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COURSE TEACHER: DR FAROOQ HASAN

ANGER CONTROL AND MANAGEMENT

ISLAMIC AND MODERN CONCEPT
Anger is a very natural human emotion. Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy,
human emotion. As humans we go through many emotions that we feel unable to control.
Anger is one of them and the strongest one too; it is also very powerful and can vary in
intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Because it is natural it is
impossible for a person to avoid it completely.  It is however possible to understand anger
and thus control it .That is why anger management and control has become an important
aspect of our life and society Anger management refers to a process. People learn steps
to help them stay calm in anger management. They may then handle tense situations in a
constructive, positive way. The purpose of anger management is to help a person
decrease anger..

ANGER MANAGEMENT ACCORDING TO

ISLAM
Controlling anger is a sign of righteousness. A righteous person is promised paradise. So
let us restrain our anger and not utter anything which cannot be taken back. It is said:
“Yet forgive and overlook, till God bring His command (Surah Al-Baqarah)”. Surely
the one who controls his anger pleases Allah and keeps the characteristics of the
righteous believer. 

ANGER MANAGEMENT IN THE LIGHT OF HOLY

QURAN AND SUNNAH
Anger is one of the evil whispers of shaitan which leads to many evils, of which Allah knows
their full extent. For this, Islam has a great deal to say about this bad characteristic and the
Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) “The strong man is not the one who wrestles but the strong man
is in the fact the one who control himself at times of anger” therefore Prophet Mohammed
(PBUH) described cures for this disease and ways to limit its effects among which are the
following:
  HOLY PROPHET ON CONTROLLING ANGER
Prophet Mohammed (PBUH), who was sent to mankind to teach them good moral
conduct, learned to control his anger toward the Unbelievers and teach them appropriate
expressions. He constantly spoke against being angry. One companion asked him, Give
me some short advice by virtue of which I hope for good in the life hereafter, and he said,
"Don't be angry." Another person asked, what will save me from the wrath of God, and
he said, "Do not express your anger." A third person asked three times, 0 Prophet of God,
give me an order to do a short good deed, and he said, "Don't be angry." Once he asked a
question of his companion, "Who among you do you consider a strong man?" They said,
the one who can defeat so-and-so wrestler in a fight, and he said, that is not so. The one
who is strong is the one who can control himself at the time of anger. He also said that
anger is like fire, which destroys you from within, and it can also lead you to the fire of
hell by your own expressions of anger unjustly.

 Relax and try not to Speak anything .Be Quiet when

Angry
When Prophet Mohammad became angry due to someone’s incorrect actions or their
words, he never expressed it with his hand and used only mild words.  In fact those that
did not know him well did not even suspect that he was angry.  His companions however,
knew that he was angry by just looking at him; his face would turn red and his forehead
would be beaded with sweat.  However rather than expressing his anger openly he would
be quiet, using those first moments to control himself.

 Remember that Allah is mightier than you

In a hadith narrated in Muslim, a companion of the Prophet (PBUH) named Abu
Masood Al Badri said: “I was hitting a slave of mine when I heard a voice behind me
saying: Know Abu Masood, Know Abu Masood. I did not comprehend the words as
angry as I was until the voice got closer. I turned around and it was the Prophet (PBUH)
saying: Know Abu Masood that Allah is mightier on you than you are on this boy. Abu
Masood replied that the boy is therefore a free-man. The Prophet (PBUH) said to him
that if he did not do just that, then he would have been touched by the fire of hell”.

 Seek Refuge from Shaitan

When a person becomes angry, he has the choice to control his anger by responding to it
in a way sanctioned by the Quran and the traditions of Prophet Muhammad or he could
give in to the wave of emotion and behave in a way that displeases God but delights
Satan .So Read, A’uzu bil Allah min al shaitan al rajeem.This is one of the Short dua
which you can read to control your anger. This is evident from the hadih of the Prophet
(SAW) “I know words that if he were to say them his anger would go away, if he
said, “I seek refuge with Allah from Satan,” what he feels would go away.”(Sahih
Bukhari)

 Try to Forgive the Person

At a very difficult time in his life Prophet Muhammad went to the city of Taif hoping to
find people who would listen to, and support, his message to humanity.  Instead of
support he found men women and children who insulted and chased him out of town. 
With his sandals covered in blood and his heart full of sadness, he prayed to God for
help.  In response, the Angel of the Mountains was sent down and he asked for the
Prophet’s permission to cause the mountains surrounding Taif to crumble, killing all of
the city’s inhabitants.  Despite his pain and suffering something he had every right to be
angry about, the Prophet’s reply was, “No, for I hope that Allah will bring forth from
their progeny people who will worship God Alone, and none besides Him.”(Saheeh
Bukhari)

 Change position and make Wudu

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said in a Hadith narrated by Ahmad and Abu Dawood
(deemed authentic): “If one of you got angry while standing then sit down, or if sitting
down then lay down. If anger does not go away then do Wudu”

 Remind yourself of the fruits of Controlling Anger

There are also distinct advantages to following the guidelines set out in Islam.  It pleases
God, and the person controlling their anger is rewarded. In Islam it is not wrong to
avenge once a person has been wronged but to Pardon and reconcile has much greater
rewards. Controlling Anger Pleases Allah

“Those who spend (in God’s Cause) in prosperity and in adversity, who repress
anger, and who pardon the people; verily, God loves the good-doers.” (Quran
3:134).

Once a man came to Prophet Mohammad and said, “Messenger of God, teach me some
words which I can live by.  Do not make them too much for me, in case I forget.”  He
said, “Do not be angry.”(Saheeh Bukhari)
  Make Dua and trust Allah
Du’a is the most important and powerful tool of a Muslim. Therefore, we must always
pray against evils and for God to protect us against bad behavior of any form. Recite this
verse to have patience and get rid of your anger

“O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salat (the prayer). Truly! Allah is
with As-Sabirin (the patient ones)” (Surah Al-Baqarah
Verse #153)

MODERN CONCEPT OF ANGER

MANAGEMENT
Exploring the Roots of Anger
Many different events can make someone angry. These may include:

 Internal events such as perceived failures, injustices, or frustrations

 External events such as loss of property or privileges, teasing, or humiliation

Anger may result in externalizing behaviors. These can include verbal arguments and
tantrums. Anger can also cause internalizing behaviors. Internalizing behaviors can
include sulking or increased symptoms of depression. People may show anger through
aggression. Aggression is the biological function of anger. It is an evolutionary response
that helps prepare people to fight off threats.

MODERN WAYS OF CONTROLLING ANGER

Many modern ways and techniques are there to control anger nowadays few of them
are listed below;

 Relaxation
Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm
down angry feelings. There are books and courses that can teach you relaxation
techniques, and once you learn the techniques, you can call upon them in any situation
Some simple steps you can try:

 Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won't relax you.
Picture your breath coming up from your "gut."

 Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "take it easy." Repeat it to
yourself while breathing deeply.

 Non strenuous, slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel
much calmer.

 Changing Your Environment

Sometimes it's our immediate surroundings that give us cause for irritation and fury.
Problems and responsibilities can weigh on you and make you feel angry at the "trap"
you seem to have fallen into and all the people and things that form that trap.

Give yourself a break. Make sure you have some "personal time" scheduled for times of
the day that you know are particularly stressful. One example is the working mother who
has a standing rule that when she comes home from work, for the first 15 minutes
"nobody talks to Mom unless the house is on fire." After this brief quiet time, she feels
better prepared to handle demands from her kids without blowing up at them.

 Cognitive Restructuring
Simply put, this means changing the way you think. Angry people tend to curse, swear,
or speak in highly colorful terms that reflect their inner thoughts. When you're angry,
your thinking can get much exaggerated and overly dramatic. Try replacing these
thoughts with more rational ones. For instance, instead of telling yourself, "oh, it's awful,
it's terrible, everything's ruined," tell yourself, "it's frustrating, and it's understandable that
I'm upset about it, but it's not the end of the world and getting angry is not going to fix it
anyhow."

 Anger journaling
Understanding one's own emotions can be a crucial piece of learning how to deal with
anger. Children who wrote down their negative emotions in an "anger diary" actually
ended up improving their emotional understanding, which in turn led to less aggression.
When it comes to dealing with their emotions, children show the ability to learn best by
seeing direct examples of instances that led to certain levels of anger. By seeing the
reasons why they got angry, they can in the future try to avoid those actions or be
prepared for the feeling they experience if they do find themselves doing something that
typically results in them being angry.

 Medication
As anger is a psychological concern, treating with medication is a secondary line of
approach. However, if there is a medical reason for an anger response certain
psychotropic medications are prescribed by doctors to complement the psychotherapy
intervention. Medications include Antidepressants, Anti-psychotics, Anti-seizure and
Beta blockers. These drugs specifically do not target anger directly, but they have a
calming outcome that can support control of rage and negative feeling. Antidepressants
may have a particular role when anger is a manifestation of depression. Anger attacks are
found in 40% of those with major depressive disorder with 64–71% of cases responding
to an SSRI such as fluoxetine.

 Positive mentalization and personal development

This is a style that is commonly used in elementary schools for students expressing anger
outbursts. Researchers who have looked into the reason for young student anger have
found that one common reason could be the inability to adjust socially. Students that
were selected for this study received a daily one-hour session throughout one week of
school. The researchers of the mentalization program educated children through group
therapy in positive psychology and tried to do activities that put the child in a happy
mood while interacting. At the end of the week, research showed that there was a
negative correlation between anger and social adjustment. This process lowered the
overall anger levels of the students involved in social adjustment deficits.

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