Master Life with Dr Jacob

Alias Jacob
22nd February 2021
Class 4 – Core Values
What are values? 3

• A principle or belief that a person or organization views as being of central importance.

• Your personal core values are what encompass your foundational beliefs, which then dictate your
behavior and guide you to make the decisions that you do. Your values are broad concepts that
can be reapplied many times over in your life in various situations to guide your actions.
• Choosing your personal core values is one of the critical focusing decisions that can make an
amazing difference in how you live your life. As a person, they reflect the fundamental choices of
who we want to be. In our network of connected decisions, they provide the goals and criteria
that should influence all our other personal decisions. We derive a sense of fulfillment when
living our personal values because our motivations and actions are aligned with the aspirations of
who we want to be.
Principle # 14
Your character is defined by your core values
• Your character is defined by values. And your core values are the
result of your behavior. That means your values are defined by your
actions—not the other way around. Aristotle said it best:
• “Men acquire a particular quality by constantly acting in a particular
way.”
Examples of Core Values 3
• Choosing your personal core values, unlike many other decisions, does not have a single answer. There are multiple values that
help define the life we want to lead. Expect to find between five to nine values that will become more fixed as you manage
your personal values development over time. When you write out your alternative values, be specific enough that you can be
clear with yourself on what would or would not exemplify that value. There are many alternatives to consider and here are a
few examples:
• Love - that can include patience, kindness, forgiveness, trust, selflessness, compassion and protection
• Integrity - which can incorporate honesty, truthfulness, responsibility, reliability, dependability, consistency, decency, justice,
sincerity and commitment
• Stewardship - resourcefulness, charity, contribution, or giving
• Wisdom - consisting of intelligence, understanding, knowledge, good judgment, insight, perception, discipline, experience,
personal growth, discretion and intuition
• Freedom - or alternatively, independence, free will, liberty, autonomy, and/or self-determination
• Achievement - success, or accomplishment
• Happiness - joy, contentment, pleasure, bliss, delight, and/or gladness
• Peace - harmony, unity, tranquility, or serenity
• Perseverance - persistence, or determination
• Respect - appreciate, esteem, value, or cherish
Principle #15
Having well defined personal core values helps us avoid making 3
choices that work against who we want to be.
• No person likes making mistakes. Having well defined personal core values helps us avoid making choices
that work against who we want to be. Our values become a clear set of guidelines for our words and
actions, consistently moving us in the direction aligned with our core beliefs and personal vision. Our life
becomes one of our choosing, not one that is directed by the decisions of others. Our values help us build
and maintain our identity as unique individuals.
• Choosing and knowing your values can provide a number of benefits that include:
• Reducing stress
• Making better decisions
• Finding environments and people that support your aspirations
• Increasing joy and happiness
• Supporting your growth and development
• Helping in times of conflict or confusion
• Growing contribution and value
• Providing motivation
Four Minds – Four Belief systems 3

Four Minds Four Beliefs

• Conscious Mind - Logical
• Sub Conscious Mind - Emotional
• Unconscious Mind – Spiritual
• Mind of the influencer
• inspired
• Logical Belief
• Experiential Belief
• Spiritual Belief
• inspired Belief
I AM A PART OF THE PERSON THAT HAS THE PATTERN OF THINKING, IDEAS AND FEELINGS WITH
AN ABILITY TO MAKE DECISIONS WITHOUT LETTING THE PERSON KNOW AND I PROPELL THE 3
PERSON INTO ACTION WITHOUT THE PERSON BEING AWARE OF THE ACTION

Conscious Conscious beliefs: These Logical

Mind are the beliefs we learn Mind / Belief

Sub Conscious Soulish - Emotions

These beliefs are primarily
Mind determined by our experiences Experiential Belief
from age 2 – 7 years.
Unconscious The imprints that are recorded in Mind of the
Mind / Creativity our mind are primarily Spirit / creativity
Instincts determined by our heredity

Mind of Influencer
Our subconscious mind / our soul 3

• They are responsible for over 80% - 85% of the things you do
• They have a pattern
• I AM A PART OF THE PERSON THAT HAS THE PATTERN OF THINKING, IDEAS
AND FEELINGS WITH AN ABILITY TO MAKE DECISIONS WITHOUT LETTING
THE PERSON KNOW AND I PROPELL THE PERSON INTO ACTION WITHOUT
THE PERSON BEING AWARE OF THE ACTION
• Our beliefs affect our body, even its posture and language!
• The mind triggers the body to react – blush
• Challenges and traumas in the childhood that gave me limiting beliefs
Principle 16
Traumas & Pains can affect your values/ beliefs and self 3
discovery begins with your pain wardrobe
• True self-discovery begins where your comfort zone ends. Adam Braun
• It is interesting to note that whenever the dominant conscious mind experiences a situation or event that is
life challenging or threatening, which it has never experienced before, and therefore is unable to interpret
its meaning, the natural life-preserving default meaning-making mechanism is fear. You automatically
imagine the worst fear possible. The worst fear possible for the body-mind is death. The worst fear possible
for the emotional mind is abandonment. The worst fear possible for the rational mind is irrelevance.
• Thus a traumatic event is a fear inducing event or situation that cannot be understood by the dominant
mind that triggers the worst fear possible of the dominant mind.
• Initially, the fear that is induced by not being able to make meaning overwhelms the workings of the
dominant conscious mind. In order for the dominant mind to go on functioning so it can assure our survival,
safety or security, the fear that has been triggered is relegated to the subconscious of the dominant mind.
• This fear stays in the subconscious of the dominant mind and every now and then bubbles up into conscious
awareness causing the conscious mind to become overwhelmed with painful feelings.
• The only way to heal trauma is to re-experience the feelings of the original trauma, bring them into
conscious awareness and give the situation that created the trauma a new meaning.
Principle 17
Good management of painful & traumatic experiences lead to
great growth and success
• No one escapes painful experiences
• How do you respond to them?
• We thrive if we manage it well
• WE fail if we have a victim mentality

• Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive
characters are seared with scars. Kahlil Gibran
What is your pain wardrobe?
(You do not have to post this assignment in coassemble, but reach out
to mentors, if needed)
• Deep sorrow, sadness, or • Death
depression. • Financial loss
• Grief. • Poverty
• Intense distress. • Debts
• Loneliness and isolation. • Failure in love
• Negative emotions. • Betrayal
• Panic. • Sickness
• Rage. • Fights
• Shame.