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Memento Mori: August/September 2021
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CONTENTS
VOLUME 81 | NUMBER 7 AUG | SEP 2021
24
Is Your Deathcare Business
28
Be Like Mike and
Dying a Slow Death? Master the Fundamentals
A Cemetery Trust Primer
by Beth Kmiec
Disruption
Could Be Your
Springboard to
Growth
by Christopher Keller
32
Death By Suicide 36
Responding to a Traumatic Are You the Go-To
and Sudden Loss Person at Work?
by Anne Moss Rogers What the
o
‘Indispensables’ D
Differently
by Bruce Tulgan
40
Cremation &
Permanent Placement
Educating Families
About the ‘Whys’
by Alan D. Wolfelt, PhD
44
Navigating the New
‘Virtual’ Normal
The Art and Science of
Funeral Livestreaming
by Bruce Likly
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HE UNITED STATES APPEARS TO HAVE decisively turned the corner on • Scenario 1: Business owner sells his
the COVID-19 pandemic, following a year mired by uncertainty and change. business in 2021 for $1,500,000. Using
The U.S. jobs market is heating up, households are armed with savings, and U.S. 20% federal capital gains rates, the owner
corporations delivered better-than-expected earnings in Q1 2021. receives $1,200,000 net after taxes.
• Scenario 2: Business owner sells his busi-
Investors, businesses, and consumers are ness in 2023 for $1,500,000. By then, cap-
focused on the future, and that’s great news. At the end of the day, ital gains rates have increased to match
Over the past few months, I have been ordinary income rates (39.6%) for those
talking to family, friends, colleagues, and finding and training a who earn more than $1,000,000. In this
clients in funeral service about lessons they scenario, the owner receives $906,000 net
have learned in the past year. I’m curious
successor is almost certainly after taxes.
how folks think the future will look. Inter- a multi-year process, The $300,000 difference between the
estingly, just about everyone gives a differ- two scenarios is not a small sum, which is
ent answer about the future of work, life, requiring a lot of attention precisely why these types of issues should
and daily interactions. To me, the variety and energy. Owners should be front-and-center in exit planning today.
of responses is the clearest indication that
the uncertainties of the past year have given consider whether the Question #2: When do you want to
way to uncertainties about the future. leave or sell your business?
pandemic made it more
There is no better way to counter The decision whether to sell now versus
uncertainty than by making a thoughtful, or less clear who is qualified later can be dictated by tax expectations, as
detailed, and ultimately written plan. For demonstrated above. But owners also need
many funeral service and cemetery pro- to lead the business to consider the conditions throughout the
fessionals, this may mean taking a look at into the future. profession and personal circumstances.
your business, its value, and your personal In the funeral service and cemetery pro-
financial goals to ensure you have a clear fession, an owner may want to strongly con-
vision for what you want the future to look cause it to increase or decrease? Do you sider selling during a period of heightened
like. In other words, now is the time to give think pandemic-driven forces—i.e., changes consolidation, attractively priced deals,
your financial plan and your exit plan a to real estate prices, the jobs market, and low cost of capital (for example). The
post-pandemic tune up. I’ll focus on what technology’s effect on how businesses offer macroeconomic environment also plays a
you need to know for your exit plan here. services, and the changing wants and needs role—if the economy is in growth mode and
of client families—bode well for the future expanding, there may be more years left in
The Three Pillars of an Exit Plan of your business or work against it? the cycle to accumulate additional value.
The three pillars of an exit plan are really Answering these questions will not On the personal side, many owners need
three sets of questions that funeral service only give business owners a sense of what to weigh factors like lifestyle needs, desire
and cemetery business owners need to ask their business is worth today, it can begin to retire versus to work, family life, and/or
themselves. to address key questions about how the desire to pursue philanthropic pursuits. At
business’s valuation could change in the the end of the day, what the business owner
Question 1: In order to leave or sell years ahead. wants personally needs to play a decisive
your business, how much would you Another critical issue to think about role in how an exit plan is shaped.
need to receive in equity and/or after- here is what could happen to the value
tax proceeds? of your business if tax rates move higher. Question #3: Who are the possible
Within the context of the pandemic and the While we are not tax experts and we urge successors or acquirers of the
past year, a key data point for all business you to speak to your tax advisor about these business?
owners is figuring out how much their busi- issues, here is a hypothetical example to In all likelihood, the pandemic revealed new
ness valuation changed. Did the pandemic consider: information about prospective successors
or buyers for the business. Maybe the key employees you had in
mind to take over the business struggled to meet the challenges
posed by the pandemic. On the flip side, maybe you were surprised
by how a family member or a third party stepped up over the past
year, shifting your thinking completely about who is best suited to
take over the business.
At the end of the day, finding and training a successor is almost
certainly a multi-year process, requiring a lot of attention and
energy. Owners should consider whether the pandemic made it
more or less clear who is qualified to lead the business into the
Memorialization to honor and remember loved ones who are
future.
interred elsewhere.
The last point to make is that exit planning is a dynamic,
methodical, ongoing process; it is not a single event! Owners should Having a personalized cenotaph plaque which reminds families
not expect to make an exit plan once and never revisit it. Over of a loved one provides the closure most families seek during
time, financial situations change, timelines change, personal needs their mourning process.
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All expressions of opinion reflect the judgment of Roosevelt Investments at this time and
FINANCIAL PLANNER™ professional and holds the are subject to change. This material is not intended as an offer or solicitation to buy, hold
Certified Exit Planner designation. Tim is responsible for or sell any financial instrument or investment advisory services. Information has been
leading the firm’s financial planning efforts and guides obtained from sources considered reliable, but we do not guarantee that the material
clients and families through a comprehensive financial presented is accurate or that it provides a complete description of the securities, markets
or developments mentioned. Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards, Inc. (CFP
planning process. He has over 19 years of experience in
Board) owns the CFP® certification mark, the CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ cer-
financial services and has spent the last 11 years working with funeral homes, tification mark, and the CFP® certification mark (with plaque design) logo in the United
cemeteries, and their owners and operators. Tim can be reached at States, which it authorizes use of by individuals who successfully complete CFP Board’s
thermann@rooseveltinvestments.com. initial and ongoing certification requirements.
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T MAY BE YEARS before we fully understand COVID-19’s track to meet your business and personal financial goals.
economic and public health impact but we are already seeing
What Attendees Learned
a change in perceptions and expectations from consumers
regarding the future of funeral service. For many funeral service
•
Longer-term implications for their exit plans due to
COVID-19 and changing consumer trends.
professionals, this may mean taking a look at your business, its
value, and your personal financial goals to help ensure your exit
•
Understanding of various strategies to help them stay on
track to meet their business and personal financial goals.
plan is still relevant and effective after everything that has hap-
pened over the last year. Has your situation changed? Is your
•
Identify some of the most common pitfalls that could derail
their exit plan and what steps they can take to account for
timeline different? Do you want to alter your plan for your suc-
them.
cessor? Has your attitude towards investing and risk changed?
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N MARCH 11, 2020 , the World Health Organization declared COVID-19 to be Reimagine End of Life
a global pandemic. Within a week, most in-person activities shut down as people The first in-person Reimagine End of Life
curtailed going out to help “flatten the curve.” This included death discussion festivals were held in San Francisco and
movements that had grown and thrived over the past 10 years. New York City, with thousands of attendees
at hundreds of free and paid events. These
These movements include: in 2018 with events in the San Fran- included art shows, film screenings, theater
• Dying Matters Awareness Week in the cisco Bay area and New York City. They performances, speakers, field trips, work-
United Kingdom, with events held annu- pivoted to online events in 2020. www. shops, panel discussions, and concerts.
ally in early May. The movement started LetsReimagine.org. Reimagine, a nonprofit organization,
in 2009 and pivoted to online events in Of these death discussion movements, started online death discussion events in
2020. www.DyingMatters.org. three offer funeral homes and cemeteries May 2020. Online events are ongoing and
• The Death Café movement started in the opportunity to participate and con- cover a range of end-of-life issues. You can
the UK in 2011 and as of June 2021, it has nect with the general public—online now, sign up free to hold events as a collaborator,
grown to more than 12,600 events in 78 in-person later. participate in events and offer resources.
countries. It’s an opportunity to discuss With Reimagine sponsorship opportu-
mortality issues openly and honestly. Death Cafés nities, funeral homes and cemeteries can
Death Café hosts pivoted to online meet- Death Cafés provide the opportunity for reach an email list of 28,000, with 20,000
ings shortly after the pandemic shut- people to come together, have a little coffee social media followers. Your logo can link to
downs. www.DeathCafe.com. or tea, some cake or cookies, and talk about your website from the Reimagine website.
• Before I Die Festivals started in the UK what’s on their hearts or minds about mor-
in 2013 and in the United States in 2016. tality issues. The objective is “to increase Before I Die Festivals
In 2020, a pivot to online took place with awareness of death with a view to helping Before I Die festivals boldly take death out
the Before I Die New Mexico Festival: people make the most of their (finite) lives.” of the closet through a host of entertaining
www.BeforeIDieNM.com. It’s all about an interesting, unstructured and engaging free or low-cost activities.
• Death Over Dinner (www.DeathO- conversation—open and free-flowing with These events help participants to think
verDinner.org) was founded by Michael no specific agenda. about, talk about, and plan for their even-
Hebb in 2013. In 2020, Hebb part- Like so many other previously in-person tual mortality. Before I Die Festivals have
nered with health and wellness startup events, Death Café meetings have gone been held in the United States in Indianap-
RoundGlass to launch an online end- virtual. Hosts are using online video chat olis (2016), Louisville (2016 to 2020), and
of-life planning platform called EOL, apps like Zoom, FaceTime, Skype, and other New Mexico (2017 to 2021).
connecting the public to resources for platforms. One aspect of online discussions: During the pandemic, only the New
planning for death. They have a registry geographic distance disappears. You could Mexico festival continued with online
of providers fostering end-of-life plan- have local participants as well as people events by Zoom. This allowed participa-
ning and a marketplace for providers from other states and countries. tion by funeral directors, cemeterians, and
of products and services (https://www. Funeral homes and cemeteries can join end-of-life experts from across the United
collective.round.glass/End-of-Life/ with local Death Café hosts for online or States. The panel discussions and behind-
welcome). in-person events. Ground rules for holding the-scenes video tours were posted to a
• Death Salons, which started in 2013, a Death Café preclude having agendas, dedicated YouTube channel, which has
suspended in-person events, and they speakers or leading people to any beliefs or garnered more than 27,000 views since the
have not scheduled virtual events. These course of action. You can’t sell, but you can 2020 festival ended.
are associated with Caitlin Doughty, the offer resources and tours, talk up special In 2021, as pandemic restrictions ease,
millennial mortician who coined the events, and become a visible part of the in-person events will return in Albuquer-
term Death Positivity. www.DeathSalon. conversation. If there are no local Death que, supplemented with virtual events
org. Café hosts, you can arrange to host your online. Funeral homes and cemeteries that
• Reimagine End of Life festivals started own events. want to host one- or two-day in-person
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email Gail@agoodgoodbye.com. RIOR TO THE CORONAVIRUS PANDEMIC, in-person death discussion move-
ments and festivals were sprouting up across the globe. Social distancing forced
Gail Rubin, certified these events, like so many others, to go online. Festivals such as Reimagine:
thanatologist and The Doyenne Life, Loss & Love and Before I Die New Mexico pivoted to virtual engagements. Fu-
of Death®, is a pioneering
neral homes and cemeteries continued to connect with the general public in upbeat
death educator. One of the first
online formats. Using live Zoom sessions and pre-recorded YouTube videos, visitors
Death Café hosts in the United
States, she uses humor, film
can take behind-the-scenes tours and get questions answered. Event registrations
clips, and outside-the-box can generate warm leads, create community connections, and foster end-of-life
activities to teach about end-of-life topics. She planning conversations leading to pre-need sales.
authored three books on end-of-life issues and
What Attendees Learned
coordinates the Before I Die New Mexico Festival,
which won first place for the 2018 ICCFA KIP
•Discover new COVID-19 acceptable community outreach methods
Awards. She’s also a certified funeral celebrant •Learn how to engage the public with virtual behind-the-scenes education and
and was recognized by Albuquerque Business Q&A opportunities, and
First with the 2019 Women of Influence Award. •Learn how online videos can provide continued outreach beyond festival
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OVID-19 made real the importance of the deathcare industry in supporting the Conversation?) – a U.S. initiative centered
deceased and their families during a time of uncertainty, restricted attendance, and around National Health Care Decision Day.
decisions to delay or forego having a service. Based on preliminary data from the Other programming includes the “Hello
Centers for Disease Control (2021), there was an approximate increase of 500,000 deaths Game” offered by Common Practice (Hello
in the United States in 2020 from 2019. This can be attributed to COVID-19 along with Game (Home Edition) - Common Practice),
other causes such as heart disease, cancer, stroke, and Alzheimer’s disease. While some the “Talk of a Lifetime” (Funeral Planning
deaths were quick and unexpected due to COVID-19, many others were due to a chronic and Remembrance Ideas | Have the Talk of
condition or conditions, affording people a chance to plan. a Lifetime), and the “Before I Die project”
(Before I Die (beforeidieproject.com)). All
In your day-to-day work, you may are intended, in one way or another, to
wonder how prepared people are for their As attitudes about final encourage people to talk about end-of-life.
own or a family member’s final disposition. For my colleagues in gerontology and
Would they prefer cremation? Earth burial? disposition change communication studies at the University
A religious on humanist service? If they are and usual sources of of Nebraska Omaha (UNO), our research
religious, do they understand what their and teaching focuses on aging and end-of-
faith tradition will and will not allow? A lack information fade, finding life. Encouraging health literacy along with
of understanding about one’s final wishes finding ways to prompt people to think
can be challenging for you and the people
comfortable ways for about end-of-life planning is paramount.
who have been entrusted to your care. people to engage in end- To achieve our goal, we developed an initial
Knowing what someone would like can three-session program to begin at the start
afford a more meaningful ceremony for all. of-life discussions can be of 2021 and concluding in April to coincide
of value to you and your with National Health Care Decision Day on
A Well-Planned Ending April 16.
Consider the recent death of Queen Eliza- organization. Prompting The name for the program, “Begin with
the End in Mind,” was inspired by a lecture
beth’s husband, Prince Philip, in 2021. His
people to think about given by Hall of Fame football coach Dr.
funeral was a textbook example of someone
who took the time and effort to put quill the end can reduce Tom Osborne and is based on the work of
to paper in providing guidance to what he Stephen Covey’s Seven Principles of Highly
wanted, including a custom-made Land
heartache and regret for Effective People. One of those habits is writ-
Rover hearse to carry his coffin. The solemn your customers. ing your own obituary. The title, along with
and dignified nature of his service illustrates the idea of writing an obituary, served as a
the value of planning for the end. springboard for the series.
While royalty may have access to It also allows you and your organization to
myriad resources to assist in the creation deliver a meaningful farewell to those who With Education in Mind …
of a meaningful service along with people have been entrusted to your care. Starting in 2014, we launched the Begin
familiar with protocol, people unfamiliar Several notable programs provide an with the End in Mind series. Three topics
with service planning may be at a loss as to informal setting for people to engage in were selected along with subject-matter
what they would want done. And as people discussion about end-of-life. The Death experts who were knowledgeable about
embrace a more secular approach to death Café movement (Welcome to Death Cafe), the topics and could respond to questions
along with a desire for a more organic started in the UK in 2012 and is one notable during and after each session. Program
service, the usual sources for structure may example of how people are given the space topics included:
be lacking. Providing a forum that affords for conversation. Other examples include • Session One: Writing Your Own
participants a chance to learn of the choices Dying Matters (Dying Matters ), also from Obituary – two faculty with experience
available to them can help ease some of the the UK, and The Conversation Project (The in end-of-life and communication
stress and uncertainty when death comes. Conversation Project - Have You Had The research;
refreshments, funeral/memorial service Julie Masters, PhD is a topics and honors theses. In addition to teaching,
professor at the University of Julie is involved in research related to end-of-life
planning handouts and such are always well
Nebraska, Omaha. She holds planning and COVID-19 and its effects on aging
received.
the distinguished Terry Haney adults. She is active in the community serving on
Additionally, consider partnering with
Chair of Gerontology. Julie various advisory committees and boards focused
a program in gerontology or aging studies. teaches courses in gerontology on aging adults and is a frequent presenter on
You can find a listing of programs on the and death and dying. She also aging issues and end-of-life planning in the
Academy for Gerontology in Higher Edu- works with students on independent research community.
cation website (AGHE Current Members
(geron.org)). Identifying a gerontologist
to work with you in planning program- Highlights from the 2021 ICCFA
ming can be of benefit to both you and the
educator. With 74% of deaths composed of
Virtual Convention & Expo
persons 65 and older, enlisting the insight of
a gerontologist will help you now and into Begin with the End in Mind
the future. Julie Masters, PhD, University of Nebraska Omaha
As attitudes about final disposition
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change and usual sources of information LANNING FOR THE END is uncomfortable to many. Research indicates that
fade, finding comfortable ways for people about one-third of U.S. citizens have completed advance care planning. As peo-
to engage in end-of-life discussions can ple age, this percentage increases but there is still a need for people to consider
be of value to you and your organization. what they would like their life, death, and final disposition to be like. Julie Masters
Prompting people to think about the end highlighted Begin with the End in Mind, an innovative program that can be adapt-
can reduce heartache and regret for your ed by those in the deathcare industry to use in their own communities as a way to
customers. As Nancy Cobb suggests in meet the needs of current and future consumers.
her book, In Lieu of Flowers, “Preparing
for death by creating meaningful rituals What Attendees Learned
encourages emotional catharsis and spiri- •The community wants to plan. Finding a non-threatening way to encourage
tual release.” discussion is key.
Contemplating the end is good for us. •The Begin with the End in Mind series is offered on a university campus but can
Offering programming like the “Begin with also be offered in other places in the community including your own facility. The
the End in Mind” series can be of benefit key is to give people information they can take with them as they make plans
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URING THE 2021 ICCFA VIRTUAL CONVENTION & EXPO , I made a and the length of time they stay with you
presentation on “Reputation Management in Today’s Online World.” My talk both contribute to your employer brand. It
focused on how funeral professionals can take steps to ensure they stay abreast of is similar to your company’s overall reputa-
all conversations taking place about their funeral home and cemetery and how to respond tion, but it is targeted toward job seekers.
to negative “news” and reviews. Near the end of the presentation, I briefly touched on Funeral homes and cemeteries with a
reputation management as it relates to a firm’s employer brand and job candidates. I would strong employer brand can differentiate
now like to expand further on this important topic. themselves in the job market. Crafting your
employer brand is an opportunity to show-
Recruiting and Reputation Stats case all the reasons why your company is an
People want to work for a company with a Monitor what people excellent place to work. This is the time to
good reputation. The strongest job candi- share your unique company story, show-
dates are looking for more than just salary,
are saying on job case employee testimonials, and congrat-
benefits, and whether your office provides portals like Glassdoor, ulate your leadership team. By improving
an occasional catered lunch. They’re look- your employer brand, you can expect to
ing at your company’s brand reputation. Do Indeed, and Monster, attract, engage, and retain the best possible
people think highly of your firm? Are your and respond to both candidates for your open positions at your
company’s values and vision aligned with funeral home and cemetery.
their own? positive and negative
A funeral home and cemetery’s brand reviews. If you’re seeing The Impact of Reviews
reputation is one of the most important Just like you monitor review sites like Yelp
factors for job seekers. Just as you’re judging a pattern of negative or Google Reviews for your funeral home
them to provide a job offer, they’re judging and cemetery, you should also monitor
you on whether they will accept it. But don’t
reviews, it’s time to review sites for hiring like Glassdoor and
just take my word for this. Here are some address the issue and Indeed. Why? These sites have a lot of what
supporting statistics on the importance of Google calls “authority,” so they tend to
reputation for the hiring process: fix it—STAT. rank highly for your branded keywords. It’s
• 76% of people want to work for firms important to keep the strength and author-
with a good reputation. workplace environment. A positive reputa- ity of websites in mind when improving
• 69% of job prospects will reject a job tion will help to attract the best candidates your company’s online reputation because
offer from a company with a bad repu- for your job opening as well as to retain the only those with real strength will be highly
tation, even if currently unemployed. staff members you presently have. visible when job seekers are researching
• 92% of people would consider leaving So how can you build a brand reputation companies.
their current jobs if offered another that will attract the best possible candi- The first step is to set up a complete
role with a company that had an excel- dates? A lot of the same steps for building profile on these websites. A company profile
lent brand reputation. your overall reputation strategy apply. Even includes overview information about the
• 45% of those ages 35 to 44 would if your brand’s reputation is in good stand- company. It also should contain recent
leave their current job for less than a ing, it’s still worthwhile to dedicate extra employee reviews, good information avail-
10% pay increase to join an excellent time to focus on your employer brand. able on benefits and salaries, and plenty
company. of detail on what it’s like to work at your
• 72% of recruiting leaders worldwide What Is an Employer Brand? company.
agreed that employer brand has a Your employer brand is how your company
significant impact on hiring. is perceived by job seekers in terms of its Peer Reviews as Strong Indicators
Progressive funeral homes and cemeter- reputation, company culture, and employee Employee reviews are a key component
ies are investing more to build their brand’s retention. Whether or not people are happy of every hiring portal. The research on
reputation and the reputation of their to work for your funeral home or cemetery employee reviews is very similar to what
I
N TODAY’S WORLD, it’s not just
TV news, newspapers articles,
and word of mouth that can
ruin a reputation; we now have to
contend with online reviews. Your
online reputation determines how
others perceive your funeral home
or cemetery when they search for it
online. In this interactive session, Joe
Weigel discussed how funeral homes
and cemeteries can take steps to
ensure they stay abreast of all online
conversations and how to respond to
negative “news” and reviews as well
as how your online reputation has
been impacted by COVID-19.
• General Contracting
Casket. Joe possesses a deep passion for funeral
service and has a comprehensive background in
• Support all areas of marketing and communications and a
frequent speaker on these topics. Joe is also a
published author on marketing, communications
and media relations. Joe has a BS in Journalism
from Ball State University and an MBA in
Marketing from Xavier University. He also served
PrecAst ProDucts as a marketing professor at the University of
Cincinnati.
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Since 1976 IMSA has been empowering cemetery and funeral service
providers by advocating for unity with various industry associations and
ensuring greater access to supplier products and services.
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otential is wasted when it is not applied. When you look around your facility on We utilized volunteers from our local
a daily basis, consider the potential in the form of projects, community outreach, university and Master Gardener group to
and revenue generation. When I first became Superintendent of City Cemeteries help out with taking pictures to document
over 13 years ago, I was naive and very green as it relates to the deathcare industry. I recall and tag the specific species. I would also
telling my supervisor that we would be caught up on everything in less than six months. direct you toward the plantsmap.com
In my role, I manage around 250 acres of city cemetery property in Evansville, IN. I had a website. It is a website community that
lot to learn about the daily evolution within our field paired with two historic cemeteries hosts botanical collections with custom-
that both date back to the 1850s. Needless to say, I could see potential and went to work ized tools that solve the challenges of doc-
applying it. umenting, organizing, mapping, tagging,
and sharing information about plants. The
The Arboretum Accreditation with a written arboretum plan, with only 25 easy to learn My Plant Map tools are used
An easy start in capturing the potential of or more tree or woody plant species, and by a diverse group of users who manage
your facility is having your cemetery cer- an organizational or governance group. The public landscapes and are avid plant col-
tified as an accredited arboretum through application is free and can take up to four lectors, professionals, community groups,
arbnet.org. Your facility can achieve this weeks to process. weekend gardeners, and more.
Visitors to plantsmap.com have free
and open access to explore and discover
plants, collections, profiles, resources,
and events. Anyone can create a free
sign-in to begin an individual profile and
to add an organization profile. Individual
and organization profiles are free at this
basic tier level.
We were also able to apply for a grant
with our local Master Gardeners organi-
zation to cover the costs associated with
purchasing tree tags. With grant funds,
one tree from each unique species is
tagged within both of our cemeteries. Via
the grant, we were able to purchase these
tags from the plantsmap.com website
and it tied into our organizational profile,
which helped with both a marketing and
education tool that engaged our patrons
through our online plant collection
library.
In the end, we had invested only our
time and utilized community resources
to reach our goals of having both our
facilities accredited as arboretums back
in 2017. The increased amount of foot
traffic alone since we started this project
has equated to new pre-need sales of grave
spaces.
Highlights from
the 2021 ICCFA
Virtual Convention
In Plain Sight
cemetery and turn them into value-added Funding is not a barrier to establishing Christopher Cooke, Evansville City
features or programs that will raise both any of these efforts within your own foot- Cemeteries
your revenues and community profile. The prints. Our industry is evolving daily. In
C
secret is putting in the work to have these order to remain viable for years to come, HRISTOPHER COOKE showed
opportunities up and running. we must get outside of our comfort areas, ways in which anyone can take
existing features from their
cemetery and maximize the returns
on them without much of a budget
to work with. Leaning heavily upon
his experience as an award-winning
municipal cemeterian, Christopher
covered current technologies avail-
able, solar farms, historical features,
arboretums, and pollinator gardens
so that each potential attendee’s
unique property can maximize their
own returns.
What Attendees Learned
•The uses of current technologies
•Solar farms and use of solar in
cemetery development
•Arboretums and accreditation
processes
•Pollinator gardens from start to
finish, and
•History as a way to reach out
to untouched members of the
community leading to potential
revenue growth.
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Strategic Outsourcing:
Is It Right for Your Organization?
by Don Winsett & Ed Gallagher
I f you could save money on operations, improve curb appeal, and enhance the quality of
service you’re receiving at your cemetery, would you be interested?
landscape contractors are the only
accurate ways to perform a cost-benefit
comparison. Other financial factors to
Landscape maintenance is often one Is outsourcing the appropriate option? consider are risk and liability, technical
of the last services to outsource. These Whether you are making the decision to expertise, and time spent managing the
services are typically kept in-house due outsource your landscape maintenance or in-house staff.
to concerns with achieving the preferred keep it in-house, it’s important to consider • Am I happy with the quality and per-
aesthetics, unfamiliarity with the process and evaluate the following before making formance of my in-house labor? Is your
of selecting a contractor, or an uncertainty that decision: staff able to accomplish everything that
with the cost of outsourcing this work. • Does this make sense financially? needs to be done? During peak times
If you’re one of the 50% of grounds or Typically, the cost to outsource ser- such as snow removal, leaf removal,
operations managers who still self-perform vices will be less, as you will only be mulching, and spring turf surge growth,
landscape maintenance, then outsourcing is paying for a portion of the employees’ is your staff able to keep up with the
an option that deserves consideration. time and the equipment that your site workload? Are you paying a lot of
From hospitals to universities, municipal- requires, rather than 100% of those overtime or leaving work undone? Are
ities to cemeteries, each industry realizes the expenses. you concerned about the safety of your
need to keep the focus entirely on the busi- • What is the actual cost of self-perform- employees or with your site conditions?
ness at hand. The outsourcing service model ing versus employing a professional Outsourcing may or may not be the
is an excellent option that provides both an contractor? Tallying the true costs of right fit for your organization. But either
experienced landscape service provider as performing and managing the service way, it’s important to self-evaluate your
well as peace of mind for managers, allowing in-house and comparing that with ser- needs, current operations pros and cons,
them to focus on their core business. vice proposal quotes from professional and future goals.
I
F YOU COULD SAVE MONEY on operations, improve curb allowing them to focus on their core business.
appeal, and enhance the quality of service you’re receiv-
What Attendees Learned
ing at your cemetery, would you be interested? Landscape
•The pros and cons of outsourcing vs self-performing labor.
maintenance is often one of the last services to outsource.
These services are typically kept in-house due to concerns
•Attendees were taken through colleague case studies on
the decision-making process.
with achieving the preferred aesthetics, unfamiliarity with
the process of selecting a contractor, or an uncertainty with
•Attendees walked away with a greater understanding of
the benefits of outsourcing labor along with a cost-ben-
the cost of outsourcing this work. If you’re one of the 50% of
efit analysis worksheet to better assist them in the deci-
grounds or operations managers who still self-perform land-
sion-making process.
scape maintenance, then outsourcing is an option that deserves
Don Winsett, vice president of National Business Ed Gallagher, operations manager of National Business
Development at The Davey Tree Expert Company, is a Development at The Davey Tree Expert Company, has
30-year veteran of the green services industry and a served in many different capacities over the past 30 years
pacesetting thought leader. He’s an oft-quoted industry with various companies in our industry, including 10 years
expert and a frequent speaker on tree maintenance, with the Davey Company from 1996 to 2006. During that
storm readiness, irrigation management, and landscape time, Ed served as the project lead on the Red Roof Inn
industry success. For the past seven years, Don has led renovation project, National Project Developer and
Davey’s business development team through a visionary growth plan, Midwest Operations Manager for our Commercial Grounds Management
connecting the Company’s research-based best practices with customer division. Ed was Manager of the year in 2001 for CLS and a member of the
experience innovation, exponentially expanding Davey’s already-impressive Presidents Council from 2001–04. He was instrumental in the development
client portfolio. Don currently serves on the ICCFA Sales and Marketing of Davey Golf and the Davey Institute of Grounds Management. Ed is
Committee, the National Association of Landscape Professionals (NALP) involved with a wide variety of industry organizations, including the Building
Foundation Board, and the Student Conservation Association (SCA) board. Owners and Managers Association (BOMA), International Facility
He is former president of ISA’s Florida Chapter, and past chair of U.S. Forest Management Association (IFMA), Sales Management Association (SMA) and
Service Sustainable Urban Forest Coalition. Contact Don Winsett at don. National Association of Landscape Professionals (NALP). Contact Ed
winsett@davey.com or 954-303-3333. Gallagher at Ed.gallagher@davey.com or 330-612-8631. Visit YouTube at
https://youtu.be/6FtLrHHzA0I to see the full presentation.
To learn more about how our team can help your company, contact our
Funeral and Cemetery Trust Services Manager.
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D
ISRUPTION HAS BEEN A BUZZWORD
in the business world for more than a decade,
with dozens of business books written on the
subject. The term is so ubiquitous that I think it’s lost
much of its initial impact or meaning.
What exactly is disruption? A simple diction to, that we weren’t comfortable with, and that we
ary definition would read something like this: didn’t think were “optimal.”
“Disruption is a disturbance or problem, which It also required that we jettison many long-held
interrupts an event, activity or process.” Another assertions about our profession and our customers.
would be: “Radical change to an existing industry or In a certain sense, COVID-19 kicked a door wide
market due to technological innovation.” Those two open for us, and presented us with a world of opportu-
definitions give us a good context within which to nities that we didn’t know existed, and would likely have
look at disruption. been too timid or comfortable to reach for.
I don’t know about you, but after the last year That door is still wide open, but increasingly I see
and a half, I’m feeling pretty disrupted. I feel many individuals and firms desperately trying to shut it
disrupted personally, financially, and profession- again, and try to get back to “the way it used to be.”
ally. Our entire society has been ripped out of its Folks, that isn’t going to happen—and if that
comfort zone, and the echoes and aftereffects will becomes our focus, we lose the chance of a lifetime.
continue for years. It’s been a painful past year; but is
it all bad? Does it need to be? Disrupt Yourself
COVID-19, and the resulting lockdowns and The advertising firm that our company partners with,
restrictions, disrupted the entire world and changed McKee Wallwork & Co, has been working with us
everything—FAST! Our employees, our businesses, and for several years on the need to intentionally disrupt
our customers were all forced to rapidly change and ourselves, and leapfrog back to a more growth-oriented
begin operating in ways that we didn’t necessarily want stage of our lifecycle.
Many of you are probably familiar with some of the different The lockdowns
ways that the concept of a “Disruption Cycle” can be graphically
displayed. McKee introduced us to a model that looks much like and restrictions
a wheel.
A business naturally moves through the various stages of the
were “done to us,”
wheel in its lifecycle, starting with “Acceleration,” then to “Matura- but the overnight
tion,” “Saturation,” and “Commoditization.” At the Saturation and
Commoditization stages, a business isn’t really growing, it is simply
operational changes
trying to hold on to where it is—it is dying. In the end, that is a we undertook were by choice—that
losing game.
Is that death inevitable? No, it is not, but the only way to leap- was us disrupting ourselves. “Are
frog back into an earlier phase like Acceleration or Maturation is to we going to dispense with all those
Disrupt yourself.
“But wait just a minute,” you might say, “two paragraphs ago investments in technology, all the
you told us that COVID-19 disrupted us all, so aren’t we all shifting
back in the cycle?” The answer to that is “no.” There is a significant
process improvements, and all the
difference between “being disrupted” and “disrupting yourself.” If additional ways we developed to
you were disrupted, and are now focused on getting back to the
way you did things pre-disruption, then you won’t recognize or take interact with families?”
advantage of the opportunities available through that opened door.
Now, the upside of COVID-19 is that it disrupted everyone, improvements, and all the additional ways we developed to interact
but it also forced most of us to disrupt ourselves almost overnight. with families?”
We figured out and implemented ways to continue to perform our Are we trying to go back to the limited and tightly controlled
critical functions and still support the families we serve. We imme- world most of us enjoyed before? The bigger question is, “Will our
diately adopted technological and procedural changes to allow us to customers let us go back to the old way of doing things, now that
operate in a COVID restricted way. they know for a fact that we can operate differently, and can now
The lockdowns and restrictions were “done to us,” but the over- serve them in the way they are served by every other industry they
night operational changes we undertook were by choice—that was interact with?”
us disrupting ourselves. The question before us is, “Are we going to I suspect that those who try to turn back the clock will pay a
dispense with all those investments in technology, all the process price for doing so.
A
LL BUSINESSES ARE DYING; they just what we delivered to the customer of the past!
might be at different stages of their life
What Attendees Learned
cycle. Is this life cycle a linear progres-
sion that can’t be reversed or can a business
•There is an absolute necessity to start addressing these
questions in a strategic way, despite what our short-term
“disrupt” or “re-invent” itself in such a way
metrics might suggest. Adapt or die.
that it leaps backward to a healthier stage?
This affects all businesses, and, in some cases,
•We must face the reality that there will be no “back-to-nor-
mal” state of being after COVID-19 is past—the world has
those businesses that think they are the strongest are the most
permanently shifted on its axis, so deal with it.
vulnerable and blind to the threat. On top of that, COVID-19
took over the world and forcibly rearranged operations and ex-
•Let go of what you hold dear and provide what the future
customer will hold dear. We need to stop trying to convince
pectations in a rapid and brutal way. The firm that Chris Keller
that future customer that they need to value what we value.
helps lead is digging deeper beyond the surface metrics and is
beginning to see the need to completely disrupt their busi-
•2020 was a dumpster fire all the way around; but embed-
ded in that are huge opportunities to redesign and reset
ness, both organically and by leveraging the changes already
your business for the future.
brought about by COVID-19. The reality of this is terrifying but
CASKET&
it becomes necessary are those who established
the business in the first place. Very quickly,
MAUSOLEUM
the institutional knowledge of how to do those
things becomes a distant memory, and we get
complacent with our success. COVID was a
wake-up call for all of us—that everything can
change in a heartbeat.
PROTECTION
MausoGuard
TM
by Beth Kmiec
A
lthough Michael Jordan was
certainly talking about sports,
the theory behind his philosophy
applies to all aspects of life and work. It
happens sometimes that we dive into a
project or process, thinking we know what
needs to be done, and spend little time
really learning and embracing some of
the most fundamental aspects. It is only
months or years later when we realize
that we are not on exactly the path we’d
hoped, and if we had spent more time
learning those fundamentals, things might
have gone another way.
“Get the fundamentals down
and the level of everything One area where this is a very common occurrence for ceme-
tery owners and managers is cemetery trusts. There are so many
you do will rise.” other pressing concerns that it is often difficult to take the time to
—Michael Jordan learn all the basics of cemetery trusts. This article will walk you
through some of the most fundamental issues related to cemetery
Perpetual/Endowment Care trusts and cemetery Merchandise and
Services trusts. You will learn:
• Which Perpetual Care Trust laws you should focus on; brand new (early life cycle), you are relying on the distributions from
• How to approach investing Perpetual Care Funds; the trust to offset important maintenance costs, and/or you have a
• The rules that matter when it comes to your Merchandise and low risk tolerance, you would invest for income production.
Services Trust; and If, however, your state allows total return unitrust distributions,
• How to approach investing Merchandise and Services Funds. you are early in the cemetery life cycle, you don’t need or intend
to take distributions from a trust immediately, and/or you have a
Perpetual/Endowment Care Trusts higher tolerance for short-term market fluctuation, then you might
The two most fundamental aspects to understand when it comes choose to invest for total return using a mixture of fixed income
to Perpetual Care Trusts are the rules and regulations in your state and equity securities.
and your investment approach. When it comes to the rules and It is essential that you understand the differences between these
regulations, you want to make sure you have a strong understand- two methods as they will produce drastically different results. Hav-
ing of: ing a basic understanding of the questions you need to ask, as listed
1. Required contribution amounts and timing for trust deposits; above, will help you accomplish your intended goals from the start.
2. Requirements for establishing the trust, such as state approvals Once you have a solid understanding of the four areas of your
and minimum initial deposits; state’s rules and regulations as well as the two primary types of
3. State annual reporting requirements and required information; trust investing, you will be able to manage your Perpetual Care
and Funds more confidently and successfully, ultimately achieving the
4. Any restrictions on investments or fees. goals you set to achieve.
Once you understand these four items for your Perpetual Care
Trust, you will have covered the main requirements to keep your Merchandise and Services Trusts
trust in compliance and functioning the way it should. Next, you When it comes to Merchandise and Services Trusts, the two areas
can shift your focus to how you invest your trust funds. of utmost importance are very similar to Perpetual Care Trusts.
There are two general approaches to investing Perpetual Care You first need to understand the different rules and regulations in
Trust funds: (1) investing for income production or (2) investing for your state, and how to approach the investing of the trust funds.
total return. The way you choose to invest your funds will depend on Unlike Perpetual Care funds, however, there are often more options
a number of factors, including risk tolerance, allowable distribution to consider when setting up your investment approach for a
methods in your state, the life cycle of your cemetery, and your need Merchandise and Services Trust, as there is frequently much more
to either maximize current distributions or long-term fund growth. flexibility in how the rules and regulations are written.
Typically, if you are in a position where your state only allows dis- You’ll first want to understand what amounts your cemetery can
tributions of traditional trust accounting income, your cemetery isn’t keep and what amounts are required to be placed into trust, as well
W
HETHER YOU ARE NEW TO CEME- this understanding (trustee, investment advisor, financial,
TERY MANAGEMENT or just need a etc)? Understand which states have enacted total return
refresher, cemetery trusts, both pre- legislation and what that means in today’s economy.
need and perpetual/endowment care, have Learn what to do if your total return unitrust amount has
unique and varied rules that can be com- failed one of the tests due to a downturn in the market.
plicated even for the most senior members
of your staff. Beth Kmiec reviewed various
•Preneed Cemetery Trust: Focus on what is allowed in
different states in terms of retainage. Understand how
aspects of cemetery trusting including trust investing, total you might set your retainage amount (when the law is
return or otherwise, appropriate funding, following state either silent or you want to set aside more). Review rules
guidelines, and what to do when there aren’t guidelines. you may want to think about and implement related to a
preneed cemetery sales program and what impact they
could have to your bottom line.
A
you are not ready, however, I can sit here with you in your pain. LOSS BY SUICIDE is like no other and
I will do that for you if that’s what you need right now.” the grief can be especially traumatic.
Given that many of these families feel
Spotting the Signs intense shame and might even be unwill-
If they say something like, “I don’t want to live,” and you feel a fore- ing to confide it was a suicide, directors
boding sense of despair in whatever words they speak, your brain are often unsure of the right thing to do
will say, “They just don’t know how to move forward.” It might mean or say. Anne Moss Rogers offered guid-
that. But for safety’s sake, please assume they are suicidal. ance on working with families who have suffered a loss by
•You say: “I feel a deep sense of despair that is alarming, and I suicide and includes downloads and handouts for families.
worry for your safety. I know those in early grief often struggle
with thoughts of suicide. Are you thinking of suicide?”
•They say: “Yes. I guess I might be.”
•You say: “Tell me more about how you feel.”
•Next: They express their feelings. Listen long enough so they
feel heard. Then interject gently and say, “This is serious. I want
to make sure you are safe from suicide. That is my primary
concern and I want to help. Let’s call [insert local crisis line
resource] together right now on speaker
phone so we can connect you with
someone who can keep you safe from
suicide. Is that OK?”
You should ask directly, and you will
not be held legally liable for “planting the
idea in their heads.” Studies have shown
that idea is a myth. If you could “plant
ideas in people’s heads,” lectures to your
children or other relatives would mirac-
ulously transform them into perfect
human beings. Has that ever happened?
I know the deathcare industry cares
To download free eBooks, about the families they serve. And a
go to annemoss.com/shop compassionate approach that doesn’t
perpetuate shame helps erode the stigma
surrounding this cause of death, prevents further loss by suicide, and
helps families on a healthy path to healing.
Anne Moss Rogers is a public speaker on grief and presents on the deathcare
industry topic, “How to talk to families who’ve suffered a loss by suicide.” She
has written two books, an award-winning memoir called Diary of a Broken
Mind (2019) and Emotionally Naked: A Teacher’s Guide to Preventing Suicide
and Recognizing Students at Risk publishing in August 2021. Find her at
AnneMossRogers.com and EmotionallyNaked.com. Download Anne Moss
Rogers’ books and free eBooks by going to annemoss.com/shop.
H
OW CAN ANYBODY SUCCEED in today’s increasingly
demanding and uncertain world of work? How do you navigate
through constantly shifting priorities and unclear lines of
authority? How should you think and conduct yourself when there are
so many factors outside your control?
When boom goes to bust or bust goes back to There are as many different styles and stories as
boom, who is still indispensable? Who will keep add- there are go-to people. And there are many wannabes
ing value, no matter what? and plenty of imposters.
It is those I call “go-to” people. They are the people You might think that the indispensable person
I’ve been studying for decades now. They are the true is the person who is the technical expert who has
indispensables in every workplace, those upon whom a relative monopoly on vital skills for key tasks and
you should look to model yourself—in the best of responsibilities.
times—and especially in challenging of times. Of course, your ability to do your job is of the
What truly sets apart those truly indispensable utmost importance. But that’s just the price of entry.
go-to people? In fact, most people would much rather work with
someone who may not be the greatest technical
expert, but who is reliable and good to work with;
someone who has a great attitude and takes personal
responsibility for the role and what he or she can do to
make the situation better now.
Does that mean the indispensable person is the
one who always says yes, yes, yes, to any request or
proposition? No.
I’ve seen hundreds of cases where the person who
says yes, yes, yes, to please you up front, isn’t able to
deliver on the back end. Their overpromising causes
you more problems than you had to begin with. And
I’ve seen hundreds of cases of people who say yes,
yes, yes, who are indeed honorable, responsible, and
capable, but become over committed; therefore, they
start juggling too many competing priorities and
inevitably start dropping the balls and getting burned
out and overbooked. Most people prefer to work with
somebody who makes promises they can keep over
somebody who promises the world but doesn’t deliver.
B
RUCE TULGAN—Rainmaker Thinking, •Keep getting better and better at working together. Channel
Inc.—has taken experienced leaders finger-pointing into continuous improvement. Make authentic,
through one problem-solving session extreme gratitude one of your signatures. And look around the
after another, focusing on one real life case corner with your colleagues to try to plan ahead for the next
study after another: “Who are the employ- opportunity to work together.
ees you are really struggling with? What •The more valuable you make yourself to others, the more they
are the really tough cases?” Like clockwork, will truly want to work with you, want to make good use of
the same basic cases come up over and over again—the your time, want to do things for you too, and really, truly want
same 27. Maybe it’s the superstar employee that the manag- you to succeed.
er is afraid of losing, the slacker the manager cannot figure That’s what it means to be indispensable.
out how to motivate, the one with an attitude problem,
or the two who cannot get along. Bruce Tulgan drew on Bruce Tulgan of Rainmaker Thinking, Inc. based this article on his new book,
The Art of Being Indispensable at Work, (Harvard Business Review Press).
decades of research, sharing true stories from real managers,
He is the CEO of RainmakerThinking, the management research, consulting,
blending humor, insight, and concrete best-practices to show
and training firm he founded in 1993. All his work is based on 27 years of
participants how to apply the management fundamentals to intensive workplace interviews and has been featured in thousands of news
the challenges managers most often face. stories around the world.
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Cremation
Permanent Placement
Educating Families About the ‘Whys’
by Alan D. Wolfelt, PhD
T
ODAY’S FAMILIES LACK AN UNDERSTANDING of the importance
of permanent placement and memorialization. This unfortunate
trend goes hand-in-hand with the rise in cremation, which, in and
of itself, is a perfectly acceptable choice. The problem I am addressing
in this article lies in what happens next.
More and more families are taking cremated If you educate the families you serve, you have the
remains home with them, often without a plan of what power to help them make transformative choices.
to do with them. In the long run, home storage of Through education, you can help families make deci-
remains creates some unique challenges: sions that are good for them.
• What do people do with the cremated remains
they are accumulating in their homes?
• When they move out of their homes, perhaps into
If you educate the families you serve,
a retirement community or assisted living, do they
take all the remains with them? you have the power to help them make
• And when they, too, are gone, what will happen to
all the remains? transformative choices. Through education,
• Will their children or nieces and nephews become you can help families make decisions that
caretakers?
Other families are choosing to scatter cremated are good for them.
remains, which also can create long-term problems.
In a 2019 National Funeral Directors Association
consumer study, 48 percent of cremation customers Educational Tools to Assist You
indicated they prefer the idea of scattering remains in
a sentimental place. But without a final resting place to “The secret in education lies in respecting
know about and visit, many grieving people end up feel- the student.”—Ralph Waldo Emerson
ing adrift and lost, not knowing where to direct their
grief. For decades, I have advocated for the importance of
As a cemetarian or funeral director, you are a elements-rich funeral ceremonies. Full-service funerals
professional with a time-tested, honored solution to are so critical because they help mourners, in multi-
this widespread and growing problem. You are the ple ways, embark on a healthy path to healing. Unless
key. You are the person in the position to help families deathcare providers like you teach them the value of
understand the value of permanent placement and the various elements of ceremony, today’s families
memorialization. often eliminate visitations and the use of symbols
D
the “whys” of permanent memorialization, you’ll be
R. ALAN WOLFELT with the Center for Loss & Life Transition
prepared to educate them as follows:
explored the reality that more and more people are questioning the
value of funerals and the need for permanent memorialization. When
Respect—
people don’t understand the WHY, they are at risk for confusing efficiency
Even in death, the body of a precious loved one
with effectiveness. Dr. Wolfelt focused on the WHY. He reminded us
deserves respect. When we place the remains in a
that our ability to sensitively convey the value of this important decision
permanent, secure, sacred, and public location, we are
is directly related to our fundamental belief in its importance. This
forever honoring the life of the person who died as well
inspirational, information-rich presentation encouraged us to use a model
as the body that animated that life.
of information, education, and honoring of choices. In doing so, we will
not only be looking out for the families we serve, we will be fostering the
Connection—
long-term well-being of our community and of society.
A final resting place is a special place for you and others
to visit, as well as a spot for friends and family to gather
Peace of Mind—
As cremation becomes more and more
popular, many families are accumulating
cremated remains in their homes. What will
happen to all those urns and other contain-
ers in the future? Choosing a secure, appro-
priate, final resting place for each loved one
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of mind.
Navigating
New
Virtual
the
they need to help loved ones process the pain and heal, including
remote options? Have you made it clear that your home can deliver
what they need, both in person and to those attending remotely? If
not, please consider the following Best Practices:
A
What Attendees learned
whole, including their understanding of
what grieving families really need. Don’t be
S A RESULT OF the
pandemic, funeral
•
Why the remote attendee experi-
ence is important and the implica-
afraid to get into the details, such as: homes had to
tions that experience can have on a
• Does the company offer tech support quickly pivot to live
funeral home’s brand image
before, during, and/or after the service? streaming services.
•
Live streaming 2.0. What are live
• Are their team members available 7 This often meant
streaming best practices and how
days a week, 365 days a year, just like that there were far
can a funeral director adopt these
you have to be? more remote attendees than in-person
going forward? (supported with
• Can the company run a live broadcast attendees at funerals. Bruce Likly
actual examples), and
test as part of your training? explored the ways in which funeral
•
What the pros and cons are of dif-
• Is the technology easy enough for even directors can build their virtual brand
ferent live streaming platforms, and
your most tech-hesitant staff members by adopting best practices to create
tips for getting started or “upping
to use? an online environment that closely
your game.”
• Can the livestream be scheduled,
tested, and the viewing link shared in
advance? may miss the purely in-person days of the Bruce Likly, president of TribuCast, co-founded
• Can a livestream be scheduled at the past, the future is here and it demands that the company in 2016 and launched it nationally
last minute? we know, not just how to “go remote,” but in 2018. TribuCast offers its highly personalized
• Can livestreams be started early or how to do it well. livestreaming services to clients worldwide,
and in the past year has enabled 1.5 million
delayed? Or do you have to adhere to a As families are increasingly dispersed
people to attend the services of a loved one
rigid schedule? across the country and the world, it is
remotely. This article is based on an educational
• How easy is the technology for end incumbent upon us to help this diaspora presentation, “Livestreaming 2.0: Building your
users to engage with, especially the of mourners come together, online and in Virtual Brand,” from the 2021 Virtual ICCFA
elderly? person, to share their grief. It’s the virtual Convention. Likly is a frequent guest lecturer at
• Is tech support available for remote new normal, and it’s critical to your busi- state conventions and mortuary schools. Learn
attendees in real time? ness and your brand to make it work for more at TribuCast.com, or contact him directly
• Does the technology have the capa- bereaved families. at bruce@tribucast.com.
bility for personalization beyond the
livestream?
• Can a livestream recording be pre-
served online? If so, for how long?
• Can the recording be downloaded by
the family for free afterward?
• What are the company’s privacy
practices? R E L A M PI N G
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T’S ALMOST AN INVOLUNTARY FLINCH. Another book comes out about might be implemented within funeral ser-
the funeral business and funeral home owners, directors, and consultants tighten vice. And like any commentary, Eric’s book
their collective stomachs waiting for the proverbial punch. Indeed, many may have has received a few rebuffs; but for the most
anticipated the same reaction when hearing about Eric Layer’s newest release, The Right part, his ideas and suggestions have been
Way of Death. embraced in the spirit in which offered.
Many find it to be the ultimate handbook
Eric’s book is far from a hatchet job on to restoring and revitalizing their funeral
the profession, however—in fact, he spends business.
as much ink defending funeral homes “The endorsement (of my book) that
against detractors as he does identifying meant the most to me was one owner who
opportunities for improvement. His is a fac- called it ‘a pat on the back and a kick in the
tual, analytical commentary based not just tail,’” says Eric with a smile.
on extensive research but real-world results. “I think there are a lot of ways funeral
What’s more, the author is intimately famil- homes are trying to evolve,” says Eric, “and
iar with this line of work. most are making really good efforts. It’s
Eric grew up around the funeral busi- important to bear in mind that this work
ness; his parents even exchanged wedding is never done. The business model will
vows in the funeral home chapel where constantly be evolving and will continually
they were employed. Far from trying to change.”
tear down concepts and practices that he This is true of any business. Keeping up
has personally witnessed and respected his with changing attitudes, technology, and
entire life, Eric’s objective with this book society in general is all part of sustaining a
is to help funeral home owners, just as he successful business.
and his partner, Jonathan David Lewis, have “For funeral home owners, the challenge
assisted hundreds of struggling or stalled becomes endurance and timing,” adds Eric.
businesses. “How do we know how many pieces of that
Eric and Jonathan are the owners of whole puzzle to keep and which ones to
McKee Wallwork & Co. (MW+C) an throw away?”
award-winning advertising agency and mar- to Fortune 100 behemoths. Describing Eric suggests that in an effort to keep up
keting consultancy specializing in turning themselves as “turnaround artists, brand and evolve, some funeral home owners may
around stalled, stuck, and stale brands. survival experts and masters of sailing have actually over-corrected.
More specifically, MW+C has mapped through the tumultuous waters of change,” “For example,” he explains, “funeral
the internal health of thousands of busi- they’ve actually proven the ideas shared in directors have always been leaders in
nesses, including hundreds of funeral Eric’s book—not only with funeral homes their communities—often more than they
homes, using a proprietary process known throughout the country, but in industries appreciate themselves for. As these societal
as the “Disruption Cycle.” In a matter of as diverse as manufacturing, healthcare, changes occur, I’ve seen many pull back and
minutes, funeral home owners and direc- and retail. struggle with finding ways to react rather
tors can identify challenges and successes Given this impressive backdrop, the sub- than lead. The truth is, the people you serve
unique to that industry. This tool even helps title of Eric’s book—Restoring the American need your guidance, truth, and expertise in
paint a picture of how a business measures Funeral Business to Its True Calling—is not this space now more than ever.”
up against its competition. just hot air; this is a substantial book with a Eric stresses that innovation is a journey,
Having put in the hard work, this mission. not a destination. “We all know the stories
24-year-old company can now enjoy about pulling the pews out of chapels and
bragging rights for breathing life back Mission versus Model converting extra space to reception centers,”
into—sometimes actually saving—hundreds Eric takes a realistic and very businesslike says Eric. “You can never think of that as
of brands, from hometown funeral homes look at where and how improvements checking the innovation box. Those are
adaptation in the ever-changing face of known all along. He encourages leaders in “I’ll be communicating many of the main
the American death perception. Certainly, the field to take back the reins and steward- themes from The Right Way of Death,” Jon-
the skyrocketing increase in cremation ship, and to be open to the changes that are athan says. “I’ll also be sharing stories about
services and “new-age” alternate forms here and on the horizon. where those themes and learning came from
of burial prove that there are as many Jonathan, a celebrated author in his own and how they can be applied today to a very
different ideas of the “right way” as there right, concurs with these precepts and will new and challenging business environment.”
are people. be a featured speaker at this year’s 2021 Jonathan believes that change within
Clients have evolving ideas and expecta- Fall Management & Leadership Confer- the industry relates to the mindset and his
tions and the competition seems to expand ence at the Mountain Shadows Resort in upcoming ICCFA presentation will focus
daily. But what Eric is trying to convey in Paradise Valley, AZ, September 14–16. on that. “That’s going to be the heart of the
his book is what the leaders and histori- Registration for the conference is open at presentation,” he says. “A lot of speakers will
ans of the funeral profession already have www.iccfa.com/fall. deride professionals in this category or tell
them how they’re wrong. Many speakers
will also tickle their ears and tell them what
they want to hear. The work that our firm
What people are saying … and Eric has pioneered, is to tell the truth.
The truth is that mindsets need to change if
the profession is going to remain as highly
relevant as it has been.”
“Layer has given us exactly what we needed—a You can find The Right Way of Death on
pat on the back and a kick in the tail.
”
—Gary Freytag, President & CEO,
Amazon.
“ Eric’s poignant perspective provides a tonic for Right Way of Death: Restoring
”
the American Funeral Business
our times and a guiding light forward. to Its True Calling. Eric’s
—Darin Drabing, CEO, childhood was marked by
firsthand experience with the
Forest Lawn Memorial Parks & Mortuaries funeral homes and cemetery
where his family built their careers. Today, he
NEW VENTURES company. I am unaware of this structure while remembering just how fabulous a
existing elsewhere in our profession.” TJ person you were. Filled with curious facts
Smart, the company’s COO added, “We’ve and funny anecdotes about funeral tradi-
built our careers on relationships, and we tions, famous funerals, and more, It’s Your
intend to build our company that way. True Funeral! incorporates death positivity into
Milestone community minded funeral or cemetery every page by encouraging readers to use
Funeral professionals are key to the communities we the writing prompts and guided worksheets
Partners, do business in. By applying our key principles throughout to help record their wishes for
the of true ownership, individualized leadership posterity. This is the ideal book for people
first-ever, development, and local (decentralized) who are anxious or curious about death and
privately decision making, we know that Milestone want to engage with the topic in a funny,
equity Funeral Partners can be the consolidator of candid way that destigmatizes it. Perfect for
backed, New England based, funeral and choice for owners here in the Northeast.” readers of practical books on death like The
cemetery acquisition company, was launched Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning.
in late May. Michael Martel of Auburn, ME and NEW BOOKS
Timothy “TJ” Smart of Oakland, ME, founded Think outside the coffin ON THE MOVE
the company after 25+ years of managing with It’s Your Funeral: Plan
funeral homes, cemeteries, and crematories the Celebration of a
(for a large consolidator) across New England, Lifetime—Before It’s Too
NY, and PA. Michael Martel, Milestone’s CEO Late by Kathy Benjamin, a
stated, “Our company is founded on partner- practical, thoughtful, and
ship. TJ and I are partners in growth, leader- cheeky guide with one Thacker Caskets is excited
ship, and operations. Our equity sponsor is a central idea: planning your own funeral to honor Bob Cullen, who
true partner. And most importantly, every one should be a blast! You might not be able to recently celebrated 30
of our businesses is managed by a local attend your final send-off, but you can years with Thacker Caskets.
managing partner, who owns real equity in the ensure your loved ones have peace of mind Bob is an integral part of
Thacker Caskets and a great
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values revered in every branch of our military. Respect. Dedication. Commitment to community.
Delivering sales excellence. with the surge in demand for burial caskets
primarily driven by estimated higher deaths
from the COVID-19 pandemic.
“COVID-19 has made a permanent impres-
Grow sales by providing the best sion on all of us, but as we begin the recovery
process, it is vital that we come together as
tools to help your consultants a community and make investments in the
deliver great customer service. future of funeral service and funeral profes-
sionals,” said Trainor. “A lot of professional
programs and other activities got put on the
back burner last year, and this is one way we
can help reinvigorate our industry.”
The company is working with leaders from
the following organizations to identify the
areas of greatest need and determine how the
Honoring Lives funds will be directed: Crema-
tion Association of North America (CANA),
Mount Auburn Cemetery, Cambridge, MA, etery. With more than 15 years one of the most ambitious and
is delighted to announce the selection of leadership experience, he has a complex urban greening projects
Matthew Stephens to be its 14th president strong track record of increas- ever completed, where 1 million
and CEO. A vocal advocate for the power ing public enjoyment of green trees were planted throughout
of green spaces in urban environments and spaces, creating a high standard New York City. For his efforts, he
an outstanding business leader with strong of horticultural excellence, and earned the 2013 Isaac Lieberman
experience in strategic planning, Matthew will inspiring new generations of Award for outstanding public
begin in his new role in September. financial supporters for nonprofit service among New York City’s
The goal throughout the search was to institutions. In his past roles, he 325,000 municipal employees.
identify a leader committed to advancing fostered new partnerships, effec- A graduate of Illinois State Uni-
Mount Auburn Cemetery’s mission, values, tively prioritized operational needs, created versity, Matthew earned his Master of Science
and aspirations. Mount Auburn was fortunate the groundwork for effective capital cam- in Public Horticulture from the University of
to have an outstanding slate of candidates; paigns and managed critical capital projects. Delaware in the prestigious Longwood Grad-
among them, Matthew stood out for his Matthew most recently served as the uate Program. He will begin in his new role in
ability to be both an effective steward for the director of the San Francisco Conservato- September.
physical space and a strong leader with an ry of Flowers, Japanese Tea Garden, and As Mount Auburn approaches its 200th
understanding of how much Mount Auburn Botanical Garden. During his time in this role, anniversary in 2031, it will explore many
Cemetery can contribute to Greater Boston. he increased membership, attendance and opportunities to consider how to continue its
Matthew has the energy, vision and exper- investment. Previously, Matthew led Million- long history of effectively connecting this spe-
tise to successfully lead Mount Auburn Cem- TreesNYC under Mayor Michael Bloomberg, cial place with nearby residents and visitors.
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long-range profitability planning. He will work who has extensive experience in the sales and
ON THE MOVE closely with the enterprise strategy team as sales management field. Before his current
well as the sales, marketing and financial de- position, he worked as a senior preplanning
partments to develop new products and eval- advisor with a national funeral home company
uate opportunities to support Homesteaders’ where he excelled at presenting seminars and
corporate goals. “I was immediately attracted building successful sales teams. Carl attended
to Homesteaders’ culture, its commitment to Tulane University where he studied Business
the community and its disciplined strategic Administration. Compassion and helping fam-
planning,” Tom affirmed. “The company is well ilies are the motivating factors in his career.
Steve Pick, Homesteaders Executive VP- positioned for continued success with current Carl has a son, Carl III, and a daughter, Dan-
Chief Financial Officer, has announced that and future opportunities, and I am excited ielle. He enjoys grilling outdoors on weekends.
Tom Doruska has joined the organization as to collaborate with Homesteaders’ business
chief actuary. “We’re excited to have Tom partners to further the company’s growth.”
join Homesteaders,” says Pick. “His proven
actuarial experience and leadership will fit in
well with our already strong actuarial team.
In particular, Tom’s impressive background
in product development will be a huge asset NewBridge Group, a leading
to our ongoing efforts to provide innovative funeral home succession
products and solutions to our funeral home Security National Life is pleased to announce planner, is pleased to
customers, enhancing their ability to con- that Carl Duvigneaud has been hired as the announce that Ron Gushulak
nect with consumers and the families they team sales leader in the greater New Orleans has joined the team. Ron has
serve.” In his new role, Tom will lead the team area. He will be responsible for recruiting and three decades of experience
responsible for the company’s profit testing, managing sales teams in the west bank area in business operations of
product development, actuarial services and of New Orleans. Carl is a native New Orleanian funeral homes, cemeteries, crematories and
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& Mortuaries President & Born and raised in Puerto Rico, Néctar We believe this will be a wonderful partner-
CEO Darin Drabing holds a BS in Industrial Engineering from ship.” (2) The Springs Funeral Services in
announced that Néctar L. Purdue University, an MBA from the Kellogg Colorado Springs, CO. The acquisition adds
Ramírez has been promoted School of Management at Northwestern two new locations to Foundation Partners
to senior vice president–Ad- University, and a Master’s in Human Resource Group’s Colorado network, bringing its
vance Planning. “Néctar is a Development (Adult Learning and Organiza- footprint in the state to 10 locations. “We are
remarkable leader and has made a tremen- tional Development) from Xavier University. excited to welcome The Springs Funeral
dous impact on the organization during her Services to the Foundation Partners Group
time at Forest Lawn,” said Darin. “Her MERGERS & ACQUISITIONS family,” said Tom Kominsky. (3) Seitz Funeral
knowledge of training, development, and Foundation Services, which includes Adamson Life
leadership is invaluable. She’ll be a wonderful Partners Group is Celebration Home, Northern Colorado
addition to the executive team.” Since April announcing several Crematory and Best Friends Pet Crematory of
2020, Néctar has served as the vice president– acquisitions: (1) Greeley, CO, and Viegut Funeral Home in
Advance Planning. Prior to Forest Lawn, Néc- Atkins-Northland Loveland, CO. The acquisition increases the
tar contributed to the success of Batesville Funeral Home & Foundation Partners’ network to 12 locations
Casket Company, serving in various positions Cremation Service along the Front Range from Colorado Springs
of increasing responsibility over 18 years, in Cloquet, MN. to Greeley. “We are excited to welcome Seitz
culminating in her role as a leader of Funeral The acquisition adds a sixth location to the Funeral Services into the Foundation Partners
Home and Sales Representative Training. Foundation Partners Group’s network in the Group family,” said Tom Kominsky, “The Seitz
Earlier in her career, Néctar worked as a state. “We are excited to welcome family shares our vision of providing families
consultant with the Corporate Executive Atkins-Northland Funeral Home & Cremation with personalized, meaningful services and
Board, a D.C.-based think tank designed to Service to the Foundation Partners Group their businesses will make wonderful additions
identify and teach best practices in Sales and family,” said Tom Kominsky, Foundation to our growing portfolio in Colorado.”
Human Resources to Fortune 500 companies, Partners Group chief financial officer. “Bob
with clients that included Hewlett Packard, and Karen Atkins share our values and have
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sides, customers can now view products they ney Gould Miller, chief strategy officer and
have sold on the funeral home side directly head of digital for MKJ Marketing. “We have
through CemSites’ intuitive reporting. With a focused on delivering the marketing results
direct push of data from CemSites to CRäKN, our clients are looking for, and we can now
important communications are efficient and offer all of this, plus the added convenience
easy. for staff of only having to enter in a family’s
information once. Integrating our websites
with Passare creates a seamless connection
for our clients with one of the best platforms
in funeral home software management.”
CemSites is proud to announce its integra-
tion partnership with CRäKN, an innovative Passare is excited to announce a new website
funeral management software company. This integration with MKJ Marketing. With this
integration provides customers with access integration, Passare customers who use MKJ
to direct communication between CemSites as the website provider can send obituary and Osiris Software, the leading provider of funer-
cemetery software and CRäKN’s funeral home service details to their website with a single al home, cemetery and crematory manage-
software, entirely eliminating the disconnect click. Attached are a static image and press ment software partners with the Travel Plan
between funeral homes and cemeteries. Both release with more information. Passare intro- by Inman. “We are thrilled to partner with
CRäKN and CemSites are dedicated to bring- duced its public API in early 2020 and has Dave McComb and the Travel Plan by Inman
ing the death care industry into the modern been able to partner with funeral home web- team to offer an efficient way for our Osiris
age through technological innovation. CRäKN site providers to help funeral homes stream- customers to submit a Travel Plan sale via our
and CemSites’ integrated case management line their data entry. “MKJ Marketing’s website pre-need software, Kara Ludlum, president of
features provide a direct link from cemetery designs are unique to each business and Osiris Software. “The Travel Plan button inte-
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Nearly 600 people attended the 2021 Iowa Funeral Directors Associa-
tion (IFDA) Convention and The Premier Midwest Funeral Service Expo
May 18 – 20, 2021 in Downtown Des Moines. This year, the Convention
was held at the Iowa Events Center and Hilton Downtown Des Moines
Hotel. The Convention has received overwhelmingly positive reviews
from funeral directors and exhibitors. The 2020 Annual IFDA Conven-
tion was canceled due to the ongoing Coronavirus pandemic. This year, theForesightCompanies.com
attendees, speakers and exhibitors from 23 states gather in Des Moines
and were grateful to be able to be together again for the first time since
the 2019 IFDA Convention. The IFDA Convention was one of the first
in-person Conventions in the funeral profession since the onset of the
pandemic.
Vice President, Internal Affairs Vice President, External Affairs Treasurer Secretary
Mitch Rose, CCFE, CCrE Lee Longino Christopher Keller Stacy Adams
Woodlawn Cemetery, Bronx, New Service Corporation International, Sunset Memorial Park & French NorthStar Memorial Group,
York Palm Harbor, Florida Funerals and Cremations, St. Petersburg, Florida
Albuquerque, New Mexico
Regular members elected to For the first time, Supplier/Pro- Also appointed to the board • Past President’s appointment:
serve three-year terms on the fessional members have been from the International Memorial- I. Frederick Lappin, Knoll-
ICCFA board of directors are: elected to the ICCFA Board of ization Supply Association wood Memorial Park, Canton,
• Matthew Bailey, CT Life Directors. These members will • Ronen Rybowski, Behar Map- Massachusetts
Tributes: Bailey Family serve staggered terms. Supplier/ ping LLC, East Rutherfold, New
Additionally, this year’s election
Funeral Home, Wallingford, Professional members elected to Jersey.
ballot included a proposed pro-
Connecticut the ICCFA board of directors are:
• Sean O’Regan, Woodland • Gino Merendino, Merendino
Members of the 2021–23
executive committee are:
viso asking if the ICCFA Bylaws
should be temporarily amended
Cemetery & Arboretum, Day-
ton, Ohio
Cemetery Care, Linden, New
Jersey (2-year term)
• ICCFA President: Gary M. to allow for an additional one-
•
Glendale, California
Amy Shimp, Dulaney Valley
term)
• ICCFA President-elect: Robbie tial term of Gary Freytag, CCFE,
Past presidents elected to serve L. Pape, Service Corporation and his officers to the 2023 ICCFA
Memorial Gardens, Timonium,
a one-year term on the board: International, Houston, Texas; Annual Convention & Exposition.
•
Maryland
Micah Singerman, Shalom Me-
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Memorial-Parks & Mortuaries, ident: Jay Dodds, CFSP, Park
morial Park and Funeral Home,
Glendale, California Lawn Corporation, Houston,
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Arlington Heights, Illinois
Phil Zehms, Park Lawn Corpo-
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