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Is A Remmaried Couple in Constant Sin of Adultery?
Is A Remmaried Couple in Constant Sin of Adultery?
There are hundreds of books about divorce. One of the reasons for it, is because of the
different interpretations of the “exception clause” found in Mathew 5:32 and 19:9. Some
theologians say that divorce is permitted in the case of pornea1 but the divorced person can´t
remarry (Patristic View). Others believe that the sin of pornea gives the spouse the right to not
only divorce but to remarry (Erasmian View). Those views are just two of the many options
given by pastors to the Church members. Despite the fact that some views are more biblical than
others, there is a reality that all pastors agree with, which is that divorce is in our churches and
that it affects negatively the Body of Christ, families and the whole society.
It’s common to find marriage counselors in our congregations helping couples with
relationship problems. It’s also common to see Sunday school class for divorced people and also
counselors who will help people after they went through a divorce. But it’s no common to see
minister addressing the issue of remarriage. In the year of 2008, 33% of those who claimed to be
a born-again believer had been divorced.2 They are in our churches, involved in our activities,
having fellowship with us and participating in the Lord’s Supper. Some of them are “happily
remarried” and others not that happy. Some of the remarried ones feel guilty thinking they are in
constant sin of adultery and others are not even worried about it.
In this paper I want to talk about the status of a remarried person. Since this topic is not
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Fornication, sexual immorality, sexual sin of a general kind. James Swanson.
Dictionary of Biblical Languages with Semantic Domains: Greek (New Testament) 1997 : Print.
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The Barna Group, “New Marriage and Divorce Statistics Released,” accessed
November 12 2015, http://www.barna.org/family-kids-articles/42-new-marriage-and-divorce-
statistics-released.
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well addressed in our churches, I want to biblically expose the position affirming that a
divorced person who got remarried, is not in a constant sin of adultery but can be forgiven and
In Genesis 2:24 God establishes the covenant of marriage and in Mathew 19:4-6, Jesus
says that God’s will for marriage, is that it should last forever. He reinforces that no one should
separate that union because God is the one bringing both of them together. In the same passage
in Mathew 19:7, where Jesus was having a conversation with the Pharisees, they asked Him:
Why did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce? His answer was simple in the
following verse (8): “Because of your hardness of heart”. He also adds: “From the beginning it
has not been this way”. According to Dr. David W. Jones “Scripture defines marriage as a
covenant, both by explicit statement (cf. Prov. 2:17; Mal. 2:14) and by repeated analogy (cf. Hos.
If the covenant of marriage cannot be broken, why would God, allow a man to divorce
his wife? Jesus answer was clear: “Because of your sin”. The will of God is that the covenant of
marriage should not be terminated by any means, but since He knows the human race and how
sin affected man, he permitted them to divorce. The permission by God for a man to divorce his
wife is a very key element to wrestle with, in order to know if a remarried person is in sin or not.
The people of Israel could see all the regulations Moses gave to them about divorce as
God’s approval statement to anyone (with the “right” reason) to end a marriage relationship. But
since God hates divorce (Mal 2:16) and what he hates is a sin, the certificate of divorce could
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David W. Jones, “Potential Weaknesses of the Majority Views of Divorce and
Remarriage”. Southern Baptist Theological Seminary
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never be a form of permission for men to have a sinful act. Accordingly to Craig W. Booth4, the
permission to divorce was an act of God’s grace that would allow the person to commit the sin of
adultery without being executed under the criminal Law of adultery (Dt. 22:22). In another
words, it’s the mercy of God that revoked the death penalty that was applied to all who
committed the crime of adultery. After the certificate is given, the covenant of marriage with the
first wife is still valid and God still calls divorce a sin and hate it. R.H. Charles says: “Marriage
is dissoluble when there is an absolute breach of its essential condition-that is, when the husband
is disloyal to his wife or the wife to her husband, the marriage is ipso facto thereby dissolved;
and the State in issuing the decree of divorce is not putting asunder those whom God hath joined
together, but is only recognizing the already existing fact, that, by the disloyalty of either or both,
The dissolution of a marriage has consequences that apply to all divorced people. Some
of the consequences would be: (1) Both of them should not remarry another person. If they do
so, they would commit the sin of adultery (Luke 16:18; Mat 5:31,32; Deut 24:1-4; Jer 3:1) and
the original couple may not be reconciled (Deut 24:1-4). (2) Both of them would need to provide
for the needs of the children. Depending on the state law one or the other would assume that
responsibility (Rom 13:1-7, 1 Tim 5:8). (3) If a man remarries another wife and his original wife
is still alive, he should not have the office of a leader in the church (1 Tim 3:2, 12). (4) Divorce
also permanently weakens the family and the relationship between children and parents6.
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Craig W. Booth, Split Asunder: Divorce and Remarriage Scripturally Explained.
(Online Book: The Faithful Word, 2002), Ch.4.
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R H Charles. Divorce and the Roman Dogma of Nullity. (Edinburgh: T. & T. Clark,
1927), 2-3.
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Paul R. Amato and Juliana M. Sobolewski, “The Effects of Divorce and Marital
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When a person gets divorced, they are separated but still have obligations as a result of
their former union. Their status would never be as someone single, or never married.
As we saw in the last session, God doesn’t like divorce. He made man and woman to be
together for a lifetime. He also gave permission for a couple to be divorced in the case of pornea,
but since marriage is a covenant made for a lifetime, the divorced person should remain alone
and not remarry anybody else. The act of remarrying another person would be an act of adultery.
Now, if 40% of the divorced couples in the United States of America are remarrying7, it
means that in our churches, there are a great number of remarried couples. If remarrying is an act
of adultery, we have a huge number of confessed adulterous couples in our churches today. Can
it be possible? Can we see this reality and accept it? Or maybe to affirm that a remarried person
is in a constant sin is not exactly what the bible teaches? Dr. Russel Moore says that “the most
disturbing aspect of Southern Baptist cultural accommodation is found in the surprisingly high
numbers of those who make the trek from our baptisteries to the local divorce court”.8
The main point to discuss is if the covenant of marriage can be terminated or not.
Accordingly to Dr. Evan Lenow9, a covenant cannot be broken and if a person gets divorced and
remarries another person, before the former spouse dies, the status of that person is “in a
constant adultery”. I may be wrong, but this is what I understood from his position. This
affirmation agrees with the patristic view of marriage and is also supported by the Church of
England as we can see it written in their proposed Canon XXXVIII: “No person who has already
been married but hose marriage has been dissolved by secular authority shall be married
according to the rights and ceremonies of the Church of England, so long as the husband or wife
With all due respect to my professor, I don´t believe that the covenant can´t be broken. I
do understand the view and the biblical basis, but I also see in scriptures the possibility of the
covenant to be terminated, and it is when a person remarries. R.H Charles affirms: “there is no
evidence in the Gospels of any kind to prove that marriage is indissoluble, when there is an
Divorce is regulated, defined and acknowledged in the Bible and when a person is
divorced (Dt. 24:1-4), the marriage ends. However, the covenant is still valid and by not
considering the obligation of remaining single (1 Corinthians 7:10,11, Luke 16:18, Matthew
5:31,32), the sin of adultery happens in the act of remarrying (Luke 16:18, Rom 7:3). This being
said, we can affirm that the relationship of a remarried couple started in adultery but, once the
person is remarried, a new covenant takes place and a legit marriage relationship starts. God
hates divorce, but the Bible does not teach that a second marriage is illegal or not a marriage at
all. When Jesus said to the woman at the well (John 4:18) that she had 5 husbands, he meant it.
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Hugh C. Warner. Divorce and Remarriage: What the Church Believes and Why.
(London: Allen & Unwin, 1954), 74.
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R H Charles. Divorce and the Roman Dogma of Nullity. (Edinburgh: T. & T. Clark,
1927), 34.
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He said that she had 5 husbands, not 5 lovers. In fact he makes a distinction between the 5
husbands she had from the man she was with at that moment. The definition of husband that
Jesus gives to the 5 men that the Samaritan woman had before was based on a legal status.
In Luke 16:18 Jesus says that a person who takes a second wife is “marrying” her. He is
not saying that the man is entering an adulterous relationship forever. It is clear that the act of
remarrying after a legal divorce can be called a real marriage. Paul says in 2 Corinthians that a
believer should not marry an unbeliever. He says that righteousness have no partnership with
lawlessness, neither light with darkness. He continues saying that God has no harmony with
Belial, neither the temple of God with the idols. The reality is that many Christians are getting
marriage with non-believers knowing (or some times not knowing) that they are disobeying
Gods command. Their marriages started by violating God’s way, but it means that the Christian
is in constant darkness, bound to unrighteousness and in partnership with idols? How about if
this person recognize the mistake and see the wrong done by marrying a non-believer, should the
marriage be dissolved? Is the marriage not legit or real? Paul says that a Christian person married
with an unbeliever, must not divorce (1 Cor. 7:12). The relationship started wrong but after they
The only way to define the status of a remarried person before God is by understanding
the very nature of marriage. It seems to be a contradiction, but it is not. When a divorced person
starts a relationship with another person and enter into a new marriage covenant, that person
breaks the former covenant of marriage. In the first night together with the new spouse, they are
together committing the sin of adultery, destroying what was done before and not honoring the
commitment made with the former spouse. Not only that but from now on, the divorced person
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that gets into the new marriage, will never be allowed to go back to the former spouse (Deut.
Now that a new covenant is made legal, recognized by the law, family and God, the new
couple is no longer in sin. They started their new marriage in sin, but their status now is not
single, divorced or widow, but married. As a couple they have obligations to each other,
including sexual intercourse. Instead of acting in sin each time they engage sexually, they are
doing what scriptures teaches them to do within their official marriage relationship (1 Cor. 7:4-
5). They must be faithful to each other and honor their covenant to each other. It’s also important
to remember that sexual intercourse does not make marriages. According to Craig W. Booth12,
the first sexual intercourse between the remarried couple is not the sin itself, but the act
adulterating the former marriage covenant. Sex is part of a marital relationship and also part of
the obligations within marriage, but since it’s not the essential element of marriage, it’s also not a
Most of the remarried couples in our churches today don´t really know their status before
God. Some may struggle thinking that they are in constant sin and others may just feel great
knowing that they are blessed by God in their new relationship. During my research, I’ve seen so
many books encouraging people who are in their second marriage and praising the new
opportunity given by God to people coming from broken relationships. Some other material just
says things about divorce but does not address the issue of remarriage.
Should we address this topic biblically from our pulpits, discipleship meetings and
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Craig W. Booth. Should I Divorce My Second Wife to remarry My First Wife? Online
Article: The Faithful Word, 2005). http://www.thefaithfulword.org/divorcesecondwife.html
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conferences? If we should, why are we not doing it? Why some many Christians don’t have the
answers for their marital situation? As I come to the end of this paper, I would like to suggest
some answers that I believe would be helpful for couples that are in a new marital relationship
Repentance is Needed
Most of the remarried couple I know, do not consider their divorce and remarriage as acts
of sin against God. They justify their divorce by giving many reasons why they separated their
former spouse, and give many other different reasons why they got remarried. The hardest think
I’ve found is to convince them that the act of divorce is not what God desired for them (Mal.
2:16), and that the act of remarrying another person is a sinful act of adultery (1 Cor 7:10-11,
Luke 16:18, Mat 5:31-32). The reason it is hard is because many pastors and leaders do not
address this issue correctly so most remarried couples believe that the “exception clause” found
in Mathew 5:32 and 19:9 give them the right to think that everything they did was biblically
correct. It’s also hard to convince them that divorcing a person who was constantly unfaithful,
With a selfish focus, they will always find an excuse to justify their sin, but when the
light of Scripture shines and reveals their wrongness, repentance must take place and the result
will be a broken heart asking for forgiveness to a gracious God (Mat. 6:14-15). It’s very
important to point that repentance is not only because of the broken covenant and the act of
adultery but also because of the damaging consequences brought to the divorced spouse and
kids. Accordingly to Paul R. Amato, “Children in divorced families receive less emotional
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support, financial assistance, and practical help from their parents”13. Besides that, most of drug
A remarriage couple must understand biblically what they’ve done wrong, repent from
Every sin has its consequences. We can´t avoid it and we can´t stop it. A broken covenant
is never good and it always brings pain and destruction with it. Even though a divorced person
enters into a relationship with a better person in the new marriage, there are things that will
always follow the person forever. I already mentioned the biblical consequences of a divorce
before, but I would include some practical situations that all remarried couples would need to be
very aware of. (1) The divorced person will always struggle with thoughts of failure, guilt for not
being near to the kids, and fear of not being forgiven by the children. (2) Double financial
obligations as a consequence of having two families will always be a reality. (3) The limitation
and lack of freedom to serve in the church because of testimony (1 Tim. 3:1-7), and some
limitations to work in some companies that values the family life of their employees. Besides all
of that, remarried couples must be aware of the fact that more than 50% of remarried people ends
This being said, it doesn’t mean that the remarried couple must live a life of sadness and
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Paul R. Amato and Alan Booth, A Generation at Risk (Cambridge, MA: Harvard
University Press, 1997), 69.
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Hoffmann, John P. “The Community Context of Family Structure and Adolescent Drug
Use.” Journal of Marriage and Family 64 (May 2002): 314-330.
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Darlene McRoberts, Second Marriage: The Promise and the Challenge. (Minneapolis,
Minn: Augsburg Pub. House, 1978), 55.
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guilt. They are forgiven and the Lord will bless and help them through their path, but they
Most of divorced couples would do things different if they had the chance to go back in
time. Things they’ve said or done would be said in another way or not said at all, but the reality
is: They can´t go back to change what is already done. Now they find themselves in a new
relationship, and as we´ve said before, it didn´t started based on God’s plan and will, but it’s real
and legit. What to do? Learn the lesson and move on. The mistakes made in the past do not have
to be repeated. The pain and consequences already present, doesn’t need to be increased. God
wants to bless his children and the mistakes made in the past, stay in the past and should help the
new couple to pay more attention in God’s commands and instructions for their life together.
Conclusion
A remarried couple is not in a constant sin of adultery. They committed the mistake of
divorcing, they disobeyed the ordinance of being single after the divorce and they committed
adultery by remarry another person before their former spouse dies. All of this is true, but when
they started a new marriage, the new covenant terminates the old one and releases them to be in a
normal marriage relationship without the guilt of sin committed in the past.
This paper is not supporting divorce and remarriage. God never intended marriage to end
in a divorce and He wants a couple to remain marriage for a lifetime. But since divorce and
remarriage is a reality in our churches, this paper is giving biblical answers for them to know
how God sees them and how they can be free from guilt.
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