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Long Distance Vs Proximal Romantic Relationships
Long Distance Vs Proximal Romantic Relationships
2015
Wind Goodfriend
Buena Vista University
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Butler, Arielle C. and Goodfriend, Wind (2015) "Long distance vs proximal romantic relationships:
Predicting commitment, investments, and bias," Modern Psychological Studies: Vol. 20 : No. 2 , Article 4.
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Abstract
The present study examined cognitive biases in dating partners involved in long distance (LDR)
and proximal (PR) romantic relationships; specifically, we investigated whether couple members
are biased to believe their relationship type is "better." We also examined if LDRs and PRs differ
in relationship variables including satisfaction, alternatives, and investments. Bias was measured
using a modified version of the investment model scale (Rusbult et al., 1998). Participants
completed the items from three different perspectives: their current relationship, their perception
of the "average" PR, and the "average" LDR. Results showed that people in LDRs and PRs have
more similarities than differences.
Once one becomes a young adult it is very another choice (such as breaking up or
common to become involved in a romantic remaining in the same city); thus, the purpose
relationship. One of the prime periods of life of the current research was to investigate (a)
when romantic relationships become a focus whether LDRs differ in significant ways from
is during college, and a scenario some college proximal relationships (PRs), and (b)
students face is keeping the relationship from whether relationship partners maintain a
high school with a romantic partner who biased view of their own type of relationship.
decides to attend a different university. This
relationship will then become "long Actual Differences
distance." Long distance relationships
(LDRs) have been studied throughout the While in a relationship there are some
years, partially because they allow for situations that may become out of a person's
investigations regarding the various control. Many young people attend college,
conditions in which partners choose to and if they are in a relationship, if couple
maintain a relationship in less than ideal members split to attend different schools,
conditions (e.g., Rohfing, 1995, as cited in they must decide whether to maintain the
VanHorn, Arnone, Nesbitt, Desilets, Sears, relationship over distance or to break up. If
Giffin, & Brudi, 1997). Due to the economy, they choose to stay together, they may have
the issue of distance relationships is an adjustment period. Currently there is a
becoming increasingly important for people debate in psychological literature regarding
of all ages, because it is now common for one whether LDRs and PRs have objective
partner to seek employment outside his or her differences. For example, Guldner and
residential area in an effort to sustain income Swenson (1995) conducted a study to see if
for the household. Partners put in situations time spent together and relationship quality
in which they are separated by distance must differed; they compared LDRs and PRs on
then learn coping strategies for the the variables of satisfaction, intimacy, trust,
relationship (Mattioli, 2009). One possible and commitment. They also included a scale
coping mechanism is a cognitive bias that to measure relationship social desirability,
justifies the relationship as "better" than which is an individual's tendency to present
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himself or herself to others in the best may become threats to the current
possible way. It was found that people in relationship.
LDRs showed no difference than people in
PRs in any of these variables except that Beyond considering possible alternatives
people in LDRs reported higher relationship to a current long-distance partner, there are
social desirability (Guldner & Swenson, other relationship constructs at play in the
1995). decision of whether to maintain or end a
relationship. Research has shown that
However, there are studies on the relationship persistence is also influenced by
opposite side of the spectrum where commitment (Rusbult, 1980). The
differences are found in different relationship Investment Model Scale (Rusbult, Martz, &
types. For example, Stafford and Merolla Agnew, 1998) measures commitment in a
(2007) found that in some cases LDRs are, relationship based on three predicting
surprisingly, better off than PRs. They variables. The first, as mentioned above, is
examined if romantic idealization is a key the quality and quantity of possible
component to LDRs. Results showed that for alternatives to one's current partner.
the variables of love, idealistic distortion, However, commitment is also predicted by
positive reminiscence, perceived agreement, relationship satisfaction (defined as a balance
and communication quality, LDR partners between the benefits vs. drawbacks of a
scored significantly higher than couples in particular relationship partner) and by
PRs. "Research on long-distance dating relationship investments (defined as the
relationships (LDDR) reveal that LDDR amount of resources put into a relationship
partners often report higher quality which would be lost were the relationship to
relationships than those in geographically end, such as time and effort). It is reasonable
close dating relationships, despite LDDR to suggest that partners in LDRs may also
partners' relatively limited day-to-day face to have different levels of satisfaction and
face interaction" (Stafford & Merolla, 2007, investments than partners in PRs, due to
p. 3). Results showed that the longer partners issues such as increased stress, logistics of
in a LDR wait to see each other, the greater travel, and so on. In the current study, a
the communication and admiration within the modified version of the investment model
relationship. scale compared actual levels of each of the
constructs making up the Investment Model,
If problems in the relationship occur, an to determine whether LDRs differ in
option individuals may inevitably consider is significant ways from PRs.
ending the relationship, especially if a viable
alternative is available (Greitemeyer, Relationship Bias
Hengmith, & Fischer, 2005). One purpose of
the current study is to examine whether long- Objectively, there may be advantages to
distance partners will perceive more PRs or LDRs in terms of satisfaction,
alternatives available to them than will investments, and alternatives. However,
proximal partners. It is reasonable to believe while in a relationship partners may view
that long-distance partners, in the absence of things subjectively rather than objectively.
the other member of the couple, will have Very few people want to openly admit that
more opportunities to engage in time spent they may have problems in their relationship;
with potential alternate mates, who inevitably they are more likely to spot the challenges
other relationships may face. When a
relationship is perceived in a biased manner,
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because of the time physically spent together agree completely). The scores for
in the relationship; in other words, "time in commitment were averaged to form a
the relationship" in this context could be composite variable; the mean of this sample
relationship duration, or it could be was 6.79 (SD = 1.66). Internal consistency
relationship proximity. Therefore, for this scale was good, a =.92.
Hypothesis 4 is that people in PRs will have
more investments than people in LDRs, due Satisfaction, alternatives, and
to the greater amount of time spent together. investments. Each of these variables was
measured with five items (Rusbult et al.,
Method 1998). Each item has the same 9-point Likert
scale, where 0 = do not agree at all, 4 = agree
Participants somewhat, and 8 = agree completely. For
each variable, items are averaged to form a
Participants for this study were recruited composite score. An example satisfaction
from a small private university in Northwest item is "My relationship is close to ideal."
Iowa, and were all involved in a romantic Mean satisfaction for the overall sample was
relationship at the time of data collection. 6.47 (SD = 1.23), and internal consistency for
Participants were recruited through this scale was good, a = .90. An example
Psychology classes at the university and alternatives item is "The people other than
received extra credit for participating or were my partner with whom I might become
entered into a drawing for $25. There were 44 involved are very appealing." Mean
participants (16 men, 28 women), with a alternatives for the overall sample was 3.69
mean age of 21.09 years (SD = 5.22). The (SD = 1.59), and internal consistency for this
ethnic breakdown was as follows: 61.36% scale was good, a = .79. An example
Caucasian, 20.45% African American, investment item is, "Many aspects of my life
13.64% Latino, and 4.55% other. Participants have become linked to my partner
indicated how many miles apart they lived (recreational activities, etc.), and I would lose
from their partner; long distance was defined all of this if we were to break up." Mean
as more than fifty miles. As a result, 50% of investments for the overall sample was 5.18
participants were classified as being in an (SD = 1.61), and internal consistency was
LDR, while 50% were in a PR. The average good, a = .80.
relationship duration was 7.14 months (SD =
3.54) for LDRs and 6.64 months (SD = 3.61) Perceived Bias
for PRs; this difference was not significant,
t(42) = -.464, p = .645. Participants completed the investment
model scale three times. The first time,
Investment Model Variables participants responded regarding their
current relationship; these responses were
Commitment. Items for the commitment used as measures of the variables described
variable were taken from the investment above to test for actual differences. Next,
model scale (Rusbult et al., 1998). Seven participants were asked to complete all items
items measure commitment (e.g., I want our again, based on their perception of an
relationship to last for a very long time), with "average" long distance relationship. Finally,
participants rating their agreement to each participants completed items a third time
item on a 9-point Likert scale (where 0 = do based on their perception of the "average"
not agree at all, 4 = agree somewhat, and 8 = proximal relationship. Bias was measured as
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the difference between ratings of the two For satisfaction, participants in PRs
"average" sets of responses; in other words, believed people in PRs had higher levels of
if a participant in a LDR is biased, he or she satisfaction (M = 5.85, SD = 1.21) that those
should perceive that the average LDR is in LDRs (M = 4.01, SD = 1.44), F(1, 20) =
significantly better off than the average PR. 47.47, p < .001. This result is highly
significant and in the expected direction of
Procedure Hypothesis 1. However, participants in LDRs
also believed people in PRs had higher levels
All surveys were administered in a of satisfaction (M = 6.13, SD = 1.32) than
classroom setting. Prior to receiving the those in LDRs (M = 4.99, SD = 1.58), F(1,
surveys, participants were asked to complete 21) = 16.02, p < .001, a result which is also
a consent form. Participants then completed strongly significant. Thus, Hypothesis 1 was
demographics, the surveys as described partially supported in that people in PRs
above, and were thanked and debriefed. believed an "average" PR is better in terms of
satisfaction than is the "average" LDR, which
Results may show bias. This interpretation is
somewhat questionable, however, because
Testing Hypothesis 1 people in LDRs essentially agreed.
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2 showed that in fact, people in PRs perceive furniture) while intangible investments are
more alternatives, and results for Hypothesis concepts such as sacrifices or effort. Perhaps
3 showed that satisfaction levels are similar proximal relationships focus more on
in both relationship types. Because most of tangible investments, while LDRs have more
our participants agreed with each other about intangible. This possibility could be explored
the state of different relationships, it is in future research.
difficult to say that personal bias or
motivation to have positive illusions was One limitation to this study was the
found in the present study. Other research has sample size. Some of the results were
shown that people in romantic relationships marginally significant; a larger sample size
will show a relationship bias with respect to would likely have made these significant due
their close relationship and have a tendency to greater statistical power. In addition, if the
to see their own relationship as being better sample were larger the authors could have
than other relationships (Bunnk & van der had a more diverse sample and explored other
Eijnden, 1997), but our results did not types of relationships such as homosexual or
replicate this effect. bisexual. If the sample were more
geographically diverse, one could possibly
It is interesting to speculate why there is look into differences in location of the
an equal level of satisfaction in these two partners in the relationships. The majority of
groups, despite the apparent lack of ideal the participants in this study were from small
circumstances for partners in LDRs. One towns in Iowa and very few were from larger
possibility for how LDR partners can cities.
maintain a higher level of satisfaction is
communication options that are increasingly This research has laid a foundation upon
available for LDRs, such as email, instant which other investigations of LDRs vs. PRs
messaging, phone texting, video chatting can be laid. For example, all relationships
software (e.g., Skype), and websites like have conflict during some time in the
Facebook (Sorensen, 2010). Many people in relationship. The way one deals with conflict
LDRs may rely on technology to keep them or manages it can have an effect on the
connected with their mate while being duration of the relationship (Cramer, 2000).
physically apart from one another. Future research could explore whether
relationship type influences methods of
The final hypothesis was that people in conflict management or conflict resolution.
proximal relationships will have more One could also look into infidelity rates of
investments due to the greater amount of time both relationship types. During this study
spent together compared to people in long researchers hypothesized that LDRs would
distance relationships, but no significant have more perceived alternatives, but it was
differences were found. It is possible that revealed that PRs actually had more
investment levels in general are equal alternatives. This is intriguing and may spark
between these two types of relationship, and questions regarding opportunities for
that the difference is actually what specific infidelity.
types of investment are found in each. For
example, Goodfriend & Agnew (1998) Conclusion
explored "tangible" vs. "intangible"
investments, where tangible are items that There is debate in psychological literature
physically exist (e.g., a shared pet or regarding the differences in PRs and LDRs
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and if one is better than the other [e.g. Guldner, G. T., & Swensen, C. H. (1995).
Guldner and Swenson (1995)]. The current Time spent together and relationship
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Table
Perceptions of Relationship Variables, Based on Current Type of Relationship
"Average" "Average"
Relationship Type LDR PR
M SD M SD
Investments
LDR Participants 4.91 1.43 5.45 1.42 3.05 .096
PR Participants 5.21 1.44 5.52 1.59 2.65 .119
Satisfaction
LDR Participants 4.99 1.58 6.13 1.32 16.02 <.001
PR Participants 4.01 1.44 5.85 1.21 47.47 <.001
Alternatives
LDR Participants 4.55 1.64 4.08 1.47 3.11 .092
PR Participants 5.07 1.55 4.16 1.39 7.49 .013
Commitment
LDR Participants 5.49 1.57 5.59 1.45 0.13 .717
PR Participants 5.37 1.34 5.59 1.25 0.99 .332
Note. Sample size was 22 for each relationship type, and all scales range from 0-8, with higher
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