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Running Head: Understanding Others Essay 1
Running Head: Understanding Others Essay 1
Kali Morrison
Introduction
The person that I chose to interview is a long-term friend of mine, Kim. I chose to
interview her because she is first generation Vietnamese-American and I wanted to take this
opportunity to get to know her better and learn more about her culture. Kim and I have been
friends for over ten years, during that time I have met her family and have had the opportunity to
see first-hand some of the differences in how our families function. I also felt more comfortable
speaking with Kim because I knew that she would not be put off or offended by my asking about
Analysis of Answers
In discussing names, I learned a lot. Kim is married and did not “take” her husband’s last
name. She explained that in Vietnam names are not changed when people marry, but children are
given their father’s last name. I also learned that the tradition in her family is to have the
mother’s surname as a middle name. This is a common practice in Vietnam and one she said she
has passed on to her children. Kim said she thinks it is important for her children to carry some
of both of their parents and hopes that it will continue to be a family tradition. I asked her if she
knew why her parents chose to name her Kim, which is not short for Kimberly. She said that it is
also a common name in Vietnam, but her parents wanted her to have an “American” name so
things would be easier for her. I asked her if she thought that it has had any effect, she answered,
“I’m just another Asian named Kim.” However, she doesn’t think that it has had a negative effect
either.
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My parents chose my name from a book. It has no familial or personal significance for
either of my parents. I am named in the traditional American way: first, middle, last. My last
name is the same as my fathers; when my parents were married my mother took my father’s last
name and returned to her maiden name when they divorced. I do not think that my name has had
much of an impact on my life. It is commonly mispronounced or misspelled, but those are minor
Kim shared a lot about her background and what it was like for her growing up. Kim’s
parents immigrated from Vietnam in the early 1980s. Her father worked as a migrant farmer for
several years before he settled his family in Boise, Idaho. He had heard that Idahoans loved
Chinese food and that if he were to move there he could have a successful restaurant. Once he
arrived he obtained a loan to start his restaurant. Kim was born in 1985 and grew up in the
restaurant. For the restaurant to be successful, everyone was needed and expected to help. Kim
said that when she was as young as five she was bussing tables and helping as much as she
could.
When Kim began school, her family was living in a rougher area and Kim said that she
didn’t notice much of a difference between herself and her classmates. After her family’s
restaurant became more established, Kim’s mother found a position at Micron making computer
chips. Between the success at the restaurant and her mother’s income, Kim’s family was able to
move to one of the most prestigious neighborhoods. Kim said that high school was what she
expected most people went thought. She wasn’t super popular or unpopular. She had a group of
friends that she liked and liked her. In high school Kim began to become aware that her family
experience was much different than her classmates. Her family’s success depended on everyone
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in her family working very hard. Her free time was spent working at the restaurant and she was
also expected to have straight As. Her parents were very protective of her and preferred that Kim
Kim continues to pick up shifts and help at the restaurant. Her brother is now the
manager, and his daughters, Kim’s nieces, are working like she did before them.
I grew up much differently than Kim. I don’t remember my parents living together for
much of my childhood and when I was eight my parents divorced. My mother worked very hard
to support our family. My father lived 300 miles away and he was not very committed to
visiting. I don’t have very many memories of either of my parents for most of my childhood.
I grew up in a very rural area. I spent most of my childhood running through the forest in
my backyard, building forts, and exploring. I lived near a swimming pool and when I was twelve
I began working there in the summer so I would have something to do. My mom was thrilled that
I would have something to do while she was working. I did it because I had nothing else to do.
In high school, I had a couple of close friends, but preferred to be by myself. I was
Kim and I talked about if she thought that her ethnicity contributed to her identity. She
thought that it absolutely had. She said that her family is very traditional. The traditions they
follow and celebrate are the same as what they would have followed had they not left Vietnam.
She said that she grew up knowing that she was working to support her family, honor her
ancestors, and set up future generations for success. She said that it was difficult at times because
her family was unsure how to celebrate American holidays and it was important to Kim’s parents
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to create traditional American memories for their children. Kim and her older brother were
expected to learn how to appropriately celebrate so that their family would be able to learn. Kim
said that she thinks her parents struggle with balancing their Vietnamese identity with wanting to
Being a white American, I do not feel a strong tie to any ethnic heritage. I grew up in a
family that has been in America long enough to have lost the direct knowledge of which of our
ancestors came from Europe. I think that I have a lack of culture because I do not have strong
Analysis of Answers
I think that culturally Kim and I have had very difference experiences with names and their
significance. For Kim, her name is a part of her history. It shows not only who she is, but also
who her parents and ancestors are. She also thinks that it is important to pass the naming
tradition on to her children. I will also probably pass my family’s naming tradition onto my
children – I will find a name I like based on my opinion for their first and middle names, and
How we grew up was also very different. She spent her free time helping to create a
successful business. She was expected to maintain high grades and work very hard. Failure and
slacking off were not options. Kim’s family is very close. She continues to work in her parents’
restaurant. She also helps with her nieces when her brother or sister-in- law needs it. They also
help her with her children. My mother did expect me to do well in school, but that was all I had
to focus on. I worked because I wanted to and if I hadn’t my mother wouldn’t have had a
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problem with it. Both my sister and I have moved a pretty fair distance from my mother. I see
I think the biggest differences are in how we see our ethnicity shaping our identity. I do not
see being a white American as culturally significant to me. My family does not have any strong
traditions that are significantly different. We celebrate holidays in traditional American ways
culture is that of mainstream white America. For Kim her ethnicity is a strong contributing factor
to why she does many things. From how she has named her children to holidays that she
celebrates and how she celebrates them. These traditions are very important to her and she wants
to make sure that her children get the opportunity to celebrate both her Vietnamese heritage and
The lack of cultural connection is why I think that our answers are so different. Kim has very
traditional Vietnamese parents. Her parents worked very hard to get to America and to get
established. They made enormous sacrifices to make sure that their children would be better off
than they were. I think that the emphasis that her family and culture place on taking care of the
family unit first, then the community has shaped the way that Kim sees the world. She often
jokes about “shaming the family cow.” But even in that joke Kim is concerned how her actions
portray her family and the Vietnamese community in Boise. She is a very hard worker that has a
lot of respect for her parents. She never says anything negative about hem and I can tell in the
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way that she speaks about them that she holds them in very high regard and works hard to earn
their approval and to make them proud of what she is doing for her family now and how her
I do not have a strong tie to my ethnicity. For me it is something that I am not who I am.
Because I don’t see being a white American as being significant to my identity I do not feel
strong ties to my culture. I believe that for much of white America the emphasis is defiantly on
the self rather than the family or community. I think the first thought is how this will benefit me,
then my family, then my community. Because the first thought is of self, I think that a lot of
respect for others is lost, and with that loss comes a lack of strong cultural traditions. The
traditions that I have and celebrate are not significant to me I do them because that is what is
In talking with Kim, I learned a lot about her, her culture, and myself. Because this was more
than a conversation I was more aware of how I felt about her answers and how her experiences
were similar or different to mine. This reflection allowed me to see that I defiantly have
enculturation going on in my life. I struggle with identifying what my culture is and assume that
it is how most people live (103). I think that this is because I haven’t critically examined why I
do the things that I do and how they are significant to shaping my identity. I have a lot of work to
By learning about Kim and her past I could see that we have many differences in how we
grew up. I also think that there are also many unapparent similarities. I think that while it is very
important to acknowledge that people have differences and those differences shape who we are,
our perspectives, and even how we react in a situation. It is also important to be able to see the
similarities. The similarities will be what allow us to build bridges and overcome difficulties that
may arise.
I think that by being aware of the experiences of others helps create a double consciousness
(109). By learning about Kim’s background, I could see why she reacts in certain ways. Because
we have been friends for such a long time there have been times that we have disagreed. After
learning more about her family and her culture I can understand her reactions better – where they
are coming from and what is fueling them. This also applies to how she reacts when she is happy
Learning Experience
I learned a lot about myself. I found that I need to do a thorough inventory of myself to
examine who I am. I used to think that I did not have a culture, but that is not true. I just need to
start looking for it. I can do this by examining why I behave in certain ways and analyzing my
interactions with others to see if my reaction is due to how I was brought up. I think that this
introspection will be very difficult and will be an ongoing process. I think that it is important for
me to start on this process so that I can see how my identity is shaped by my culture.
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I learned that while I have had many experiences and met people from all over the world, my
world is still very limited. I think that this is probably common. It takes hard work to see beyond
personal beliefs, acknowledge differences, and see similarities in others. By being open to new
experiences and new people I think my world will get larger. I think that this holds true for
others as well.
Conclusion
In the workplace being culturally aware is critical. I think my biggest take away from this
assignment is that culture drives people. Everyone has a culture and by being sensitive to that
can help to avoid conflicts or resolve them when they do come up. I think that the best way to
create cultural competence in the workplace is to create a corporate culture that encourages
everyone to be who they are. I agree with Butcher that the “group of the month” approach is
ineffective (105). I also think that the only way to increase cultural competence is if the person
wants to. Because of this I think the most effective way to increase personal cultural competence
is create the environment that allows for this type of personal growth.
To increase organization cultural competence, the first step is to make sure that the leaders of
the organization are onboard. Without them being actively involved the effort will be lost. I
would also work hard to increase diversity. I would do this by trying to find qualified people that
don’t fit the typical image for what that position. By increasing diversity, I think that it will
provide the first step for cultural competence – a new culture is being introduced. Another route I
would explore is for training that relates to cultural competence. By having a quality training
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program available for all employees, I think that it shows that the organization is committed to
acceptance of all cultures and that discrimination will not be tolerated. I also think that creating a
workplace that encourages open honest communication also would increase cultural competence
for the organization. This would encourage cultural competence for the organization because if
an employee had a problem they would feel comfortable bring it to the attention of management.
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References:
Bucher, R. (2015). Diversity consciousness: opening our minds to people, cultures, and
opportunities. (4th ed.). Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson Education, Inc.