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6859 How To Be A Mosaic Mentor
6859 How To Be A Mosaic Mentor
Contact:
Karen Tidsall, Director
DL: 020 7281 1700
Email: Karen@interchangepeopledevelopment.com
Web: www.interchangepeopledevelopment.com
Mosaic
Founded by HRH The Prince of Wales in 2007, Mosaic’s mentoring programmes create
opportunities for young people growing up in our most deprived communities. Our
programmes are delivered by volunteers and lift the aspirations of young people, closing the
gap between those aspirations and their attainment. By linking young people with inspirational
role models in this way, we boost their confidence, self-efficacy and long-term employability.
Introduction
3 How to use this pack
4 What is the aim of Mosaic programmes?
5 Mosaic/Volunteer Pact
6 Mosaic’s Training
7 Setting Boundaries
Communication
9 Communication models
12 Listening skills
15 Clean language
16 GROW coaching cycle
19 Giving Feedback
Working in groups
21 Life cycle of a group
23 Facilitating group discussions
23 Rounds
24 Icebreakers
A young person asks if they can come to your workplace for work
experience.
A young person has lots of questions about how you met your boyfriend/
girlfriend/husband/wife.
A young person asks how much you earn and what car you drive!
Communication Models
Much of mentoring is about being an excellent communicator, so we start this section with
some different models of communication.
In this simple model, the sender sends In order to fully understand how sender and receiver even though
a message to the receiver. In practice the communication cycle works, the sender thinks s/he is being
however, we know that someone else we need to add two more elements perfectly clear in what they say.
doesn’t always understand what we which enable us to see how a The revised model looks like this:
say. We can often hear people say in message can change between the
bewilderment: “I didn’t mean that at all”.
ENCODES DECODES
This model enables us to see that Similarly, the receiver decodes understanding of what the sender
the sender encodes her or his verbal the message based on what her is saying and b) when you are the
messages and the receiver decodes or his understanding of say, what sender be as clear and congruent
them. This is because the sender a gesture means. It is precisely as possible i.e. are your words, body
at the same time as speaking will during the encoding and decoding language and voice tone all saying
place certain inflection on words, process where miscommunication the same thing. If you think the
will use non-verbal behaviour, such can and indeed does often take receiver has not ‘got’ your message
as gestures, and in any event, the place. If we use this model we can then you can ask a question like: “I
receiver may have made certain increase the possibility of messages just want to check I’ve been clear,
assumptions about the sender being received the way they were please could you tell me in your own
merely from the way they look. intended. The key to this is a) when words your understanding of what
you are the receiver, summarise your I’ve been saying”.
for instance, when you first meet the interrupt the flow of healthy and
students you are mentoring. Another effective communication.
way to think of this is that, assuming Similarly, crossing your legs can
all the faculties, more than half of the have a similar effect.
communication is visual i.e.
THE ICEBERG
Behaviour
What we say and do
Values
Beliefs
CRAFTY listening
We encourage you to be a CRAFTY Responsiveness Focus
mentor by developing the following
eing responsive rather than
B ocus on what the person is
F
skills and attributes:
reactive; If you feel provoked saying, both verbally and non-
Curiosity or challenged, your immediate verbally and suspend your
response can determine the thoughts and feelings in a bubble
aintaining a sense of wonder,
M
outcome of that altercation. in your mind’s eye. This will help
even if you think you know what
you hear what the person is
they’re going to say! Assertiveness
actually saying and help prevent
ndeavour to ascertain the other
E ssertive in this context means
A your interpretations and opinions
person’s ‘maps’, moods and we respect the other person’s getting in the way.
meanings. Even if what they’re views or perspective - even if
Thoughtfulness
saying won’t hold up under we don’t agree with them. We
scrutiny. accept that what they are saying hinking clearly enough to
T
is their reality and we give them manage yourself and your state
e respectful of and gentle with
B
space and attention to express especially under pressure.
the logic of the other person’s
themselves. We demonstrate
reasons and rationality. eing a role-model of restraint
B
respect by summarising our
and ‘grace under pressure’ can
Ask (Clean) questions. understanding of what they have
facilitate your mentees to function
said. It is only then that we assert
more intelligently.
our perspective which, if different,
can lead to a creative discussion Yes!
and expansion of thinking for all uelled by the notion of Intelligent
F
involved. Seeking to understand Optimism, a Yes! Attitude creates
before being understood is the a set of attitudes and actions
corner stone of assertiveness. based on the assumption (fantasy,
if you like) that we’re ‘in it’ together
to support each other to co-create
solutions, solve problems and
resolve conflicts together.
Each participant can learn to take 7. In order for you to be like Answer
responsibility for what they bring Y and for the meeting/session to
to the session, and be more aware be like Answer X, other members
of the importance of their own of the group will need to be like
contribution. Even if you decide what? Answer Z
not to use this format, you may 8. And what kind of Answer Z is that
find it useful to begin every Mosaic Answer Z?
mentoring session with some
9. And is there anything else about
process that acknowledges personal
Answer Z?
and collective responsibility.
What results did that produce? What else could you do?
Pre-training exercise
1. When someone is describing 2. As you travel through your days
a problem and you suspect identify situations when you
they are hoping you will come think using the GROW coaching
up with a magic answer: STOP, cycle would be helpful.
breathe and focus on listening
3. When someone asks your
and ONLY summarise your
advice about how to respond
understanding of what they are
to a situation or how to do
saying – no comments, opinions,
something, experiment with
judgments or solutions. Make
asking a question in response
a note of what happens. NB:
e.g. “What ideas do you have to
always put a time limit on
resolve this”? Note down what
this for yourself…otherwise
happens as a result of doing
you may end up listening to
this.
someone for hours!
Pre-training exercise
A thought to consider…All
behaviour is either an expression
of love or a request for love or
all behaviour is an expression of
satisfied need or a request for an
unmet need to be attended to.
When you next encounter
negative behaviour or feelings (in
yourself or others) look below the
behaviour or feeling and sense
what need is not being met. For
instance, when I’m frustrated I
may need my contribution to be
valued and acknowledged.
Example two: Mentor has noticed that a student is very quiet in the sessions
Many Mosaic mentoring sessions include working in small groups of young people, and
sometimes parents too.
The best thing that My favourite music is… I am good at… I want to be…
happened to me was…
I am not sure about… I am happiest when… I get worried by… I hope that…
I am learning to… I find it difficult to… When I am older… I would like to…
I like… I wish people would… My favourite place is… I look forward to…
I most admire… I think what my friends like I get energy when… I feel most confident
about me is… when…
Timings Who is Activity title Which content from Skills to use Key learning aims:
leading? your Resource Pack? This session will help
mentees to:
e.g. 10.00 e.g. e.g. Wheel of e.g. The Wheel of Life e.g. Clean e.g. Quickly ‘see’ their life
-10.15 Jonathan Life handout Questions; Grow and what is important to
e.g. Ask each student Coaching them and then prioritise
to score each area out those areas
of 10, with 1 being the
least satisfied and 10
being the most.
Post-sessions
The following questions are useful to consider in the teacher/mentor debrief after your mentoring session. Please
discuss as a group and make note of anything you think would aid future sessions.
Self-reflection
1. What went well and why? What did I see or hear that made me think it had gone well?
2. If all the session aims were not achieved, comment on what you think hindered that outcome?
4 What skills/models did I use and what was the impact of using them? On me and my mentees.
5. Which specific mentees do I need to pay particular attention to next time? For what reason or outcome?
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