philosophy
From The Nicomachean Ethics bv Artistotle
0ver the centuries, there have been mang different theories of friendship.
Following is an extract bg the ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle who lived
from 384 to 322 BCE Imore than 2,300 gears ago). He stated that friendship
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has three components: 'Friends must enjog each other's companU, theg must
be useful to one another, and theg must share a common commitment to the
good'. ln contemporarg societies, we tend to define friendship in terms of the
irst component, and def ine those morquseful relationships as something else.
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Poem
From About Friends by Brian fones *l
ln the following poem, the British poet remem bers a perfect child hood friendship,
and how he felt when he met his friend again after rwentg Uears.
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What do gou think the British writer of the following poem has to offer as a
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w Hi I'm Rob from Florida USA where there's lots of sunshine.
What I'm really into is computer games and computers
generally. I had my first computer frori my mom when I was five
and I've been a geek ever sincel I've been designing interactive
games over the last couple of years and that's what I really want
to do big time when I graduate. I'm looking for an e-pal who
shares my enthusiasm - or is just as crazy as me! I want to create
new games with new ideas from someone from another culture so
we can create together. Japan or China would be really cool,
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in life is fashion and clothes. I'm CRAZy about them. What I '.
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6$ Hi I'm Jake from Australia. Just like in all the movies and soaps
w you've ever seen about Australia, we spend a lot of our lives on the
beach surfing and having barbies. But I tell you what really interests me
and that's FooD! I love it. I just love Thai food with all those limes and
ginger, and I'd like an e-pal in Thailand. Do you eat just traditional Thai
food at home, or do you have fast food like chips and burgers? What do
you like best? Do you and your family eat together every day at home?
Do you eat outside like us on the beach?
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,6s Hi I'm Irina from Russia. I live with my mother and four brothers in
* a town in the east of Russia. Life is not easy here because there
used to be a factory here which employed two thousand people, but
now it has closed and there is no work. Winter is very long and very
cold. snow is 5 metres high and stays for months. I study hard so that I
can learn perfect English and go to Moscow to study when I.m older. I
would like an e-pal who I can practise my English with. I would like to
talk about your school and the job opportunities in your country. what is
your family life like? what do you do in your spare time? I watch movies
at home and help my mother with the shopping and housework.
\Mriting to an e-pal
Be an e-paI. Think about how you want to present yourself and your
interests, and your way of life.
a Choose one of these e-pals to reply to. Explain who you are,
where you live and tell your e-pal a little about your family life.
Give your e-pal the information he or she wants. Ask questions of
your own so that your e-pal will have plenty to respond to.
a Write your own request for an e-pal. Include a picture which may
be of you, or something which interests you. Include information
about yourself, and what you would like from your e-pal.
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