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5 Key Steps To Being Irresistibly Attractive PDF
5 Key Steps To Being Irresistibly Attractive PDF
Some of what I’m going to say here, and maybe in fact all of it, is
going to be surprising to you.
What you look like, do for a living or like to do in your spare time
will be of interest to a man, of course it will, but they won’t be
the reason why he wants to build an intimate, deeply loving
partnership with you, because they are not what lights up his
heart.
I’ve put the 5 Keys Steps into the acronym TREAT so it’s easy for
you to remember.
is for Thank You
Men want to make us happy and they want to give.
If right now all you can see is what he’s doing wrong, look for
one small thing that he does that feels good, even if it’s the
tinniest of things.
Now, here’s a question, from the other side of the coin.
The next time you hear your inner voice putting you down, catch
yourself, and accept that voice and, if you can, love it.
By that I mean:
Do you keep putting your man’s needs ahead of your own, even when
you’re feeling worn out?
Do you initiate, or agree to sex, in fear that he’ll walk away if you
don’t?
Do you find yourself chasing after a man when you know it’s the last
thing you should be doing?
The next time you notice you’re neglecting yourself, catch yourself,
and STOP.
That might be putting your feet up for half an hour in the garden with
a coffee,
OR reading a book that you love when you get into bed at night,
Or, do you find yourself judging men and believing that what they are
doing and saying is in some way wrong?
Judging, criticizing and ‘picking’ at our man for what he says and does
is often about our need for control…
Does it really matter if these small things aren’t how you would do
them?
Drama to a man is seeing that you’re feeling one thing and hearing
you say something completely different.
It’s confusing for a man when you say ‘I’m fine’ and yet inside you’re
feeling angry, frustrated or jealous.
A man can sense that your words aren’t matching what’s going on
inside you.
Pointing out what he’s done wrong feels like pressure to a man and
pushes him away.
Saying ‘I feel xxx and I don’t want xxx’ is just about how YOU feel and
what YOU want.
For example, if you’re dating and a man tells you he’s booked a
restaurant that you know doesn’t cater for your dietary requirements
you could say ‘I feel excited for our date and the restaurant doesn’t
cater for my diet. I know a couple of places nearby that do. What do
you think?
Now let your arms hang loose at your side and open your palms
outwards.
The reason it feels scary and nice at the same time is that being open
is being vulnerable.
Go on, do it again.
Try it, soften your shoulders and let your arms drop by your side now.
See how your breath pushes your chest out and, so too, your heart.
The next time you notice yourself doubting a man and your
relationship or anticipating that it’s all going to go wrong, catch
yourself.
Notice how your shoulders feel and how your tummy feels.
Take a breath into your shoulders and your tummy and say to yourself
‘I hear my doubt and fear AND I trust myself, and I trust this man (and
our relationship).
It’s vital to be able to trust that YOU WILL and YOU CAN remove
yourself from a difficult situation.
Once you know that you can do that, you can then CHOOSE to Trust.
Trusting a man is about giving him the space to step up, to do the right
thing and to meet your needs.
It’s also about trusting that HOW he steps up, WHAT he does and
HOW he meets your needs may not be in the way you envisaged it.
On the next page is a one-page graphic you can print off to remind you
of the 5 Keys.
I hope you’ve now got a feel for how this is going to attract and deeply
connect a man to you.
Click here to view my Fire Up His Desire video programme which goes
even deeper into TREAT and how to get a man’s attention AND hold it!
Love
Michelle x
is for Thank You
Today, I will stop, look a man in the eye and say ‘Thank you’.
I will catch myself wanting to DO something in return.
I will also appreciate myself for taking care of me.
is for Respect
Today, I will catch myself judging and criticizing a man,
and instead I’ll respect his opinion, be open to his decision
and agree with his suggestion and see what happens!
is for Trust
Today, I will catch myself doubting a man, questioning my
relationship and anticipating things going wrong. I will
choose to trust myself, this man and our relationship.