FEDERAL URDU UNIVERSITY OF SCIENCE, ARTS AND

TECHNOLOGY

NAME : SANIA

FATHER NAME : HAQ NAWAZ

DEPARTMENT : ENGLISH

PROGRAM : BS IV SEMESTER

SUBJECT : ENGLISH HISTORY

SEAT NO : 13052166

ASSIGNMENT TITLE : JEALOUSY

SUBJECT HEAD : SIR MUHAMMAD

ANWAR
Write an article of almost 1800 to 2000 words on the topic.

TOPIC: What is jealousy? Why do we feel jealousy? How can we stay safe from it?

Jealousy is an emotion having components of both anger and fear commonly found in many
people. It is a biological system for fear of loss of something that we value. It us a human
nature to experience a variety of emotions throughout the extensive journey of life, especially
jealousy. It is a state of being fearful or wary of being supplanted. It is eventually when a
person sees a threat to what they have or what they want to have.

This world is full of many types of people. Some peoples are good, some people are bad and
some people possesses both the qualities. In this article, I would I would like to tell you in the
light of my own personal experience and knowledge the various reason for which people get
jealous. It is an envious or bitter attitude. Many people experience it every day, but not many
stop to actually analyze it and consider the effect of it on their outlooks on life. Hence,
jealousy starts out as a small “ nagging” feeling, but as it grow. It is continuously
misunderstood and remains unanalyzed everyday by those who experience it. Many people
do not know that jealousy is caused by anger, it is related to self esteem, and the feeling of it
can be avoided and overcome.

Both men and women suffer from an jealousy on an equal footing. There are two basic
categories of people: jealous people and people who do not admit that they are jealous. The
third category belong to the fortunate exceptions; these are so special persons who rise much
higher than the common limits, rare human beings permanently bathing in the divine light, to
which jealousy already become an inactive term. But it is not about them. My article is about
my self, about all who have ever felt the unfortunate efforts of this poisoned feelings.

Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings and behaviors that occur when a person
believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. Jealousy is distinct for envy. It
concerns something one has and is afraid of losing. It is particularly relevant to polyamory.
Our dominant culture has some pretty messed up ideas regarding jealousy; that jealousy is a
proof of love. That act of violence are excusable by feelings of jealousy. There is a whole
mythology that clearly implies that control, jealousy, possessiveness and love all go hand in
hand.
Man looks at phone in bed while his partner watches from a distance. Jealousy is an often
overwhelming feeling of insecurity about a potential loss or inequity in distribution of
resources. The term is also used to describe a feeling associated with being possessive of
another person, such as a partner or friend.

Most people experience jealousy from time to time, but extreme jealousy can greatly interfere
with daily life. People who find that jealousy interferes with their life may consider speaking
with a therapist to better understand what is causing this emotion. Jealousy is commonly used
interchangeably with envy, but the two are distinct emotions, and each word has a different
definition. While jealousy can be described as a fear that another person may take something
that is yours or something you consider to be yours, envy is the desire for something that
belongs to someone else. However, both jealousy and envy can cause feelings of insecurity.
Envy is more likely to cause feelings of sadness and a desire to change. Meanwhile, jealousy
is more likely to provoke anger and resentment. Sometimes jealousy and envy occur together.
When someone feels jealous, they may also envy the person who is causing them to feel
jealous in the first place. For example, a woman who wants to purchase the same new sports
car as her neighbor is likely experiencing envy, not jealousy. But a young man whose best
friend is spending all her time with her new partner, on the other hand, may experience both
jealousy and envy: He may be envious of their relationship and want a significant other of his
own, but he might also be jealous of his friend's new bond, resenting the decrease in the
amount of time they spend together.

SIGNS OF JEALOUSY

If a person is jealous, they may show it in a wide variety of ways. While some jealous
behaviors are subtle, unnoticeable, or mild, strong feelings of jealousy can cause people to act
out or harm others. Signs you may be experiencing jealousy include:

 Anger toward a person or situation that is interfering with something you care about.
 Resentment of a friend or partner when they can’t spend time with you.
 Difficulty feeling happy for a coworker when they receive something you wanted.
 Feelings of dislike toward a new person in a loved one’s life that are hard to explain.
For example, a father might have feelings of hostility that stem from jealousy toward
his daughter’s fiance even if the partnership she’s chosen is a healthy one.
 Deep sadness or feelings of distance when thinking about a partner, friend, or loved
one.
It is normal to feel some jealousy, but it can help to have support when working through
strong feelings of jealousy, especially if these are rooted in deeper feelings related to self-
esteem, trust, or control.

TYPES OF JEALOUSY

Jealousy is a common feeling, and it’s experienced by people from most cultures. As it can
crop up in many different situations, jealousy can come in many forms. Some types of
jealousy include:

 Jealousy in relationships:
This type of jealousy stems from the fear of being replaced by someone else in a
valued relationship. A woman who is angry that her husband is flirting with another
woman, a husband who feels insecure when his partner spends time with friends, and
a teenager who is annoyed at her sister for going to the movies with her best friend all
fall into this category. Jealousy in friendships is often called platonic jealousy, while
jealousy in romantic relationships may be referred to as romantic jealousy.
 Jealousy related to power and status:
This type of jealousy often occurs in the workplace, as it often relates to competition.
For instance, a man who resents his coworker for being promoted before he was may
experience this type of jealousy.
 Abnormal jealousy:
Also called pathological jealousy or extreme jealousy, this may be a sign of an
underlying mental health issue, such as schizophrenia, anxiety, or issues with control.
It is often used to describe jealousy that causes a person in a relationship to have
irrational worries about a partner’s faithfulness in the relationship and may cause
them to act abusively or unsafely toward that partner.

It is normal to experience mild jealousy in a platonic or romantic relationship, and this is not
always considered to be unhealthy. It can indicate that one cares about the success of their
relationship. Still, jealousy can become destructive when it is frequent, intense, or irrational.
An individual experiencing a high level of sexual jealousy may have difficulty trusting their
partner and may check the partner's email and cell phone or secretly follow them. If the
partner discovers this behavior, the relationship may suffer.

CAUSES OF JEALOUSY
People can become jealous for a variety of reasons. Often, jealous feelings stem from
communication issues, low self-esteem, loneliness, or, in relationships, differing interpersonal
boundaries. Some other common causes of jealousy include:

 Sibling rivalry:
Siblings may feel jealousy and envy when another sibling is viewed as receiving
more love, attention, or resources from parents or caretakers than themselves.
 Insecurity:
If one person in a romantic or platonic relationship values the relationship but feels
unstable within it, they may begin to feel jealous. In the workplace, people who feel
that their position is at stake may also feel jealous due to insecurity.
 Competition:
Fierce competition between friends, siblings, or coworkers may result in feelings of
jealousy if the risks involved with losing are high.
 Perfectionism:
People with perfectionistic qualities may find themselves feeling jealous if they often
compare themselves with others. While these comparisons can also cause envy,
jealousy can also arise when the person with perfectionism fears that the success of
another person will negatively impact their own success.
 Trust issues:
Difficulty trusting others in relationships may make people more likely to feel jealous
when their friend or partner spends time with other people or on their own.

Considering the possible and harmful effects of jealousy. Here are some ways to help keep it
at bay.

 Own your jealousy.

It is important to admit (at least to yourself) that you are feeling jealous. You can not
blame other people for your jealous feelings. The truth is, people often think that they
are feeling jealous because of the behaviors of someone else. But jealousy stems from
your own thoughts or reaction to a situation. Admitting that you're jealous can feel
threatening because you are acknowledging your own weaknesses and insecurities.
However, in order to fix the issue of allowing yourself to feel this emotion, you have
to acknowledge the fact that it is there.
 Appreciate who you are.
 Of course it is good to appreciate other people, but you can't forget to take care of
yourself. Often, we can feel insecure and depressed when comparing ourselves to
those around us. For example, you may be jealous if you have a friend who is more
athletic than you are, or someone who is more successful in their career. In these
cases, you have to remind yourself of your skills in other areas that other people may
lack. Perhaps you have a strong familial bond or you are known for your excellent
memory. Be proud of the strengths that you have. Appreciating yourself will allow
you to love other people better.
 Learn how to free yourself from resentment and anger.
For some, holding on to their anger becomes such a big part of their identity that also
acts as the scapegoat for anything that goes wrong, and for all of their missed
opportunities in life. However, most people largely underestimate their own control
over themselves. Once you gain the ability to recognize your feelings, you have the
power to decide what to do with them.
 Replace the negativity with something uplifting:
Channel your jealousy for personal gain. We solve problems by identifying the issue,
focusing on what’s missing, and filling that void. If you find that you have a void
because you notice someone else's gain, sitting around thinking that someone is about
to take something important from you won't get you anywhere. Use that emotion
for self-improvement.
 Learn to be happy alone.
If all else fails—if the ball has already stopped rolling and you find yourself alone,
courtesy of your jealousy—then learning how to be happy alone can help you build a
better relationship with yourself. Having a healthy relationship with yourself means
that you are able to value yourself as a person and acknowledge your strengths and
weaknesses. It means that you take the time to consider yourself every day by
practicing self-care, self-respect, and self-love. AS you have unconditional love for
your family, you must also extend that back to yourself. Having a good relationship
with yourself will help you improve your relationships with other people.
 The takeaway from this article is that most people commonly experience feelings of
jealousy. The problem is when they allow those feelings to consume them. This can
creates havoc in their lives, as well as in the lives of their loved ones. The above
strategies are efforts to improve yourself, but they can also change how you
 appreciate and interact with those around you. While jealousy may still rear its ugly
head, as you continue to practice these tips, you will be able to recognize when
jealousy is starting to arise, and control those emotions instead of allowing them to
control you. Hopefully, the strategies featured in this article will motivate you to stop
being jealous and to work on having a better relationship both with yourself and with
the person you care about.

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