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Conflict Management Organized FINALS Class Notes
Conflict Management Organized FINALS Class Notes
Conflict Management Organized FINALS Class Notes
Step 1: Listen & Learn 3. “Next time it will be better” – Deal with mistakes
Truly listen, Pick up on what he’s not saying constructively
Mistakes are completely human, and happen to all of us. It is
Step 2: Become Self-Reliant
important to explain them without putting yourself down.
Step 3: Get better at communicating Explain errors confidently, and make suggestions for
Bring up the awkward subjects, Talk about your poor results, improvement. This way, you demonstrate a proactive attitude,
Show the boss your initiative required to do your job. This builds
and the ability to learn from your mistakes.
trust over time.
Step 4: Choose your battles 4. “Today I should just leave him alone” – Sit out tantrums
Good leaders will test your logic, reasoning, and sense of Sometimes even the best strategy simply doesn’t help. If the
flexibility to commit. If you’ve lost a battle, let it go. Don’t keep boss is steaming with anger, it is not a bad idea to wait, and
track on who’s winning or losing.
tackle the situation when he has calmed down.
Do you have a problem with your manager, and don’t know what
Mediation
to think about the situation? Ask a colleague that you trust for an The word “mediation” is derived from the Latin “mediare”. The
assessment. The opinion of a third party can often be very goal of mediation is that conflict participants autonomously
develop a sustainable solution for the future which corresponds
valuable.
to their interests and needs.
➔ goal oriented,
9. “He has a sense of humour” – Find something positive
➔ structured phase model,
about your manager
➔ by need-oriented discussions, and
Even if the boss is difficult, there is usually at least one thing that ➔ by modification of the parties’ communication patterns.
is, on reflection, not so bad. Try to find something positive about
your manager – even the little pleasures in life can make the day Neutrality/Impartiality, ensure openness and transparency. All
easier. parties participate equally.
Areas of application include task Mediator accompanies the parties through the process from
➔ coordination, dissent to consensus.
➔ planning,
➔ strategy development, Coaching
➔ problem analysis and Coaching is goal-oriented counselling given to an individual to
➔ problem solving. help them reflect on and deal with an existing problem.
Coaching is consequently an interaction between two people,
Facilitates the working process
where the client is an expert in matters pertaining to him
(problem) and the coach is an expert in the process (questions,
Moderators may draw on resources, such as methods
structure, etc.).
When you say moderation, it enables a group to structure and
This equality between the positions of coach and coachee (the
efficiently deal with the topic. The moderator ensures optimal
client of the coach) is of central importance, as the coaching
utilization of existing synergy potential and goal. Management
process should be viewed as a dialogue between partners.
of conflict is not the priority but the achievement of an
objective.
The coach agrees on the goal with the coachee. Both work
In mediation, Amicably resolve a conflict between 2 or more together on a strategy to achieve the goal.
people with the help of a neutral 3rd party (Moderator).
Opposition and obstacles are identified and courses of action
Ex: Moderation - A team plans and implements a new product are agreed on.
rollout
The coach works as a discreet adviser. A coach also guides the
coachee through the process and provide feedback
Supervision
Supervision is the specialist support of a team or a person by a
trained supervisor
Excessively used of coaching today and in a way open to
Team development has a purpose of transforming a group of
misinterpretation, “the boss as coach”
people into a team. To achieve this goal, a process driven by
group dynamics takes place.
This phrase goes against the principle of coach neutrality. We
can’t say that the coach is a boss. Reasons for team development:
➔ Improvement of Communication
Coaching here is different from a basketball coach who is the ➔ Cooperation and working relationship between the
boss. team members
➔ Development of team identity or clarification of
Coaching can make a valuable contribution to conflict functional roles
prevention.
Team Development is used when a company or department
merges or when new teams are put together.
What differentiates coaching from mediation?
Mediation, there are always at least two parties to the conflict What differentiates team development from mediation?
and two different positions.
Team development enables a group to work together and deal
Mediator works on bringing the two parties together, a coach with conflicts.
focuses on the interests of his client and assists him in Team development is a means of conflict prevention, as the team
understanding and dealing with conflicts. is brought into a position that enables it to independently deal
with and resolve conflicts.
An example of coaching: A department head establishes that his
whole team suffers due to conflicts between employees. He At this point a word of caution: If a conflict already exists within a
seeks the expert advice of a coach to determine how to best deal team, it is better to use mediation, as in certain circumstances
with it. team development can exacerbate a conflict.
Team development
Ex: A new working team is put together and supported by an
Team development presents a multitude of problems (power
expert adviser in its initial phase in order to optimize
struggles, formation of coalitions, conflicts of customs...), which
cooperation within the group,
can paralyse or even destroy a group before they become a team.
In team development, the process is managed by a professional
advisor to quickly get the team fit for work Organisational development versus Mediation
Organisational development (“OD”) is a long-term process aimed
at the further development and transformation of an
organisation or part of an organisation.
Objective: ➔ Improve the information flow
➔ simultaneous improvement of the performance of the ➔ Take the conflict skills(!) of candidates into consideration in
organisation (efficiency and effectiveness) and the employee selection process
➔ the quality of working conditions ➔ Create promotion and career opportunities along with
opportunities for personal and professional development
OD is concerned with ➔ Direct training not only towards professional skills, but also
➔ strategic social skills.
➔ structural and/or cultural problems.
Mediation is Complementary to Organisational development
April 22, 2021 OD has found few answers to conflict management. As the
Continuation frequency of conflicts in society increases, a universal, clearly
structured method of conflict management was long overdue.
Organisational development and Conflict Management
In the context of organisational development, conflict This can also explain why mediation as a “new” method spread
management plays a decisive role in successful change so quickly and is met with so much interest.
management.
Organizational Development
Phenomenon of conflict is important in organizational
➔ The affected parties become participants and are
psychology.
included in all phases of the process.
➔ The advisor (change agent) is responsible for the process
There is still a gap of literature regarding this issue. and not for the outcome.
➔ The process is managed by neutral change agents /
advisors.
A review of conflict literature shows that today there are only a
➔ The goal of OD is to improve the problem-solving and
few empirical studies of conflict and conflict management in transformation processes in the organisation and
organisations thereby initiate ongoing learning processes.
➔ The OD advisor encourages focus on solutions, resources
and future possibilities, instead of problems and
Often assumed that within the scope of OD, the differences of
difficulties
conflicts can be settled by addressing and resolving it
Mediation
Organisational development provides some indications as to how ➔ All participants in the conflict are included in the
conflicts can be avoided: mediation process.
➔ Make clear agreements about objectives and targets ➔ The mediator is the manager or director of the
➔ Involve your employees in the decision making process negotiations. He is not responsible for the content or the
➔ Reduce the dependency of employees on supervisors outcome.
➔ Arbitration by neutral or impartial third parties, the
➔ Give employees more individual room for manoeuvre
mediators.
still frequently feels challenged. The teamwork with her
➔ Constructive learning processes are initiated.
Participants learn how to deal differently with conflicts colleagues runs smoothly. When there are differences of opinion,
going forward. they sit down together and discuss the problem. While her boss
➔ Mediation is not concerned with problems from the has his faults, everyone knows what to expect of him. If
past, but with how the parties want to shape the future. something doesn’t go well occasionally and there is trouble with
customers, he can always be counted on to back his team. A
April 27, 2021 team meeting takes place once a week. This ensures that
Conflict Prevention everyone has the same information and issues can be openly
discussed. Only the offices are slowly becoming too small, but
Conflict Prevention that’s a different story.”
➔ Everyday Disputes in the Office
➔ Productive and Unproductive Conflicts Productive & Unproductive Conflicts
➔ Conflict Prevention Through Self-Reflection and Personal 1. What differentiates Kirsty’s working environment from
➔ Development that of her friends?
2. Why is there a much better atmosphere at her company?
Everyday Disputes in the Office 3. Is it just luck? Or is there more to it?
“Kirsty Norman meets regularly with her friends from student
days. Mostly they talk about books, politics or other current ➔ Conflicts, disagreements, and issues/problems
affairs. Lately she has noticed that the others complain more ➔ Dispute
frequently about problems at work. Sabine, for example, handed
in her notice, as she could no longer endure the constant Conflict prevention – a constructive process to manage conflicts
arguments with her boss. She’s been looking for a new job for or tensions not to magnify.
more than 2 months now. Joseph’s long-term issue is his
“favourite colleague”. If he can avoid him, the day is saved. But if Conflict prevention does not mean generally stopping conflicts
they can’t escape another in a meeting, it’s a disaster. Then there from taking place or suppressing them. Surprisingly, there are
is trouble ahead. Derogatory remarks are the norm. Recently a circumstances that management requires to incite conflicts, in
heated argument erupted. His boss appeared overwhelmed by order to set changes to established habits in motion.
the situation and changed the subject. Mark is now waiting for
an opportunity to take revenge. Paul reports with a wry smile Conflict prevention consists:
that the internal communication in his company has become ➔ avoiding unproductive conflicts
contaminated, as it’s now common practice to answer enquiries ➔ promoting constructive debate
or information emails with everyone in copy. Everybody is on
their guard and a culture of justification and blame has evolved. Productive Conflicts
➔ aimed at change
Kirsty herself is happy in her job, although that makes for a less ➔ means to an end.
interesting topic of conversation. She works as a project manager ➔ Examples
for a PR agency. She has become proficient in what she does, but ◆ strategic decision
◆ allocation of resources
◆ new hiring or outsourcing of workforce Conflict Prevention through Communication Structure
➔ Every conflict, no matter how common, can turn out to be Configuration
productive. The first fundamental aspect of conflict prevention is the
➔ Most have a positive core. In a conflict, differing structural organisation of the team.
interpretations of information clash. ➔ Constructive teamwork - an “appreciative” communication
➔ Systems theorists speak about how meaning and structure.
interpretations are negotiated in a conflict. ➔ Opportunity to frequently exchange ideas and information
➔ Often only possible in retrospect to determine whether a ◆ varying points of view can be aligned
conflict had positive aspects and what these are. ◆ differences can be recognized
◆ and tensions can be eased by discussion before
Unproductive conflicts they escalate.
➔ Misunderstandings
➔ Inadequate information or strong emotional reactions. Consequently, communication channels to facilitate regular
➔ End in itself or serves the purpose of asserting one point of exchange of information need to be established.
view over another
➔ Most conflicts are hybrid forms and contain both Formal Communication Structures
productive as well as unproductive elements Each has a role as part of a whole - opportunity to exchange
information
3 Different Levels of Prevention
1. Structural - organised forms of communication within a Ex. call centre; law firm.
company
2. Communicative - identifies how and for which reasons There are organisations where employees suffer from an
people in the organisation speak to one other or exchange excessive number of inefficient meetings. Boredom
written communications. non-attendance is the consequence. In other companies, there
3. Personal - relates to the way in which employees and are too few meetings and problems arise due to a lack of
managers consider their own behaviour and how they information exchange.
think about approaching tense situations.
For example, the communication structure in a company
➔ Regular weekly meeting with colleagues and direct
In the communicative level, conflicts arise as a result of
manager
insufficient discussion, needs, expectations are not met.
➔ Quarterly or semi-annual personal review meeting with
direct manager
On a personal level, conflicts occur due to inner tension or
➔ Annual staff outing or informal team development
individual dissatisfaction or frustrations.
workshop for the entire team.
Decision Theory Approach Stimulated by emotions, “thinking while feeling” – harder and
Decision theorists argue that we are confronted with difficult.
contradictory demands on a daily basis.
➔ Expectations can conflict with our values. Shall I go home Analyze conflicts both macro and micro level.
and have dinner with my partner, or finish my work? ➔ System dynamics (macro level) – figure out the system
➔ Or the search for pleasure clashes with the desire for a ➔ Micro-level – implicates usual state of communication
healthy lifestyle. Shall I open a bottle of wine or drink behaviour
water?
Macro-Level Analysis
This gives rise to dissonance, an inner conflict, which the person Systems Theory
must in some way resolve. This is achieved by information 1. Describing the workings of the overall system and how
selection, reinterpretation or re-evaluation. Sometimes it is done those connect to.
by bringing the inner conflict into the outside world by way of 2. Recurring communication patterns inside the system.
substitution.
Informs regarding the workings of entire systems and
subsystems in organizations, small groups, and families.
➔ helps answer the question, “How does this work?” Complexity refers to “ a high degree of system interdependence,
which…leads to nonlinearity, emergent order creation, other
Major theories of systems thinking surprising dynamics” ( Hazy, Goldstein, and Lichtenstein 2007).
➔ Wholeness
➔ Organization Systemwide Patterns
➔ Patterning We are all embedded within larger systems, thus whether a
conflict rages out of control or just simmers on the back burner,
Systems Theory Principles and Practices there are system wide forces at work. Everyone affects everyone
1. Selected principles derived from systems theory will help else.
you understand the holistic, or systematic, nature of any
conflict. Micro-Level Analysis
➔ Conflict in systems occurs in chain reactions. Several methods to the micro-level analysis
➔ Circular causality ➔ Describing triangles
➔ Descriptive language ➔ Coalitions
2. Each member develops a label and a specific role in the ➔ Interaction rules
system. ➔ Microevents
3. Cooperation among system members maintains conflicts.
4. Triangles form in systems when relationships are close and Conflict Triangles
intense (positive or negative). If you experience a conflict with someone and you talk another
5. Systems develop rules for conflict that are followed even if about it, you are joining in a conflict triangle.
they work poorly.
6. The conflict serves the system in some way “three’s a crowd”.
Complex Conflict Patterns Three people find it difficult to maintain balance in a conflict
All recurring conflicts follow patterns – predictable actions of relationship.
communication and response. Even when you can not
determine when a pattern “starts”, system regularities pervade. Drawing Coalitions-Who is in, Who is out?
A coalition forms when some are closer to each other than they
Often the structure of the conflict is only expressed indirectly or are to others.
implicitly so you can not just ask, “What is the structure of your
conflict?” When someone is in a coalition, they include select people in the
information flow and not others.
Inductive methods
1. Identifying specific system patterns, In all organizations and families with more than three members,
2. Charting conflict triangles, and coalition exist
3. Drawing coalitions.
People form coalition in order to
1. Share topic information 3. Make sure you generate rules for both behavior that must
2. Get support and understanding and behavior that must not be performed.
3. Have a sense of belonging 4. Go back over your list. Make each rule simple and
4. Gain power prescriptive. Write rules even for “obvious” communication
patterns. They may prove to be important possibilities for
Interaction Rules change
Content – Outcome (e.g., forgetting, avoiding the issue, and 5. Code each rule as to the following:
putting off a decision until something must be done). a. Whose rule is it?
b. What keeps the rule going?
“Rules” describe the underlying communications structure of c. Who enforces the rule?
the interaction. d. Who breaks the rule?
e. What function does the rule serve?
A more accurate definition of a rule is that it is “a followable 6. Discuss how the rules help or harm the productive
prescription that shows what behavior is obligated, preferred, or management of conflict.
prohibited in certain contexts@ (Shimanoff 1980, 57).
Microevents
“Rules of Engagement” ➔ “repetitive loops of observable interpersonal behaviors
…with a redundant outcome” (Metcoff and Whitaker 1982,
The following are some examples of rules 253)
➔ Rules are prescriptions for behavior stated in the following ➔ Interactions that give information about other
form: interactions.
◆ “When in context X, Y must/must not occur.”
◆ “When father presents sadness or anger, mother The following are some ways you can discover and describe
must soothe him.” microevents:
◆ “When the program director decides to assign a 1. Act as a qualitative researcher who uses observation and
case to a counselor, the counselor must accept the interviewing to determine patterns.
case or convince the program director to reassign 2. Obtain a professional third-party description of common
it.” conflicts.
3. Keep a journal of conflict episodes that seem repetitive –
Steps to elicit system rules: those that have a “here we go again” theme.
1. List explicit and implicit rules that prescribe your own and 4. Ask newcomers to a system, such as new employees, new
other’s behavior in conflicts family members, or new committee members, to describe
2. If you have trouble thinking of rules for your system, think what they have experienced so far.
of times when the rule was broken. How did you know the
rule was broken? How was the violation communicated? Conflict Assessment Guide
Write about the prescription that became obvious upon ➔ The Conflict Assessment Guide will help you map all of the
breaking the rule. central elements of your conflict.
◆ Nature of Conflict ➔ Labor and management representatives negotiating a
◆ Orientation to the Conflict work contract
◆ Interests and Goals ➔ Diplomats meeting with great formality to resolve national
◆ Power disputes.
◆ Styles
◆ Conflict and Emotions Negotiation - to settle a dispute by discussion and mutual
◆ Analyzing Interactions and Overall Patterns agreement.
◆ Attempted Solutions
◆ Negotiation Approaches:
◆ Forgiveness and Reconciliation 1. “All efforts by individual disputants to resolve for
themselves, without any third-party interventions”
Conflict Assessment Guide (Bendersky 2003, 645)
➔ Brings forth the narratives (stories) that conflict parties tell 2. The process by which a third party assists primary parties
themselves and others. Useful for focusing on the in the conflict to settle their disputes
emotional component.
◆ What happened? What is my story? ➔ Focus shifts to argument, persuasion, and specific conflict
◆ What happened? What is the other’s story? strategies involving bargaining.
◆ The feelings conversation: My story ➔ Provides a process for conflict resolution when the topic,
◆ The feelings conversations: The other’s story relationship, identity, and process issues rise in importance
◆ The identity conversation in a conflict.
The concerns (appreciation, affiliation, autonomy, status, and a The central finding from phase research
satisfactory role) sometimes become very difficult to put into ➔ successful negotiations eventually move toward
practice, even when we want to. collaborative, or integrative, processes
➔ integrative and competitive processes can be seen as
The following obstacles are adapted from Riskin’s work: intertwined
➔ Excessively self-centered perspectives ➔ the bargainers can be seen as moving from differentiation
➔ Strong negative emotions
➔ Automatic ways of thinking Third-Party Intervention
➔ Insensitivity to emotions ➔ The Need For Third Parties
➔ Insufficient social skills and lack of mental focus ➔ Advantages of Using Skilled Third Parties
➔ Informal Help
The Language of Integration ➔ Formal Intervention
Collaboration is both a mindset and a set of techniques. If one
does not believe that energetic cooperation will provide better The Need For Third-Parties
solutions than competitive techniques, all the language of Conflicts present lots of challenges that we turn to others for
integration that could be memorized will not ultimately produce help.
a collaborative outcome.
➔ not talking with your romantic partner, yelling at one Informal Help
another Informal interventions serve “to interrupt a self-maintaining or
➔ arguing about rent payments escalating malevolent cycle in one way or another and to initiate
➔ enmeshed in a family dispute • endure a situation at work a de-escalating benevolent cycle”(Walton 1969).
where you continually struggle with your supervisor over
your job assignments Conditions for Helping
➔ conversation is sarcastic, indirect, or defensive ➔ Are they ready for a third party?What evidence do you
have to indicate readiness?
Situation such these: ➔ How do you know that they want you to help?
➔ Your roommate stops paying her share of the rent. ➔ What skills prepare you to help them? Can you best help
➔ A friend keeps using your clothes without permission. by referring them to someone else?
➔ Your sister won’t pick up or return calls or texts. ➔ Are you biased, committed to one of the parties, grinding
➔ You and your romantic partner are separating but neither your own ax, or unable to help because of time, position, or
of you say you want to. other matters?
➔ You are a teacher and see your students fighting during ➔ Can you say no? If not, then you are probably too involved
breaks. in the conflict to be an effective helper.
➔ Your workgroup stops meeting and team members do not
reply to e-mails. Cautions about Informal Intervention
➔ An employee is injured on the job and wants health 1. Be certain the parties want help in managing their
benefits. conflict.
➔ Students are being harassed and bullied. 2. Avoid becoming “the enemy”.
➔ A customer tries to return a defective product, but the 3. You must constantly remain aware of conditions.
retailer refuses to accept it 4. Once the work is completed, the third party exits from the
system.
Advantages of Using Skilled Third Parties
The transformation may take many forms. It may Formal Intervention
➔ Change the style of expression in the conflict. The Intervene Continuum
➔ Alter the degree of interdependence between the parties ➔ Formal intervention needs specific training or education
➔ Change their perceptions or their goals so they are not ➔ Western culture, the formal third party is paid
seen as incompatible. ➔ Other cultures use formal intervention to restore peace
➔ Balance the power and justice in the culture
➔ Modify the actual or perceived scarcity of resources. ➔ Some religious organizations use a form of unpaid
➔ Adjust the actual or perceived interference by the intervention i.e convening a group to decide or advise on
opposing parties. an issue
➔ Arrive at solutions to problems that caused the conflict. ➔ Formal intervention differ based to the degree to which
conflict parties determine the outcome