EXPLORATION. OF HUMAN NATURE AND STRENGTH
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31. MARITAL RELATIONSHIP
A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always
with the same person.
— Mignon McLaughlin
Introduction
Marital relationship comprises patterns of behaviors and interactions by couples in
order to maintain satisfaction and extend the duration of relationship. The impact of marital
relationship varies across couples, yielding positive, neutral, and negative outcomes. Some
‘couples report high levels of marital satisfaction and have lasting marriages. Others experience
serious problems and report that marriage contributed to their disasters of life. Marriageis
notan answer, it isa search. It is a relationship within which change is generated by relating
living together. It can produce growth, identity and a sense of rootedness. Therefore, it
o be perceived as a trap, rather people need to renew and enrich their relationship
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Developing a sense of trust means that both of the
will not do and say things that violate the integrit
(ii) Commitment- This is vital to amarri:
granted, vitality can disappear from the relatio1
pect and acceptance of differences,
rem will do what they say they will do, and
ity of the: relationship.
‘age. When any one of the couple is taken for
nship. Once a couple commits themselves to
the married life, it will help them face crises as well as climb the difficult ladders of life
together.
(ii) Skills- Marriage as a lifetime process which demands that both partners be skillful
at understanding each other, expressing needs, listening to each other, making decisions
together, negotiating and managing conflict and having meaningful communication.
(iv) Caring- Nurturant love exists, when meeting the needs of your partner is just as
important as having your own needs met. To be caring means being supportive of each
other’s growth and personal interests as well as caring for the relationship between them.
(v) Reciprocity- “Do unto the other as you would have them do unto you.” This
means exchanging positive rewards and strokes with each other. It means avoiding those
experiences which may hurt your partner and have a detrimental effect on your relationship.
Itinvolves appropriately performing various oles in the relationship and helping each other
as each fulfills these roles.
(vi) Effort- All the trust, commitment, skills, and care are not very productive without
effort. Effort means taking time to work on your marriage. It means being willing to work
together to develop a mutually satisfying relationship. It means participating in marital growth
experiences to expand and enhance the relationship. And finally,
(vii) Expectations- One reason for marital dissatisfaction is that couples expect a
great deal from the marriage. Wives and husbands often have unrealistic expectations about
what marriage should provide them. Most people expect their spouse to be a source of
ional support, companionship, sexual satisfaction, and economic support or assi
big order. The gap between expectation and perceived performance
discouragement and finally, disillusionment whic
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marital relationship involves learning to share’
become more intimate through mutual self. ’
some helpful hints to assist the couples in
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Hence, enriching and strengthening
each other at deeper levels. ‘The idea is to
disclosure and acceptance. The following are hae ouples
sharing together each day; (i) Emphasize the sharing of feelings like joy, hurt, irritation,
ii iati \d (iii) learn to listen and be
leasure ete. (ii) Use language that expresses appreciation, an :
ss e sent by your partner. Understanding the
sure that you accurately received the messag' :
importance of marital relationship, itis proposed to estimate the relationship of two couples
asa practicum exercise.
Objective
‘To measure the marital relationship of two couples usin,
Scale and find out the effect of aging on couple adjustment
Method
1g Lerner’s Couple Adjustment
Plan and Design
Two couples would be administered the Lemer’s Couple Adjustment Scale. A schematic
presentation of the Plan and Design is given below.
‘Purpose of the Subj ‘No. of | Name of the Test ‘Nature of Setting
administration pet Subject Administration
To find out the | 74.5 couples: One Lemer's Couple | Individual Calm and
dyadic Oey 4 | Adjustment Seale noise-free
adjustment of | YU"S eis) environment
two couples. coup
Subjects
The information about the subjects is given in following table
SL No. Name Age in Yrs. ‘Years of Occupation: ‘Qualification
marriage |
‘Couple | Sivani Mohanty 30. 4 Years Teacher, MA. B.Ed
1__[ Rajeeb Mohanty 33 Teacher M.A. BEd
‘Couple | Bijaya Laxmi Das 48 26 years ‘Teacher MSc. B. Bd.
‘Sanatan Das 4 __[-* “Teacher MA. BEd.
Instrument
‘The questionnaire used for the assessment of marital relationship was “The Dyadie :
Adjustment Scale” (Appendix-W) developed by Lerner (2005). The test consists of 22
in the form of phrases, questions and statements, each of which is to be responded by
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‘{almost always disagree’ or ‘ always,
5,4, 3, 2, 1, or 0 respectively. Items
relating to his/her marital relationship,
of the time’, ‘more often than not’,
score of 0, 1,2,3,
»‘Toccasionally disagree’, ‘I frequently disagree’,
disagree’ and doing so, the Subject eas a score of
from 16 to 21 are questions asked to the Subject
By responding to the question as ‘all the time’, ‘most
‘ Ot’, ‘occasionally’, ‘rarely’ or ‘never’, the Subject earns a
or S respectively. Item number 22 consists of 6 statements relating to
how the Subject feels about the future of his /her relationship. The Subject is required to
accept any one out of the 6 statements to eam for him or her, a score of 5 to 0. Finally, the
scores for 22 items will be added forthe coupleto provide an index of their marital adjustment.
Thehigher the score in the test, the greater is the marital adjustment and happiness of the
couple.
Instruction
The subjects were given the following instructions.
After properly interacting with the Subjects, the Investigator said to them “There are
22 items in the test designed to measure your various behaviors, thought processes, and
mental characteristics relating to your family relationship, Read each item carefully and choose
which one of the six possible responses best represents you by encircling the corresponding
number. You have the choice to either agree or disagree with the statement or give a response
that you think is most appropriate about you. Please read the items carefully as some of
them are phrased positively and others negatively. Although, there is no time limit for the
test, it would be nice if you can complete the test in 45 minutes.
Procedure
The Investigator selected 2 couples, one young couple and one old couple, who are
all teachers in high schools. The age of the young couple was 30 and 33 years and of the old.
‘couple was 48 and 54. All the four subjects are post graduates, ‘The subjects were personally
contacted and were requested to participate in the test. They were administered the test
individually in a calm and noise-free room in the school, Each subject was told to go through,
and properly understand the phrases, questions and statements in the test.
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about the future of his /her relationship, he /she gets a score between y and a foreach item,
Finally, the scores for all the items are added fora couple to find out their marital adjustment
score. The Investigator had some informal conversation with the subjects to help them feel
relaxed and easy before taking the test. After the Subjects felt comfortable inthe Presence
of the Investigator, they were administered the test individually. During preliminary
conversation, particulars of the Subjects like name, age, education etc. were noted down in
the record form.
Results
The responses of the 2 couples for the 22 items in the Lerner’s Couple Adjustment
Scale are scored and recorded in the Table 1. In the following raw data table, Couple-1
and Couple-2 are young and old couples respectively. The total score and the mean score
of couple adjustment for each member of the two couples are also reported in the Table,
The ‘t’ values are calculated to ‘compare the mean difference for the item wise score ofeach
couple and also for item wise scores between the couples. The ‘t’ values are reported
below the Table I. A graph is also plotted to visually demonstrate the mean of the couple
adjustment score for the two couples. The graph is shown in Figure 1.
Table 1. Raw data table
Tem Couple 1 Couple 2 Tem Couple 1 Coupie 2
Wife Husband | Wite Husband Wife Husband [Wife | Husband
2 3 3 4 m2 3 3 5
3 4 2 2 3 4
2 4 1 2 3 4
2 4 2 1 2 4
3 S. 4 a Ss 3
3 2 4 3 4 4
2 3 3 3 4 3
3 4 2 3 3 5
2 4 4 3 5 a
2 2 3 4
3 4 ae lg 4 5
58 56 88 95
2.64 4.00 | 432
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Figure 1. Showing marital
adjustment of
young and old
Mean Score
Young old
Discussion
Itis observed in Table | that the total couple adjustment score for the wife and husband
ofthe young couple is 58 and 56 respectively and the corresponding mean score are’ 2.64 and
2.55. Hence, the final couple adjustment score for the young couple is 2.60. The results
suggest that the young couple is low in couple adjustment having scored only 2.6 from a
maximum score of 5. However, the adjustment is clearly bi-directional as both husband and
wife have similar degree of adjustment towards each other. The result of the ‘t test carried out
onthe item wise responses between husband and wife wasalsonot significant. The ‘t’ valueis
only 0.35 which suggests that with respect to different issues of marital adjustment, the couple
movebetween occasionally to frequently disagree and hence, there isno extreme disagreement
between them. Itmay be claimed that asa young couple, they may be in the formative years of
couple adjustment, pr ‘omising a better couple adjustment in future.
On theother hand, the total couple adjustment score for the wife and husband of the old
couple is 88 and 95 respectively and the corresponding mean scores are 4.00 and 4.32.
Hence, their final couple adjustment score 1s 4.16. The results suggest that the old couple is
very good in couple adjustment. Their adjustment is also clearly bi-directional as the result of
the ‘t’ test carried out on the item wise responses of the husband and wife was not also
significant. The final couple adjustment score of 4.16 suggest that relating to different issues of
‘marital adjustment, the husband and wife almost always agree to each other. Itmay be explained
‘the old couple has appropriately realized the worth of couple adjustment in life through
experience of married life. Finally, the graph presented in Figure | visually demonstrates
in the couple adjustment of the young and the old couple.
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