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My Parenting Dna MH
Mariana Hansen
My Parenting DNA
My mom stayed home till I was about 8 years old. Before then, she made sure we were
protected and she taught us how to write. Whenever we were with my dad, he would have us all
lined up and tell us what we can and can’t do. I believe my mom was mostly authoritative while
my dad was completely authoritarian. My mom shared how the only times I was mischievous
growing up was when I fought with my sister. She would be understanding and explain how my
sister was younger and smaller than me. She also shared how I needed to take care of my little
sister instead of hurting her. Another issue she had was when we had to go to our dad’s wedding.
She explained how she really used the gospel and prayer to help us get there and be okay. When
my parents got divorced, my mom went to therapy sessions and read from their suggestions on
how to raise a child on their own. She said those sessions really strengthened her when she was
adjusting to being a single-parent. With my dad, he would have us sit down and lecture us until
he felt we learned our lesson. It was never really a conversation or we never truly had
understanding with him growing up. My sister and I were rarely with him until our teen years.
We had more rules with our dad. My sister and I discussed how my dad decided
boundaries from what he learned from the military. Again, if he wanted to explain a topic with
us, he would sit us down and lecture. My mom sincerely believed we were good children, and
she did not want to add more trials in our life. She didn’t really have many rules besides having
us to go to piano and dance lessons. She explained how our extra-curricular activities really
helped us to form into who we are. She learned after we would return from our dad’s house, she
would need to give us space and adjust. She thinks a routine would be really helpful and learning
multiple ways to teach a child. This way it isn’t repetitive, but more so, enjoyable for my future
children.
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I interviewed my mom, and everything she shared was exactly how I remembered it. I did not
know she went to therapy after the divorce, and it really made me appreciate her even more. She
really did strive to help my sister and I have a good childhood. I can honestly see how well she
used the gospel to raise us. My dad lives in Singapore, and I did not make time to call him for the
interview. I instead called my sister to help recollect those memories. Everything we discussed
I think how my mom raised us was truly out of love and care. I hope to be more like her when I
raise my children. As we have discussed in class, I think we have to understand the gospel
thoroughly with doctrine and principles. I really loved how my mom said she used the gospel to
help us through the divorce. She saw how much pain and confusion it brought us, and she did not
want to add anymore. I really admire her for that, and I hope to help my children through their
issues with the gospel. I think the real only thing I would like to adopt from my dad’s parenting
I am not sure if I want to change anything from my mom’s parenting style. She was paranoid at
times because my sister and I are all she has. She simply did not want us to get hurt. Considering
how my dad raised us, I do not want to follow his ways. It made a lot of aspects in my life
harder. I also found it more difficult to even have a real relationship with him. My mom and I
have been to become best friends while my dad I barely want to talk to him. My boyfriend did
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share with me a couple of months ago how sometimes I can be controlling. I have been trying to
slow that down because I truly do not want my children to feel controlled whatsoever.
With most parents, they are typically always striving to do the best that they can. I love how my
mom turned her circumstances around. She did not let any limitations that typically come from
single parenting stop her. She found ways to move past those boundaries, and she found the
gospel to be a real asset in raising us. My dad did not use the gospel to raise us. He is a man
more of the world. I know that may be harsh to say, but I think having the gospel is the real
difference between my parents. I do believe my parents are on two completely different sides of
the spectrum, but the gospel would have helped my dad more in raising us. I think he did
everything he believed was right though. It might have caused us pain, but my sister and I have
made through it. I believe I have said it most of my papers, but I am deeply grateful for God