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C Refresher - Building Relationships
C Refresher - Building Relationships
Building relationships
Counselor Refresher modules
Building
relationships
Difficult Engaging
messages our people
► understand the concept of the emotional bank account and the link to
EY values
► know how to ask powerful questions that open up a conversation
► know how to listen more effectively
► know how to avoid making assumptions and viewing the situation from
just one perspective
Approx timings
► Introductions 10 mins
► Video 1 and debrief 30 mins
► Emotional Bank Account 5 mins
► Questioning and Listening 5 mins
► Frame of Reference and Assumptions 5 mins
► Video 2 and debrief 30mins
► Close 5 mins
In table groups:
J J
J J
J JJ J J
J J JJ J
Directive
Telling
Giving advice
Offering guidance
Giving feedback
Summarising
Reflecting
Listening to understand
Non-directive
Source: “Effective coaching”, M Downey, 1999
Advising Questioning
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Levels of listening
Take
actions I will not promote Jane
Adopt
beliefs Jane has poor leadership skills
Frame of reference
Draw
conclusions Jane cannot lead the team
Observable data
Jane speaks once during the
client meeting
Source: The Fifth Discipline Fieldbook by Peter Senge
Take
actions I will promote Jane
Draw
conclusions Jane is one of our best seniors
Select data
Jane only spoke once and made
a very insightful comment
Observable data
Jane speaks once during the
client meeting
Source: The Fifth Discipline Fieldbook by Peter Senge
► Reflect
► Take time to become more aware of your own thinking and
reasoning . Ask yourself, “What evidence do I have for this
opinion?” “Why do I think this?”
► Clarify
► Make your thinking and reasoning more visible to others so that
you aren’t unfairly judging them. “When you speak to me with that
tone, I feel defensive”
► Inquire
► Inquire into others’ thinking and reasoning so that you are not
accepting other’s perceptions without careful thought. “Can you tell
me what makes you feel that you don’t have support from your
boss”
Remember – how can you eliminate bias?
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Play video – David and Jessica (Version 2)
► Consider:
► Emotional Bank Account
► Avoiding assumptions
► Non directive questions
► Levels of listening