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He Likes Me -- Doesn't He?

 by Intent, on Mon Apr 13, 2009 8:07pm PDT

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Times have changed.  The days of Rhett Butler telling Scarlett O'Hara he didn't give a damn are long
gone.  That's a shame in some ways. At least it made dating simple.  Nowadays, guys try to be
considerate in an attempt to not hurt your feelings.  His miscues make it hard to know whether he's really
into you, just wants to be friends or would love for you to switch phone plans.  While words might not be
his strong point, his actions are.  Keep an eye out for these kinds of behavior.

1. He actively takes an interest in you and what you have to say.  He's not just nodding and
smiling and checking his watch every five minutes like you're trying to sell him life insurance. 
There's eye contact.  He's actively listening.  He's asking questions, relating things you say to his
own experiences.  If he's really good, he'll remember something you said and incorporate it in a
future date. Try not to act too surprised.  
2. He's forthcoming.  He wants you to know about him.  This manifests itself in a bunch of ways. 
He'll share personal details about himself.  He'll even be eager to cough up basic factoids such as
phone numbers, his address and place of work.  If he isn't giving up this kind of info, then he
doesn't want you tracking him down -- or he's Batman or Superman.  So if he doesn't live at
Wayne Manor or the Fortress of Solitude, give it up. 
3. He'll mark his territory.  He won't pee on you or anything per se, but he will exhibit some animal
behavior.  If he's decided he wants you as his female, he won't want to lose you.  If there's any
chance that you might be snapped up by another male, he'll stake his claim.  He'll be tactile with
 you, slipping an arm around you, possibly posturing and standing up when another guy walks
onto the scene.  Watch out for some regression to a more primitive man.  If you hear grunting,
don't panic.  It's his way of saying he likes you. 
4. He calls you back.  Despite the stereotype, he will call you back.  If you're a girl in demand, he
won't want you to be the one that got away, so he'll call you to set up the next date or ask how
you're doing.  If you're getting calls for no reason, that's a good thing. However, you may want to
invest in a good phone plan.
5. He'll check you out.  You'll bring out his spy skills in a good way.  He'll talk to your friends to get
the 411 on you.  He wants to know more about you -- your past, your present, your likes and
dislikes, water hazards, etc.  He's doing his homework because he wants to impress you.  He's
gathering this intelligence so he knows how best to woo you. 
6. He's flirtatious.  Guys get playful around women they like.  It's a little dance he's doing around
you to show his interest and his daring.  However, he's not just being flirty, he's also probing. 
He's putting on a little show for you to see if you'll reciprocate.  The more you play, the more he
stays.  Now shake that tail feather.
7. He's always planning ahead.  If he digs you, he won't want you getting away from him.  To
make sure you aren't prey to some other guy, he'll be making plans for the next date before the
current one is over.  A full calendar is a good sign.
8. He's attentive.  He's been listening to you, and knows what you like and where you like to go. 
He treats you to your favorite things and places.  He'll spring surprises.
9. He'll blow off his buddies to be with you.  It's always tricky managing existing commitments
with burgeoning relationships.  There are bound to be conflicts of interest at the some point.  So
take it as a good sign when he'll ditch going out with the boys to see you instead.  
10.  Acts of selflessness.  He'll take one for the team of you and him.  These can be large or small
acts.  They can be as small as holding your hair back for when you've got stomach flu, or as large
as suffering through a Celine Dion concert and pretend he's enjoying it because you're a fan. 
Now “that's the power of love.”

Okay, he's doing his part, but what about you?  You've got him wrapped around your little finger, but don't
get cocky.  You can lose him in the blink of an eye with a few classic screw-ups...

CONTINUE READING: He Likes Me --- Doesn't he?

By Simon Oaks for Intent.com

 False Advertising.  I understand that we all want to impress a potential new partner.  It's in our DNA.  Only

the fittest survive and only the most interesting get dates.  So make yourself interesting, but please don't pretend to

be someone you're not.  Don't say you were a Dallas Cowboys cheerleader if you weren't.  Don't tell him you're a

party girl when you're a bookworm.  This is a double whammy. First, he'll be POed because he believed your

character enhancements.  Second, you're not the person he's looking for.  If he wants the party girl and you're a

bookworm, how long do you think that's going to last?  Keep it real, ladies.
 You get jealous for no reason.  Okay, your previous guy cheated on you.  That's a shame, but not all guys

are wired the same.  So, if your current guy hasn't done anything wrong, then give him the benefit of the doubt.  Not

even the Dalai Lama is going to put up with being accused of cheating or having you check up on him every five

minutes.
 The Princess Complex.  You've got a nice little thing going on with him, but suddenly it's all about you and

not about the two of you. Who died and made you queen?
 Letting yourself go.  You were a dynamite package with you two starting dating, but the backless cocktail

dresses and Jimmy Choos have been replaced by moo-moos and flip-flops.  Just because you've hooked your

dream guy doesn't mean you can take your foot off the gas.  If you don't care about your appearance, don't expect

him to.
 Taking it too fast.  It's easy to get carried away with that guy in your life.  You want to be with him every

minute of the day, you think you should move in together and a summer wedding would be wonderful.  That's all

super -- as long as he's just as keen.  If he sees you streaking ahead of him, he'll be making a U-turn, so watch your

speed, Danica.