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The Peaceful Parent Anger Cleanse Week 02
The Peaceful Parent Anger Cleanse Week 02
CLASS 2:
DEALING WITH ANGER
Today’s Goals:
We are all trying to get our needs met at all times - especially
our kids. We talked about the 5As and 1C as a basic need.
You can help them get their needs met or teach them to
meet their own needs.
1.WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ABOUT
ANGER?
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Many of us deal with anger based on the patterns that were set out
for us by our own parents.
Many parents feel they need to win every fight with their kids so
they can prove or show their power OVER their kids.
When fighting, winning and enforcing power over your kids looks like
yelling, spanking, punishments etc.
Strong-willed kids learn to try and win the fight over the parents
because this is what is modeled for them. So, they storm back and
this is when the explosion happens.
At the base of the volcano is unmet needs. When our needs are
being met, there is no anger.
Don’t let the anger build. The anger takes our brain offline.
Top of volcano: expression
of anger (slamming doors,
yelling, spanking, silence
etc.)
Middle of volcano:
feelings arising from
unmet needs (sleep,
exercise, behind at work,
need more adult
stimulation, connection
with spouse, etc.)
7. SOLUTION
When we acknowledge our kid’s needs, we have empathy &
can explore solutions together
8. HOMEWORK
• Use your anger as your guide
• Dissect your anger
• Use the 3 steps of connection
Up next week:
Setting Limits that (Peacefully) Stick!
Learn how to avoid many of the frustrations you
experience by establishing mutually agreed upon
limits beforehand