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Talking About Dreams - Psychology Today UK
Talking About Dreams - Psychology Today UK
To be clear: Dream-sharing is not an equivalent for psychotherapy. Fortunately, it isn’t difficult to discuss dreams
responsibly in a non-therapeutic framework. The following principles offer a simple map for safely and enjoyably
sharing dreams with others.
Respect the dreamer. Let the dreamer set the pace of the discussion. Be sensitive to how the dreamer is
experiencing the conversation, and when it feels right to end it.
Maintain confidentiality. Make sure you let the dreamer know you will preserve the privacy of whatever you
discuss. Ask the same when the time comes for you to share your dreams.
Listen well; don’t interpret. The most important thing you can do for the dreamer is to listen—closely, carefully,
sympathetically. Avoid the impulse to analyze or explain the dream. Think of it as exploring a work of art, not
solving a puzzle.
Take your time. There’s no rush. Go ahead and digress, follow tangents, linger over obscure details. Let
curiosity be your guide.
“If it were my dream…” You don’t know what the dream means to the dreamer. But you do know how that
person’s dream feels to you, in your imagination. Whenever someone shares a dream with us, we form an
imagined version of it in our own minds, which then stimulates ideas and insights about possible meanings.
That’s a valuable process if we’re open and honest about its roots in our own imaginations.
As Jeremy Taylor taught, the best practice here is to preface your comments about possible meanings with the
phrase, “If it were my dream….” By saying that, you clearly signal to the dreamer that you are not trying to UK
impose your feelings on them. You give them a respectful space in which to think about your comment, which
may be off-point or may be quite relevant and helpful. Ultimately, only the dreamer can make that judgment.
Have fun! Dreaming is playful, imaginative, creative, and often quite absurd. Dreams can bring light and levity to
times of darkness and gloom. Try looking for the most bizarre and outlandish elements in your dreams, the most
comic scenes, the most ridiculous moments, and just have a good shared laugh about them.
A final thought: You may find that your dreaming becomes more lively and dynamic when you know each night
when you go to sleep that if you have a dream, there’s someone with whom you can share it when you wake up.
You’re not just dreaming for yourself anymore.
Kelly Bulkeley, Ph.D., is a psychologist of religion, Director of the Sleep and Dream Database, and author of
numerous books on dreams, psychology, spirituality, art, science, and history.
Online: Dream Research and Education
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