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Understanding the correct muscles to use when doing kegel exercises can be a little

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Unlike many other muscles, it’s not so easy to visually con rm that you’re doing the
exercises correctly.

Part of the problem is that many websites advise men to squeeze

their Pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle), and don’t provide accurate descriptions
of where it is exactly.

They also miss out the fact that the Bulbocavernous muscle (BC muscle) plays a
major role for men if they want to do kegels to control their ejaculation.

In an interesting piece of research into pelvic oor rehabilitation for men with
lifelong PE at the University of Rome in 2014, the researchers note that:

The pelvic oor undoubtedly plays an important role in

sexual function; evidence suggests active roles of the
ischiocavernous and bulbocavernous muscles, and
sphincters, with a signi cant increase in electromyographic
activity during the entire ejaculatory period

Personally, I don’t think the name matters too much as long as you’re exercising the
correct muscles. You don’t need a full understanding of anatomical terminology –
you just need an understanding of which muscles to use.

The simple way to nd the right muscles

There are 3 ways you can check if you’re using the correct muscles:

1. Locating the muscles while urinating

The rst technique is to mentally squeeze the base of your penis to stop yourself
urinating mid ow. The muscles that you use to do this are the muscles you need to
use when doing kegels.

If you can’t stop urinating then it may be that the muscles just aren’t well developed
at the moment. Don’t worry though – as long as you nd that the ow reduces,
you’re probably using the correct muscles.

When rst doing this, you may nd it useful to start and stop the ow of urine
several times until you gain an understanding of which muscles to use.

Please note that stopping the ow of urine is something you only need to do to get
an idea of which muscle to use. Don’t do it every time you go to the toilet, as this
isn’t recommended by Urologists.

2. Finding the muscles manually

The second technique is to feel the pelvic oor with your ngers while lying on your
back. Lie down, raise your knees and then use a couple of ngers to push gently
onto your perineum – the area of skin between your testicles and anus.

If you then try to squeeze the muscles you would if stopping yourself peeing you
should feel contractions under your ngers. You can experiment by trying to
squeeze whichever muscles you can in that area until you’re able to feel those
contractions.

3. Locating the muscles with an erection

A third technique, and one which can be a useful visual check, is with an erection. If
you squeeze/contract the pelvic oor muscles, you should nd your erection rises
slightly. And if you then relax the squeeze, it should drop down a little.

You might also nd that you can feel or see your erection getting bigger or harder.
This is another function of the BC muscle, so you may nd this is a useful way to
check you’re using that muscle.

Understanding the different muscles used

There are 3 main muscles of the pelvic oor which are targeted by kegels. They all
have different roles, but are also connected in a sort of pelvic oor hammock of
muscles. So trying to exercise one muscle speci cally will also work the others to a
certain extent.

You can see the locations in the following diagram, with explanations of each one
below.

The Bulbocavernosus muscle

The BC muscle is the main muscle to use when doing kegels, not just the PC muscle.
It’s located around the bulb, or base, of the penis. The two main roles of the BC
muscle are:

Squeezing semen or urine out of the urethra.

Squeezing more blood into the end of the penis.

So in this way, it contributes to both erection strength and ejaculation.

The Pubococcygeus muscle

The PC muscle is the large muscle which stretches from the pubic bone to the
tailbone. Its main roles are:

Also plays a role in urination and bowel movements.

Forms a large part of the pelvic oor, supporting lower organs.

Contracts during orgasm.

The Ischiocavernosus (IC) muscle

The IC muscle sits next to the BC muscle, and its roles are:

It’s involved in maintaining an erection and stabilizing the penis.

It helps to ex the anus.

Which muscles to use and when

When doing a normal kegel squeeze just before the point of no return you need to
focus on contracting mainly the BC muscle, and the IC and PC muscles will also
contract when you contract that area.

When doing reverse kegels, the idea is to relax all the muscles – during sex you
should try to keep all of the muscles of the pelvic oor relaxed.

You would only do a strong kegel hold before the point of no return by
contracting/squeezing the pelvic oor muscles.

To quote the same piece of research as earlier again:

we demonstrated that active perineal muscle control

inhibits the ejaculation re ex through intentional relaxation
of the bulbocavernous and ischiocavernous muscles, which
are active during arousal and should be intentionally relaxed
during this phase of sexual intercourse.

So it’s good to do kegel exercises on your own to gain an awareness of your pelvic
oor muscles and develop strength and control.

But when you have sex, forget about squeezing and contracting and focus instead
on keeping nice and relaxed.

Read more: my guide to kegels

77 thoughts on “How To Find The Right Pelvic Floor

Muscles For Kegels”

RAFA
NOVEMBER 10, 2019

Hi! I have bad erection quality, no morning or nocturnal erections, no erections

thinking in girls or watching porn, only if I touch myself or If I am with a woman.
And with a woman, I lose the erection very easy. It is possible that I have a weak IC
muscle? I can retroejaculate so I think I have a strong BC muscle but maybe the IC
muscle is not that strong. Could I work only the IC muscle?

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ETHAN GREEN
NOVEMBER 20, 2019

Hi Rafa
What do you mean by ‘I can retroejaculate’? You mean you can squeeze the
muscles hard enough to stop yourself ejaculating, or does it happen that
sometimes you just don’t ejaculate? Have you ever spoken to a doctor about
your issue? I don’t know of any way to only target the IC muscle, nor if it’s even
something important to try and do really. I think it’s perhaps overcomplicating
the matter. It sounds to me like perhaps there is something else causing the
lack of libido/excitement – perhaps you haven’t found what really turns you on
yet? Or perhaps there is a physical cause, which is why it might help you speak
to a doctor to get yourself checked out.
Ethan

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JASON
JULY 29, 2018

Is it okay to feel squeezing anus too when doing kegels?

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ETHAN GREEN
AUGUST 1, 2018

Hi Jason
It’s normal for that to happen when you’re learning. But ideally, you want to try
to isolate the muscles so that you don’t squeeze the anus.
Ethan

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WAYNE
APRIL 26, 2018

Hi Ethen
I wonder if an enlarged prostate can cause night time leaking which is my problem
starting a year ago for no particular reason. No issues with erection nor PE but
have noticed a reduced and sluggish ejaculation. Could it be lack of/no sexual
intercourse due to my wife’s illness for many years. Can the BC or PC muscles
weaken due to lack of activity? Perhaps bladder wall also weakened for some
reason? Leaking started around a year ago. I used to be quite pro cient in the past
when active. If you don’t use it do you lose it?

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ETHAN GREEN
MAY 2, 2018

Hi Wayne
Do you mean leaking urine or semen? If you don’t have sex, or masturbate, it’s
normal to start leaking semen I think. But if it’s urine, it could be a sign of a
physical condition, in which case speak to your doctor probably.
Ethan

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BRAIN SCOTT
DECEMBER 19, 2017

I’m sorry to bother you. But i have a trouble in having sex( premature ejaculation of
course!). I’ll meet my girl friend in the next 5 months. And I’m really worry about
that, you know, it’ll be a shame when we just ejaculating too fast. So i’m wondering
if Reverse Kegel or Normal Kegel is good to stop my problem. Tks a lot! :)

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ETHAN GREEN
DECEMBER 22, 2017

Hi there
Well, I think the thing is to try lots of different techniques, not just rely on one
or two. Premature ejaculation isn’t something that I think can easily be xed
just by choosing one type of kegel exercise. It’s better to learn as many
techniques as possible, and put them all into action. If you take a good look
around this site, you’ll nd lots of useful advice that should help.
Ethan

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JAKE
AUGUST 24, 2017

I was wondering how exactly do I hold the PE muscle at will. I’ve been trying for a
bit now and I just can’t seem to get it. Thanks

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ETHAN GREEN
AUGUST 25, 2017

Hi Jake
Did the article help you get it right?
Ethan

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ALI
AUGUST 2, 2017

What to do of pc muscle while doing sex. Please explain that how pc muscle is
helpful in sex and how to use pc muscle while doing intercourse.

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ETHAN GREEN
AUGUST 3, 2017

Hi Ali
You can nd answers to all those question in the main article about kegel
exercises. If you read through it carefully, you should nd what you’re looking
for, and in more detail than I can offer in a comment reply.
Ethan

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PETER
JULY 26, 2017

Hi Ethan

Thanks for the great article, it s the best i have found on the net!
One thing still confuses me:
There are two ways I can contract. One is a hard contraction, only possible to hold
for about one second and hard to breath with. It’s the same contraction as if i would
pump during ejaculation. When i let the contraction go (relax) i can really feel my
muscle moving (feeling in my body not with the ngers).

The other one is more subtle and i can hold it easily also whilst breathing. But i
don’t feel the muscle that much moving.
Is it physically more exhausting to do a proper kegel than stop the urin ow( which i
can easily do for as long as i want) ?

I would really appreciate an answer

Thanks
Peter

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ETHAN GREEN
JULY 28, 2017

Hi Peter
Thanks for the compliment – it’s always good to hear an article is
appreciated:-)
I’m not sure about your question, to be honest. For me it’s just a case of being
able to contract as hard or gently as I like, not hard or subtle. So I wonder if
maybe you’re using different muscles each time? Do you feel that both types
target the same muscle(s) or are more engaged in one movement than the
other?
As for the second question, I don’t nd it more or less dif cult – just the same
really. Though sometimes during sex, that kegel hold might need to be stronger
and for longer than I would do for holding back the urine ow.
Ethan

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PETER
AUGUST 2, 2017

Hi Ethan
Thanks heeps for your reply! I think there might be different muscles
targeted in the two ways, but as you said a kegel is about as dif cult as
holding the urine ow the rst described contraction is probably wrong or
at least done too hard.
Is doing a quick kegel then the same sort of contraction as if semen gets
pushed out of your penis during ejaculation? (It’s this kind of pumping
feeling)

Thanks again!
Peter

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ETHAN GREEN
AUGUST 3, 2017

Hi
You’re very welcome. Yes, doing kegels holds quickly in a row will feel
similar to the contraction felt during ejaculation, as it’s the same
muscle used to pump out the semen and to do a kegel. And that’s also
the reason it’s better to avoid doing kegel holds during sex unless at
the point of no return, or you’re kind of just imitating the act that
happens during ejaculation, thus potentially making it happen
quicker – the opposite of what you want to achieve!
Ethan

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PETER
AUGUST 5, 2017

Hi Ethan

Thanks a lot! With this description i am nally sure that i target

the right muscle. I know the article already states that the bc
muscle squeezes out semen, but it confused me somewhat that
you wrote the pc muscle contracts during orgasm.
Now it’s clear though! I must say you do outstanding work to
answer all these comments.
All the best
Peter

ETHAN GREEN
AUGUST 7, 2017

Hi Peter
You’re welcome! I’ll have another look through the article to see
if it needs to be made clearer. Glad you found the site and
comments useful!
Ethan

HIBISCUS
JUNE 5, 2017

Hi Ethan

I’m too suffering with the problem of premature ejaculation. I ejaculate just in the
moment while in. I don’t want to bother you with the same question. Would you
ensure me that this exercise would help me to last long?

Thanks :-)

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ETHAN GREEN
JUNE 9, 2017

Hi Hibiscus
I can’t promise that kegels will de nitely help. But they are certainly worth
trying. I do recommend looking around this site thoroughly as well to get an
idea of other techniques that might help.
Ethan

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SUKHDEEP
APRIL 9, 2017

Hi Ethan,
I am doing keel From last one week and I have feel pain now when have erection. I
think , am doing wrong. Please help me because one month back also I start kegal
exercise but I leave after one week. I try to nd PC muscle while doing pee and I
nd but while lay down I cannot contract the muscle which is, I feel while pee stop.
Please help me because I want to success.

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ETHAN GREEN
APRIL 10, 2017

Hi Sukhdeep
Have you tried doing the kegels when sitting or standing instead then? You
might nd it easier to target the correct muscles.
If you’re feeling pain when you have an erection, that’s not good. It could be
because you’re just doing the squeezes too hard, or doing them too often. But
there’s no way of me being able to tell, or advise you in an accurate way.
So really, my advice would be to err on the side of caution. If you have
problems each time you try to do kegels, then perhaps it’s not the best exercise
for you. Maybe you’ll have more success just doing the simple, but effective,
start-stop technique instead.
Kegels aren’t the only way to tackle PE, and in my opinion there’s no point
causing yourself more problems like painful erections.
Ethan

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RAHUL
MARCH 6, 2017

Please help to nd the muscles required for performing kegel exercise. I am not sire
which ones are the muscles . Are those muscles located around the base of penis
and show contractions when I press the perineum? Please help!!
Thanks

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ETHAN GREEN
MARCH 7, 2017

Hi Rahul
The best way is really to stop yourself peeing in mid ow. There’s no better
way to work out which are the right muscles to use. Other than that and the
other ideas I’ve suggested, there’s not much more I can do to help, I’m afraid.
Keep trying the techniques, and with practise you should get it. It can take a
few days to develop some control, so don’t worry – keep at it!
Ethan

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SHAUN ARMAN
JANUARY 21, 2017

Hi Ethan!

I rst read this guide a year back when my performance was average but with the
help of this article I was able to do much better. But after some time I stopped and
started again with my concepts not in place and I think I started exercising the
wrong muscle. Now I cant last a minute. I can’t control my evacuation nor stop or
delay it. How can I x this?

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ETHAN GREEN
FEBRUARY 6, 2017

Hi Shaun
It’s great to hear from someone who put the techniques into place a long time
ago and had success with them – at least initially. It might not be that you’ve
started doing it incorrectly – it’s more likely that because you stopped doing
them, your performance dropped back down again. Unfortunately that can
happen. Do you think you can take a break again for a week, in case you have
incurred some muscle tightness, and then try to repeat more carefully what
you did a year ago? And did you do only kegel exercises, or other techniques as
well?
Ethan

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BRAD
DECEMBER 22, 2016

Do you have any explanation on, ok say if I’m watching porn I ejaculate in like 1 to 2
minutes sometimes a maybe can last 5. But if I’m not watching it I can last between
20 to 30 min. Do you think I would ejaculate quick while having sex and is this a
problem? Should I just stop watching porn, cause I can even last around 10 to 15
minutes just looking at pics of porn, but when I watch it I can’t last long at all. Any
suggestions and can you please answer all my questions?

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ETHAN GREEN
JANUARY 23, 2017

Hi Brad
It’s very normal to last longer without watching porn. It’s just much more
exciting watching porn, and harder to control yourself. I don’t know if it means
you’ll ejaculate faster during sex – I don’t know of any proven correlation, and I
suspect most guys ejaculate quicker with porn anyway, even those who can
last longer during sex. As for not watching it, well that’s a personal choice. I
think it’s ok once in a while, but it’s also good to masturbate without it. There
are lots of arguments for and against watching it, so it’s up to you to work out
what’s best.
Ethan

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TONY
SEPTEMBER 1, 2016

Hi. I have suffered from PE ever since i rst had sex which was when i was 16, i am
now 31. I don’t last more than 10 secs, it really gets your down. Do u think the
kegels will work for me? I have never talked to a doctor about it that’s because I’m
to ashamed to talk about it. I just avoid sex because i know the women would just
laugh. Is there anything else you can recommend if the kegels don’t work? I live in
the uk. Hope u can help.

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ETHAN GREEN
OCTOBER 4, 2016

Hi Tony
I understand your concern and embarrassment, believe me! Personally, I think
that kegels can be useful, but the start and stop method is better really. I’d
focus on that one, and then do some kegels as well once you get going on it. I’d
also maybe try out a desensitizing product and see if that makes a big
difference.
Ethan

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ROBERTT
AUGUST 24, 2016

Hello sir,
Is there any inches or centimeter will gain in a penis by doing that.?
Thanks in advance sir.

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ETHAN GREEN
AUGUST 24, 2016

Hi Robert
Doing kegels probably won’t make your penis grow, but it might give you
bigger erections.
Ethan

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RAJA
AUGUST 8, 2016

Hi ethan
I m suffering from disaster when it comes to having sex as I just melt in less than 10
seconds.it’s all happening as I was a drug addict. last 13 yrs of my life I have been
chasing brown sugar n have smoked cannabis n popped sleeping pills n drank cough
syrups n what not.now I m clean from last 5 months n I can’t c my tissues
regenerating as doctors said it will.I really melt in less than 10 seconds after
insertion.I m trying to do kegels but it’s gonna take a lot of time for me to last
longer.in just can’t wait for so long n might lose it n fall back to drugs.I m 35 n want
to get married n settle down in life as early as possible.please help me.. suggestions
I need as all the doctors I have met have just made money n made me a fool.also
does the vacuum therapy helps??
Ur advice would be highly appreciated

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ETHAN GREEN
AUGUST 10, 2016

Hi Raja
I think perhaps you could try both a desensitizing options and the longer-term
techniques at the same time. That way you can improve the situation right
now, but also be working on a more permanent solution. I don’t think vacuum
pumps work for premature ejaculation, no.
Ethan

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OXFORD
AUGUST 7, 2016

Sir please am suffering from pE an i wont to start the kegel exercis. pls how is the
squeesing and contuction of eirher the BC or PC muscles done. is it done by
hands.please help me with explanation. Thank You.

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ETHAN GREEN
AUGUST 10, 2016

Hi Oxford
No, it’s not done by using your hands. All of the squeezing is done by mental
control. In the same way as you would “tell” your arm to ex your bicep muscle,
you do the same with the PC muscle. The only tricky thing is that it’s not so
easy to know you’re doing it right!
Ethan

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MANNY
JUNE 24, 2016

Is there a way to move your penis side to side? I’ve heard stories, but how? The JC
muscles? Thanks

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ETHAN GREEN
JUNE 27, 2016

Hi Manny
To be honest, it’s not something I’ve ever looked into or experimented with
because I can’t see a use for it! Maybe if you have highly developed control of
your pelvic oor muscles, you’ll be able to. But for what purpose?
Ethan

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MICHAEL
JUNE 21, 2016

When I squeeze the muscles on the point of no return, it results in no orgasm. But
there’s owing much seen out of it, it almost looks like a normal ejaculation, but
then without an orgasm. After 3 times its impossible to hold it and I will have a
orgasm with ejaculation. Is this normal?

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ETHAN GREEN
JUNE 21, 2016

Hi Michael
It could be you’re waiting until too late to do the squeeze. Try stopping earlier
and you should nd the point where you don’t have an orgasm and nothing
comes out. Then carry on.
Ethan

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BAMWESIGYE ELIOT
JUNE 10, 2016

Thanks 4 ur advice

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ETHAN GREEN
JUNE 17, 2016

You’re welcome!

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JOHNSON ADIKWU
MAY 1, 2016

Pls i don’t last more than 60 second when having sex. Pls send me some video to my
email. Thank u. Johnson Adikwu

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ETHAN GREEN
JUNE 3, 2016

Hi there
I don’t send videos out, sorry! But you will nd lots of useful advice around this
website. Just look through from the homepage and you’ll nd everything you
need to improve your stamina.
Ethan

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SALEEM
JANUARY 13, 2016

Hello every one …try using black seeds(Black cumin’s) at early morning in hot
water…its really surprising

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ETHAN GREEN
JANUARY 29, 2016

What does it do exactly Saleem?

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ABHISHEK
JANUARY 12, 2016

Hi ethan

It is dif cult to nd the pc muscle by doing above steps ..can u please help me to nd
my pc muscle

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ETHAN GREEN
JANUARY 29, 2016

Hi Abhishek
Have a look at these kegels videos. They might help you a bit more.
Regards
Ethan

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CHRIS E
JANUARY 8, 2016

Hi,

Prob a bit of an odd question given most guys want to delay ejaculation, but I’d like
to speed things up from time to time. Will kegels during intercourse work for this?

Thanks

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ETHAN GREEN
JANUARY 28, 2016

Hi Chris
Thanks for your comment. Theoretically, doing normal kegels during sex can
lead to more blood in the penis, more sensitivity, higher arousal and therefore
faster orgasm. But I’m not sure it’s the best way to speed up. I don’t really deal
with problems of delayed ejaculation on this site at the moment, but if you
google it you’ll nd plenty of good advice.
Regards
Ethan

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ANONYMOUS
NOVEMBER 10, 2015

Hello Green!
Thanks for your techniques, i will like to know, if relaxing those muscles during sex
won’t result in ejaculation?

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ETHAN GREEN
NOVEMBER 19, 2015

Hi there
You’re welcome! Relaxing those muscles should theoretically help you last
longer.
Ethan

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USMAN
OCTOBER 2, 2015

Hello Ethan,

I have recognised my BC muscles through halting urination mid way. Now in fact i
can hold the muscle for 1 to 2 mins. Yet my ejaculation still comes quickly and my
erection is very weak….
i have used promescent spray as recommended on this site. It worked ne for me at
rst but subsequently i do not last as long as expected…

More importantly I intend to try the ebooks you highly recommend here, the alpha
package of the Ejaculation trainer by Matt Gordon…. but the issue i have is with
payment.. I cant pay with paypal or credit card from my LOCATION; nigera… Is
there any help you can do for me in that regard? whether to pay you to get the
ebook on my behalf..

Please your quick feedback will be highly appreciated.

Regards,

Usman

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ETHAN GREEN
OCTOBER 6, 2015

Hi Usman
Unfortunately I can’t help with that, no. There is no way for me to take
payment on this site and it needs to be done through Matt’s own website. As
for the kegels, I recommend reading my article about why I think kegels alone
won’t help.
Regards
Ethan

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ANWAR
SEPTEMBER 19, 2015

That’s a really good detailed article and the whole site is great! Even though am
sure I isolate the right muscles, but when I exercise kegel I tend near instantly to
fart and I have plenty of gas !! and if My bladder have a little urine (sometimes I
don’t notice coz I try to kegel only when my bladder is empty as much as possible)
so I tend to pee instantly.. Is that normal or there is something wrong ?? tell me if
maybe am doing reverse kegel by mistake! thank you
(sorry for bad English)

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ETHAN GREEN
OCTOBER 5, 2015

Hi Anwar
Thanks for your comment and compliment – I’m glad you found the article and
site helpful.
That doesn’t sound right to me, to be honest. And yes, it does sound more like
you’re doing a reverse kegel if you’re farting or urinating. If anything, a normal
kegel would stop those from happening. I think perhaps kegels aren’t the best
way forward for you. Maybe some of the other techniques would help you
more, such as the start and stop method.
Regards
Ethan

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DAN
JUNE 21, 2016

Hey, Anwar
Your defently pushing your gut, not the PC musle. Try to relocate it and
attempt again

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SUVM
SEPTEMBER 11, 2015

Hello sir

I am 18 yrs old…..i am suffering from premature ejaculation….i don’t last up to few

seconds..sometimes it occurs self during watch porn movie…plz help and suggest
me…and I am unable to nd pc muscle..plz clear it properly.

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ETHAN GREEN
OCTOBER 2, 2015

Hi suvm

You might nd it more useful to look at the article about the start and stop
technique.

Ethan

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CYRUS
AUGUST 27, 2015

i like it, i’ll try it. double bingo

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JOE
AUGUST 17, 2015

I’m just starting out the kegel exercises and I’m nally understanding how to do
them. But I can’t seem to hold it for more than a second, if that. Is there something I
need to understand or should I just keep doing these short movements for the time
being and it’ll eventually cause me to be able to hold it? I don’t think I’m that bad
with PE, I last around 6 minutes which is still shorter than I’d like, 15-20 minutes
would be better.

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ETHAN GREEN
AUGUST 24, 2015

Hi Joe
Thanks for your comment. It’s normal to not be able to hold it much at the
outset. If you keep practicing, then yes that hold should develop. But
remember, that strong hold isn’t the most useful thing to develop for lasting
longer. It’s better to learn to relax the area properly through reverse kegels,
and to do things like the start stop technique.

Regards
Ethan

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CREN
AUGUST 16, 2015

Hi, I am suffering from PE and have been ejaculating within a few minutes when i
used to be able to last for 10-15. I tried kegels and although i located the muscles
while cutting off the ow of my pee, i can’t seem to have a good grasp of control
over the muscles and am having dif culty controlling them, be it squeezing
contracting them or what not. Any advice on how to gain control of the muscles so
that i can start doing kegels? Thanks

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ETHAN GREEN
AUGUST 24, 2015

Hi Cren
It can take time to develop that control, which is partly the point of doing
kegels. It’s very normal to have almost no control when you start, and it can
take weeks or months to develop any meaningful control. So I would just say
keep practicing it. The main thing though is not to over-do to. It’s easy to think
that if you do loads of kegels every day, you’ll gain control faster. But that’s a
bad gamble which can sometimes result in erection problems due to tightening
of the muscles etc. So just be patient and do the exercises in small doses and
the control will come. And more importantly, don’t just rely on kegels. I
strongly recommend reading my article about why kegels alone isn’t enough to
beat PE.
Regards
Ethan

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LEE
MAY 28, 2015

please do you have to continue squeezing the bc muscles at point of no return for a
long time to prevent ejaculation or u just have to squeeze a bit and relax the
muscles. would latter still ensure prolonged sex?

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ETHAN GREEN
JUNE 22, 2015

Hi Lee
If it’s happening at the point of no return, then you’ll need to squeeze it for as
long as it takes to prevent ejaculation. This is usually a good 10-20 seconds in
my experience, but it may be different for you. Then relax again once the
moment has passed.
Regards
Ethan

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DANIEL
APRIL 30, 2015

Hello mr Ethan Green, please help me because am seriously suffering from

premature ejaculation, i don’t last up to 10seconds and i always feel the urge to
urinate when having sex, and i also have frequent ejaculation, please help me

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ETHAN GREEN
MAY 9, 2015

Hi Daniel,

Sorry to hear you’re having dif culties with your sex life. My advice is here on
this website to discover and read. Take a look at the homepage as a good
starting point if you’re not sure where to start. Do you actually end up needing
to go to the toilet when you have sex? If that’s the case, then just drink less
liquid in the hour before you have sex. If you are ejaculating involuntarily
frequently during the day, then you may bene t from seeing a doctor to check
there isn’t a physical cause to that.
Regards
Ethan

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BBC
MARCH 12, 2015

Why kegel only.

Please suggest me to have longer sex duration.

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ETHAN GREEN
MARCH 29, 2015

Hi bbc
Look around this site, there are lots of suggestions for you to nd! And I don’t
recommend only kegeling. It should be part of a wider approach to lasting
longer.
Regards
Ethan

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MANII...
JANUARY 23, 2015

I use to start and stop method because i’m suffering from P E… so I want to know
that may I try kegel too….

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ETHAN GREEN
JANUARY 31, 2015

Hi Manii
Yes, you can combine the two techniques!
Good luck with the training
Ethan

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SAMUEL OFORI
JANUARY 2, 2015

this is really good, i love it, keep it up

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KINGSLEY
DECEMBER 31, 2014

Just starting the kegel exercise thing but I nd it hard getting a hold on my BC
muscles. I have located d area but i feel its either deep inside or veins passing that
area

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ETHAN GREEN
JANUARY 18, 2015

Keep going Kingsley…it takes practice to really understand the area and gain
good control.
Ethan

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AHMAD
NOVEMBER 17, 2014

Your site is very good but I want detail illustrate of pc muscle nd out give me some
images and video
Thanks.

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ETHAN GREEN
DECEMBER 14, 2014

Hi Ahmad,

Thank you, I’m glad you found the site helpful. You might nd it helpful to take
a look at our page of kegels videos.

Hope that helps

Ethan

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