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STARTING
ON YOUR JOURNEY
Gentlemen,
To make the most of the content given to you in The Dating Playbook, I’ve created the following
workbook to guide you through the exact action steps and exercises you need to complete to
achieve your goals as quickly as possible.
For each chapter, I’ll give you a series of exercises to breakdown what you’ve learned and help you
fully internalize what was taught in each section.
At the end of each section, you will also be presented with a unique challenge to help you take
what you’ve learned and create a visceral experience to drive it home. These challenges will not
be easy and will require an investment of time, energy, and (in some cases) money to complete...
but I promise the rewards will be worth the cost.
Take the time to actually DO THE WORK, and I promise you will get 10X more value out of the
book than you would by just reading each chapter.
I’m on a mission to impact 1,000,000 men with life-changing content, but I can’t do it by myself.
If you’ve gained any value from The Dating Playbook for Men and this free toolkit, please take
30-seconds to leave a review of the book on Amazon to help get this book into the hands of more
men and change the world together.
Let’s begin.
Andrew
Exercises
The following questions are your foundation as a man. They will help you clarify not only who you
are today, but who you want to be tomorrow. Take these exercises seriously. They are the catalyst
for your success with the women you most desire.
Childhood:
Teenage years:
1st job:
College:
20s:
30s:
40s:
50s:
2. Who do you look up to as leaders, role models, mentors? What about these people causes
you to admire them?
3. If money were no object, how would you live your life differently?
4. What are some challenges and hardships in your past that you’ve overcome? How did you
do it? Why did you do to get through it and not give up?
5. If your life was a movie where you were the main character, what would be the ‘theme’ of
your life so far? What ‘theme’ do you want your life to follow over the next 10-20 years?
6. What virtues and character traits do you want to embody? When other people describe
you, what words would you want them to use?
(Note: your purpose can and will change with time. It’s fluid and impermanent so don’t feel
pressured to create your “life’s” purpose right now. Your only objective is to determine your
purpose today.)
1. If money was no object, what would you want to create? Who would you want to help?
What problem would you want to solve?
2. What things make you come alive? What activities energize and invigorate you?
3. What are your ‘natural’ talents and abilities? What do you find easy that others find
challenging?
4. Imagine that you’ve died and today is the day of your funeral. What are the people at your
funeral saying about you? What words do they use to describe you? What achievements
do they speak of most highly?
5. What is something you would be willing to die for? Something bigger than yourself and so
viscerally important to you that you would gladly give your life for it?
Example of values:
• What matters most is my connection with myself, being present, and feeling alive.
• I value meaningful relationships with a small group of people versus a large group of
acquaintances.
• I plan to travel the world and try new things, especially new foods.
• I don’t like to waste time watching television or browsing the internet simply to pass the
time.
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No matter how successful you’ve been or how hard you’ve failed before, you can make a change
today and move towards a more inspiring and empowering life.
Take a few minutes to sit down right now and chart out the vision towards which you’re moving.
You must have a stronger reason for getting out of bed and developing yourself as a man other
than, “Improving with women.”
The most attractive and interesting men have unique goals and ambitions, no matter how big
or small. Identify and write down five goals that excite you and motivate you to take action and
move forward today.
CHALLENGE!
Gain Clarity on Your Identity and Vision
Before diving into chapter two, it’s important that you take some time to clear your mind of
external influences and get in touch with who you really are and what you desire.
So, this weekend (or as soon as your schedule permits) I want you to take a solo backpack-
ing / camping trip--or at the very least go rent out a room in the city with a nice view and lock
yourself inside--where you will disconnect from your electronics and social media and reconnect
with yourself.
Take some time to contemplate who you are, who you want to become, what you want to
accomplish, and what you want to experience during your lifetime. Don’t think about what
you’ve been told or what your family, friends, and society think you should do...Listen to
your inner voice and shut out the noise of the outside world.
Becoming deeply aware of who you truly are and who you want to be is the first step in your
journey to becoming a stronger, more Grounded Man.
Do this and make the time for yourself. You’re worth it.
Exercises
By answering these questions below, you’ll realize the value you offer the world. Think hard about
your past and list what first comes to your mind no matter how big or small.
What is one skill at which you were terrible when you first started but are now competent
at? Write down a few sentences detailing what you remember about the process of growth.
What are the top 3 ‘fixed mindset’ beliefs you have regarding women and relationships? E.g.,
“I’m not handsome enough” or “I’m not good with women.” Write them down now.
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Reframe the beliefs you wrote above from the standpoint of someone with a growth
mindset. E.g., “I’m not good with women” becomes, “I have not yet developed the skills I
need to succeed with the women I desire...BUT I can achieve success by learning, doing
the work, and being patient with results.”
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Write ten things you admire about yourself. Something unique to you. Okay to brag about
yourself here.
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Identify three people in your life who make you feel appreciated and encourage you to be a
better person (they would support all the above questions and answers).
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Now, spend time with at least one of the above every week so you can be surrounded by people
who make you feel comfortable being and expressing yourself.
Write down five polarizing character traits you possess--things that some people will find
attractive and others will find unattractive. E.g., “I have a dark sense of humor” or “I’m a
very intense person.
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Commit moving forward to never dilute these character traits during your interactions.
Remember, some people will love you; others will hate you. Their opinion doesn’t matter. All that
matters is that you authentically express yourself in every interaction.
Cultivating Self-Love
Write down the top five character traits that you love about yourself. Do not write down
achievements, possessions, or other status-based factors (e.g., I am a 6-figure earner).
Instead, focus on the inextricable parts of your identity that would remain untouched even if
you lost everything tomorrow. E.g., “I am ambitious and driven to excel” or “I make everyone
in my life feel loved and appreciated.”
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Identify the top three ways you can express self-love in an active way. What are the habits and
activities that you enjoy that make you feel alive and happy? E.g., Going for a hike with your
dog, playing a video game with a friend, sitting at home and reading a good book.
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CHALLENGE!
Become a Giver of Positive Emotions
For the next week, I want you to go out on a daily basis with NO agenda. You are not allowed to
ask for phone numbers, set up dates, or try to escalate to sex. Your only goal is to go out and be a
giver of good emotions and making others feel better than when you first found them. Approach
at least one woman a day with the sole intention of making her feel good, alive, and brighten up
her day. Write down your notes about the experience below.
How did it make you feel to give rather than take? Could this make it easier to socialize and
engage women?
How did the other person feel when you were giving?
Exercises
These questions will help you deepen your understanding of not only what women want, but what
you’ve been conditioned to believe they want (i.e., your limiting beliefs).
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Look at the above list and ask yourself, “Is this true for all women?” and “Are there any men who
do not have the characteristics I listed above who are succeeding with attractive high-quality
women?” Find 2-3 men who are ‘average’ in terms of their physical attractiveness and financial
status but dating a beautiful woman.
What do you notice about the way they interact with women? What do their overall lives look
like?
Now, go on Amazon and purchase a few of the top-selling erotic romance novels. I recommend:
50 Shades of Grey, The Addicted (The Addicted Trilogy Book 1) and Bared to You (Crossfire Book 1).
Take some time over the next few weeks to read them.
What do you notice about how the author writes? What sort of interactions do the characters
have? What traits does the man possess that the woman falls for? Write your notes below:
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Write down ten reasons (mostly emotional, not logical) that you are a ‘win’ for the woman you
desire. E.g., You’re an exceptional listener; you are fun and outgoing; you have a great sense
of humor.
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What do you notice about their demeanor and conversation style? What traits do you want
to emulate? What traits do you want to not emulate? Write your notes below.
One of the most important elements of dominance is decisiveness. Write down five small
decisions about which you normally deliberate (e.g., What movie to watch, where to eat for
dinner, deciding if you should go to the gym or not, whether you should call someone or not).
This week, commit to being decisive and making these decisions in under 5-seconds.
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CHALLENGE!
Cultivate Masculine Energy / Dominance
It’s hard to feel dominant emotionally if you feel physically incapable of being dominant.
This week, find a local MMA gym and sign up for one of their free classes for a week. Show
up at least 3x that week and give it your all.
Reconnect with your primal side and pay special attention to how it feels to engage in hard and
visceral conflict with another man.
How did it feel when you were breathing hard, gasping for air, but you kept pushing yourself?
How did it feel to be completely present in the moment, thinking only about the battle in front of
you instead of mulling over thousands of tiny worries that have no impact on your life?
Exercises
In this next section, you’re going to clearly map out your traffic strategy and, more importantly,
begin implementing it and achieving the results you desire.
1. What day-to-day activities will you leverage to bring new women into your life? How
frequently?
2. How can you use your existing social circle to meet the women you desire? What
specific actions will you commit to for your first 90-day sprint?
3. What social events will you attend during your first 90-day sprint? How frequently?
4. What online dating platforms will you use to supplement your day to day activities and
social circle ‘game.’ What’s your plan for using them?
5. From whom can you get referrals to meet the women you want? Who is one person
you will reach out to in the next 24 hours and ask for a referral?
1. Your goal is to have two high-quality interactions each week (e.g., interactions that are fun,
engaging, and end in exchanging contact information... you should leave the interaction
expecting to have a date with the women you just met the following week).
2. Implement your traffic strategy and engage in as many total interactions as required to hit
your goal of two high-quality interactions. (You may have to approach 5-10 women a week for
the first few weeks before you’re able to elicit the types of reactions you want).
3. Don’t give up. Remember, at this point in the game, results don’t matter...action does. It might
take you fewer than two days before you have a date set up or it might take you an entire
month. The process takes however, long it takes. But you must commit to seeing it through
until the end.
After each approach, sit down for two minutes and answer the following questions:
CHALLENGE!
Develop Your Conversational Prowess
At least three times for the next week, take a few hours to watch either a stand-up comedy
special (I recommend Dave Chappelle, Joe Rogan, and Kevin Hart) and some of the highest rated
TED Talks.
Pay special attention to the presenter’s demeanor. How do they stand? How do they use body
language and vocal tonality throughout their stories/jokes?
Take notes on how they pace their stories and jokes and the things you either like or dislike about
them.
Then take a few minutes to figure out how you can incorporate what you’re learning into your
daily conversations with women.
Now, I want you to use these tactics in conjunction with the conversational strategies shared in
chapter 4 to deepen your interactions and have longer, more engaging, and more meaningful
conversations with the women you meet during your sprint.
Exercises
Once you’ve taken action on the Chapter 4 exercises, it’s time to escalate your interactions and
build even more chemistry and sexual tension with the women you’re bringing into your life to
create the most memorable nights and days of your life.
After asking these questions, write down how your questions were received, what went well,
and what you’ll do better next time.
As always, when you are done for the night, take a few minutes to write down what went
well and what you’ll do better next time.
How did she react to your leading her? Did you act confidently and dominant? Or did you make
“suggestions” instead of actually leading? What went well, and what can you do better next
time?
4. Ask for at least three phone numbers. Use the “Hey, let’s exchange phone numbers real
quick” line and write down how your response was received.
What went well, and what can you do better next time?
5. Utilizing the Rules of Texting, follow up with all three women via text.
Work to set up a date with at least one of the women. Wait at least 24 hours after
sending your last message and then review your messages and the Rules of Texting.
Did you offer enough positive emotions? Were you memorable enough in-person that
texting was easy? Or did you rely on text game instead of positive emotions? Write down
what you did well and what you will do better next time.
6. Have a fun adventure together and take her back to your place.
If you don’t hit it off, then repeat the process of getting another date and try again to take her
back to your place. Repeat until you’ve accomplished this.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how well did the date go? Why did you list that rating?
CHALLENGE!
Complete Your First 90-Day Sprint
At this point, you should already have begun your first 90-day sprint. Now, your challenge is
simple. Go all in on your sprint and give it everything you’ve got. Take the time to actually
complete your first sprint and see it through to the end.
Continue re-reading the book over the next few months to address any sticking points you may
encounter and ensure that you’re showing up in your interactions as the Strong Grounded Man I
know you are.
When you are done, complete the “Post Sprint Debrief” which you can download from The Dating
Toolkit main page.
Exercises
At this point, you must have completed at least one 90-day sprint and successfully entered into
regularly dating 2-3 high-quality women. With this milestone reached, it’s now time to begin
dialing in your relationships to ensure you’re dating the right woman for you and the overall vision
of your life.
Take a minute right now to write out the top five things you want your partner to value:
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2. If any of the women you are dating show signs of a red flag, how does that make
you feel? Is it something you can accept? Or are you only sticking around because
you lack abundance and “Don’t think you can do better”? Write your answer below.
3. Considering the green lights and red flags, where do each of these women fit into
your life? Are they going into the friend zone? Friends with benefits (if so, what’s the
deadline)? Relationship material? Write down your answers now.
Test Your Women to Determine If They Are Worth More of Your Time
Think about some of the red flags you’ve noticed in the women you’re dating. What ‘tests’ can you
deploy to determine whether these red flags are deal breakers or minor inconveniences? Write
down a few ideas below (e.g., leave $50 at her house and see if she takes it or tells you about it).
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Deploy these tests sometime over the next month. What happened? What does this say about
your potential future with each woman? Write down your answers below.
Which women pass/don’t pass the “Ejaculation Test”? If a woman “does not pass,” she should
remain a friend with benefits or enter into the friend zone. Do NOT enter into a committed
relationship with any women who do not pass this test. Refer to chapter six if you need a refresher
on this concept.
CHALLENGE!
Friend Zone an Attractive Woman
If you have never friend-zoned an attractive woman, you have not achieved true abundance.
Therefore, your challenge for this chapter is simple.
I want you to continue going out, dating multiple women, and completing as many sprints as
necessary to develop the skills you need.
I want you to continue doing this until you meet and date a highly attractive woman--the type of
woman the ‘old you’ would have killed to be with--who is not a good fit for your life...and friend-
zone her.
When you have the ability to state with confidence, “Your beauty is not enough” and actually act
on that statement...You have achieved true abundance.
Exercises
Congratulations! You’ve made it to the end of the workbook and the beginning of your ongoing
journey to mastery and relationship success. The following exercises and challenges will help you
solidify what you’ve learned and take your success to the next level.
1. Now that you’ve completed The Dating Playbook for Men and are in the process of
going through your first round of 90-day sprints, what else are you going to do to improve
yourself, continue learning, and commit to mastery? What are your weaknesses inside of
the dating game, and what resources can help you overcome them? What investments
are you going to make in your education to continue growing as a man (e.g., courses,
seminars, coaches, my Secrets of the Top 1% of Men program ;)
2. Consider your journey so far. At this point, it’s all but impossible that you haven’t faced
at least a few failures. Did any of those failures change your life in a massive way? What
progress did those failures help you achieve? Write your answers below and then revisit
this list any time you are struggling to overcome a bad night out or a relationship failure.
3. What are 2-3 small daily habits to which you are committed to implementing in your life?
What effect will these habits have on your life if you stick to them over the next six months?
The next 12 months? The next three years?
4. What ways have you attempted to “shortcut” the system since you began this process?
Have any of these attempts worked? Are you trusting the process or attempting to out
game it?
5. Think back on the past 90-days of your journey. What failures or problems did you experi-
ence that you can now laugh at? Think of a few instances that seemed terrible in the mo-
ment but are now hilarious. Write them down and revisit them if this journey ever starts to
feel like a chore instead of an adventure.
CHALLENGE!
Continue your journey to success by completing at least two more 90-day sprints and recording
your progress in the worksheets I created for you. The more sprints you complete, the more you
will grow and higher quality women you will meet and date.
Have fun, push yourself, and enjoy the rewards of your hard work.
Stay Grounded,
Andrew
Andrew Ferebee
Founder of Knowledge for Men
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