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The-New-Leadership-Paradigm-Chapter-10 INTERNAL COHESION
The-New-Leadership-Paradigm-Chapter-10 INTERNAL COHESION
The-New-Leadership-Paradigm-Chapter-10 INTERNAL COHESION
Internal Cohesion
Internal cohesion involves learning how to align the beliefs of the ego
with the values of the soul and aligning the energies of your ego with
your soul’s purpose. It is about bonding these two aspects of your
personality (the ego and the soul) into a unique, undifferentiated
whole. If you have achieved some degree of personal mastery, then
you will normally begin to experience internal cohesion in your forties
and fifties, sometimes earlier. Spiritual practices such as meditation
and yoga can accelerate internal cohesion. There are two preconditions
for internal cohesion: personal mastery and individuation.
Personal Mastery
It is impossible to achieve internal cohesion until you have attained a
significant level of personal mastery. You must be able to manage,
master, or release the subconscious fear-based beliefs that influence
the ego’s conscious and subconscious decision-making before you can
achieve a significant level of internal cohesion. Managing your
subconscious fear-based beliefs means being able to return to a state of
calm within twenty-four hours or less after feeling resistance,
impatience, frustration, or anger.
Individuation
With all good intentions, when we are children, our parents impose
their beliefs, standards, and expectations (or lack thereof) on us,
whether they are aware of it or not. By the time we reach adulthood,
our family environment and the culture we were brought up in have
thoroughly conditioned us. We are completely unaware of the mind
conditioning that has occurred during our childhood and early teenage
years. We begin our adult lives with a set of beliefs and assumptions
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that we own, but are effectively not ours. They totally condition our
relationship to the world.
Finding out who we really are, free from this conditioning, is
called individuation. It takes courage to individuate, especially if you
are close to your parents and siblings. When you openly challenge
your beliefs and assumptions, you are also challenging theirs. Standing
tall and expressing your needs and your values is not easy in such
circumstances. However, this is what is necessary if you are going to
individuate. Individuation is the way you start the process of
uncovering your true self. You uncover what is hidden in your psyche
and make it known to yourself and others.
Centre Web site.87 This survey asks you to pick the ten values that are
most important to you in your personal life. The results of the survey
show the levels of consciousness you are focused at and the different
values types you have chosen.
Ultimately, the objective in building personal internal cohesion is
to develop your authentic self, to live in alignment with the values that
support you in becoming all you can become. Values-based decision-
making helps you achieve this objective.
As you let go of the beliefs (assumptions) you learned in your
formative years, you need to replace them with your own unique
guidance system. This means understanding and focusing on the
values that are important to you.
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a mission when you know there is nothing else for you to do. It
consumes your time. You get energy from it. It feeds your soul. That is
what a mission feels like. It is what you came to do. It is what Maslow
described as a growth need. It is one of the fundamental characteristics
of a self-actualized individual.
Create a Vision
A vision is a picture of the future you want to create that is the natural
outcome of your mission and has your full energy behind it. It is
“Harley Davidson-like intention,” something with energy behind it
that keeps you focused on where you are going. Vision is more than a
direction. It’s a direction with attitude.
Once you have a sense of mission, it is extremely useful to build
a vision of the future you want to create. It helps direct your energies.
The following process is designed to help you identify your mission
and your vision. It is called the Four Whys process and is shown in
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Box 4. Internal Vision Box 3. External Vision
What do you want to achieve for What do you want to achieve
yourself? for the greater good?
To be a global resource for the To build a values-driven society.
evolution of human
consciousness.
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1. Then you go to Box 4 and ask how you are going to do what you
have written there. You should find the answer in Box 1.
The shift from purpose to mission to vision may take one or two
decades to evolve. Some people are content to stay with their
purpose(s) the whole of their lives. Those who play golf often never
stop trying to lower their handicap. Some mothers never stop focusing
on the needs of their children. Some people develop a mission and
vision for their lives when they are quite young. We are all different in
this regard. Up to the age of forty-five, I was focused on my purpose,
being the best I could be in my profession as transportation engineer.
When I reached forty-five, I found I had achieved everything I had
wanted to achieve and began to feel seriously bored. I then figured out
that I was more interested in transformation than transportation. I had
spent all my spare time for decades reading books on psychology, God
and physics, spirituality, religious experiences, and transformation. I
realised when I was forty-five and had satisfied my deficiency needs,
my career was not bringing me fulfilment. Transformation was clearly
my core interest and a strong part of my core motivation.
I then developed an intention that I translated into an affirmation
by putting it into the present tense. When people asked me what I did
in life, I would say, “I am an internationally recognised speaker and
author on personal and organisational transformation.” This was my
aspiration in the form of an affirmation.
Three years later, my soul spoke to me in a very direct way. I was
conducting a weekend workshop on finding your mission in life with
about twelve people in Boulder, Colorado. On the last afternoon,
someone in the course asked me what my mission was. I was about to
tell him my affirmation, but I could not find the words. I felt
embarrassed that I could not remember something so important to me.
I closed my eyes, centred myself, and waited a few seconds. Out of my
mouth came the words, “I am an architect of global transformation.”
I had never used these words before or even thought them. It was
immediately clear to me that this was my soul speaking to me. About
two years later, after I had developed the Four Whys process, I created
the first version of my mission and vision shown in Table 10.2.
I hold my soul purpose close to my heart. I embrace it fully. I
think about it frequently. I tell people about my mission and vision, but
I do not usually speak about my soul purpose. It is the diamond that
shines in my soul and brings light to my world.
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The IVA is a Web-based feedback self-assessment that forms part of the Barrett Values Centre’s
Cultural Transformation Tools® . For more information, go to http://valuescentre.com.
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For more information on the BNS, go to http://valuescentre.com.
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The insights that the IVA provide allow you to understand what is
important to you in your life (personal values) and the changes you want to
see in your organisation for you to find fulfilment in your place of work.
The transformational insights that the IVA provided have been
used to great effect as part of an award-winning programme to bring
the chronically unemployed back to work in the Netherlands. This
programme, known as the Upside Down approach, designed by the
Netherlands-based consulting firm Peer Facilitation, has had a major
impact on reducing unemployment among those who have participated
in their two-day training. The IVA is used to help transform
participant’s mind-sets by giving them an appreciation of the different
levels of consciousness that they could operate from and their needs,
values, and priorities.