How will I know if this relationship is still worth fighting for?

We've all been in a breakup that we knew was going to happen, but it's still difficult to accept. All
you can do is try and find the positive about things, even if they're few and far between.

Sometimes it's best just to walk away from a situation that was never going to work out anyway.
In the most painful of situations though, sometimes couples have good reasons for staying
together despite their differences — maybe they have children or have built up an incredibly
high level of trust over the years with each other. But most often, unfortunately, getting out only
leads to more heartbreak and more separation later on down the line as more issues come up
and they end up having completely different life goals.

When it comes to long-term relationships, sometimes we never know how much time is left for
us and our love interest. As humans we all need love and companionship, and right now I'm
stuck in a situation where I don't feel like my partner and I will ever be able to work out the
issues we have. Although we've been together for five years, I ultimately can't accept the fact
that he's not doing anything to make his life better or improve his motivation in the areas that
are important to me. To make things worse, he doesn't want to hear about what's wrong with
him or how he could better himself.

I've tried to express my concerns and speak with him about how important it is that he makes
changes for the better, but I'm simply getting nowhere. I don't know what to do. Does this mean
it's time to just move on? Not if you're dealing with a guy who is still willing to work with you on
making your relationship better.

Remember that all relationships are hard work, but the worst thing you can do is simply give up
because you two are having problems communicating or learning how to manage your lives
together.

The hardest thing about working on a relationship is getting a guy to commit to a long-term plan.
If it's going to work out you need him to be emotionally invested in your relationship and have a
general idea of where you're going as a couple. If he doesn't want to make plans for the future
or spend time with you, then what's even the point? You can try talking with him about what you
want out of life, but ultimately if he doesn't want the same things out of your relationship, it's not
worth trying to force things that will ultimately end up making both of you miserable.

Everyone deserves a healthy, happy relationship. If you're in a long-term relationship that is

either dissatisfying or unhealthy, it's important to ask yourself the following questions:

Do you feel valued?

Do you feel safe?

Are there constant arguments and disrespect between the two of you?

Does your partner make an effort to keep things fun for both of you even with differences in
opinions and interests?
 Is your partner honest about their feelings with kindness and clarity?

If any answer is yes - then this may be a marriage worth fighting for. If any answer is no - then
it's time to start wondering if this is really where your heart belongs.

The way you feel about your relationship is the most important indicator of whether or not your
relationship is worth fighting for.

What will I do if I feel too stressed to continue to soothe this relationship?

If you're feeling overwhelmed by the challenges in your relationship, it may be time to take a
step back and evaluate whether or not so many difficulties still make this a good life-long
partnership or a cage you can't escape from.

What will I do if my partner is a "drama queen"?

Don't confuse a messy personality with a big heart. If you feel constantly used by the personality
of your partner, then you're likely in a relationship that is too stressful.

I am constantly fighting with my boyfriend about something he is not willing to change that
makes me upset. How can I learn to deal with this?

Fight only when there is actually something worth fighting for. Everything you don't agree on
should be put aside and discussed without anger and emotion erupting from either side.

Figure out the nature of your relationship.

Are you in a long-distance relationship? Do you live with your partner? Did you meet on Tinder
and have never seen each other face-to-face? It’s important to know which category best
describes the foundation of your partnership.

Ask yourself how much time have you been spending together lately?

In a healthy relationship, both parties should be able to spend time apart from one another
without feeling guilty or worried.

One of the most crucial elements in a successful relationship is spending time together.
According to Dr. Phil, “You need to be able to spend time alone with one another and enjoy it.”

Have you and your partner had a fight in the past week?

Being in a relationship means you’re going to have disagreements. Having arguments is normal,
but responding negatively to your significant other when they are upset or angry isn’t okay. If
you are having major conflicts on a regular basis, it will be difficult for your bond to grow
stronger over time.

Every relationship has rough patches, and every relationship deserves to be given a chance to
be fought for.