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A PLACE OF YES by Bethenny Frankel - On Skating With The Stars
A PLACE OF YES by Bethenny Frankel - On Skating With The Stars
N aturall y Thin
Bethenny Frankel
with Eve Adamson
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You have come into my life and allowed me to come into yours.
Everything I do is to show you that anything and everything
is possible, and we will get there together.
Introduction
Who I Am, What This Book Is About,
and What You Need to Know Before You Begin 1
Rule 1
Break the Chain: Surviving Childhood 18
Rule 2
Find Your Truth: How I Finally Met My Match 64
Rule 3
Act on It: My Dream Evolves 114
Rule 4
Everything’s Your Business: Finding My Stride As an Entrepreneur 143
Rule 5
All Roads Lead to Rome: The Rise and Fall of BethennyBakes 174
Rule 6
Go for Yours: The Apprentice, Martha, and Me 201
Rule 7
Separate from the Pack: My Life as a “Housewife” 226
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Rule 8
Own It: Bethenny Getting Married? 253
Rule 9
Come Together: My Life Now 276
Rule 10
Celebrate!: The Business of Being Happy 311
Acknowledgments 323
Setting Priorities
Decide what you want, and decide what you are will-
ing to exchange for it. Establish your priorities and go
to work.
thought I could set a good example for Bryn, and for women every-
where. If I could go on a show like that at the age of 40, when I
couldn’t even skate down the ramp on the first day, wouldn’t that
inspire women? Wouldn’t they see they could do anything, if they
want it enough? I wanted it enough.
Jason was behind me 100 percent. He came from a place of yes,
and said, “You can do this. I’ll get you through it.” He could tell how
much I wanted to do it, and to him, that meant we should make it
work. Someday we could show Bryn the pictures of Mommy skat-
ing in the pretty costumes. It could actually be fun, even a bonding
activity for our family.
I definitely wasn’t free from doubts, not to mention perfection-
ist noise. I love to roller-skate, but I hadn’t really ice-skated since I
was a kid, except for a few times at Rockefeller Center, maybe every
five years or so on a date. Could I do it? What if I fell? What if I
made a complete fool of myself ? A lot of those skaters took ballet,
and I didn’t. I’m more athletic and not all that graceful, and ice-
skating is ballet on ice. What if I looked ridiculous? What if, what
if, what if ?
But fear is a mindset, and so is the will to succeed. It’s all in
how you approach it. Don’t think of all the ways you can’t do some-
thing. Think of all the ways you can. I could have focused on how
hard this would be—many of the other people on the show are just
doing the show, while I’m simultaneously filming my show, writing
my book, managing my business, and at the same time, have a new
husband and a new baby. Add to that commuting from New York to
Los Angeles every week. I could focus on how hard it would be.
Or, I could focus on how much I wanted to do it.
It might even be great. I made something great for myself out
of the Real Housewives experience, which could have been a career
killer if I’d handled it the wrong way. Also, I’m a gambler and I like
to be in on the ground floor of things. If Bravo asked me to join
the Real Housewives franchise today, I would probably say no be-
cause it’s nothing new anymore. When I said yes to that show
The next important element that can help you understand how to
make everything your business is to really decide what your busi-
ness is. Whether your business is technically a business or not, you
can’t make everything your business unless you have a clear vision
of what that means for you. Specifically, you need to have a mes-
sage, and you must know what you stand for.
A PLACE of YES
New from Bethenny!
It’s easy to say no and “I can’t,” to expect
the worst and to doubt yourself. But your life
can be better than “not bad” or “good
enough”—it can be amazing.