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Ministry Etiquette
Ministry Etiquette
Ministry Etiquette
MINISTRY ETIQUETTE
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1.0. WHAT IS ETIQUETTE?
Etiquette in simpler words is defined as good behaviour which
distinguishes human beings from animals.
Etiquette refers to behaving in a socially responsible way.
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3.0. TYPES OF ETIQUETTE
1. Social Etiquette- Social etiquette is important for an individual as it
teaches him how to behave in the society.
2. Bathroom Etiquette- Bathroom etiquette refers to the set of rules
which an individual needs to follow while using public restrooms or
office toilets. Make sure you leave the restroom clean and tidy for
the other person.
3. Corporate Etiquette- Corporate Etiquette refers to how an individual
should behave while he is at work. Each one needs to maintain the
decorum of the organization. Don’t loiter around unnecessary or
peep into other’s cubicles.
4. Wedding Etiquette- Wedding is a special event in every one’s life.
Individuals should ensure they behave sensibly at weddings. Never
be late to weddings or drink uncontrollably.
5. Meeting Etiquette- Meeting Etiquette refers to styles one need to
adopt when he is attending any meeting, seminar, presentation and
so on. Listen to what the other person has to say. Never enter
meeting room without a notepad and pen. It is important to jot down
important points for future reference.
6. Telephone Etiquette- It is essential to learn how one should interact
with the other person over the phone. Telephone etiquette refers to
the way an individual should speak on the phone. Never put the other
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person on long holds. Make sure you greet the other person. Take
care of your pitch and tone.
7. Eating Etiquette- Individuals must follow certain decorum while
eating in public. Don’t make noise while eating. One should not
leave the table unless and until everyone has finished eating.
8. Business Etiquette- Business Etiquette includes ways to conduct a
certain business. Don’t ever cheat customers. It is simply unethical.
a. When you go into a restaurant let your waiter come to you: Never
yell or wave your hand at a waiter while dining. Make their job
easier by being patient, or politely get their attention when they pass
by.
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e. Smile! At the cashier. The bank teller. Your co-worker. Even if he
or she doesn’t smile back.
f. Hold the door for the person behind you. And if someone holds the
door for you, always say "thank you"!
g. Step outside to answer phone calls: Sometimes you have to take the
call—but is it always that important? Don’t force everyone into your
conversations, if it’s important step out!
h. Give people a pass: Cranky tout? Nasty team member? You have no
idea what’s going on with that person right now. You don’t have to
reward ugly behaviour with your own nastiness, which only
perpetuates the cycle.
i. Look at the person who is speaking to you: Seriously. Look up from
your smartphone!
j. Cough or sneeze into your elbow: make sure you're doing what you
can to avoid spreading germs.
k. Learn people's names: Avoid referring to people as you or that girl,
or even worse calling them by a name that’s not theirs.
l. Shake hands firmly: stand and make eye contact when you do it.
m. Dress appropriately for every occasion: Know when to dress up for
that event or dress modestly for a funeral. And please wear your
Pajamas at home, not to the grocery store!
n. Ask permission to refer to someone by their first name: Yes, it’s a
super-casual society, but don’t relate to someone on a first name
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basis until they permit you to. Be keen to know how one wants you
to refer to them.
o. Ask before bringing a guest: Or your kids. Or your pet. Don’t
assume they’re automatically invited, no matter how well you know
your host or hostess.
p. Let people get off the elevator first before you get on: The same rule
goes for the train and the bus.
q. Learn to say you're sorry: Be the bigger person.
r. When you enter a room, greet everyone: No one likes to be ignored.
s. Return Calls: If you miss someone’s call, take the time to call him
or her back.
t. Never show up empty-handed: Get your host a gift.
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d. Chewing and popping gum in front of other people is simply not
expected out of a professional.
e. Stay away from nasty politics in Church. Avoid playing blame
games.
f. Never criticize or make fun of any of your colleagues. Remember
fighting leads to no solution. There are several other ways to express
displeasure. Sit with your colleagues, discuss issues face to face and
decide on something which is mutually acceptable.
g. Take care of your pitch and tone as you work with other people.
Never shout on anyone or use foul words. It is unprofessional to lash
out at others under pressure. Stay calm and think rationally.
h. Never attend meetings or seminars without a notepad and pen. It is
little tough to remember each and everything discussed in the
meeting. Jot down the important points for future reference. Wait
for your turn to speak.
i. Pass on information to all related recipients in the desired form.
Communicate through written modes of communication preferably
through emails. Keep your Head of Department in the loop. Make
sure your email signatures are correct.
j. Arrive on time. Your pastor should never arrive before you. Arriving
on time means you respect other people’s time.
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k. No organization likes to have a shabbily dressed worker. Shave
frequently, iron your clothes nicely, be well-groomed and do not use
strong perfumes.
l. Never wear revealing clothes to church. Be appropriately and
decently dressed. Be conscious as you select your jewellery and
makeup. Don’t overdo anything.
m. Don’t pass lewd comments to any of your fellow workers.
n. Respect your fellow workers and help them whenever required.
o. It is unethical to share confidential data with external parties and any
other individual who is not related to the organization. Data in any
form must not be passed to anyone outside the organization.
p. Church Stationery and equipment is meant to be used only at church.
Taking any office property back home is equivalent to stealing.
q. If you work in the church office, make sure you turn off the monitor
while you go out for lunch or tea breaks. Switch off the fans, lights,
printer, fax machine, scanner before you leave for the day.
r. Park your car at the space allocated to you. Don’t park your vehicle
at the entrance as it might obstruct someone’s way.
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3.3. CLOTHING ETIQUETTE
Male ministers:
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Female ministers:
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b. Gift: When you are dining at the home of a friend, it is a good idea
to bring a host or hostess gift. Don’t expect your gift to be used
during the meal. Most dinner parties have carefully planned menu
items, and your gift may not go with the meal.
c. Getting Started: Some dinner parties are formal and have place cards
where the host or hostess wants you to sit. If not, ask if there are
seating preferences. Wait until the host sits before you do. In some
cultures, a blessing will be said. Even if you don’t follow the beliefs
of the prayer, show respect and be silent. If the host offers a toast,
lift your glass. It is not necessary to “clink” someone else’s glass.
d. Napkin: As soon as you sit down, turn to your host or hostess and
take a cue for when to begin. Once the host unfolds his or her napkin,
you should remove your napkin from the table or plate, and place it
on your lap. If you are dining out, you should place your napkin on
your lap immediately after you sit down.
- Keep your napkin on your lap until you are finished eating. If you
must get up at any time during the meal and plan to return, place the
napkin on either side of your plate. After you are finished, place your
napkin on the table to the left of your plate.
e. When to Eat: If you are eating out, you should wait until all the
members of your group have been served before picking up your
fork.
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- At a private dinner, observe the host or hostess and pick up your fork
when he or she does.
- However, if you are at a buffet, you may start when there are others
seated at your table.
f. Silverware: One of the most common issues to confuse today’s
diners is which utensil to use for each course. A typical rule of
thumb is to start with the utensil that is farthest from your plate and
work your way toward the centre of your place setting.
- If you see the host or hostess doing something different, you may
follow his or her lead. The important thing is to remain as
inconspicuous as possible. You don't want to call negative attention
to yourself.
g. Food: For dinners where food is served at the table, the dishes should
be passed in a counter-clockwise flow. Never reach across the table
for anything. Instead, ask that condiments be passed from the person
closest to the item. Salt and pepper should be passed together.
- Always use serving utensils and not your own to lift food from the
serving dish.
h. Eating: Table manners were designed to keep people from scarfing
food down like animals, so learn them before you eat with others.
One of the most important things to keep in mind is that you should
never call attention to yourself by blatantly breaking the rules set by
society.
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Here are some essential dining etiquette rules that you should
follow:
i. Turn off your cell phone before sitting down. It is rude to talk on
your phone or text while in the company of others.
ii. Never talk when you have food in your mouth. That’s just gross.
Even if someone asks you a question, wait until you swallow before
answering.
iii. Taste your food before you add salt, pepper, or other seasoning.
Doing otherwise may be insulting to the host or hostess. If you are
dining with a prospective employer, the person may perceive you as
someone who acts without knowing the facts.
iv. Don’t cut all your food before you begin eating. Cut one or two bites
at a time.
v. Never blow on your food. If it is hot, wait a few minutes for it to
cool off. Scoop your soup away from you.
vi. Some foods are meant to be eaten with your fingers. Follow the lead
of the host or hostess.
vii. If you are drinking from a stemmed glass, hold it by the stem.
viii. Break your bread into bite-sized pieces and butter only one bite at a
time.
ix. Try at least one or two bites of everything on your plate, unless you
are allergic to it.
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x. Compliment the hostess if you like the food, but don’t voice your
opinion if you don’t.
xi. Use your utensils for eating, not gesturing.
xii. Keep your elbows off the table. Rest the hand you are not using in
your lap.
xiii. Eat slowly and pace yourself to finish at the same approximate time
as the host or hostess.
xiv. Avoid burping or making other rude sounds at the table.
xv. If you spill something at a restaurant, signal one of the servers to
help. If you spill something at a private dinner party in someone’s
home, pick it up and blot the spill. Offer to have it professionally
cleaned if necessary.
xvi. When you finish eating, leave your utensils on your plate or in your
bowl.
xvii. Never use a toothpick or dental floss at the table.
xviii. You may reapply your lipstick, but don’t freshen the rest of your
makeup at the table.
i. After the Meal: After you finish eating, partially fold your napkin
and place it to the left of your plate. Wait until the host or hostess
signals that the meal is over, and then you may stand.
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- After the meal is over, don’t eat and run. If nothing is planned after
dinner, stick around for approximately an hour before saying good-
bye to the host and thanking him or her for the dinner.
- If the event is informal, you may offer to help clean up.
j. Later: Always send the host or hostess a thank you note or card in
the mail, and don’t wait more than a day or two after the event.
Address the host or hostess, thank him or her for the lovely dinner,
and add another short, positive comment to show your appreciation.
Your note may be brief but heartfelt.
MOBILE PHONES:
a. Always keep your cell phone in the silent or vibration mode
during church services, events and meeting. Loud ring tone
disturbs everyone who are around.
b. Remember the office phone is only for official purposes. Don’t
circulate your official number amongst all your friends and
relatives. Keep a separate phone for personal use. Making
personal calls from official phone is simply not expected out
of a sensible professional.
c. Don’t activate film songs or jokes as caller tunes for mobiles
meant for official use. It leaves a bad impression on external
parties who might call you.
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d. Never shout on the phone. Always be soft and polite. Avoid
using abusive or foul language.
e. Be careful with your phone. Never leave it at other people’s
workstations. It would waste yours as well as your colleague’s
time. Try not to carry cell phone to restrooms.
f. Greet the other party well. Start your conversation with a warm
“Hello”. The way you talk matters a lot in verbal
communication. The other party can’t see you; it’s your tone
which makes the difference.
g. Speak clearly. Never chew anything while speaking over the
phone. It is important to concentrate while attending an
important official call.
h. Be clear about what you intend to communicate. It is advisable
to keep related documents handy. Don’t make the other person
wait. Always keep a notepad and pen with you to jot down
important points.
i. Make sure your mobile calls do not hamper your productivity.
Don’t go for long personal calls at workplace. Be crisp and
precise.
j. It is bad manners to pick calls when someone is sitting with
you unless and until it is an emergency.
k. Extension fixed phones are meant to be used by everyone.
Don’t treat it as your personal property.
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l. Avoid calling any of your clients or colleagues before 8 in the
morning and after 8 in the evening. The other person might be
busy with his family or friends and definitely would not pay
attention to your conversation.
m. Switch off your mobiles while attending important meetings,
presentations or seminars. In case of an emergency, move out
of the place to attend the call.
SOCIAL MEDIA:
Facebook
Don't post about yourself 24/7: We all crave affirmation from others
but avoid posting about yourself on every post. Avoid constantly
fishing for compliments or sympathy. Actually, try not to post too
frequently, period!
Post only flattering pictures of other people: Just because you like
the weird photos you took over lunch does not mean everyone in the
photo will. Ask the person in the photo before posting it.
Friend wisely: Avoid sending your supervisor or clients a friend
request. Keep your professional and social life separate. If they send
you a friend request, adjust your privacy settings to keep at least a
thin boundary between work and regular life.
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Spare us your synced games: No offense, but we don't even want to
know that you're playing Candy Crush Saga, let alone receive
tedious, spam-like invitations to join you.
Abstain from vague attention seeking posts. If you want to share
something, please do it! Avoid ambiguous cries for attention like,
"It finally happened"; "Hospital visits suck"; or that sad little emoji.
Avoid ranting: No one needs to know you ate avocado toast for
breakfast or how much you hate Mondays? Unless you're Kate
Middleton or Oprah, your every mundane thought is not worth
posting.
Apply the billboard test: Assume that everyone in the world can and
will see everything you post. That gross joke or racist comment will
most likely cost you in future.
Be responsive: If someone you know follows you, follow him back;
if someone tweets something nice about you, favorite it.
Don't request retweets: Make the most of your 140-character limit
and followers will want to share your tweets all on their own,
without your asking.
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Edit your photos. You went to the pack and saw all sorts of animals!
Unless you're a professional nature photographer, nobody wants to
see more than two photos (or one).
Give credit where it's due: Don't post other people's photos or quotes
without clear attribution. Use the repost app to properly credit others
for their own content.
Restrain your use of hashtags: Don’t overuse hashtags, it’s irritating.
Think of the future you: Your tastes, your sense of humor, your idea
of TMI, and your interest in privacy will change—but the internet
does not forget. Use caution when posting.
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iii. Your ultrasound
- OB-GYNs often suggest waiting until your second trimester to share
the happy news of your pregnancy with friends and relatives because
your risk of miscarriage is lower, therefore, updating your social
media accounts with an ultrasound might be taking your photo
albums too far.
- The blurry, almost-alien like photo might be the cutest, most
amazing image you’ve ever seen, but your followers might find it
awkward.
- “It’s great that you’re announcing you’re pregnant, but do you have
to post a photo of your unborn baby on social media?
- “While many will toast to your new relationship status, we don’t
need to see every detail of your doctor’s appointments.”
v. Expensive gifts
- Sure, you’re psyched about the swanky gift your partner just gave
you—ruby earrings, Louis Vuitton duffle bag, or ginormous TV—
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but to friends who are living more hand to mouth, it can come across
shallow and ungrateful.
- “We are all on different budgets, and if your beau is lavishing you
with diamonds and expensive gifts, posting photos of the latest
acquisition will turn people off,” Spira says,
- “Many people are struggling financially, and they look to social
media to get cheered up, so seeing posts of things we can’t afford
comes off as superficial.
- Bragging on social media is a netiquette no-no.” It could also be an
insult to your partner, who is likely wrapping up these moments of
joy to share with you personally, not for you to boast about for
everyone to see online.
- And finally, it could make you and your significant other a target for
theft.
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- Just change your relationship status to ‘Single’ when and if you call
it quits to signal that you’re on the market again. Keep the vicious
details to yourself.”
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bought him, and on Friday, you had #datenight, you may be
oversharing about your relationship.
- Being content and secure in your relationship means you don’t need
to give a play-by-play for the world to bare witness, Mandel
explains. When you’re in a satisfying couplehood, you should prefer
to keep the little details to yourselves, where they often mean more.
- “Partners in a healthy relationship know that there’s value in the
private moments that no one else gets to know about. Sharing too
much can take away from the specialness of your relationship,” she
says.
- Look at the intention behind your oversharing—do you need
attention? Are you trying to inflate your relationship into something
more than it is? “Broadcasting every moment that you spend with
your partner may be a sign that your relationship is lacking, and that
you need to re-evaluate your situation,” Mandel adds.
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a. Dental care: Good dental hygiene isn’t just about having white teeth.
It’s caring for your teeth to prevent gum diseases and cavities.
- Endeavour to brush your teeth at least twice a day, after you wake
up and before bed, for 2 minutes.
- If possible, brush or rinse your mouth after every meal, that’s even
better.
- Floss between your teeth daily, and also get advice from your dentist
about using an antibacterial mouthwash.
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d. Hand hygiene: Your nails trap in germs that can infect you and make
you sick.
- It’s therefore important to trim your nails regularly to keep them
short and clean.
- If you keep long nails or use nail extensions, brush under your nails
with a nail brush or washcloth to rinse away build up, dirt, and
germs.
- When you’re out and about, use an alcohol-based hand sanitizer
immediately after touching surfaces and wash your hands first thing
when you return home to prevent yourself from transferring germs
into your home.
- This should be a lifestyle and not just a “pandemic survival skill”.
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between your fingers, on the back of your hands, and under your
nails. Rinse with warm water, and dry with a clean towel.
- If you don’t have running water or soap, use an alcohol-based hand
sanitizer as you should always have one on you.
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