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Module 4: Listening Skills: in This Module, You Will Learn
Module 4: Listening Skills: in This Module, You Will Learn
Module 4: Listening Skills: in This Module, You Will Learn
4.1 Introduction
True listening is the giving of undivided
attention, without any preconceptions, to
what the person is saying, verbally and non-
verbally.
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Active listening will also offer you the chance to assess your
client’s personal energy level, through listening to the tone
of your client’s voice. Often a client who is depressed and,
therefore, experiencing low energy levels will speak in a
monotonous flat tone.
You will find that active listening is very hard work and you
will need to develop deep concentration. Sometimes you may
‘hear’ what the client is saying, but are you really actively
listening? This type of listening will also require you to use
your powers of recall.
Genuineness
This is the ability to be open, consistent, and real in your
relationship with your clients. You will need to be prepared
to give them time and attention. You should not seek to
patronize or manipulate them. Your clients need to feel that
you are a real person.
Acceptance
You will need to be able to withhold judgment and criticism
and give complete attention to your clients in order that they
feel valued for themselves.
These are the qualities that bring out the facilitative role
of the listener.
Attending
All your senses must be alert at all times whilst listening.
They must be focused on your client’s face, body, and speech
in order to evaluate and lead. You must put recent events in
your own life aside, as you need to focus all your attention
to your clients. In order to assure your clients that you are
totally involved, you should:
Empathy
This is the identification with and understanding of another
person’s situation, feelings, and motives. It is crucial to
good listening. It is the term most often used to summarise
the aspects of an emotionally intense relationship.
Ultimately, it is a statement that the listener seems in tune
with the client’s hidden thoughts and feelings.
What your client needs when they feel the need to talk is
often some genuine warmth. You should not adopt an attitude of
aloof condescension. Whatever your approach, if it is not
possible for you to feel and show empathy towards a particular
client, you should refer your client to another healer.
Your clients usually opt for healing after everything else has
failed. They are often in deep ruts. Whilst your client may
appear to be on the verge of losing control, their imbalance
is often quite stable. They tend to cling to their problems.
However unhappy their circumstances, you will need to remember
that this resistance is rarely deliberate. It is like a
drowning person, whose fear and desperate panic will make
their rescue difficult. Your influence along with empathy and
support will be required to get them moving again.
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Module Summary
Lessons Learned
In this module, you have learned the importance of listening
to others and what it takes to do so.