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Running Head: The Effectiveness of REBT Dealing with Low Self- Esteem among Teenagers

The Effectiveness of REBT Dealing with Low Self-Esteem among Teenagers

Nor Aishah Binti Yacob (1115502)

Kuliyyah of Education
International Islamic University Malaysia

Paper submitted as partial fulfillment of requirement for EDG 3402 Action Research Section 5,

instructed by Dr. Nik Suryani Bt Nik Abd.Rahman at Kuliyyah of Education of the International

Islamic University Malaysia in Semester 2, 2014/2015.


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Table of Contents
CHAPTER 1: Introduction Page
Background of Study 4
Statement of Problem 7
Purpose of the Study 8
Research Questions 9
Significance of the Study 9
Definition of Terms 10
Limitation of Study 10

CHAPTER 2: Review of the Literature


Definition of REBT 11
Definition of Low Self-Esteem 11
Contributing factors of low self-esteem 12
Characteristics of Individual with Low Self-Esteem 13
Impact of Low Self-Esteem 15
Research how REBT useful in Dealing with Low Self-Esteem 16

CHAPTER 3: Research Methodology


Introduction 19
Population 19
Sample 20
Instrument 20
Research Design and Data Collection Procedure 21
CHAPTER 4: Result and Finding
Rosenberg self-esteem scale 22
Demographic description of participants 24
Factors of low self-esteem 25
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Effects of low self-esteem 28


How REBT can be used for low self-esteem problem 32
CHAPTER 5: Discussion 37

REFERENCES 38
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CHAPTER 1

INTRODUCTION
Background of Study
A student's self-esteem has a significant impact on almost everything she does. For

instance, it will give impact on the way she engages in activities, deals with challenges, and

interacts with others. Self-esteem also can have a marked effect on academic performance. A

student’s self-esteem is commonly affected during the school years. High and low self-esteem

can cause different experiences for students. Self-esteem is defined as the complication of

feelings that guide behavior, influences attitudes, and drives motivation (Dedmond, 2011) (as

cited in Hisken, 2011). According to Rosenberg (1965), was defined self-esteem as a positive or

negative attitude toward the self, and is one of the dimensions of a person’s self-concept

(Rosenberg & Kaplan) (as cited in Norwati Mansor, 1999)

Struggling with self-esteem creates adverse effects on all areas of a student’s life from

social to academic. Self-esteem is most often lowered by failure, criticism, and rejection (Leary,

1999). In addition, low self-esteem has been shown to be correlated with a number of negative

outcomes, such as depression (Silverstone and Salsali, 2003) (as cited in McLeod (2012)

According to Rosenberg and Owen (2001), (as noted in McLead, 2012) offer the

following description of low self-esteem people based on empirical research.

“People with low self-esteem are more troubled by failure and tend to exaggerate events

as being negative. For example, they often interpret non critical comments as critical.

They are more likely to experience social anxiety and low levels of interpersonal

confidence. This in turn makes social interaction with others difficult as they feel
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awkward, shy, conspicuous, and unable to adequately express themselves when

interacting with others” (p. 409)

Furthermore, people with low self-esteem have tended to suffer emotional distress and

mental health problems. Based on the National Health and Morbidity Survey, survey results

show that 14.4 percent of teens aged 16 to 19 years suffer from mental health problems

compared with adults who recorded 11.2 per cent of cases. The study also showed that overall,

11 percent of young people aged 16 to 24 years, ever thought of committing suicide (as cited in

Dewan Siswa 2012)

There's no denying that adolescence is a period of transition from childhood to adulthood

and the many changes in terms of physical, cognitive and emotional place during this period. Not

impossible at this age, teens are often associated with soul who tend to rebel. Furthermore,

adolescence is a period of exposure to a lot of emotional stress. This pressure was mainly due to

educational factors as they need to compete each other in the examination. In addition,

adolescents are also “stuck” with the expectation of parents that are too high, lack of attention

family and low self-esteem, which they always judge themselves negatively.

There have been many studied conducted on the self-esteem. Previous research has

shown there is an association between explicit self-esteem and some irrational beliefs. According

to research by Greiger (1975), (as cited in Maricuţoiu, Rusu, Macsinga & Vîrgă, 2011) suggested

that certain irrational beliefs influence the development of low self-esteem. As a significant

outcome found by Daly and Burton (1983) in their research as the self-esteem has negative

correlation with irrational beliefs. According to their research, they were founded four specific

beliefs to be predictors of low self-esteem: demand for approval, high self-expectations, anxious

over concern and problem avoidance. Similar results were obtained by McLennan (1987) who
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found a negative correlation between self-esteem and six irrational beliefs: demand for approval,

high self-expectations, frustration, reactivity, anxious over concern, problem avoidance and

helplessness (as cited in Maricuţoiu, Rusu, Macsinga & Vîrgă, 2011).

Another research conducted by Fennell (1998) found that self-esteem is seen both as part

of an emotional problem, and as a consequence of having a disorder or as a vulnerability factor

for developing a particular disorder. Hence, Chamberlain & Haaga (2001), Davies (2006) & Ellis

(1994) found that Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT) abilities in dealing with low

self-esteem. According to them,

“In REBT, focusing on increasing self-esteem, instead of unconditional self-acceptance is

unhealthy and to be avoided since: (a) self-esteem is irrational process, due to the fact

that there are no objective basis for making global evaluations of one’s self; (b) focusing

on self-esteem makes the person vulnerable to life’s little setbacks and rejections; (c)

self-esteem can lead to comparisons with others, at the expense of engaging in healthy

and productive pursuits, and to high emotional vulnerability to criticism” (as cited in

Maricuţoiu, Rusu, Macsinga & Vîrgă, 2011)

The important idea of REBT is that negative emotions are not the result of bad events,

but rather the result of one’s unique perceptions of those events. One practice involved in REBT

is that people take responsibility for their actions (Moore, 2007). The essential idea here is that

we create our own reality by the way we react to the events in our lives. According to Zionts &

Zionts (1997), the following are four REBT interpretations of harmful emotions and behaviors:
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1. Anger is caused by low frustration tolerance. A person who is angry believes that

events should not be too difficult or unfair (e.g., “Things should happen easily in the

way that I want them to).

2. Anxiety is fear of the unknown. A person who is anxious believes that something

terrible will happen (e.g., “I won't take the test because it would be an awful thing if I

failed it”).

3. Shame or low self-esteem occurs when students are overly concerned about how they

are perceived by others (e.g., “I won't speak in front of the class because everyone

will laugh at me”).

4. Depression or irrational beliefs involve self-blaming over incidents (e.g., “I can’t

stand the fact that I don't have a girlfriend. I am totally overwhelmed. Nobody likes

me”).

Moreover, according to research by Zionts & Zionts (1997), “REBT is both a theory and

a strategy that can be used to help individual combat extremely negative feelings and behaviors

in a variety of ways (p. 103). REBT an effective classroom counseling intervention designed to

reduce students' intense emotional feelings and behaviors. Similarly with finding suggested by

Bernard, Ellis & Terjesen (1999) was found that REBT was most effective in its reduction of

disruptive behaviors such as irrationality, anxiety, locus of control, neuroticism and self-esteem

Statement of Problem

Self-esteem can be crucial for students of all ages, and the desire to foster positive self-

esteem is an aspect of being in school and among peers. Students with a positive self-esteem

have been shown to have higher levels of reading ability and reading skills, as well as a higher
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level of academic achievement. In contrast, students with low self-esteem struggle with problems

they face in school, whether it is academically or socially. Their daily lives outside of school can

also suffer from a lower level of self-esteem. The main problem seen with self-esteem issues is

that students become more focused on how they are viewed by their peers rather than focused on

their schoolwork (Hughes, 213) (as cited in Hisken, 2011). When high self-esteem is in place,

students do not spend as much time worrying about the way they are viewed by their peers. This

also allows students to focus on their schoolwork and learning more than how they are seen by

their peers.

There are numerous study conducted on the effect of low self-esteem among students.

The finding of the research found that people with low self-esteem will have tendency to engage

with the depression, suicidality, eating disorders and social phobia. Even though there are a lot of

researches conducted on the effect of self-esteem and it correlation with depression, yet no study

has been done on self-esteem in relation to the intervention strategy, REBT (Rational Emotive

Behavior Therapy). Therefore, this study should be carried out to find out the answer to this lack

of focus.

Purpose of study
The purpose of this research and study is to review the literature to explore the

effectiveness of using REBT sealing with low self-esteem among This study presents ways to

increase or improve the level of self-esteem in students. This issue of low self-esteem could be

resolve and only if we know the causes of it. Hence, the purpose of this study aimed to identify

the causes of low self-esteem among students. Besides that, this research also attempts to find

out the consequences of low self-esteem among students in their daily life.
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Research question
This study was focused around three questions that were intended to guide the research in

a way to gain the most useful knowledge on the subject. These questions address all the areas

mentioned in the thesis statement.

1. What factors contribute to low self-esteem among students?

2. What are the effects of low self-esteem among students?

3. How the effective is REBT in dealing with low self-esteem?

Significance of study
As mentioned earlier, numerous studies have been done on the effect of self-esteem and

its relation to academic performance. The study on the self-esteem of students, especially in

relation with intervention strategy remained almost unexplored yet. Hence, this study attempts to

contribute to the advancement of knowledge in the area. This study aimed to analyze the

effectiveness of REBT in helping low self-esteem problem.

Moreover, this study would be beneficial to those who are involved directly in helping

the students with low self-esteem as they will get the information from this study on how to

improve themselves toward betterment. Besides that, this study would be helpful to the teachers,
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counselors and parents as well. Finding of this study would help them when dealing with

problems with self-esteem.

Definition of terms
The terms defined below should be used to clarify their meaning when encountering them

in the following research. Some terms have been defined by the researcher to give the clearest

explanation possible.

Low Self-Esteem: Low self-esteem is very debilitating. It may be associated with feelings of

depression. Or it may mean not thinking very highly of yourself, doubting your ability to get the

things you want or to attract the sort of people that interest you.

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT): Rational emotive behavior therapy, or REBT, was

first developed by psychologist Albert Ellis during the 1950s. Ellis believed that it is our

interpretation of events that leads to psychological distress. In this form of psychotherapy, the

therapist helps the client identify and dispute irrational beliefs. The goal is to help people become

aware of their thoughts and change how they think about and respond to various situations

(Cherry, 2013)

Teenagers: a young person whose age falls within the range from thirteen through nineteen

Limitation of Study
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The limitations of this study included a limited amount of peer reviewed journals and

texts that are related to or discuss the proper aspects using REBT in helping low self-esteem. The

data collected included journals, articles, and studies dealing with all the subjects listed

previously. There were also topics that were related to this research that were not appropriate to

include in this literature review such as low self-esteem in correlation with sexual behavior, self-

esteem in visually impaired students, and self-esteem and dyslexia. Final limitations to the study

include access to articles with relevant information.

CHAPTER 2

REVIEW OF THE LITERATURE

Definition of REBT
According to Ellis (1994), Rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), previously called

rational therapy and rational emotive therapy, is a comprehensive, active-directive,

philosophically and empirically based psychotherapy which focuses on resolving emotional and

behavioral problems and disturbances and enabling people to lead happier and more fulfilling

lives.

Generally, one of the goals of REBT is to help clients see the ways in which they have

learned how they often needlessly upset themselves, teach them how to "un-upset" themselves

and then how to empower themselves to lead happier and more fulfilling lives (Ellis, 2001).

Although REBT teaches the therapist or counselor had better demonstrate unconditional other-

acceptance or unconditional positive regard, the therapist is not necessarily always encouraged to

build a warm and caring relationship with the client. The tasks of the therapist or counselor
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include understanding the client’s concerns from his point of reference and work as a facilitator,

teacher and encourager.

Definition of Low Self-Esteem

Hewitt (2009) was defined self-esteem as a term used in psychology to reflect a person's

overall emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an

attitude toward the self. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs and emotions such as triumph, despair,

pride and shame. Hence low self-esteem refers having a generally negative overall opinion of

oneself, judging or evaluating oneself negatively, and placing a general negative value of oneself

as a person (Fennell, 1998). Here are some examples of what people with low self-esteem might

say about themselves:

“I get nervous talking to people I don’t know at parties. I’m socially inept and I hate it!”

“I couldn’t understand a lot of what the instructor was saying today. I must be really stupid.”

“I’m overweight. I am so fat and ugly.” “I’m unimportant.” “I’m a loser.” “I’m unlovable.”

“I’m not good enough.”

In essence, people with low self-esteem usually have deep-seated, basic, negative beliefs

about themselves and the kind of person they are. These beliefs are often taken as facts or truths

about their identity. As a result, low self-esteem can have a negative impact on a person and

their life. According to Baldwin & Sinclair (1996), individuals with low self-esteem are very

critical of themselves and depend on the approval and praise of others for their own evaluation of

self-worthiness. They believe that a person’s approval of them is dependent on their


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performance, whether it be academic, relationship, etc. People with low self-esteem view their

liability in terms of successes: others will accept them if they succeed but will not if they fail.

Contributing factors of low self-esteem

From the literature, it seems that factors contributing to the development of low self-

esteem tend to form the essence of the negative labels that patients associate with their low self-

esteem later in their lives. The contributing factors include family background, specifically

negative parental behavior (Berk, 2003; Hadley & Staudacher, 1996; Modlin, 1999) as cited in

Jacob, Elsje, and Catharine (2006), a bad or negative relationship with the mother or father

respectively (Gunnar & strife as cited in Pollack, 1999) as well as traumatic incidents such as

molestation (Hunter, 1991, Jehu, 1992; Morrow, 1991; Romans, Martin, & Mullen, 1997). In

contrast with the positive parental behavior, which leads to a healthy self-esteem, negative

parental behavior will influence the child’s self-esteem in a negative way. Some negative

parental behavior, for instance, periodic judgment, it is quite common among most parents, and

apparently it does not have a huge negative impact on the psychological development of the

child. If constant parental judgment is involved in the upbringing of the child, however, it will

lead to problems within the child’s self-esteem.

Besides that, as cited in Schult (2002), parental divorce significantly affects children’s

levels of self-esteem (Coopersmith, 1967; Wallerstein & Kelly, 1980). Since we know that

parents play a key role in the development of self-esteem, it is not surprising that a disruption in

the parental relationship would have an effect on that development. After a divorce, a major

change in parenting takes place simply as a result of the absence of the non-custodial parent.
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Mruk (1995) found that children with parents who are absent frequently or for long periods of

time display lower levels of self-esteem. Children often view this parental absence as a sort of

rejection and in turn question their worth (Wallerstein & Kelly, 1980).

Characteristics of Individual with Low Self-Esteem

Based on Research conducted by Jones (2003) was highlight some effects of the

characteristics of individuals with low self-esteem. According to him, low self-esteem can result

from various factors, including genetic factors, physical appearance or weight, mental health

issues, socioeconomic status, peer pressure or bullying. In addiction Ash (n.d.) in her article

“The Telling Signs of Low Self Esteem” states that a person with low self-esteem may show

some of the following characteristics:

I. Faulty Self Image

This is often a negative view of a person’s own ability to function in a healthy way. Be it

negative self-talk, putting oneself down, comparing to others and coming to the

conclusion that they are somehow less than others.

II. Poor Self Confidence

Directly relating to a distorted self-image, those with low self-esteem will often be unsure

of their capabilities and will either try really hard to prove themselves or let themselves

go entirely, believing they don’t have the abilities to make their lives a success.

III. Prone To Anxiety And Depression

It is no surprise this trait appears on this list. Anxiety and low self-esteem go hand in

hand like best buddies. If someone’s general view is that they are inadequate and
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unworthy, they will live in constant fear that there’s a threatening situation waiting for

them just around the corner. They are always alert for danger and are unable to relax. The

Shyness and Social Anxiety System is a great introduction and effective tool to attack this

symptom for sustained results

IV. Needy

Being needy is a sure sign that someone is lacking self-esteem. They need to look for

other’s reassurance to make themselves feel better. This is very dangerous, as the person

has to constantly find the external evidence they are worthy of love, instead of trusting

they are good enough already as they are. These people spend their lives shopping for

stuff they don’t need, for example, and the next item on the list have to be bigger and

better than anything had come before. They are in a perpetual cycle of searching for

happiness, and attach importance to trivialities.

V. Poor Communication

It is so important that children learn to be social from an early age. If they are missing out

on social and communication skills, it will be hard for them to make meaningful

relationships, and to express themselves assertively. They then carry these traits to their

adulthood, being passive or aggressive or both at the same time.

As previously mentioned low self-esteem can be dangerous as individuals who suffer

with low self-esteem may damage themselves by self-harming, abusing alcohol and drugs,

developing an eating disorder, or not taking care of themselves because they do not believe they

are worth it. Therefore, this problem should solve as soon as possible to prevent it from being

worse.
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Impact of Low Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem can have an effect on various aspects of a person. An individual with

low self-esteem probably says a bunch of negative things about themselves. They might criticize

themselves, their actions, and abilities or joke about themselves in a very negative way. As

mentioned by Fennell & Jenkins (2004), people with low self-esteem might expect that things

would not turn out well for them. They might often feel sad, depressed, anxious, guilty,

ashamed, frustrated, and angry. They might have difficulty speaking up for themselves and their

needs, avoid challenges and opportunities, or be overly aggressive in their interactions with

others.

In addition, low self-esteem can also have an impact on many aspects of a person’s life.

It can affect a person’s performance at work or at school. They might consistently achieve less

than they are able to because they believe they are less capable than others. Besides that, people

with low self-esteem might find it hard to believe any good results they get are due to their own

abilities or positive qualities.

In the same research conducted by Fennell & Jenkins (2004) they found that, people with

low self-esteem might become upset or distressed by any criticism or disapproval, bend over

backwards to please others, be extremely shy or self-consciousness or even avoid or withdraw

from intimacy or social contact. They might also be less likely to stand up for themselves or

protect themselves from being bullied, criticized, or abused by their partners or family members.

Due to this, they might be depressed and have tended to involve in immoral behavior to release

their tension. For instance, they might drink excessive amounts of alcohol or abuse drugs.
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All in all, low self-esteem brings a lot of negative effects for oneself as it can seriously

impact how they feel about themselves, how they interpret their own appearance, how they feel

they relate to or measure against others, how they interact with others and how they develop

skills.

How REBT is Useful in Dealing with Low Self-Esteem.

Rational emotive behavioral therapy (REBT) Ellis (1973), as cited in (Emler, 2001)

“although also regarded as a cognitive-behavioral technique, concentrates in particular upon

altering maladaptive or irrational beliefs. It functions as a form of persuasion or attitude change,

relying on rational arguments. Recall the earlier observations about self-esteem as an attitude and

about the value in changing attitudes of strong arguments. Recall also the evidence that low self-

esteem appears to entail irrational, inappropriate beliefs about the self” (p. 56)

Hence, in the light of these, Rieckert and Moeller, (2000) was coming out with their

finding that REBT might appear a particularly appropriate technique for overcoming very low

self-esteem. Rational emotive behavioral therapy techniques can form the basis for group-based

interventions and that in this form they can successfully enhance self-esteem (Hajzler and

Bernard, 1991) as cited in Emler, (2001). Based on a research conducted by Davies (2006), low

self-esteem in an individual will lead to irrational beliefs. Due to this, they will lead to develop

unhealthy emotions, dysfunctional behaviors and psychological disturbance. For this issue,

REBT is useful to dispute their irrational beliefs, people can acquire more rational and realistic

ways of thinking that result in greater acceptance of the self.


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In addition, as stated in an article in College Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy, in

REBT theory, people do not disturb themselves about events because of the assumptions they

make about these events; rather they disturb themselves because they hold irrational or unhealthy

beliefs about these events. When low self-esteem predominates in people’s problems, their

unhealthy or irrational beliefs have largely taken the form of rigid demands and self-depreciation

beliefs. Therefore, as suggested by Ellis (1991), the first step in the therapy process is to identify

the irrational thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that lead to psychological distress. Then, therapist or

counselor need to play their role as they must dispute these beliefs using very direct and even

confrontational methods. Ellis (1991), recommended that rather than simply being warm and

supportive, the therapist needs to be blunt, honest, and logical in order to push people toward

changing their thoughts and behaviors. Once the client has identified the problematic beliefs, the

process of actually changing these thoughts can be even more difficult. However, rational

emotive behavior therapy is able utilizes cognitive strategies to help clients, it also focuses on

emotions and behaviors as well. In addition to identifying and disputing irrational beliefs,

therapists and clients also work together to target the emotional responses that accompany

problematic thoughts. Clients are also encouraged to change unwanted behaviors using such

things as meditation, journaling, and guided imagery (Ellis, 1993)

In short, REBT has been widely used applied to the treatment of anxiety, hostility,

character disorders, psychotic disorders and depression; to the problems of sex, love, and

marriage (Ellis & Blau, 199); to child rearing and adolescence (Ellis & Wilde, 2001); and to

social skills training and self-management (Ellis, 2001; Ellis et al., 1997) as cited in (Corey,

2009).
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CHAPTER 3

RESEARCH METHODOLOGY

Introduction

This action research proposal is aimed to identify the causes of low self-esteem among

students. Besides that, this research also attempts to find out the consequences of low self-esteem

among students in their daily life. Therefore, in identifying the low self-esteem problems, the

researcher was planned to apply the method above in conducting the research.

Population
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In this study, I plan to conduct this research among secondary school students. The

rationale for selecting the secondary school students is because normally teenagers are more tend

to have low self-esteem compare to primary school students. Some observers believe that the

youth years have become the worst time or a problematic period of life. Dacey and Kenny (1997)

have noticed that “adolescence is a complex process of growth and change. Because biological

and social are so much focus of attention, changes in the young adolescent’s ability to think often

goes unnoticed” (p. 101). Besides that, the other research on this problem was studied by Caster,

Inderbitzen, and Hope (1999) point out “Adolescents reporting higher levels of social anxiety,

perceived their parents as being more socially isolating, overly concerned about others’ opinions,

ashamed of their shyness and poor performance, and less socially active than did youth reporting

lower levels of social anxiety”(p. 237). The adolescence or youth period involves physical,

cognitive and social change. Everybody looks, feels, thinks differently, and judges right or

wrong differently, and engages in different types of social relationships. Due to this, the

researcher was concerned about the teenager’s issue and was proposed to conduct this research

on teenagers.

Sample

For this study, I was proposed to select 5 students from form 3 with a low self-esteem problem

which are consist of 2 male students and 3 female students. In the selecting process, the students

will go through some steps. First of all, I will publish an advertisement looking for students with

low self-esteem. Then, I will conduct an interview with a student who registered themselves by

distributing Rosenberg Self-Esteem questionnaire to choose the one who really met with the

problem. It was a closed group, which means once the group started no new members will join in

Instrument
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The suitable instrument to be used in order to diagnose students’ self-esteem is by using

Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale. This scale (RSE; Rosenberg 1965) consists of 10 statements

related to overall feelings of self-worth or self-acceptance. The items were answered on four-

point Likert scales ranging from strongly agree to strongly disagree. Highest score able to be

attained was 30 and lowest was 0. Besides that, I will also use an alternative instrumental method

by interviewing the students in the group counseling session.

Research Design

A qualitative research method is used in the present research. As researcher will conduct the

focus group by interviewing them or by observing the group converse about the issue.

Qualitative methodology includes participation observation, students’ sharing during the session.

Qualitative research allows the researcher to do the study in a natural setting, be an instrument of

data collection, trying to make sense of and interpret data in terms of the meaning people bring to

it. Data can be collected in the form of field notes, interviews, conversations, photographs, and

memos to the self.

Data Collection Procedure

A semi-structured interview was conducted in group sessions at convenient times and locations.

That is, the researcher interviewed the participants based on a list of questions expanded from the

three primary research questions. The questions were open-ended, which allowed the participants

to freely express their experiences, thoughts, and feelings about their low self-esteem experience.

Follow-up questions were improvised during the session. Each session lasted approximately 30

minutes and was not tape-recorded due to students’ unwillingness. Nevertheless, session notes

were taken to each session. The total of session conducted with the participants is 5 sessions.
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Group Counseling Process

Through group counseling, the client is taught to change their irrational belief such as “I am a

total failure” to a more rational belief such as “I failed the last time because I was sick”. A

change in the belief system will make the client less disturbed. The researcher used a self-esteem

module as a process to teach the clients to stop thinking negatively about themselves that

contribute to their emotional disturbance (Dryden & Ellies, 1998)

Data Analysis Strategy

The researcher conducted 5 group sessions with the participant. Through the sessions, researcher

able to explore the cause and effect of low self –esteem based on the participant’s experience.

Therefore, in order to answer third research question, the researcher was used a few modules of

low self-esteem to see the effectiveness of REBT in dealing with this issue. The finding related

to the research questions were summarized and reported in the section below. In reporting the

research outcomes, pseudonyms were used to protect the students’ privacy.

CHAPTER 4

RESULT AND FINDING

The purpose of this study was to investigate the effectiveness of REBT in dealing with

the issue of low self-esteem. Therefore, the researcher sought the extent to which participants’

low self-esteem experience affected their lives.

The results will be presented in three parts. Part A provides RSE data collection of the

participants, part B provides a demographic description of the participants and Part C provides
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detail about the participant’s evaluation of the effectiveness of the REBT conducted in a group

counseling session.

PART A

10 Rosenberg Self-Esteem questionnaires were distributed to the 5 participants in the

screening session to make sure that all the participants meet the needs of the research and the

results were acquired from it. The Rosenberg scale measures an individual’s perception of self-

worth, ability, self-satisfaction, and self-respect. Participants were asked to indicate how strongly

they agree or disagree with overall statements.

The data that was collected showed that all the participants got low scores. A low score

indicates a low level of self-esteem, while high score indicates a high level of self-esteem. Most

of them said that they answer the question based on their experience and their own perspective

about their own self.

The respondents consist of students from form 3 but different classes. The result of the

Rosenberg self-esteem scale taken during the screening session was simplified as below:

Statements Strongly Agree Disagree Strongly


Agree Disagree

1. I feel that I am a person of worth, at least on an


equal plane with others.
2. I feel that I have a number of good qualities.
* 3. All in all, I am inclined to feel that I am a failure.
4. I am able to do things as well as most other people.
* 5. I feel I do not have much to be proud of.
6. I take a positive attitude toward myself.
7. On the whole, I am satisfied with myself.
8. I wish I could have more respect for myself.
*
* 9. I certainly feel useless at times.
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10. At times I think I am no good at all.

Scores are calculated as follows:

 For items 1, 2, 4, 6, and 7:

Strongly agree = 3
Agree = 2
Disagree = 1
Strongly disagree = 0

 For items 3, 5, 8, 9, and 10 (which are reversed in valence):

Strongly agree = 0
Agree = 1
Disagree = 2
Strongly disagree = 3

The scale ranges from 0-30. Scores between 15 and 25 are within normal range; scores below 15
suggest low self-esteem.

The score of the participants on the Rosenberg self-esteem scale was simplified as below

Participant Score
Participant 1 10
Participant 2 13
Participant 3 10
Participant 4 11
Participant 5 11
Total 55/5 = 11
Table 1

The score was calculated by summing the responses and dividing by the total number of

responses. Overall, the result in the table above indicates that all participants have low self-

esteem as they have negative perceptions about their own self.

PART B

Demographic Description of the participants


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Participant Gender Birth order Academic Parental Family relation/ issue in


achievement relationshi the family
p
Participant 1 Male 3rd of 3 Moderate Divorced Poor (alone at home,
mother is busy woman)
Participant 2 Male 2nd of 5 Poor Married Poor
(2 wives) (hatred feeling toward
father)
Participant 3 Female 2nd of 3 Moderate Divorced Poor
(A parent always out
station

Participant 4 Female 3rd of 3 Moderate Married Poor (stay alone at home,


(foster all sibling are married and
family) live separately)
Participant 5 Female 1st of 6 Poor Divorced Poor (live with aunty)
Table 2
Table 2 showed that 3 out of 5 participants in this study are female students (60 %), and

had shared the same number of academic achievement as 3 out of 5 got moderate achievement

and the rest got poor academic achievement. 3 out of 5 participants have come from divorced

families and 1 out of 5 is from the foster family. The majority of the participants was living in an

unsupportive family environment and experienced poor family relationship. Overall, most of the

participants have an almost similar issue with their family as they spend time at home alone.

During the 5 sessions with the participants in group counseling, the researcher able to

identify three factors of low self-esteem as below:

a. Lack of attention from parents

b. Father and mother’s personalities

a. Lack of Attention from Parents


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As explored in the sessions, the researcher found out that student 1, 3 and 5 shared same low

self-esteem experience due to the feeling of rejection by their parents. Their parents spend too

much of their career and sometimes they never stay at home because of out - stations. Hence, due

to this, they never have a proper conversation with their parents. Mostly they spend their time at

home by surfing internet and playing games. They have negative thought as they think that their

parent was neglecting them for the sake of their career. For them, they consider their parent was

being selfish and never concern about their own children as one of them said:

“My parent was divorced, my brother pursued his study at university, and then I stay

alone with my mom at home. But most of the time I stay alone because my mom too busy

with her work. We rarely have a proper conversation because in the morning I go to

school and my mom go to work place and at night my mom return home in the midnight,

I was sleeping at the moment. We only talk each other when watching television, but I

never start the conversation first. I will talk if my mom asks. Basically, I only talk with

my mom only one has important things to share.” (P.1)

“My father was self-employed who always busily worked outside. They were not

available. He was married 2 times, with my mom and another woman. He was very

absent because he always spends his time with his second wife. I felt very frustrated with

my dad and sometimes I felt hatred toward him.” (P.2)

“My mother doesn’t care about me. She let go her responsibility to my aunt. She asks me

to stay with my aunt. I feel like I don’t have a mother” (P.5)

b. The Parent’s Personalities


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In this study, within some of the categories, themes of absent fathers, lack of a positive role

model, short temper, strictness, and distance in the relationship between a father or mother and

children abound in the negative ways that children with low self-esteem consistently described

their parent and their relationships with them.

My father married again with another woman. He never felt guilty as he neglect his

responsibility to our family. He should be more responsible if he wants to marry with

many woman.” (P.2)

“My mother is a short tempered person. She always scolds me and want me to follow she

wants. For example, if I do not study, she will be angry with me as I had committed a

worse wrongdoing. She was also angry if I failed to meet her standard. If she said I need

to stay at home and don’t ever go somewhere else after school period, then when I break

her instruction I will scold. She will bring up and mention my mistakes again and

again.” (P.3)

These themes, which occurred in the data, are also reflected in the literature, notably that of

Pollack (1999) where it would seem that the effect of the father-child relationship with self-

esteem mostly corresponds to the availability of the parent and the amount of time they spend

with their children.

Overall, from the above data collection, it is found that low self-esteem among the

participants are caused by their parent’s treatment. All the participants are sharing the common

issue as they have family issues in their family as can see in the table. Besides that, the parental

relationship also contributing to low self-esteem. As illustrated in the table 2, three out of 5

participants come from divorced parents, 1 from foster family and the other 1 is from the
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problematic parent relationship as his father was married to another woman (polygamy). It was

supported the finding of the research in literature review, parental divorce significantly affects

children’s levels of self-esteem (Coopersmith, 1967; Wallerstein & Kelly, 1980) as cited in

Schult (2002).

To answer the second research question, researcher distributed check list of effects of low

self-esteem in their life to be ticked. The result drawn in bar graph as below:

List of effects of low self-esteem that you have experienced in your life
6

Less participation in
Less positive peer interaction classroom activities
5

Run away & suicidal thoughts


3

Educational
underachievement Do less well academically
2

From the result above, researcher found out five effects that affected participant’s lifestyle as

stated below:

1. Less positive peer interaction


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2. Less participation in classroom activities

3. Run away and suicide thought

4. Educational underachievement

5. Do less well academically

In the result, researcher highlight only major issues that affected participant lifestyle. For the

issue 4 and 5 will discussed in the issue 2 because it has similar theme.

a. Less positive peer interaction

Based on the participant’s experience, all of them agree that low self-esteem was affected their

life as they have less positive peer interaction. Their social relationship is at the low level. They

do not have many friends. They just have a close friend only. The low social relationship that

occurred in the lives of the research participants is illustrated by the following quotes:

“I'm just friends with my close friends ..... In my class have a friend only……. I try to be

friend with other my classmates, but it is hard. I don’t know what I should talk” (P.5)

“My mother did not allow me to make friends with many friends. Because my mother

afraid I was influenced by friends. That’s why she wants me to return immediately after

school period. Sometime I lied, I go to McD with my friend, but I tell her that I have extra

class” (P.3)

I have friends at school only. At home, I’m alone. No one I can talk with….. What I am

doing at home? I spend my time at home by watching Korean drama, surfing internet and

Facebooking. (P.4)
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This research finding was supported the previous research proposed by Ash (n.d.) in the

literature review, as he states that a person with low self-esteem may show poor communication

or poor interaction.

b. Less participation in classroom activities

This research found that the other main major effect of low self-esteem is less participation in

classroom activities. All of the clients had shared the same experience as they afraid and

ashamed to take part in classroom activities.

“I never be a volunteer in class. I will take part in classroom activities if teacher

mentions my name” (P.1)

“If the teacher call for volunteers to ask questions, I will hide and look down, I afraid

that the teacher will call me. I afraid stand in front of my class.” (P.2)

“I rarely take part in classroom activities, especially if the teacher asks to do group work

activity. I prefer to do with my own self. I feel do not comfortable if done study group. I

am just being listener.” (P.3)

“My experience is same like the others. I don’t like if the teacher ask me to stand in front

to read a passage or whatsoever. I felt so nervous and my hand will be shaken” (P.4)

“I never participate in classroom activities. Sometimes I have intention to be volunteer to

answer the question given by the teacher. I know the answer, but I do not have

confidence because my classmates will look at me weird. If I stand they will look at me.

Sometimes I confuse what is the meaning behind their looking at me. I will overly think

about my classmates’ interpretation of me.” (P.5)


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In connection with the above, the finding of this study linked meaningfully with Fennell (1998)

with the basic assumption that students with low self-esteem experienced negative effects on

judging or evaluating themselves negatively. This finding also supported Ash’s research outcome

of the literature review that someone who are affected by low self-esteem often is unsure of their

capabilities and will either try really hard to prove themselves or let themselves go entirely,

believing they don’t have the abilities to make their lives a success.

c. Run away and suicide thought

All three female participants were agreed that they were experiencing suicidal intention as the

consequence of low self-esteem. They feel like they are worthless. The always questioned the

purpose of life. For what they exist in this world if their parent doesn’t love them. They feel like

they are not like their friends who stay happy with their family. The intention to run away or

want to commit suicide experienced by participants is illustrated by the following quotes:

“I feel like I’m useless. Everything that I do is wrong in my mom’s eyes. I don’t know

what she wants. She always scolds me. What can I say, throughout my life living in this

world for 15 years, my mother never gives freedom for me. Everything was decided by

her. I doesn’t have right to make a decision. I feel worthless. Then for what I live in this

world. I have ever hurt myself because I’m too sad with my life. My life is totally different

with my friends. (P.3)

“After my parent divorced, I felt so down. And it became worse when my mother sends

me to my aunty. Living with my aunty is not my choice. My aunty is a short tempered

person. She controls my life… she hasn't allowed me to watch television. All I need to do
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is study, study and study. If I study in my bedroom, she will scold me. She asks me to

study outside. I need to follow her instruction. If she asks me to do something, I need to

do it immediately. If I postpone it for just 5 minutes, then I will be scolded by her. I felt

stress because need to follow her instruction” (P.5)

Anxiety and low self-esteem go hand in hand like best buddies, Ash (n.d). The previous research

is connected in line with the current research. The finding showed that if someone’s general view

is that they are inadequate and unworthy, they will live in constant fear that there’s a threatening

situation waiting for them just around the corner.

PART C

In order to answer third research question, “How REBT can be used to deal with low

self-esteem issues?” I used the self-esteem module to make them aware that they need changes in

their behavior to make them better. They need to do something to change negative behavior

which affected their self-esteem.

Basically, in REBT, it is familiar with the A-B-C framework. Hence, in this study, the researcher

applied A-B-C framework to the issue presented. There are few steps that highlighted by the

researcher in applying this therapy to lead a more optimistic life.

1) Identify the automatic thoughts fitting the consciousness when one feels worst. As in this

research, the researcher was identified the main issues that cause low self-esteem among

the participants

2) Observe how the ABCs affect one’s daily life as stated in the result on how the low self-

esteem experience give impact to participants’ life.


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3) Try to dispute or distract automatic thought. Disputing is better in the long term, because

effectively disputed beliefs do not often recur under similar situations. Hence researcher

had done 5 group counseling sessions with the participants. There are four useful ways to

make good disputing convincing:

a) Evidence – researchers observed participant’s performance in the classroom

setting

b) Alternatives – in order to dispute the participants’ beliefs, researcher

identified the causes include exploring the background and issues happened in

the family.

c) Implications – researcher identified the how low self-esteem experience

affected their life.

d) Usefulness – it may not be beneficial to dwell on one’s beliefs. In that case,

researcher use enhancement using self-esteem module. Sometimes

enhancement or distraction maybe better than disputation.

4) Observe the new set of positive feelings.

As mention earlier, self-esteem module used by researcher to see the effectiveness of REBT

dealing with this issue. The module carried out as below

Activity 1: “Tongkat Sakti”/ Magic Stick

Activity 1 : “Tongkat Sakti”/ Magic Stick


Objective To open up participants’ mind and change their negative behavior to be a
better person in future
Material Stick/ ruler
Steps 1. In a group, participants are asked to do reflection and see through
themselves to find out one attitude that they want most to change
2. Participants asked to do role playing
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3. Researcher swinging a stick and make a sound “ting”


4. Participants act out a scene in which they change the negative
character to a new character as they want
Summarization The participants need to aware that the negative behavior should be changed
so that they can move forward as others

For this activity, it is useful to help clients open up their mind by doing reflection. After they are

done role play, researcher ask the participants to translate into word so that all group members

could understand. Among the responses of the participants are:

“The most attitude that I want change is passive attitude. I want to be an active one who

is friendly and talk more....Normally, if someone asks me then I will talk. So I want to

change this attitude. I want to start conversation first” P.1

“I want change my lazy attitude. I want to be a hardworking person who able is

successful. I always think that I’m a failure. My sisters have gotten more attention

compared to me. She got the good academic achievement and my mother always praise

her. Sometimes I jealous with her” P.2

“I want to be more confident. I want to have the courage, especially to tell the truth to

my mom. Sometimes I had to lie to her because I afraid she will scold me. I want to have

courage to make my own decision making. My mom always decides what should I do. So

I want to change my afraid attitude to be more confident” P.3

For this activity, researcher found that the participants start to realize their weaknesses. By using

role play, the participants able to change the negative attitude with a positive one.

The second activity conducted is called Pokok Hikmat or Wisdom Tree.


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Activity 1 : “Pokok Hikmat”/ Wisdom Tree


Objective 1. Know other’s perception toward ourselves
2. Recognize positive assumption of our own self based on other’s
perception
3. Respect the differences and individual uniqueness
Material A4 paper and Stationaries
Steps 1. The researcher asks participants to sit in the group
2. Researcher distributes a piece of paper to participants
3. Participants are asked to draw a tree which has 5 branches
4. The researcher asked each participant to list down 5 positive attitude
of their friends in the group (without friend’s acknowledgement)
5. After 15 minutes, the researcher selects a participant to read positive
comments toward his/ her friend
6. Then, participants need to give the drawing to their friends
7. The researcher called group member that has been evaluated to share
experience and response to the comments given.

“My comments to (P. 5) are she has strong hearted even though her parent was divorced and

she need to stay with her aunty. If me in her situation, I think I cannot handle this. My second

comment is she is brilliant in art, even she can create “cerpen” or short story. She is a

hardworking and nice girl as she always follows her auntie’s instruction. She able to adapt to

new environments. Even though, I just know her not more than 4 months, but we can close each

other because she do not shy to share her feeling” (P.3)

The participants can know their strengths and uniqueness from other’s perspective. This activity

is also give an opportunity to the participants to evaluate from positive side and appreciate

themselves in building positive self-esteem


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In order to evaluate the effectiveness of the counseling session, the researcher distributed

questionnaire on counseling evaluation as below:

Participants' evaluation
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Strongly Agree Agree Disagree Strongly disagree

Based on participants’ evaluation above, the researcher can conclude that counseling

sessions help them a lot in changing their negative thought about themselves. Using REBT for

low self-esteem is an effective way to dispute irrational belief in the participants. Before the

session, they consider themselves worthless and they always critique themselves. However, after
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the sessions, they able to throw away the negative thoughts in themselves as they perceive

positive comments and supports from group members.

CHAPTER 5

DISCUSSION AND CONCLUSION

The purpose of this study is to investigate whether REBT can improve low self-esteem

among teenagers through enhancing their motivation by using self-esteem modules. The

counseling outcomes reflected the participants’ effort to discuss their problems. As mentioned by

Corey (2001)

“The client has to seek help and find ways to heal. As counseling progress they are then able to

express all their fears, anxiety, anger, guilt, jealousy, and other emotions that were suppressed”.

The participants put the effort in attending the group counseling session and applying

REBT was help them much to increase self-esteem. At the last session, they came in good spirits.

They mentioned that they being motivated and beneficial to attend group counseling session.

In conclusion, this study does not provide solutions to the low self-esteem problems that

teenagers are facing. The findings showed that teenagers is a difficult part of growing up,

whereby they encounter environmental and family stress.

Plenty of guidance, support, encouragement, care and understanding are required. The

low self-esteem adolescents do not have any support from their immediate families, resulting
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displays of negative behaviors, anger, depression, self-hurting and suicidal attempts. Hence,

there was the counseling session to assist them. REBT was used to counsel low self-esteem

participants who had a negative perception about themselves.

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