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Emotional Intelligence Reflection
Emotional Intelligence Reflection
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Emotional Intelligence Reflection Paper
Emotional intelligence lends itself to self-awareness, growth, and prosperity; its absence
brings naivety, misunderstanding, and frustration. I have always appreciated the notion of being
in tune with one’s emotions. I am typically drawn to those who have a grasp on what they are
feeling and why they are feeling it. I have not always been good at it, but it is a skill I have
learned what it was. This emotional intelligence unit has provided me with the terminology and
Prior to taking the EQ Assessment, I had high expectations for the results. In my time at
Gonzaga, I have taken many personality and skills assessments. Yet I have never taken a 45-
minute-long assessment that cost $75 and requires a subsequent debrief. Most of the ones I have
taken pertain to my professional and personal characteristics, none have specifically examined
When I first received my results, I was delighted to see a colorful rainbow appear on my
circle. Prior to the debrief, all I knew was that more color meant more access to my emotions. I
was interested to learn that the results are much more complex than that.
My fitness profile indicates that I am optimally fit in access to range of feelings, positive-
negative orientation, and empathy compassion and I am very fit in empathy accuracy, self-other
shows that my self-other orientation skews toward self. I also tend to rely on my wants first, then
my thoughts, and finally my feelings. My debrief instructor explained that my results reflected a
empathy accuracy components. I have always felt that I am an empathetic person; for instance, I
am easily upset by a lost dog flyer or seeing a person in pain. My 85.7% rating in the empathy
compassion category underscores my level of empathy. Nevertheless, I was unaware of the term
“empathy accuracy”. The idea that empathy can be accurately directed toward an individual is an
idea I had never conceptualized. I think this is a skill that coincides with a general understanding
of emotional intelligence. The more in touch with my own emotions I am, the more I recognize
those emotions in others. When I can do this, I can notice where there is malintent or where an
individual is truly suffering. Empathy accuracy is especially useful to determine the motivations
and intentions of others. For this reason, I want to continuously improve my empathy accuracy.
fear, love, and sadness and I am slightly below the population in my access to anger and shame.
In addition, I am significantly under accessing anxiety and over accessing joy. These results were
the most insightful from the profile as they highlighted how I currently cope with my emotions in
stressful situations.
My low access to anxiety was the most surprising result I received. I was diagnosed with
anxiety disorder several years ago and have been actively coping with it since high school. For
this reason, I have developed many healthy techniques to care for my anxiety, especially in
stressful situations. As my debrief instructor reminded me, the EQ profile underscores our
effective coping mechanisms in stressful situations and affirmed that I am making progress on
managing my anxiety.
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My over access to joy is another indication of how I cope in stressful situations. I favor a
positive approach as tend to look for the silver lining and seek solutions when put under stress. I
think this is a result of growing up in a negative environment where the bad was always
emphasized over the good. I could not understand why we never focused on the good as I found
this much easier than fixating on the bad. This experience from my upbring sheds light on why I
choose joy in stressful situations. Another emotion that I over access is sadness. This one
initially surprised me but made sense upon further reflection. Although I have been fortunate to
not have experienced significant sadness in my own life, I have had many loved ones suffer
through sorrowful situations. For this reason, I have an intimate relationship with sadness.
Overall, this part of the profile showed me that my go-to emotions are joy, love, and sadness
interdependent relationships and I rely least on disconnected relationships. These results align
with the average population. I am above the ideal amount in my reliance on interdependent and
independent relationships and below the ideal amount for dependent and disconnected
relationships. This portion of the profile showed me what types of relationships I currently rely
strategies. In addition, I rarely put myself in relationships where I do not trust myself or my
abilities. I have a strong preference for interdependent relationships where I trust both myself
and the other person. In reflecting on my current relationships, I can think of several that fit this
category. For instance, one of my best friends is my favorite person to work with on school
projects. I trust her opinion and her abilities just as much as I trust my own. I can also think of
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many independent relationships where I trust myself but not the other person. I often like to
mentor and advise people and I feel like these relationships fit well in this category. The
relationships that I am under accessing are dependent relationships where I trust the other person
but not myself. I think it would be beneficial to seek out these relationships as I think I can learn
from people I trust more than myself. This part of the profile encouraged me to work on finding
After receiving my results and debriefing, I was able to identify several aspects of my
profile that I intend to work on. For instance, I want to continue to improve my empathy
accuracy and seek more dependent relationships. I also think I could have a better balance
between self and others as well as between my thoughts, wants, and feeling. When selecting my
journaling exercises from the EQ Fitness Handbook, I chose to focus on exercises that would
improve the balance of my EQ profile. As was previously noted, the EQ profile measures my
emotional reactions when placed under stress. I kept this in mind while journaling since daily
The first journaling exercise I selected related to my anxiety which I am severely under
am still working on managing my daily anxiety. I knew anxiety was an emotion I wanted to
exercise to better understand why someone with anxiety may be under accessing it in stressful
situations. The exercise I chose aimed at providing a heightened understanding of anxiety and
encouraged me to identify my unique triggers. To do so, I picked out one situation from the day
that caused me anxiety and journaled about it. I then ranked my anxiety level, described my
thoughts, ranked how much my anxiety was based on the present or the past, and then described
my subsequent actions. After completing this exercise, I was able to reflect on what types of
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situations sparked my anxiety and learned what to look for in the future. I observed that much of
my anxiety was based on the past and I tended to take actions based on my wants and thoughts
For the second journaling exercise, I worked on analyzing my balance between thoughts,
wants, and feeling. I tend to act on my thoughts and wants significantly more often than my
feelings. I intended to learn more about this with an exercise that required me to identify and
name my thoughts, wants, and feelings every day for one week. Each day, I wrote down the
overarching feeling from the day, what I thought, and what I wanted. I then ended the journal
entry by describing what actions I took that day. After completing this exercise, I noticed that I
never acted on my feelings. I also identified several moments where it would have been
beneficial for me to act on my feelings. From this exercise, I learned that I need to give more
My key takeaway from the emotional intelligence unit is that emotions must be studied in
the same way as math and history. Emotions are a shared human experience and understanding
them can make you a better family member, friend, coworker, and leader. This unit was
understand why I react in certain ways. I have new strengths and weaknesses to add to my
understanding of myself. Most of all, I am excited to improve upon some of the pain-points I
wholistic leader that can understand and empathize with the emotions of others. I appreciate this