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FACULTY OF ENGLISH
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Communication
Compiled & Edited: Le Thi Vy
Luu Chi Hai
Le Thi Anh Tuyet
Hanoi 2013
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INTRODUCTION
communication.
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CONTENTS
1. Varieties of Introductions 16
2. What is in a Name? 16
3. Use of Titles in Introductions 17
4. Eye Contact and Handshaking in Introductions 18
5. Small Talk after Introductions 20
6. Cultural Variations in Introductions 21
7. Cultural Notes 21
Exercises 23
Exercises 38
Exercises 70
1. Family Values 76
2. Child Raising 83
3. Young Adulthood 84
4. The Elderly 85
5. The Nuclear and the Extended Family 86
6. Family Roles 87
7. Stability and Change in the Family 88
8. Cultural Notes 89
Exercises 90
Exercises 101
Exercises 111
Exercises 125
References 129
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Key terms
Culture: shared background (e.g., national, ethnic, religious)
reflecting a common language and communication style, shared
customs, beliefs, attitudes, and values. Culture mentioned here does
not refer to art, music, literature, food, clothing styles… Culture refers
to the informal and often hidden patterns of human interactions,
expressions, and viewpoints that people in one culture share. The
hidden nature of culture has been compared to an iceberg, most of
which is hidden under water! Like the iceberg, most of the influence
of culture on an individual cannot be seen. The hidden aspects of
culture have significant effects on behaviour and on interactions with
others.
Principles
• All cultures have values and ideals that their members say are true.
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Common Abbreviations:
Subjects
Econ. = economics
Phys. Ed. (P.E.) = physical education
Math = mathematics
Chem. = chemistry
Bio. = biology
Poli. Sci. = political science
Psych. = psychology
Soc. = sociology
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Unit 1:
Introduction to Culture and Inter-cultural
Communication
(2.5 hours)
1. generalization of culture
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1. Culture is learned: Humans are not born with the genetic imprint of a
particular culture. Instead, people learn about their culture through
interactions with parents, other family members, friends, and even
strangers who are part of the culture. Later in this chapter we explain why
some cultures are so different from others. For now, we want to describe
the general process by which people learn their culture.
Culture is learned from the people you interact with as you are socialized.
Watching how adults react and talk to new babies is an excellent way to
see the actual symbolic transmission of culture among people. Two
babies born at exactly the same time in two parts of the globe may be
taught to respond to physical and social stimuli in very different ways.
For example, some babies are taught to smile at strangers, whereas others
are taught to smile only in very specific circumstances. In the United
States, most children are asked from a very early age to make decisions
about what they want to do and what they prefer; in many other cultures,
a parent would never ask a child what she or he wants to do but would
simply tell the child what to do.
Culture is also taught by the explanations people receive for the natural
and human events around them. Parents tell children that a certain person
is a good boy because people from different cultures would complete the
blank in contrasting ways. The people with whom the children interact
will praise and encourage particular kinds of behaviors (such as crying or
not crying, being quiet or being talkative). Certainly there are variations
in what a child is taught from family to family in any given ·culture.
However, our interest is not in these variations but in the similarities
across most or all families that form the basis of a culture. Because our
specific interest is in the relationship between culture and interpersonal
communication, we focus on how cultures provide their members with a
set of interpretations that they then use as filters to make sense of
messages and experiences.
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3. Culture Involves Beliefs, Values, Norms, and Social Practices: The
shared symbol systems that form the basis of culture represent ideas
about beliefs, values, norms, and social practices because of their
importance in understanding the ways in which cultures vary and their
role in improving intercultural communication competence. For now, it is
enough to know that beliefs refer to the basic understanding of a group of
people about what the world is like or what is true or false. Values refer
to what a group of people defines as good and bad or what it regards as
important. Norms refer to rules for appropriate behavior, which provide
the expectations people have of one another and of themselves. Social
practices are the predictable behavior patterns that members of a culture
typically follow. Taken together, the shared beliefs, values, norms, and
social practices provide a "way of life" for the members of a culture.
Sometimes the worst things are not what people say to your face or what
they say at all, it is the things that are assumed.
"Her English is excellent, she must have grown up here," I hear a lady
whisper. "But why on earth does she wear that thing on her head?"
"Oh that's not her fault," someone replies, “her father probably forces her
to wear that.”
I am still searching for a profound thirty-second sound to use when I hear
comments like that. The trouble is that things like that never take thirty
seconds to say. So I say nothing, but silence does not belong there. I want
to grasp their hands and usher them home with me.
Come, meet my father. Don't look at the wrinkles, don't look at the scars,
don't mind the hearing aid, or the thick accent. Don’t look at the world's
effect on him; look at his effect on the world. Come to my childhood and
hear the lullabies, the warm hand on your shoulder on worst of days, the
silly jokes on the mundane afternoons. Come meet the woman he has
loved and respected his whole life, witness the confidence he has
nurtured in his three daughters. Stay the night; hear his footsteps come in
at midnight after a long day’s work. That thumping is his head bowing in
prayer although he is exhausted. Granted, the wealth is gone and the
legacy unknown, but look at what the bombs did not destroy. Now tell
me, am I really oppressed? The question alone makes me laugh. Now tell
me, is he really the oppressor? The question alone makes me cry.
Within a given geographical area, people who interact with one another
will, over time, form social bonds that help to stabilize their interactions
and patterns of behavior. These social practices become the basis for
making predictions and forming expectations about others. However, no
one is entirely "typical" of the culture to which she or he belongs; each
person differs, in unique ways, from the general cultural tendency to
think and to behave in a particular way. Nor is "culture" the complete
explanation for why people behave as they do: differences in age, gender,
social status," and many other factors also affect the likelihood that
people will enact specific behaviors. Thus, "culture" is an important, but
not the only, explanation for people's conduct.
The theories developed by the researchers and academics can and have
been applied to many fields such as business, management, marketing,
advertising and website design. As business becomes more and more
international, many companies need to know how best to structure their
companies, manage staff and communicate with customers. Intercultural
communication gives them an insight into the areas they need to address
or understand. Intercultural communication theories are now also used
within the education, health care and other public services due to growing
multicultural populations.
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References
2. Hall, E. T. (1983) The Dance of Life. New York NY: Anchor Books
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Unit 2: Making Introductions
(2.5 hours)
1. Varieties of Introductions
2. What is in a Name?
7. Cultural Notes
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PROFESSOR: Mr. Lustig, I would like to introduce you to Dr.
Johns, director of the language institute. Dr.
Johns, this is Mr. Lustig, the academic adviser
from Bamum College.
DR. JOHNS: It's a pleasure to meet you, Mr. Lustig. I'm glad
that we finally have the occasion to meet.
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GEORGE: No, I haven't. Hi, Bill.
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1. Varieties of Introductions
What do you notice about the above three introductions? Why is the style
of language in all three different? These introductions which range from
formal to informal exemplify typical introductions made by English
speakers. Although they tend to use informal language as illustrated in
the second and third introductions, there are situations where formal
introductions are appropriate. When meeting a president of a university,
it is advisable to say, "How do you do?" rather than "How ya doing?"
Likewise, someone, who is your age or younger would probably say, "It's
nice to meet you" rather than "How do you do?"
In the first introduction the speakers use longer sentences, titles (Dr.,
Mr.), and formal words and phrases ("I would like to introduce you...,”
"How do you do?" and "It's a pleasure to meet you"). The relationship
between the speakers in the first introduction is a formal one.
The next two introductions, which are more informal, use reduced words
and sentences and simpler language. "It's nice to meet you" becomes
"Nice to meet you.”, "How are you doing?" becomes "How ya doing?”.
A very informal introduction does not use titles or last names.
2. What is in a Name?
Vietnamese
masc
Pham Quoc Minh
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English
masc
John Edward Jackson
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Though most follow tradition today, some women choose to keep their
maiden names. Others hyphenate their last names with their husband's
last name, for example, Mary Jane Smith-Jackson. Sometimes the
husband may also use the hyphenated name (John Edward Smith-
Jackson).
In Vietnam, officially, the name of a woman does not change when she
gets married. Regionally, however, her name may change according to
various customs throughout the country. In parts of the Mekong Delta,
for example, she may be called Mrs. Minh - her husband's given name.
Or she may be called by a number that signifies her husband's sibling
status, like Sister Five meaning the fifth son's wife. These regional
customs of naming usually describe a relationship. In some mountainous
villages in the north, names of the eldest child are used as parents' name
such as Mr. and Mrs. Ha - Ha being the name of their eldest daughter.
The names of children combined with the word "mother" may form a
name in some areas of the south.
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STUDENT (age 20): It's nice to meet you, Mr. Thomas.
Susan used her professor's title (Dr.) and his last name, whereas when she
introduced herself, she used her first name and last name and no title. In
many parts of the world, students must show their politeness and respect
to teachers. One way of doing this is not to use the teacher’s first name.
Some teachers in the English-speaking countries do not think it is rude if
their students call them by their first name. This may be their way of
having a close informal relationship with students.
Precaution to be safe:
The softie: A
soft handshake
demonstrates
weakness, lack
of confidence,
lack of interest,
and lack of
masculinity
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Attack: Putting your hand into opponent’s hand palm is the sign of
attack.
In the following dialogue, small talk takes place until the speakers
discover that they share the same experience.
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MARK: Oh really! I'm from California too. Where did you
live in California?
In this conversation, Sue and Mark asked each other small talk questions
before they found that they had a common background. Once they
discovered this, the conversation flowed easily.
Bowing to show respect is customary in parts of the Far East. Also the
bow is a very important part of greeting someone. You should not expect
the Japanese to shake hands. Bowing the head is a mark of respect and the
first bow of the day should be lower than when you meet thereafter. In
Thailand you should clasp your hands together and lower your head and
your eyes when you greet someone.
In the Western hemisphere and in other parts of the world shaking hands
is the common practice. Putting the palm of the hand to the heart is
traditional in North Africa. Despite the cultural variations, the purpose of
all introductions is always the same - to provide an opportunity for
people to get to know each other.
7. Cultural Notes
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2. In a formal introduction, Americans often use titles until they are
told they may use first names.
3. When two people are introduced by a third person, the first and
last names are usually given. For example:
A FRIEND: Michael, I'd like you to meet my friend, Diane Rae. Diane,
I'd like you to meet Michael Lipsett.
Informal:
Formal:
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5. In traditional introductions, a man shakes a woman's hand if she
extends her hand first. However, this custom is changing and some
men offer their hand first. Some women shake hands with each other
although the majority still do not, and younger women shake more
often than older women do.
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Exercises
Passage 1:
Greetings in all languages have the same purpose: to establish contact
with another person, to recognize his or her existence and to show
friendliness. The formulas for greeting are very specific and usually do
not carry any literal meaning people say “ Good morning “even if it is a
miserable day and may reply to “How are you?” with “Fine, thanks” even
if they aren’t feeling well.
Passage 2:
Fill in each numbered blank with one suitable word
In summary, for most visitors, the Japanese are (1) _____ and difficult to
understand. The graceful act of (2) _____ is the traditional greeting.
However, they have also adopted the western custom of shaking hands,
but with a light grip. Meanwhile, to (3) _____ respect for their customs, it
would flatter them to offer a slight bow when being introduced. (4)
_____ hugging and kissing when greeting. It is considered rude to stare.
Prolonged direct eye contact is considered to be (5) _____ or even
intimidating. It is rude to stand with your hand or hands in your pockets,
especially when greeting someone (6) _____ when addressing a group of
people. The seemingly simple act of exchanging business cards is more
complex in Japan (7) ____ the business card represents not only one's
identity but also his (8) _____ in life. Yours should be printed in your
own language and in Japanese. The Japanese are not a touch-oriented
society; so avoid open displays of affection, touching or any prolonged
(9) _____ of body contact. Queues are generally respected; especially in
crowded train and subway stations (10) _____ the huge volume of people
causes touching and pushing.
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References
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Unit 3: Verbal Patterns
(5 hours)
3. Invitations
6. Language Style
8. Cultural Notes
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Have you noticed how often people in English-speaking countries use the
expression "thank you"? A customer, after paying $100 for a meal in a
restaurant, says "thank you" to the person who hands him the bill. In
response to "I like the color of your car,” people might answer “thank
you.” In both of these cases no great favor or compliment was extended,
yet "thank you" was the automatic response.
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When you listen to people speak a foreign language that you understand,
have you noticed that the native speakers of that language use words and
phrases in a manner different from what you are used to? In English-
speaking world for example, people say "thank you" frequently. A word
for "thank you" exists in almost every language, but how and when it is
used is not always the same. In your language, do you thank people for
trivial as well as important or unusual favors? For native English
speakers, this expression is used as a polite response to different kinds of
favors and compliments, and is often automatic (e.g., "Thanks for
calling" to someone on the phone or "Thank you" to a teller in a bank.)
In language there are tacit rules of speaking that, unlike rules of grammar
or spelling, are not usually studied in a formal manner. These unspoken
"rules" exist in every language but differ significantly from culture to
culture. Acquiring a second language demands more than learning new
words and another system of grammar. It involves developing sensitivity
to aspects of language that are usually not taught in language textbooks.
Some important rules include permissible degrees of directness in speech
and forms of politeness used in daily conversation.
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Compared with other languages, people in English-speaking countries
strongly emphasize directness rather than indirectness in verbal
interaction. Many expressions in English exemplify this tendency: "Don't
beat around the bush,” "Let's get down to business," and "Get to the
point” all indicate the importance of dealing directly with issues or
impatience with avoiding issues. If a son hesitates telling his father that
he received a bad grade in school, his father might respond angrily with,
"Out with it!" or "Speak up!"
GUEST: No, thank you. It's delicious, but I've really had
enough.
HOST: OK, why don't we leave the table and sit in the living
room?
In this conversation between two Americans, the host does not repeat the
offer more than once. If you refuse food the first time it is offered (to be
polite), it may not be offered again. The host does not know that your
initial refusal is politeness. If guests are hungry, they need to say directly,
"Yes, I'd like some more, thank you." If they are hungry but say, "No,
thank you," out of politeness, they may remain hungry for the rest of the
evening. A host will assume that a guest's refusal is honest and direct.
3. Invitations
Invitation 1:
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KATIE: It was nice talking to you. I have to run to
class.
Invitation 2:
The first invitation did not result in an appointment and was nothing
more than a "polite" expression. In the second dialogue a genuine
invitation was extended because Katie had a definite plan (a lunch date)
and a specific date, time, and place in mind (Friday, 12:30). If Katie had
said only, "Drop by," Darlene probably would not have visited Katie.
- Definite invitations:
HELAH: I wanted to ask you - are you and your husband free
on Saturday night?
OR
- Indefinite invitations:
MERRITT: Hi.
MERRITT: OK.
RITA: Good-bye.
MERRITT: Bye.
OR
MERRITT: OK.
OR
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RITA: I'd love to. But February is shot and March is
pretty full too. How about if we get together
sometime in the spring?
MERRITT: OK.
RITA: Good. I'll figure out a good time and call you.
MERRITT: Fine.
CHUCK: Good. I'll call you soon and we'll have lunch
together.
SELMA: Great.
The same conversation could have had a very different result if Selma
had wanted a definite answer. Notice the results of the following
situation:
CHUCK: OK, let's get together soon. SELMA. I'd love to.
CHUCK: Good, I'll give you a call and we'll make a date
(appointment).
SELMA: Great.
Individuals in every culture have similar basic needs but express them
differently. In daily life we all initiate conversation, use formal and
informal speech, give praise, express disagreement, seek information, and
extend invitations. Some of the verbal patterns we use are influenced by
our culture. Whereas directness in speech is common in the United
States, indirectness is the rule in parts of the Far East. Thus people from
both of these parts of the world would probably express criticism of
others differently. In parts of the Middle East a host is expected to offer
food several times but in the United States he may make an offer only
once or twice. The different modes of expression represent variations on
the same theme. Each language reflects and creates cultural attitudes;
each has a unique way of expressing human need.
People in some parts of the world believe that compliments are dangerous
because they invite the "evil eye" (bad luck), therefore compliments in
these places are not given freely. In the United States this belief does not
exist. There are, however, no restrictions or superstitions related to the
number of compliments that can be given.
6. Language Style
I'm sorry to trouble you, but could you please tell me where the
library is? (formal)
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RICK: Why did you come to California?
DEBBIE: To study.
(Judi and Char have just met and have exchanged names.)
JUDI: It's warm most of the time. For the past two winters
we've had a lot of rain.
8. Cultural Notes
Informal
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Formal
Excuse me, would you mind closing the window (e.g. in a bus)?
Informal
Formal
Very Formal
Exercises
Passage 1:
A. just give your name, the time you arrive and how many persons
there are in your group.
B. have to give your address, the time you arrive and how many
persons there are in your group.
C. just give your name, the time you arrive and your address.
D. just give your name, the time you arrive and your telephone
number.
A. do not agree.
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B. it will be impolite.
Passage 2:
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3. If there is some food that you cannot eat,………..
A. You should not make someone notice that you do not like the food.
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intercultural similarities and differences.
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References
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Unit 4: Non-verbal Communication
(5 hours)
2. Gestures
3. Facial Expressions
4. Eye Contact
5. Space
7. Cultural Notes
Teacher:
I've been a teacher for ten years and I can always tell when
students don't know an answer in class discussion. They look
down at their notes, stare out the window, or fix their shoelaces -
but they never look me in the eye.
College Student:
Mary says she likes me, but I don't know how she really feels about
me. We've gone out three times and she rarely laughs at my jokes
or smiles at me. She always looks bored when I talk to her.
Customer:
Jane was at the store trying to decide which television set to buy. A
loud, overeager salesman approached her, waved his hands in her
face, and nearly stood on her feet. She became so uncomfortable
that she left the shop.
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Non-verbal communication is usually understood as the process of
communication through sending and receiving wordless messages. Such
messages can be communicated through gesture; body language or
posture; facial expression and eye contact; object communication such as
clothing, hairstyles or even architecture; symbols and info graphics.
Speech may also contain non-verbal elements known as paralanguage,
including voice quality, emotion and speaking style, as well as prosodic
features such as rhythm, intonation and stress. Likewise, written texts
have non-verbal elements such as handwriting style, spatial arrangement
of words, or the use of emoticons. While much non-verbal
communication is based on arbitrary symbols, which differ from culture
to culture, a large proportion is also to some extent iconic and may be
universally understood.
In other words, WHAT you say is not nearly as important as HOW you
say it! A dull message delivered by a charismatic person, filled with
energy and enthusiasm will be accepted as brilliant. An excellent
message delivered by someone who is not interested in the topic, will not
engage the enthusiasm of its intended audience.
Why was it such a great speech? It was filled with powerful visual
images that provoke strong emotions, delivered with passion by someone
who captured the dreams of an entire race. Over time, the speech has
transcended its original message to be a message of hope for all people,
regardless of race.
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1. Cultural Differences in Non-verbal Communication
2. Gestures
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Very few gestures are universally understood and interpreted. What is
perfectly acceptable in one country may be rude, or even obscene, in
other cultures. The "OK” gesture in the American culture is a symbol for
money in Japan. The same gesture is obscene in some Latin American
countries. This is why the editors of Latin American newspaper enjoyed
publishing a picture of former President Nixon giving the OK symbol
with both hands!
Smile
This means “Come here” in the U.S. To motion with the index finger
to call someone is insulting, or even obscene, in many cultures.
Expect a reaction when you beckon to a student from the Middle or
Far East; Portugal, Spain, Latin America, Japan, Indonesia and Hong
Kong. It is more acceptable to beckon with the palm down, with
fingers or whole hand waving.
It is impolite to point with the index finger in the Middle and Far East.
Use an open hand or your thumb (in Indonesia)
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3. Make a "V" sign
This means "Victory" in most of Europe when you make this sign
with your palm facing away from you. If you face your palm in, the
same gesture means "Shove it."
4. Smile
Although this means “O.K.” in the U.S. and in many countries around
the world, there are some notable exceptions:
In Japan this is very rude. Even a very small item such as a pencil
must be passed with two hands. In many Middle and Far Eastern
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countries it is rude to pass something with your left hand which is
considered “unclean.”
In Europe, waving the hand back and forth can mean “No.” To wave
“good-bye,” raise the palm outward and wag the fingers in unison,
This is also a serious insult in Nigeria if the hand is too close to
another person’s face.
3. Facial Expressions
4. Eye Contact
Eye is one of the most important nonverbal channels you have for
communication and connecting with other people. "The cheapest, most
effective way to connect with people is to look them into the eye." Eyes
are not only the "window to the soul", they also answer the critical
questions when you are trying to connect.
5. Space
Culture does not always determine the messages that our body
movements convey. Contexts, personalities, and relationships also
influence them. Therefore, no two people in any one society have
the same non-verbal behavior. However, like verbal language, non-
verbal communication cannot be completely separated from
culture. Whether we emphasize differences or similarities, the
"silent language" is much louder than it first appears.
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Elements such as physique, height, weight, hair, skin color, gender, odors,
and clothing send non-verbal messages during interaction. For example,
research into height has generally found that taller people are perceived as
being more impressive. Melamed & Bozionelos (1992) studied a sample
of managers in the UK and found that height was a key factor affecting
who was promoted. Often people try to make themselves taller, for
example, standing on a platform, when they want to make more of an
impact with their speaking.
7. Cultural Notes
2. In the Middle East you must never use the left hand for greeting,
eating, drinking, or smoking.
3. In Russia you must match your hosts drink for drink or they will
think you are unfriendly
4. In America you should eat your hamburger with both hands and
as quickly as possible. You shouldn't try to have a conversation until it
is eaten.
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6. The Japanese have perhaps the strictest rules of social and
business behavior. Seniority is very important and a younger man
should never be sent to complete a business deal with an older
Japanese man. The Japanese business card almost needs a rulebook of
its own. You must exchange business cards immediately on meeting
because it is essential to establish everyone's status and position. When
it is handed to a person in a superior position, it must be given and
received with both hands, and you must take time to read it carefully,
and not just put it in your pocket!
Exercises
Passage 1:
The saying "A picture is worth a thousand words" well describes the
meaning of facial expressions. Facial appearance - including wrinkles,
muscle tone, skin coloration, and eye color-offers enduring cues that
reveille information about age, sex, race, ethnic origin, and status.
Some facial expressions are readily visible, while others are fleeting.
Both types can positively or negatively reinforce the spoken words and
convey cues concerning emotions and attitudes.
1. Gestures _________.
2. A nod of the head from the teacher will likely ask his student to
_______ what he is saying.
A. go on C. put off
B. give up D. throwaway
A. 2 C. 4
B. 3 D. 5
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5. Facial expressions _________.
Passage 2:
Referred to as "mirrors of the soul" our eyes serve as the major decisive
factor in (2) _____ the spoken words. The eyes of the man converse as (3)
_____ as their tongues, with the advantage that the ocular dialect needs (4)
_____ dictionary, but it is understood all over the world. When the eyes
say one thing, and the tongue another, a practiced man relies on eyes.
Except (5) _____ extremely shy individuals, most people look for social
acceptance by studying the eyes of others. Eyes also can (6) _____ indicate
a positive or a negative relationship. People tend to look longer and more
often at the people whom they trust, respect and care about than at those
whom they doubt or (7) _____. Normal eye dilation is not under control of
the individual. Personally characteristics such as introversion and
extroversion also influence eye behavior. Eye behavior seems (8) ____
particular importance and is generally used to indicate whether one is open
to communication. This can be observed when a teacher asks the class a
question: students who think they know the answer will generally (9) ____
at the teacher, (10) ____ students who do not know the answer will usually
try to avoid eye contact.
5. a. in b. for c. of d. with
6. a. accurate b. accuracy
c. accurately d. inaccurate
8. a. to be b. be c. being d. been
Answer the following questions about your own culture and then discuss
intercultural similarities and differences.
1. Do you recall from your childhood how you learned aspects of non-
verbal language (space, gesture, etc.)?
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7. Ex 1:
8. Passage 1: 1B 2A 3C 4B 5D
9. Passang 2: 1D 2A 3A 4C 5B 6C 7D 8A 9B 10B
10. Ex 2:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonverbal_communication
Unit 5: Personal Relationships
(2.5 hours)
1. Circles of Friends
4. Intercultural Friendships
5. Cultural Notes
What is meant by the word “friend”? The dictionary defines it as: “one
attached to another by affection or esteem.” English speakers use the word
freely - that is, a friend may or may not be a person to whom there is a
great attachment. A friend might be a casual acquaintance or an intimate
companion. Friends may have known each other since childhood or they
may have recently met.
It is difficult to formulate a precise definition of this word as it is used,
because it covers many types of relationships. “My friend and I went to the
show last night.” “My friends gave me the name of a good doctor.” “My
friend consoled me when I was depressed.” We hear such daily references
to the word “friend” without knowing the quality of the friendship
1. Circles of Friends
3. Male-Female Relationships
In English-speaking countries, men and women socialize relatively freely
and develop a variety of relationships. Single people of opposite sexes may
be close friends and share personal problems with each other without being
romantically involved. There are no fixed rules for romantic or intimate
relationships but there are restraints. Men and women interact in varying
degrees of intensity. Dating may be serious or casual. A couple may
terminate a relationship after three dates or may date steadily and
exclusively for a long period of time. They may date with or without the
intention of getting married. Alternatively, people may choose to have
multiple dating partners so as not to become too seriously involved with
one person. The commitment and obligations of people who are dating
depend principally on the couple’s attitude.
Married men and women sometimes consider each other best friend as well
as spouses. They also socialize with members of the opposite se either as
couples or independently. (A working wife may have a close male friend at
her job.) This does not mean that there are no constraints on the married
man or women. The limitations of these relationships are not always visible
but they do exist. Most, but not all, married couples practice monogamous
relationships.
4. Intercultural Friendships
A few weeks later Mona invites John to another elaborate meal and
discussion with her father. Again, the women disappear after serving the
meal. However, this time the father and brothers must leave early. Mona
joins John and they spend the evening talking alone in the living room
while Mona’s mother is working in the kitchen.
John wants to express his appreciation to Mona and invites her to his
apartment for dinner. John tells Mona that although he lives alone in a
small apartment and cooking is difficult, he would like to try cooking a
meal for her. He jokingly tells Mona, “Maybe you can teach me how to
prepare your food properly!” Suddenly, Mona gets very angry and says, “I
didn’t know you thought I was that kind of girl!” She walks away almost
crying. John asks himself, “What did I do wrong?”
First analyse why Mona is hurt and angry. Then consider the following
questions:
A FRIEND OF A FRIEND
Michael is so excited that the next day he goes directly to Mr. Tahh’s
office, introduces himself, and briefly mentions Mr. Umm’s name. The two
men spend several hours discussing their research ideas.
That evening Michael tells Mr. Umm how much he enjoyed meeting Mr.
Tahh. Mr. Umm reacts coldly: “Yes, I heard you both met. I hope your
research goes well.” His serious tone tells Michael that something is
wrong, but Michael has no idea what the problem might be.
First analyze Mr. Umm’s reaction and Michael’s confusion. Then consider
the following questions:
LUNCHEON DATE
Randy has been working for two months with Suun on a class project. They
enjoy working on the project and studying for the exams together. Suun is
eager to become close friends with Randy. One day, Suun invites Randy to
lunch. Randy declines and tells his classmate that he has work to do and
football practice to go to later that day.
That afternoon, Suun sees Randy with his girlfriend in a nearby coffee
shop. The next week in class Randy senses that Suun is not interested in the
class project any more. It seems that Suun is trying to avoid him. Randy
can’t understand what has happened to their relationship.
First analyse Suun’s reaction and Randy’s confusion. Then consider the
following questions:
1. What type of friendship did the foreign student want? What type of
friendship did Randy want?
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ALIYTA’S PARTY EXPERIENCE
Several weeks pass but nobody from the party comes to Maliyta’s house
except Jan. Maliyta wants to ask her friend why the other American
students don’t come to visit her but she is too hurt and proud to ask. Jan
knows Maliyta feels lonely but she can’t understand why. At school
Maliyta is well-liked by her classmates. Jan also remembers that her
friends really enjoyed meeting Malivta at the party.
First analyse the problem and then consider the following questions:
4. Why didn’t the people Malivta met at the party “drop by” her house?
What do you think happens in Malivta’s country when people invite
others to “come by”?
5. What could Jan have told Malivta to help her understand American
friendships?
5. Culture Notes
1. In the United States the terms “boyfriend” and “girlfriend” are used
differently depending on which sex uses the words. If a man uses the
term “girlfriend” or a woman uses the term “boyfriend,” romantic
involvement is implied. However, a woman may say, “I’m going to
meet my girlfriend today” (meaning a close friend); but most males
would not say. “I’m going to meet my boyfriend.” Instead, they would
say, “I’m going to meet a friend of mine today.”
3. A changing custom that can create problems for both men and
women is the question of “who pays for whom?” on dates. Traditionally
men have paid the expenses on dates regardless of whether the couple’s
relationship is intimate or merely friendly. Currently some women feel
more comfortable paying for themselves and may occasionally pay for
the man. “Dutch treat” refers to a date where each individual pays for
him/herself. There are no fixed rules for payment.
Dates: Usually gifts are not exchanged with one’s date or the parents of
the date.
Dinner invitation at home: Here it may be appropriate to bring a “token”
gift such as flowers, wine, or candy.
6. Friends may not always seek help and advice from other friends.
Occasionally professional guidance will be sought to resolve personal
problems. Professional guidance offers an alternative for people who do
not wish to “burden their friends” or for people who need expert advice.
Family, marital, and school counselors, private therapists, psychologists,
and social workers are a few examples of people who offer professional
guidance.
Exercises
Passage 1:
In the past, both men and women were expected to be married at quite
young ages. Marriages were generally arranged by parents and family, with
their children having little chance to say no in the matter. In the past it was
not surprising to find that a bride and groom had only just met on the day
of their engagement or marriage.
2. In former days, the fact that a bride and groom had only first met just
on the day of their engagement or marriage was _________.
A. surprising B. popular
C. uncommon D. strange
D. Vietnamese people never ask a fortune teller the date and time of the
marriage ceremony
Passage 2:
If you are invited to an American friend’s home for dinner, remember
these general rules for polite behaviour. First of all, arrive approximately
on time but not early. Americans expect promptness. It will be all right to
be 10 or 15 minutes late, but not 45 minutes late. When you are invited to
someone’s home for meal, it is polite to bring a small gift. Flowers and
candy are always appropriate. If you have something attractive made in
your country, your host or hostess will certainly enjoy receiving that gift.
What will you do if you are served some food that you can not eat or you
do not like? Do not make a fuss about it. Simply eat what you can and
hope that no one noticed it. Be sure to complement the cook on the food
that you are enjoying. Do not leave immediately after dinner, but do not
over-stay your welcome, either. The next day, call or write a thank- you
note to say how much you enjoyed the evening.
Answer the following questions about your own culture and then discuss
intercultural similarities and differences:
2. How important is dating? What are other ways that men and women
meet?
4. Can the couple see each other often or even live together before
marriage?
References
1. Family Values
2. Child Raising
3. Young Adulthood
4. The Elderly
6. Family Roles
8. Cultural Notes
1. Family Values
Australian Politics
The Family First Party originally contested the 2002 South Australian state
election, where former Assemblies of God pastor Dr Andrew Evans won
one of the eleven seats in the 22-seat South Australian Legislative Council
on 4 percent of the state-wide vote. The party made their federal debut at
the 2004 general election, electing Steve Fielding on 2 percent of the
Victorian vote in the Australian Senate, out of six Victorian senate seats up
for election. Both MPs were able to be elected with Australia's Single
transferable Vote and Group voting ticket system in the upper house. The
party:
Opposes abortion
Opposes euthanasia
British Politics
U.S. Politics
- Republican Party
Since 1980, the Republican Party has used the issue of family values to
attract socially conservative voters. While family values remains a rather
vague concept, social conservatives usually understand the term to include
some combination of the following principles (also referenced in the 2004
Republican Party platform):
Support for policies that are said to protect children from obscenity
and exploitation.
- Democratic Party
Although the term "family values" remains a core issue for the Republican
Party, in recent years the Democratic Party has also used the term, though
differing in its definition. For example, in his acceptance speech at the
2004 Democratic National Convention, John Kerry, said "it is time for
those who talk about family values to start valuing families." The
Democratic definitions of family values often include items that
specifically target working families such as a support of a "living wage" as
well as universal health care.
- American Family
2. Child Raising
Many children are taught at a very early age to make decisions and
responsible for their actions. Often children work for money outside the
home as a first step to establishing autonomy. Nine or ten-year-old children
may deliver newspapers in their neighborhoods and save or spend their
earnings. Teenagers (13 to 18 years) may babysit at neighbors’ homes in
order to earn a few dollars a week. Receiving a weekly allowance at an
early age teaches children to budget their money, preparing them for future
financial independence. Many parents believe that managing money helps
children learn responsibility as well as appreciate the value of money.
3. Young Adulthood
In any families, parents feel that children should make major life decisions
by themselves. A parent may try to influence a child to follow a particular
profession but the child is free to choose another career. Sometimes
children do precisely the opposite of what their parents wish in order to
assert their independence. A son may deliberately decide not to go into his
father’s business because of a fear that he will lose his autonomy in his
father’s workplace. This independence from parents is not an indication
that parents and children do not love each other. Strong love between
parents and children is universal and this is no exception in the American
family. Coexisting with such love in the American family are cultural
values of self-reliance and independence.
4. The Elderly
Some families send their older relatives to nursing homes rather than
integrate them into the homes of the children or grandchildren. This
separation of the elderly from the young has contributed to the isolation of
an increasingly large segment of society. On the other hand, there are many
older people who choose to live in retirement communities where they have
the companionship of other older people and the convenience of many
recreational and social activities close to home.
5. The Nuclear and the Extended Family
6. Familial Roles
In both nuclear and extended families, the culture imposes set roles upon
parents. Traditionally the male has been responsible for financial support of
the home and family members. The female has often been responsible for
emotional support, child raising, and housekeeping. However, among some
people in parts of the United States, these parental functions are no longer
fixed. The prescribed role of the man as “breadwinner” and the woman as
housewife is changing. These changes include working mothers,
“househusbands,” and an increasing number of day-care centers for
children. Yet, traditional roles may be preserved even in households where
the wife is working.
Some mothers work because of a financial need and not because of a desire
to change their role from housewife to breadwinner. Others choose to work
because they feel that financial support of the family should be shared by
the husband and the wife. Still others are motivated to work because of
professional interests and a desire to contribute to society. More than 50
percent of American women are part of the labor force.
7. Stability and Change in the Family
Nuclear Family:
Parents: Folks Mother: Mom, Mommy, Ma,
Mamma
Father: Dad, Daddy,
Pa, Papa Children: Kids
Extended Family
Grandparents: Grandmother, Grandma,
Grandfather, Grandpa
Uncle: first name or Uncle + first name
Aunt: first name, or Aunt + first name,
Auntie
Cousins, nephews, nieces: first names used
4. If you are attending a family gathering and would like to know what
the familial relationship is between one member and another, you may
ask: “How are you related?”
- Birthdays
- Annual reunions
- Religious and secular holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas Easter,
etc.)
- Religious ceremonies (baptism, confirmation, bar/bat mitzvah)
- Weddings
- Wedding anniversaries
- Leisure activities (picnics, camping, dining out, movies)
Exercises
Passage 1:
Although most families in the United States enjoy a high living standard,
many American women have to work (1) ______ at home and in their
offices. Despite their husbands' (2) ________ of the housework, women
have to do most of the housekeeping tasks. In single-parent families, the
mothers may not have (3) ________ children to take care of, but they
have to raise their families alone and have to provide for all the
housekeeping money. Therefore, the (4) ________ mothers have to work
very hard to earn their living. Moreover, in spite of the fact that the single
mothers have all the (5) _______ conveniences at their homes, they find
that bringing up their teenage children alone is not easy.
Passage 2:
The joint family includes all living relatives on either the mother's or the
father's side of the family. It is made up of grandparents, parents,
brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, and cousins. They live together in a large
house or in huts built close together.
In China, people lived in joint families. When a son married, he and his
wife lived at his parents' home. Unmarried daughters remained at home
until they married. Chinese children felt very loyal to their parents.
Younger members of the joint families always took care of the old ones.
In India and Africa, some people still live in joint families. The members
of a joint family share their earnings and property. If one member of the
group becomes ill or has bad luck, the others help the person. As in the
past, the members of the joint family offer each other help and protection.
B. joint families
C. families in China
Answer the following questions about your own culture and then discuss
intercultural similarities and differences.
1. What is your idea of the “ideal family”? Describe the roles of the
family members and the beliefs that unite the family.
3. What kinds of activities does your family do together for fun? Are
these activities done with the nuclear family or with the extended
family and friends?
5. Is the family unit changing in any way in your country (for example,
number of children, education level of family members, etc.)?
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Unit 7: Educational Attitudes
(2.5 hours)
1. Diversity in Education
2. Active Participation
4. Independent Learning
6. Competition
7. Cultural Notes
1. Diversity in Education
2. Active Participation
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Participation in the classroom is not only accepted but also expected of
the student in many courses. Some professors base part of the final grade
on the student’s oral participation. Although there are formal lectures
during which the student has a passive role (i.e., listening and taking
notes), many courses are organized around classroom discussions, student
questions, and informal lectures. In graduate seminars the professor has a
“managerial” role and the students make presentations and lead
discussions. The students do the actual teaching in these seminars.
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Professors may establish social relationships with students outside of the
classroom, but in the classroom they maintain the instructor’s role. A
professor may have coffee one day with students but the next day expect
them to meet a deadline for the submission of a paper or to be prepared
for a discussion or an exam. The professor may give extra attention
outside of class to a student in need of help but probably will not treat
him or her differently when it comes to evaluating school work.
Professors have several roles in relation to students; they may be
counselors and friends as well as teachers. Students must realize that
when a teacher’s role changes, they must appropriately adapt their
behavior and attitudes.
4. Independent Learning
Many teachers believe that the responsibility for learning lies with the
student. If a long reading assignment is given, instructors expect students
to be familiar with the information in the reading even if they do not
discuss it in class or give an examination. (Courses are not designed
merely for students to pass exams.) The ideal student is considered to be
one who is motivated to learn for the sake of learning, not the one
interested only in getting high grades. Grade-conscious students may be
frustrated with teachers who do not believe it is necessary to grade every
assignment. Sometimes homework is returned with brief written
comments but without a grade. Even if a grade is not given, the student is
responsible for learning the material assigned.
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When research is assigned, the professor expects the student to take the
initiative and to complete the assignment with minimal guidance. It is the
student’s responsibility to find books, periodicals, and articles in the
library. Professors do not have the time to explain how a university
library works; they expect students, particularly graduate students, to be
able to exhaust the reference sources in the library.
Professors will help students who need it, but prefer that their students not
be overly dependent on them. (This differs from teacher-student
relationships in other countries.) In the United States, professors have
other duties besides teaching. Often they are responsible for
administrative work within their departments. In addition, they may be
obliged to publish articles and books. Therefore the time that a professor
can spend with a student outside of class is limited. If a student has
problems with classroom work, the student should either approach a
professor during office hours or make an appointment.
5. Honor System
6. Competition
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There are other reasons for the presence of competition among students.
A high grade point average is needed for entrance to superior graduate
schools. Students feel pressure to achieve high grades when there are
relatively few openings in graduate programs. In addition, when facing a
competitive job market graduates may be judged on the basis of their
grade point average and faculty recommendations. Ultimately, it is the
student who is responsible for succeeding in this competitive system.
7. Cultural Notes
6. On many campuses there are “clinics” and “centers” that deal with
specialized problems: psychological counseling services, study skills
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centers, and math or business clinics are often available to students.
Academic counselors can usually recommend where to go for these
services.
7. There are other on-campus and off-campus services for students such
as professional typing, and tutoring in many subjects. Some of these
services are free; others are not. Often department secretaries or
professors can suggest names of proficient students who tutor others in
particular subjects. School newspapers also list special services in the
“Classified Ads” section.
Exercises
Passage 1:
1. A. second B. secondary
C. among D. half
2. A. Primary B. High
C. College D. University
3. A. titles B. courses
C. topics D. subjects
4. A. mathematician B. mathematics
C. mathematically D. mathematical
5. A. wish B. test
C. choose D. consist
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Passage 2:
Whether you want to study at a top USA university, a top USA college, a
vocational or high school, a thorough understanding of how the American
education system works is essential. Without a clear grasp of the
American education system, an international student will find it difficult
to make the right academic choices. It is no surprise that the American
education system and the American school system host more international
students than any other country in the world!
A. appreciates B. underestimates
C. overstates D. dislikes
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4. Which is true?
D. Many leaders all over the world have studied in the US.
3. Are there any courses or subjects taught that you feel are
completely useless? Are there any that should be added to the
curriculum?
4. When students leave high school, are they well prepared for life
outside school? Explain.
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3. Write a short composition to compare the education system in
Vietnam and in another country
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Unit 8: Cultural Conflict
(5 hours)
2. Misinterpretations
3. Ethnocentrism
“Suppose that you’re planning to visit a part of the world about which
you know very little except that it is quite different from your own
country. You are sophisticated enough to expect that the spoken language
and probably some gestures be different. You know, too, that customs
will be different, but you are not sure exactly, what this will mean. At
least there will be interesting things to take pictures of or write home
about. The climate and foods will be different, of course, but these
differences are attractions and are not really problems. Such is the would-
be-tourist’s view of a foreign culture.
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Cultures do not communicate; individuals do. Everyone has a unique
style of communication, but cultures determine a general style for their
members. The relationship of the individual to his culture is analogous to
an actor and his director. The actor puts his own personality into his
acting but is nevertheless influenced by the director. We are not always
aware of the subtle influences of our culture. Likewise, we may not
perceive that others are influenced by their cultures as well.
2. Misinterpretations
A young woman from one culture is looking out of the window and sees a
male acquaintance from another culture. He signals to her by puckering
his lips. She quickly looks away from the window. Later she ignores him.
He is confused and she is angry
3. Ethnocentrism
ROSAMINE. I think it’s terrible that in your country children leave their
parents when they’re so young. Something that shocks me even more is
that many parents want their children to leave home. I can’t understand
why children and parents don’t like each other in your country.
Both women are insensitive to each other s values concerning family life.
They have been raised and conditioned according to cultural norms.
Therefore, each has a different view of what is right.
Unfortunately there was nothing that this applicant could have done to
prove that he was indeed qualified for the job. Rejected on the basis of his
nationality, the applicant was a victim of an irrational belief.
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that we need to lose our cultural identities—but rather that we recognize
cultural influences within ourselves and within others.
Exercises
Passage 1:
Many American customs will surprise you, the same thing happens to us
when we (1) _____ another country. People from various cultures handle
many small daily things differently. What a dull world it would be if this
were not true!
Passage 2:
When people plan to marry, they expect to find in their partner not only a
lover but a friend also. They find a person with whom they can share their
opinions, their emotions, thoughts and fears. In marriage we are looking
for a partner who will be able to understand our values, our likes and
dislikes.
If a man and a woman are born and raised in the same country, most
likely they are familiar with the same songs, movies, jokes, books and life
in general. They basically have the same roots. In the case of a western
man and foreign woman family everything is more complicated and
requires much more patience and understanding from both spouses. On
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one hand each of the partners has an opportunity to learn a great deal
about the other's country, culture, traditions and life styles which can be
very interesting. On the other hand it can be very disappointing if there is
the inability to understand your partner's excitements and frustrations. For
example, you are watching the television and suddenly you see a famous
actor or singer, or other type of an artist whose name you have grown up
with. Maybe this artist was an idol for your parents and the music of this
artist was often played in your house when you were a child.
Unfortunately you realize that your wife is unable to understand your
feelings because she has no idea who this artist is. Her eyes are absolutely
empty because she has never even heard the song before. You feel rather
disappointed! Remember that your wife has the same situation with you.
You do not know her country's songs, her country's famous actors, her
books. She has her own memories and in actuality, for her, everything is
much more difficult than it is for you. At least, you live in your own
country where everybody can understand you. She lives in completely
strange surroundings, where she has nobody to share her feelings with,
except you.
Do some research and learn about your wife's country, culture and
lifestyles. Talk with her, ask her questions, get to know what songs she
likes, what movies and books are of interest to her. The Internet will give
you a great opportunity to find anything! Tell her about your country's
culture, let her listen to the music that you like, rent a movie for her that
left you with great impression. Let her understand you better through the
things that you like. Patience and time will help you to fight cultural
differences.
A. Spouses who have the same nationality need more patience and
understanding in their marriage than those who are from different
cultures.
B. Spouses who are from different cultures need more patience and
understanding in their marriage than those who have the same
roots.
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C. Spouses who have the same roots do not share anything together.
D. Spouses who are from different cultures can never share anything
together.
A. faithful C. disappointed
B. hopeless D. happy
A. critical C. advisory
B. convincing D. apologetic
Answer the following questions about your own culture and then discuss
intercultural similarities and differences.
1. In your opinion, what areas of culture create the most serious problems
in intercultural communication? Explain.
4. Can you think of cases where stereotypes have turned into prejudice or
hatred?
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Unit 9: Cultural Adjustment
(5 hours)
1. Culture Shock
5. Individual Reaction
6. Politeness
1. Culture Shock
Symptoms
Sadness
Homesickness
Loneliness
Anger
Irritability
Resentment
Sense of helplessness
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2. The Adjustment Process
Reactions to a new Culture vary, but experience and research have shown
that there are distinct stages in the adjustment process of foreign visitors.
When leaving the comfortably secure environment of home, a person will
naturally experience some stress and anxiety. The severity of culture
shock depends on visitors’ personalities, language ability, emotional
support, and duration of stay. It is also influenced by the extent of
differences either actual or perceived, between the two cultures
Visitors coming for short periods of time do not always experience the
same intense emotions as visitors who live in foreign countries for longer
terms. The adjustment stages during prolonged stays may last several
months to several years. The following “W’ shaped diagram illustrates
periods of adjustment in a second culture and might apply to a one-year
stay (approximately) in a foreign culture. Although the stages in the cycle
do not always occur in the same order and some stages may be skipped,
the following pattern is a common one:
Honeymoon
period
5. Acceptance and
integration
3. Initial
adjustment
Time
The Adjustment Process in a New Culture (Levine & Adelman, 1982, 88)
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Each stage in the process is characterized by symptoms or outward signs
typifying certain kinds of behavior:
(1) Honeymoon period. Initially many people are fascinated and excited
by everything new. The visitor is elated to be in a new culture.
(4) Mental isolation. Individuals have been away from their family and
good friends for a long period of time and may feel lonely. Many still feel
they cannot express themselves as well as they can in their native
language. Frustration and sometimes a loss of self-confidence result.
Some individuals remain at this stage.
1. Acceptance and
integration 5. Re-integration
3. Return
honeymoon
Time
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A similar process occurs when visitors return to their native countries,
although the stages are usually shorter and less intense. The following
“W” shaped diagram illustrates reactions and emotions experienced when
a person leaves a foreign country and returns to his or her own country.
(1) Acceptance and integration. See description given for the preceding
diagram.
(2) Return anxiety. There may be confusion and emotional pain about
leaving because friendships will have to be disrupted. Many people
realize how much they have changed because of their experiences and
may be nervous about going home.
(4) Re-entry shock. Family and friends may not understand or appreciate
what the traveler has experienced. The native country or city may have
changed in the eyes of the former traveler.
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4. Factors Important to Successful Intercultural Adjustments
5. Individual Reactions
6. Politeness
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According to Brown and Levinson (1987), politeness strategies are
developed in order to save the hearers' "face." Face refers to the respect
that an individual has for him or herself, and maintaining that "self-
esteem" in public or in private situations. Usually you try to avoid
embarrassing the other person, or making them feel uncomfortable. Face
Threatening Acts (FTA's) are acts that infringe on the hearers' need to
maintain his/her self esteem, and be respected. Politeness strategies are
developed for the main purpose of dealing with these FTAs. What would
you do if you saw a cup of pens on your teacher's desk, and you wanted to
use one, would you
c. say, "I'm sorry to bother you but, I just wanted to ask you if I could
use one of those pens?"
d. indirectly say, "Hmm, I sure could use a blue pen right now."
If you answered A, you used what is called the Bald On Record Bald On-
Record strategy which provides no effort to minimize threats to your
teachers' "face."
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someone's phone call, therefore you say, " I tried to call a hundred times,
but there was never any answer
An Emergency: HELP!!
Avoid disagreement:
A: " What is she, small?"
B: "Yes, yes, she's small, smallish, um, not really small but certainly not
very big."
Assume agreement:
"So when are you coming to see us?"
Hedge opinion:
"You really should sort of try harder."
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In this situation you are hoping that you will not have to ask directly, so
as not to impose and take up the hearer's time. Therefore, by using this
indirect strategy, you hope they will offer to go find one for you.
Minimize imposition:
"I just want to ask you if I could use your computer?"
This takes all responsibility off of only you and onto "we", even if you
were the person responsible for telling the hearer when the deadline was
to buy the ticket.
Be vague:
Be sarcastic, or joking:
"Yeah, he's a real rocket scientist!"
Exercises
1. Read the passages below carefully, then choose the best option
Passage 1:
In many cultures, people think that (1)……… and marriage together –
like bread and wine or meat and (2)……. They think that love is a
necessary foundation for (3)……….and that you should love the person
you marry before you get married. In other (4)………., however a man
and a woman may not even know each other before their wedding day.
Romantic love is not bequeathed to marriage in these cultures. These
people expect that love will develop (5)……….the wedding if the
marriage is a good one. Your views on love and marriage come from
your culture.
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1. A. family B. friendship C. feeling D. love
2. A. tomatoes B. apples C. potatoes D. oranges
3. A. divorce B. marry C. engagement D. marriage
4. A. cultures B. societies C. counties D. habits
5. A. before B. after C. during D. as soon as
Passage 2:
If you are invited to someone’s house in America for dinner, you should
bring a gift, such as a bunch of flowers or a box of chocolates. If you give
your host a wrapped gift, he / she may open it in front of you. Opening a
gift in front of the gift-giver is considered polite. It shows that the host is
excited about receiving the gift and wants to show his / her appreciation
to you immediately. Even if the host doesn’t like it, he / she will tell “a
white lie” and say how much they like the gift to prevent the guest from
feeling bad.
If your host asks you to arrive at the particular time, you should not arrive
exactly on time or earlier than expected time, because this is considered
to be inconvenient and therefore rude, as the host may not be ready.
A. the host may be rude to you B. it may take you a lot of time
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2. Questions for discussion
Answer the following questions about your own culture and then discuss
intercultural similarities and differences.
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REFERENCES
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonverbal_communication
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Politeness_theory
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Verbal
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Family_values
http://www.unesco.org/new/en/culture/
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