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Chapter 11 The Family and Family Planning: Basic
Chapter 11 The Family and Family Planning: Basic
Definition of Courtship
Courtship is an interlude to marriage. Social scientists found out that there are
two factors that are preparatory to courtship and these are physical
attraction, sexual attraction and then love. This only means that a person
will not court a girl if he is not attracted to her first; at the same time, the girl will
not answer yes if she is not physically attracted to the boy and of course in love.
1. How about love at first sight? Social scientists proved that one cannot fall in love if
he doesn't know the person well and this is the purpose of courtship. The
courtship period varies from person to person. That of Imelda and Ferdinand Marcos
was one week, called whirl wind romance; others month or year or more Regardless of period, what
is important is the feeling of love or being in love. However it should be noted that courtship
is not yet the end stage to marriage. It is engagement
The Filipino Way of Courtship
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Filipinos are naturally romantic people; in fact they have their own songs for love,
which are known as Kundiman. Gentlemen suitor usually sings Kundimans to his
beloved as a dramatic piece, during serenade or Harana right at the very window of the
lady whom he courts. What adds to the drama is that, it is done when
n is full. Even at this contemporary time, harana is still done in rural areas of Quezon, Bicol or
even Manila but the style is a bit modified, karaoke way.
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Pamamanhikan shall follow -- a process by which the groom's parents will formally give their
consent to their son, in asking the hand of the bride in marriage. Ordinarily, the groom shall
wedding expenses, though Ambagan, sharing, is very much
foot the bill of the
alive in Central Luzon, Southern Tagalog Region and part of the Visayas
Region. Ambagan is a process where the relatives of both bride and groom shall contribute
what the relatives can afford. This could be in the form of fuel logs, pigs and chickens, palay
or rice grains. Others will help in the cooking and cleaning the house that could be viewed as
another trace of bayanihan.
Definition of Family
“The basic units of the Philippine social organizations are the elementary family which
includes the father, mother, and children, and the bilateral extended family which embraces
all relatives of the father and the mother. Of special importance is the sibling group, the
unit formed by brothers and sisters. There are no clans or similar unilateral kinship groups
in the Philippines. The elementary family and the sibling group form the primary
bases of corporate action.
The Philippine society may be characterized as familial. This means that the
influence of kinship, which centers on the family, is far-reaching. The
persuasive influence of the family upon all segments of Philippine social
organization can be illustrated in many ways. Religious responsibility, for
example, is familial rather than church-centered. Each home has a family
shrine. The large images carried in the community processions during Holy
Week are owned and kept by individual families, usually the wealthier ones.
The Filipino type of family has had a considerable influence on the forms
of religious beliefs and activities introduced by organized religions.”
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A. The Functionalist Perspective
1. The family is universal because it serves functions essential to the
well-being of society:
economic production, socialization of children, care of the sick and aged,
recreation, sexual
control, and reproduction. 2 . The incest taboo (rules specifying which people
are too closely related to have sex or marry) S h elps the family avoid
confusion and forces people to look outside the family for marriage
partners. .. 3. Industrialization has made the family more fragile by weakening
its functions and removing
reasons for a family to struggle together against hardship, leading to higher
rates of divorce/
annulment of marriage. . 4. The nuclear family has few people it can depend
on for material and emotional support; thus, the
members of a nuclear family are vulnerable to “emotional overload.” The relative isolation of
nuclear family makes it easier for the “dark side” of families (incest
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and other types of abuse).to emerge.
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B.
The Conflict Perspective 1.
Industrialization forced families to
change. Similarly, changes taking place in today's post
industrial society also will change families. Industrialization placed husbands and wives in
such different domains of life that it changed their character. Men focused on advancement
and competition as a result of being pushed into the marketplace and separated from the
home. Women became guardians of the family and home; their ideal qualities became
generosity, sensitivity to others' needs, and self sacrifice. Thus, the
"cult” of true womanhood
had the effect of controlling women, underlining the authority of
the male as head of the family. . 3. The large number of wives entering the labor
force today is having a profound impact on family
roles. Wives are expected to juggle career and family at the same time that the traditional
expectations of male and female roles to continue to dominate many aspects of the family.
f power has occurred as a result of more married women working for pay. If the husband is
the family's sole breadwinner, he makes most of the family's major decisions; if
the wife works for wages, she has increased power. This may result in an on-going
struggle between the two, especially in terms of housework. Arlie Hochschild
wives experience: after a full workday,
described a "second shift” many
they put in time doing housework, creating deep discontent among
wives.
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C.
The Symbolic Interactionist Perspective 1. Symbolic interactionists focus
on meanings people give their marital relationships. New couples
merge their worlds (the feminine and the masculine) by conversation in
which they share ideas and feelings and, over time, see things from
increasingly closer perspectives. Dialogue is also an essential part of
emotional labor, the building of intimacy by sharing deeply
personal thoughts
and feelings. Women typically do most of the couple's emotional
labor. 2. Even conversation that brings husbands and wives together
leaves a huge gulf, however, because
husbands and wives hold down different corners of the
marriage, they actually perceive the marriage differently.
Classification of Family
B. According to Descent
1. Patrilineal – family members trace their relationships and affiliations with the
paternal
(father) side. 2. Matrilineal – family members trace their relationships
and affiliations with the maternal
(mother) side. 3. Bilateral – family members trace their relationships and
affiliations with both parents.
C. According to Power/Authority
| 1. Patriarchal – the authority is vested in the oldest male member of
the family. In the absences
of the patriarch (grandfather), the father is the head of the family, in the
absence of the
father, the eldest son enjoys the privilege of being the head of the family. 2.
Matriarchal – the mother or the grandmother has the authority and
dominates the
household 3.
Egalitarian – both the husband and wife exercise
equal amount of power / authority. Both - the mother and the
father enjoy same rights and privileges.
Marriage defined the role of each member of the family. The father, who is
expected to provide the material needs of the family, the mother who should
teach the children good things and positive values, and the children who
should be the joy of their parents, must show respect and total obedience,
especially during children's formative years.
[Illustrative Examples]
A prince marries a princess A slave to a slave (same status) American-African
marries an American-African (same race)
[Illustrative Example)
A noble (Prince Charles marries Camilla Parker Bowles)
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Accepted as fact is, one marries upon the age of majority (18 years of age).
Psychologists have the opinion that it is more likely that marriage will be a successful one
if the parties are matured. At the age of 18 and above, a person is expected to exhibit
maturity. However, (Lévi-Strauss report of 1956) it was mentioned that those CHUKCHEE
young women of Siberia at about twenty or so, marry baby husbands. The bride nurses her little
husband who is three or two years old to the belief that the parental care initiated create a lasting
emotional bond between them as husband and wife.
Pattern of Inheritance
If a man marries more than one spouse at a time, the term is known as polygymy; this
is true among Muslim people. On the contrary, if a woman, marries two or more husbands
MOMUNU tribal women of the amazons, the practice is
at a time like what the
called polyandry. This system, which is applied to both husband and wife, is
called polygamy.
A common marriage practice among people of the modern times is monogamy
where man or a 2 woman is allowed to marry only once at a time.
Sexual Relationship
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. Morally speaking, sex is an integral part of married life between couple.
Sex is an important process 'or pro-creation. Logically in the absence of sex, man will
cease to exist, simply because there will be no new generation that will follow after this
present generation sleeps and rests eternally. Sexual fidelity is an obligation of both
husband and wife during the entire duration of marriage. However, traditional
Eskimos fall under this exemption according to the report (Ruesch, 1959).
Among the Eskimos, a good host offers his wife with an overnight guest. Both husband and
wife will be likely offended if the guest refused. But still overnight guest and anthropologists
who did field works among this people experience another "uncommon practice”, prior to the
consummation of the supposed hospitality. The Eskimo woman perfumed themselves with urine,
for erotic purposes; however, a good student of Sociology should note that the Eskimo couple is
behaving according to establish local norms – the wife is not a sex maniac or the husband is not
a pervert or out of his mind, in short, as far as the Eskimo society is concerned, no wrong practice
was done.
1. beliefs that some things are sacred; 2. practices (rituals) concerning things
considered sacred; and 3. a moral community (people united by their
religious practices) resulting from the beliefs and
practices.
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C.
The Conflict Perspective
1. Karl Marx called religion the "opium of the people” because he believed that
the workers
escape into religion. Conflict theorists are highly critical of religion because it
diverts the
energies of the oppressed from changing their circumstances. 2. Religious
teachings and practices reflect a society's inequalities. Gender inequalities
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example: when males completely dominated the society, women's roles in churches and
synagogues were limited to feminine activities, a condition that is beginning to change. 3.
Religion reflects the interests of those in power by teaching that the existing
social
arrangements of a society represent what God desires.
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Many writers agree that all religious systems have an element of magic, and
that it is difficult to distinguish where religious beliefs end and magical beliefs
begin. (Milton Yinger, Religion, Society and the Individual, p. 42) Both relate to
the mysterious and unknown, but at least one rather clear distinction can be
made between the two. Magic is generally defined as a technique for
controlling these unknown forces in such a way as to produce a desired result.
The magician, in effect, is a manipulator of these forces, and produces effects
automatically once he learns the correct secrets. Magic, thus has an empirical
goal, even though the means of attaining the goal are supernatural.
The fact that religion and magic are founded on the belief in supernatural force
logically raises the question of faith. Men, in other words, must believe in
what they can not verify by their senses. (Although a - contemporary
Philosopher of religion, John Hick, in his book Faith and Knowledge,
claimed that faith can be verified.) The difficulty.in believing in an unseen
power is evidenced by the fact that most individuals tend to personify this
force, through the use of idols, statuettes, or pictures. Yet, most men believe in these
forces, and give tangible evidence of their faith. Faith usually involves a
combination of goals, ideals, aspirations, and emotions, all of which have a
cultural base. This is why there are so many “faiths” and why religious
groups take so many forms and include such widely variant beliefs.
Further, St. Thomas Aquinas, the Angelic Doctor, in his Magnus Opus-
Summa Theologica, stated that there is no real conflict between science
and theology because they deal with different objects. And each science
has its own object of investigation and even grating those two sciences have
the same object to investigate, these two sciences study the same object
from two different perspectives, and hence, there is no real clash between
sciences. Granting further, however, that science and religion are in
conflict, St. Thomas aptly puts it, it is the conclusion of theology that
prevails because it is governed and grounded on faith or supernatural.
Functions of Religious Systems
1. Facilitate the quest for moral identity.
Man is eternally seeking to find himself. In his quest for a “moral
identity,” he inevitably goes outside himself for some principle of the
universe which will explain his strivings and help him rationalize his
frustrations and sufferings. Religious systems, by providing explanations that
derive from divine (not necessarily supernatural) powers, put a consistent
meaning into life and prevent man from being psychologically alone in the
universe. His successes, his inner desires, his failures and his sufferings can all
be met with greater equanimity. In this sense, religion provides all types of
integration for the individual's personality. A man's worth as a person is
continuously reaffirmed through participation in religious communities.
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2.
Provide interpretation for man's environment.
Despite the advances of science, indeed, perhaps because of the incredibility of
much scientific achievement, there is a strong element of incomprehensibility in
the world. The unknown troubles man and religious beliefs restore
comprehensibility, making his life more familiar and meaningful. In this
regard, religion serves to relieve much of the fear and anxiety which stems
from the precariousness of life. Religious explanations for the vicissitudes
of nature like floods, droughts, volcanic eruptions, among others, are more
readily acceptable, as a rule, than social or more human disasters like wars. However,
religion functions to provide explanations at both these levels of the unknown.
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Promote social cohesion and solidarity.
The core values in almost every society find their validation in religious
teachings and beliefs. It is no accident that “mores” are by and large
expressions of religious precepts. Since these values are so important in
social life, they provide the basis for social control and for social cohesion. In this
regard, religious groups function to train individuals to accept these values on faith
and to behave according to norms they imply without question. This may
be illustrated by citing such norms as these: married couple should remain faithful
to their spouses; men should not kill other men, students should not lie and
cheat; and women should observe decent standards of dress, all of these
have religious implication.
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Sect -- is larger than a cult, but still feels substantial hostility from and toward society.
At the very least, members of the sects remain uncomfortable with many of
the emphases of the dominant culture; non-members feel uncomfortable with sect
members. Sects usually are loosely organized, emphasize personal salvations and emotional
expression of one's relationship with God, and recruitment of new members (evangelism). If
a sect grows, its members tend to become respectable in society, and the sect is
changed into a church. ;)
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Church - is a large, highly organized religious group with little emphasis on
personal conversion and formal, sedate services. The religious group is highly
bureaucratized (including national and international offices that give directions to local
congregations). Most new members come from within the church, from children
born to existing members, rather than outside recruitment.
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GURE 13-1 A COMPARATIVE TABLE OF THE MAJOR
RELIGIONS OF THE WORLD
(Source: Harry M. Johnson, Sociology: A Systematic Introduction)
RELIGION
COSMIC BELIEFS
HINDUISM The chief religion of India (includes cults and sects of Vishnu and
Shiva, as well as orthodox Brahmanism)
Gods are essentially different symbols of impersonal pantheism. Endless wheel of
incarnations, even for Gods.
BELIEFS ABOUT
SALVATION Fulfilling one's "dharma” will lead to a better incarnation, perhaps
as a God. The especially devout may hope to merge with the “ALL ONE,” thus,
losing personal identity forever. Asceticism and mysticism are common in
Hinduism.
BUDDHISM
Reincarnation. Evil is the result of unrealistic desires. The world is guided by
Buddhas (the enlightened ones).
Escape from the eternal wheel of Karma and Samsara by following the "noble
eightfold path."
About 600 BC, Siddharta Gautama founded Buddhism which emphasizes self
denial and compassion.
One perfect God in trinity, and trinity in unity: the father, the son, and the holy spirit
Salvation achieved by the spirit and sacrifice of Christ, especially with the help of the seven
sacrament of the church.
JUDAISM The first religion based on monotheism. Its origin can be traced to Abraham,
who lived about 4,000 years ago in Mesopotamia.
CATHOLICISM (Largest Christian church. Proclaims itself to be the only true church as an
organized body) PROTESTANTISM (Great variation in belief, therefore, present
characterization mentions tendencies). ISLAM The followers are known as Muslims
(Mohammedanism. Partly grew out of Judaism and Christianity, partly had a common
source with them)
Most churches accept trinity, some
are Unitarian.
More emphasis on the love of God and on the saving power of faith, less emphasis
on sacraments.
One supramundane God, called Allah. Mohammed is his prophet. A day of judgment is
to come.
By following Mohammed and taking a pilgrimage to Mecca if possible, men attain paradise
after death. Hell for the wicked.
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: Human Religion
• Religion made by man for the purpose of reconciliation
with
God can be characterized as: a. Taking the appearance of
"holiness". b. Attribute its existence in the realm of a
personal God, spir
itual forces, impersonal order, incredible power, etc. C.
Religious belief become a precursor of a society's belief
system, human doctrines, traditions, moral concepts, ritual
of diverse forms and cultic activities. d. A faith towards
object, person or system. "Revelation" is
claimed as its cause or origin, like visions, dreams or
events.
• Rituals and liturgy are believed to be necessary in any
reli
gious system. Members are generally bound to one
another by faith and or
ganized into a cohesive, social group. Religious Cults
The word cult is interpreted differently by people or group.
Lexicon Universal Encyclopedia refers to cult as having a
char acter of "faddish devotion" to a person., or
characterized by
practices significantly different form the cultural
mainstream.
• Mr. Webster defines it has a system of religious worship
or
devoted attachment to a person, or principles, etc."
• The true Christian looks upon religious cult as a system
of
religious beliefs which acknowledge devotional attachment
to other persons, principles, power, system, etc. aside
from the
Lord Jesus Christ.
Basic Feature of Cults ..Embraces mysticism as a
fundamental element
Embodiment of bizarre doctrines and practices anchored
on mysticism. - Assumption of an infallible human
leadership which almost
always usurps the authority of the true Living God.
• Heavy burde:is and bondage are inflicted upon members.