This chapter discusses conquering the mind and releasing negative thought patterns. It emphasizes that thoughts have power and positive thinking will attract positive things into one's life. It then discusses how the author lacked confidence as a child due to his father dismissing and walking out on him when he struggled to speak. This led the author to avoid speaking up in school and public situations. However, he overcame this fear through challenging negative thoughts and refusing to let past experiences dictate his future.
This chapter discusses conquering the mind and releasing negative thought patterns. It emphasizes that thoughts have power and positive thinking will attract positive things into one's life. It then discusses how the author lacked confidence as a child due to his father dismissing and walking out on him when he struggled to speak. This led the author to avoid speaking up in school and public situations. However, he overcame this fear through challenging negative thoughts and refusing to let past experiences dictate his future.
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This chapter discusses conquering the mind and releasing negative thought patterns. It emphasizes that thoughts have power and positive thinking will attract positive things into one's life. It then discusses how the author lacked confidence as a child due to his father dismissing and walking out on him when he struggled to speak. This led the author to avoid speaking up in school and public situations. However, he overcame this fear through challenging negative thoughts and refusing to let past experiences dictate his future.
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Get rid of the stop-go, stop-go battle in your mind. You
need to conquer your mind first. I say again… YOU NEED TO CONQUER YOUR MIND FIRST. You must win the battle in your mind. The battle of being able to generate positive or negative thoughts. And yes, it is a battle because feeling bad and speaking negatively comes so naturally. That is why we have to actively guard against it. Guard your emotions and feelings. Remember that in order for any kind of bad feeling, be it…anger or frustration to come out…we must first think about it. We must let it formulate it in our mind and then it passes out through our mouths.
That is why we have to consciously remind ourselves to
think the right way. Thoughts are powerful. And thoughts come from the mind. So the result of winning the battle is positive thinking. Therefore, you will have positive thoughts the majority of the time. When you focus on the positive thoughts, e.g. wealth, health, joy etc. it will be attracted to you and it will manifest. It must.
A MAN IS BUT A PRODUCT OF HIS OWN THOUGHTS
WHAT HE THINKS HE BECOMES. …Mahatma Gandhi
What you think about yourself is the way others
perceive you. So you actually get a double dose of the negative pill when you think you are not good enough because firstly, you think you not enough, just not enough of anything…then your lack of confidence translates over to others so they end up thinking that way too. With the result being that you confronted with inner turmoil by your self-imposed limitations and the lack of trust in your ability others exhibit towards you. All brought about by your negative thought patterns about your own abilities. So, creating a more disillusioned you about yourself and your potential.
Nobody knows this better than I do. Well, maybe
someone does. As mentioned earlier I never grew up with my Dad. He left when I was around ten years old; he came to fetch me every other weekend…in the beginning. I don’t have much recollection about us doing things together, having heart to heart talks and me just having the freedom to go to him to discuss whatever issues I had. I’m not saying we never done things together…I’m sure we did. I suppose it just never made such a profound impact in my life that I can recall it without some serious hypnosis. Unfortunately for my Dad, and ultimately me, he never grew up with his parents. He lived with relatives who treated him poorly. As a consequence he could not show a variety of emotions and patience. My Dad was Old School, I equate it to the stiff upper lip British type.
HAVING EXPERIENCED NEGLECT, PARENTS SHOULD
AVOID DOING THE SAME TO THEIR CHILDREN AT ALL COSTS. …Ronald Goliath
Possessing the unbridled confidence to approach my
Dad to ask for something I wanted was something I lacked. I found myself shaking at the prospect of asking him for anything. I was a little boy who was scared to speak to his father. Later on I figured out I was not afraid of asking my Dad for anything, rather my fear was of him dismissing me when I stuttered while talking to him. Dismissing me when I took too long to get the words out of my mouth. The method of dismissal could be as simple as the smacking his lips together. I could sense the frustration in him when I was trying to ask for something. The look in his eyes never conveyed unabashed love. It felt like shame. Was my father ashamed of me…of my speech impediment? Was I not the complete son he wanted me to be? The patience that I somehow knew was supposed to be there …was not. A couple of times he would walk away while I was still talking. The image of my Dad’s silhouette backlit by the sun, walking out the back door while I stood in the darker kitchen with my little hands balled into fists at my sides, still trying to talk stayed with me for a long time. My tear rimmed hazel-eyes gazing after my father as he walked away.
How much confidence do you think I now possessed as a
ten year old boy. If my Dad, the one who is supposed to install confidence in me, never had the patience to listen and walked out on me while I was talking…what made me think other people would have the patience to listen to me. One of the few recollections I have of myself and my Dad is of this one day when my Dad was playing his records at home. We were chatting about this and that and then he said to me I sounded like a radio that is put on and off in quick repetitions. He said he couldn’t hear everything I said so he had to piece together little bits of what he heard to make sense of what I was saying. I was ten years old for goodness sake. Know I knew that my Dad loved me and malice was not his intention I’m sure…however that statement stayed with me for many years. Turning me even more of a recluse when it came to him.
Because of that I never really spoke out in certain
situations. And I’m filled with regret for not answering so many questions in school that only I knew the answers to. I remember when I was in standard two, (i.e. grade four), my teacher asked if an airplane takes off in the direction of the wind or against the wind. In unison everybody said it takes off with the wind because the wind would help it lift off. However I knew better, I knew the right answer but I was too afraid to lift up my paw to answer. I can still picture my teacher’s face, her eyes sparkling and her face flushed because she was on the verge of educating. On the verge of imparting knowledge to this group of children, something which they did not know. Something that they will remember forever and she would have had a part in it. A part in shaping the lives. She clearly was not impressed by my lack of enthusiasm at her BIG REVEAL. I accepted being thought of as stupid or not-too-bright in class through the years because I never lifted up my hand to answer most questions my teachers posed. I regret not raising my hand at times and saying I have a solution to a problem that was raised. I regret going along with other peoples silly ideas because I did not want to enter into debate to prove why my idea is better.
I never thought I would get over that. For me getting up
and speaking to an audience or a group of people was definitely a no-no. I avoided it every opportunity it presented itself. I had to overcome that fear of speaking out and that battle took place in my mind. Whenever I had to speak to an audience or group of people I remember my Dad walking out on me and I was cold with fear and it paralyzed me.
It took time but I learned to manage it. In my business I
need to approach people or businesses to get clients… and when that voice comes up saying, “You going to make yourself a fool…don’t go there”, that’s when I hold my head up high and step purposely into that situation. I challenge and overcome my fear. Everytime. I refuse to live my life based on a memory. I will not let my past dictate my future. I will not be held hostage by emotions. And you know what …I have never made myself a fool. I wish I could say the thought of public speaking doesn’t kick the ol’ ticker up a notch because it still does. However to quote Nicholas Cage as Johnny Blaze in Ghost Rider… “YOU CANT LIVE IN FEAR.”
YOUR MIND IS THE GATEWAY
THROUGH IT COMES SUCCESS OR FAILURE ….Ronald Goliath