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6 Paradigms of Human Interaction
6 Paradigms of Human Interaction
There are six paradigms of human interaction, some of which are much more beneficial
and effective than others
Sports is built on the Win/Lose paradigm: You can’t win a game unless the other
team loses. And even our system of law is designed to determine who is guilty
and who is innocent.
While there are situations when a Win/Lose approach is appropriate, most of life calls
for cooperation, not competition.
Lose/Win: You Can Have Your Way and I’ll Deal
With It
People with the Lose/Win paradigm are more interested in taking the path of
least resistance than getting what they want. They generally want to appease
and gain acceptance by the other person, and they tend to be intimidated by
others’ strengths and shy away from expressing their own wants and feelings.
Leaders with this paradigm of the six paradigms of human interaction have a
permissive, indulgent style of leadership.
Win/Lose people enjoy dealing with Lose/Win people because they face no
resistance in getting what they want. But both the Win/Lose and Lose/Win
paradigms stem from personal weaknesses and insecurities that are being expressed
either in a power grab or acquiescence. People who use a Lose/Win or Win/Lose
paradigm haven’t made efforts toward synergistic communication or working on
their self-paradigms.
People with a Lose/Win mindset lose not only in their interactions, but also in
their own well-being: They tend to suppress a lot of feelings, which can fester
and bubble up in anger, resentment, cynicism, and psychosomatic illnesses that
can especially affect the respiratory, nervous, and circulatory systems.