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DIST
ANCE
Dating in college is hard enough
without adding distance as a factor.
So what is the secret to bridging the gap?
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C ollege is by far the most interesting dating experiences you walking distance of one another, manage to stay together when
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will have. In high school, you usually they have to return home during the summers.
hear all the gossip about someone before you Three months isn’t an eternity, but it is still a sub-
even go on a date with them. By the time you stantial amount of time to destroy a relationship.
are “official” you know everything short of The biggest mistake a couple can make when
their social security number.
But in college, it’s a whole new ball
In reality, long entering a long distance relationship is believing
that their love is all they need to make it through.
game (excuse the cliché ). You are thrown
together with a whole new group of people distance Unfortunately, that is only the case in movies.
In reality, long distance relationships
relationships
who you know absolutely nothing about, are hard, even for the most mature couple. You
except what they tell you. Scary huh? The real hear countless stories of couple who didn’t make
kicker is, you could end up falling in love with it through the summer because one, or even
someone who lives on the opposite coast as
you simply because you are both at the same
are hard. both couldn’t handle the distance. But, there are
always those few “lucky” ones you would travel
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school on athletic scholarships. Or maybe back and forth to see one another and are still
you might find your soul mate in the foreign dating when it’s time to go back to school.
exchange student down the hall. So what does it take to make a long dis-
It’s hard to understood how couples tance relationship work? Read on to find out just
who meet in college, and begin their relationships living within what the scoop really is on loving from a distance.
Setting parameters such as naming your relationship (dating, seeing each other, boyfriend-girlfriend, en-
gaged) as well as defining exclusive (limited to one person,) or non-exclusive are crucial. These can be difficult
D o things together.
and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line.
Defy the distance. As a long distance couple, it’s important to do other things together besides the usual
phone call. People in short-distance relationships do not spend the majority of their time talking, but rather
doing things with each other. Try to replicate this by finding things to do together such as watching a TV
Since you won’t be seeing each other, it’s important to maintain an emotional connection. These don’t always
have to be long, in-depth conversations. Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. You may
Spend more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over small things, the pleasure of seeing your
sweetheart again after a long absence. Most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your
People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in
Discuss what each of you want from the relationship and where you think it’s headed. This will you keep you
One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama.
When you start a long distance relationship, you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. It always helps if
B e positive.
you go in a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worthy of trust until proven otherwise.
Staying positive and not focusing on the negative aspects of a long-distance relationship is essential to
You HAVE to be there for your partner. If your partner is ever in trouble, or hurt, or whatever, you have to be
there for them. Make sure you are available to them so that they can reach you if they need you. If they end
up dealing with everything alone, they will eventually not need you. And sometimes, distance permitting of
course, that means being actually, physically there for them.
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Is a long distance
relationship for you?
Long distance relationships can make you stronger as a
person and a couple-but they aren’t for everybody. Watch for
these signs that you’re not cut out for loving from a distance.
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even if they don’t see it nearly enough…
-Anonymous
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