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CONTENTS
YOU & YOUR HOME
6 HOME UPDATE
Add autumn touches
to your space
8 SHOPPING
Lay the table
ON THE COVER 10 FASHION
MODEL: Jes Forber, Boss
Models STYLING: Suzanne
Dress in the season’s
Sesink Clee. MAKE-UP & hottest colours
HAIR: Adelle Jung. PHOTO: 16 BEAUTY
Justin Dingwall. Blouse Best online beauty tips
and jeans, Woolworths. and advice
Jewellery, Poetry
20 BEAUTY TOP 10
Our pick of hair rescues
21 BEAUTY UPDATE
Ways to look and feel
amazing
YOUR INSPIRATION
22 REAL PEOPLE
We’re raising
champions!
26 FIRST PERSON
My journey with HIV
28 HOW TO
Improve your memory
ON OUR COVER
30 WORK SMART
Get more out of your
YOUR LIFE
88 YOUR HEALTH
work day Weird ways your body
32 MONEY SMART talks to you
Can you afford to move 90 HEALTH FOCUS
to the UK? Successful
supplementing
65 SMART PARENT 92 HEALTH NOW
Be the best you can be
with the latest news
94 WELLBEING
Understanding what it
means to be ‘triggered’
96 RELATIONSHIPS
Coping with a
Queen Bee
98 MAD ABOUT PETS
Life on the animal front
CREATIVE SPACE
100 Quick leather and
Essential information, Easter crafts
reads, tips and news about
parenting brought to you by
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ON THE BOOKSHELF
Our favourite vegetable
We love potatoes! This versatile root vegetable is
The East African Cookbook (Struik Lifestyle)
by Shereen Jog is packed with a selection of
recipes that reflects this cuisine in a modern way,
filling, cheap and cheerful and has many health
yet is rooted in traditional methods and tastes.
benefits. These starchy tubers are high in natural,
Shereen is a fifth-generation Tanzanian national
unprocessed carbohydrates, which makes them
known for her creativity and experimental
a great source of energy. Potatoes contain the
nature with flavours, using the abundance of
highest amount of potassium, compared to other
fresh organic produce and the influence of a
vegetables and starchy foods, which can help
multi-cultural environment to prepare dishes
reduce your risk of stroke and high blood pressure,
that reflect the traditions of Arab, Swahili,
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Indian and colonial cuisines. You’ll be inspired to
Potatoes can be found in a variety of colours these
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watering meals
yellow (also called Yukon potatoes) and purple.
for family
Potatoes act as excellent thickeners in sauces,
and friends
soups, gravies and stews. They can be used to make
with flavour-
gratins, breads, mash, dips, bakes, rösti’s, shepherd’s
bursting
pie, dumplings, salad, curries, samosas, chips,
recipes for
and crisps. The healthiest way to cook potatoes is
soups, salads,
to boil, bake or roast them with only a little oil, if
meat, poultry,
necessary. Eat them with the skins on to get the
seafood,
maximum nutritional benefit. Ideal storage for the
vegetables
longest shelf-life is in a dark, well-ventilated area at
and desserts.
4°C - 7°C. Baby potatoes are simply potatoes that
R260.
are harvested before they’ve fully matured. See
page 51 for recipe ideas with baby potatoes.

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Kauai’s delicious meals and Gourmade. Gourmade frozen meals contain none freshness awaits
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Smoothies (like Strawberry Stinger
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 HOME UPDATE

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knitted floor cushion, R750, Poetry 3 Ochre velvet stool, R1 499,
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occasional chair ochre, R3 699, @home 6 Printed Glastonbury leaf
scatter, R139.99, Mr Price Home 7 STUDIO. W Luca scatter cushion
50x50cm, R330, Woolworths 8 Rosewater duvet cover set in king
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1 Clarita dining chair, R1 495, Block & Chisel
2 Shell dining chair velvet fern, R2 799,
@home 3 Cross dye throw 150x125cm, R299,
Woolworths 4 Edge stitch green bay scatter,
R159.99, Mr Price Home 5 Velvet round
emerald cushion, R199.99, Mr Price Home
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the
Natural touches throughout your home
bring a little of the outdoors in, adding
interest and warmth to every space.
2
5
6 1 Alhambra rug with tassels 120x180cm,
1 Round marble tray, R450, Woolworths 2
Orchid fan back chair, R1 895, Block & Chisel
3 Small hyacinth planter, R299, Woolworths
4 Palu rattan chair with arms, R1 800, Mr
Price Home 5 Zohra stool, R4 995, and Kezia
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R1 499, Poetry 2 Velvet scatter cushion
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Mr Price Home 4 Leonie Auckamp colab
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STUDIO. W plush Sherpa throw 220x140cm,
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APRIL 2020 7
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Trending tableware
DRESS (YOUR TABLE) TO IMPRESS,
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2 Multicolour hand-painted tapas bowls 3-pack, R199, Woolworths 3 Platinum dipped
wine glass, R79, flute, R79, hi-ball glass, and whiskey glass, R65, @home 4 Gemma Orkin round server pale blue, R699, Poetry 5 16-piece
everyday blue dinner set, R359.99, Mr Price Home 6 S&P Aero raffia round serving board 40cm, R699, @home 7 David Jones Premium
Collection rose gold cutlery set 4-piece, R399, Woolworths 8 Amazona soup bowl, R160, Poetry 9 Pari tablecloth 6-8 seater, R499, Poetry
10 Gold berry salad servers, R350, Poetry 11 David Jones Premium Collection cosmopolitan bowl, R170, Woolworths 12 Velour picturesque print
tablecloth 180x230cm, R449, @home 13 Maison dinner plate 28cm, R99, Maison cereal bowl, R95, Maison side plate, R89, @home

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autumn
SHADES OF

BUTTERSCOTCH, SAGE, BOLD

PATTERNS AND COLOUR BLOCKING
ARE HOW WE’RE CELEBRATING
FASHION THIS SEASON. SO GET
DRESSED AND MAKE A STATEMENT…

EDEN GREEN AND

DARK CHEDDAR
Green is a meditative
colour, while delicious
dark Cheddar gives
warmth to the yellow
palette of autumn. Dark
Cheddar blends well with
blues, reds or greens.

Blocks of colour GREEN MAJORCA VELIA BLOUSE, R599,

Colour blocking is accomplished by choosing
hues from the same colour family.
10 yourfamily.co.za
and EDEN GREEN CABLED JUMPER, R699,
Poetry | DARK CHEDDAR STRETCH PANTS,
R499, Queenspark | BLACK FRAMED DARK
GLASSES, R149, Cotton On | DOUBLE
BUCKLE SLIDERS, R349, Rubi Shoes @
Cotton On
 FASHION

An old favourite
The 70s trend of flared jeans is making
a comeback, so move aside skinnies!
CHAIN & RESIN LINK NECKLACE,
R325, Poetry | BUTTERSCOTCH
BLOUSE, R379, H&M | DISTRESSED
BOOTLEG JEANS, R499, Woolworths
| NUDE BLOCK HEEL SANDALS
by Rubi Shoes, R579, and PEACH
BLAZER, R579, Cotton On

BUTTERSCOTCH
This golden shade is as
sweet and creamy as
yellow can be, with a
rich depth that suits the
season. It’s a popular
replacement for beige
and adds a bold touch
to your outfit.

The dressed-up jumpsuit

Jumpsuits are more popular than ever, and
this season we’re seeing more versatile
styles – perfect to take you from work to play.
BUTTERSCOTCH JUMPSUIT WITH CRISS-CROSS NECK
DETAILS, R1 299, Jo Borkett | BUTTERSCOTCH SOFT
LEATHER JACKET, R3 299, Poetry | SILVER HOOPS,
R39.99 and PINK SILVER RING, R149, Cotton On

APRIL 2020 11
Make a statement
Want to stand out? Add a daring yellow jacket to
your outfit and layer the look for maximum impact.
MAXI SNAKESKIN PRINT DRESS by Miss Cassidy, R599,
Queenspark | BUTTER YELLOW PAULETTE LEATHER
JACKET, R3 299 and BROWN LEATHER WRAP-
AROUND BELT, R299, Poetry | SNAKESKIN CROSS
BODY BAG, R279, H&M | NUDE BLOCK HEEL SANDALS
by Rubi Shoes, R549, and RESIN DROP EARRINGS, R119,
Cotton On | SNAKESKIN BANGLE, R99.95, Woolworths

OVERSIZED
TOTE, R499,
Woolworths

Animal prints
They’ve always been a fashion favourite,
and the muted hues of snakeskin
prints make it practically a neutral,
so incorporate it wherever you can
into your autumn wardrobe. A pair
of snakeskin boots packs a statement.

SNAKESKIN
BLOCK HEEL
COURT SHOES,
R699, Woolworths HIGHRISE
BOOTS, R349,
Mr Price

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 FASHION

Layer the look

Turtlenecks are wardrobe essentials, so try layering
them under dresses, jumpsuits and blazers.
SAGE GREEN RIBBED POLONECK, R79.99, MINT CROSS
BODY BAG, R129.99, ROUND BEATEN GOLD EARRINGS,
R25.99, PEEP-TOE BROWN SUEDE-LIKE SHOES, R199,
Mr Price | SANREMO LULA BLAZER, R999, Poetry | SAGE
GREEN TRENCH, R999, Queenspark | KHAKI SKINNY
JEANS, R179.99, Pick n Pay Clothing

SAGE GREEN DRESS WITH RUFFLE

SLEEVE R1 000, Jo Borkett

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 Mono-magic
Stuck on what to wear? Keep it simple
and go monochromatic by wearing
the same colour from head to toe.

Coral
pink
Combining
the warmth of
coral with the
delicacy of pink,
this soothing,
feminine hue is
chic to wear both
day and night.

CANYON ROSE
TRENCH, R899,
Cotton On
PEACH PINK SLEEVLESS
FRILL TANK, R399, CANYON
ROSE SAMBA BLAZER,
R499, Cotton On

Fruit dove
This fun, cool pink tone
adds brightness when
used as an accent,
while representing
fashion’s tendency
to break rules when
worn as the key
colour in an outfit.

FRUIT DOVE POPLIN

A-LINE SHIRT DRESS,
R1 299, Trenery at PINK DRESS
Woolworths | RAFFIA WITH PUFF
STRETCH BELT R199, SLEEVES,
Jo Borkett R629, H&M

Pretty in plaid
Make your outfit pop with a touch of plaid – it looks
great on everything from jackets, coats and dresses.
RED AND GREY PLAID SLEEVELESS PINAFORE DRESS,
R650, Queenspark | CREAM VISCARA RIBBED POLONECK,
R350, Poetry | BLACK STEVIE BOX CROSS BODY BAG, R249,
Cotton On

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 FASHION

Suit up
The suit is back and in a fun new way!
Jackets are oversized and pants are
cropped, making them perfect to mix and
match with other items in your wardrobe.

OVERSIZED UNSTRUCTURED CHECKED JACKET,

R429, THREE-QUARTER PANTS, R179, PINK
V-NECK T-SHIRT, R79.99, CREAM MONEY BELT
BAG, R249, and WHITE SNEAKERS, R449, all
H&M | ROSE GOLD HOOPS, R119, Cotton On
MODELS MAKEUP & HAIRSTYLIST: ADELLE JUNG PHOTOS: JUSTIN DINGWALL
STYLIST: SUZANNE SESINK CLEE MODEL: JES FORBER, BOSS

BLACK & WHITE CHECKED OVERSIZED

JACKET, R429 and ELASTICISED PANTS, R249,
H&M | WHITE CAMI, R149, Zara | ELASTICISED
BLACK BELT WITH DIAMANTE DETAIL, R299,
Queenspark

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to enhance your beauty routine. It can be towel over a clothing steamer,
an intimidating and confusing space – some are then holding it close to your
aimed solely at selling you their products, some are face. You can also try a mini
genuinely helpful, and some are just… well, weird! steam treatment by brewing
So avoid the confusion and sometimes downright a pot of antioxidant-rich
dangerous advice out there (for instance, do not green tea, pouring it into
try to achieve a fuller pout by inflaming your lips a large bowl, and
with painful chilli powder!), and try out some of the holding your face
handy info we came across. over the bowl for a
few minutes.
Harpersbazaar.com.au
Helpful hair hacks
Intensify dark colour by mixing ground coffee into Start a skin diary to keep
your conditioner and applying it to your hair like track of how each product
a mask. Leave it in as long as you like – the longer you use affects your skin. If you
you let it sit and soak in, the darker and richer your use a lot of skincare and make-up
brunette colour will be. products, or like to experiment
Bestoftips.com with new formulas, write down each
product you’ve used, then record
your complexion’s reaction. This way
you’ll know what’s working, what may be causing
irritations, and which products seem to have no
effect.
SoNailicious.com

Get beach-perfect waves without
a curling iron by braiding small
sections of wet or damp hair and
blow-drying. For even stronger
waves, run your straightener over
the braids. Let them set while you
do your make-up and get ready
in the morning, then remove
the braids for stunning beachy
waves.
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Master contouring by always keeping the letters E
and C in mind. Using your contour blender and a
bronzer or darker colour from a contour kit, draw
the letter E on each side of your face, starting
at the forehead, curving around towards your
cheekbones, and back out towards your jawline.
Next, using illuminator or a light colour from a
contour kit on a foundation blender, draw the letter
C on each side of your face,
staying close to the temples.
Blend it all in, and you’ll be
perfectly contoured!
Shesintheglow.com

Boost volume by using beer as a hair mask. The

yeast in the beer works to plump individual strands
and thicken hair. Leave half a cup of beer to sit for a
few hours until de-carbonated, then mix it with half
a cup of water and 1T shampoo. Use as a shampoo
and leave in your hair for at least five minutes. It’s
best to use non-alcoholic beer. Tohairwithlove.com

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 Eye advice
Fake thicker looking lashes by curling them
and applying mascara as normal, then, dip a
cotton bud into a little baby powder and thinly
coat your lashes. Finish with a final layer of
mascara for instant added length and volume.
Dogstagsdiapersanddiy.blogspot.com
Make eyeshadow pop by using white
eyeliner as a base coat. Apply it over
your entire eyelids before applying your
eyeshadow, and you’ll notice it brightens,
sets and exaggerates the colour.
Politicsofpretty.com
Refresh mascara during the day or to go
from day to night by applying a small
amount of Vaseline to your lashes using a
cotton bud, or with your fingers. This will
break up any clumps and soften the lashes,
so that you can apply a fresh coat of mascara
over the top without worrying about clumping.
YouTube: Elle Fowler
Luscious lip tips
Make your own lip exfoliator by cutting a face
buffer, like Buf-Pufs, into small sections, applying
a little Vaseline to them, and gently scrubbing
your lips. They’ll be exfoliated and moisturised at
the same time, leaving your lips soft and
smooth.
Cultofpretty.com
Make a lip stain by
mixing a small amount of
powdered blush with any
lip ice or balm, or a foundation
primer, and apply to your lips.
Harpersbazaar.com.au
Did you know?
According to Purewow.com, you can naturally
whiten your teeth by rubbing the inside of a
banana peel across them. Let the paste that
forms sit on your teeth for about 10 minutes,
then brush them. It’s thought that as the
peel contains minerals including magnesium,
potassium and manganese, these can be
absorbed into the teeth and boost their
whiteness over a few weeks.
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Never-fail nails
Easily remove stubborn glitter nail polish by soaking
cotton wool segments in nail polish remover and
placing them over your nails. Wrap tin foil tightly
around each nail, and leave wrapped for about 10
minutes. Peel off the foil, and you’ll find that most
of the polish has been removed, and glittery traces
should come away easily. Finally, a way to get rid
of that pretty but stubborn polish without scraping
and damaging nails.
Birdeemag.com
Repair a cracked nail that’s ruining your perfect
manicure using a tea bag. Tear off a section of the
tea bag and place it over the crack in your nail.
File down any excess material from the bag
and apply a strong base coat over your nail.
Now that crack won’t turn into a break!
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WITH THESE FIVE STEPS:
1 PROTECT Choose a base coat that contains
calcium and proteins to strengthen and thicken
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hydrated so that your skin and cuticles remain
soft and free from damage. Use a hand cream with
SPF to prevent sun damage and ageing.
4 PREVENT Wear gloves while gardening or
doing housework to protect them from wear
and tear and harsh chemicals, and avoid using your
nails to pry or pick at things.
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DO YOUR HOMEWORK
Beauty products often don’t come cheap,
so do a little research before deciding what
to purchase. Check reviews of the products
online, visit forums and message boards to
get an idea of what the overall feedback is
for them, and check to make sure they’re
being well received. Look for longer reviews,
which tend to cover more aspects like how
long a product lasts on the skin, whether
it’s true to the colour on the packaging, and
how it feels when applied.
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 ‘We’re raising
sports stars!’
MOST SPORTING CHAMPIONS STARTED THEIR JOURNEYS
LONG BEFORE THEY KNEW HOW SUCCESSFUL THEY
WOULD BECOME . THESE MOMS TELL US WHAT IT’S LIKE
RAISING THEIR OWN LITTLE PRODIGIES
Inspired by the movie
Chess Queen of Katwe starring
mastermind Academy award-
winning actress Lupita
After watching
Nyong’o, where she
the movie plays a young Ugandan
Queen of Katwe, girl whose life changes
Ofentse Peete after she learns to play
chess, Ofentse joined
asked her mom the school’s chess club
to join the school in 2018. A year later,
chess club; not the eight year old had
knowing she’d already earned her place
in the Commonwealth
discover an Chess Championships
extraordinary in India and the
flair for the World Cadet Chess
Championships in China,
game. She has
both held in 2019. This
since been made her the first chess
ranked fifth in player from her school,
Africa in her Charterhouse Primary, to
be selected to represent
age group South Africa in the China
competition.
‘In China, where
she was nominated as
captain of the U8 team,
she won three games
and drew one. In the
same year, she won
all her games at the
Inter Regional Chess
Tournament and won
four out of five games at
the Joburg Open Chess

22 yourfamily.co.za
 REAL PEOPLE

which is helping her

perform better with her
school work. Her longest
game was in Namibia,
which lasted over three
hours, and managed
to be the only player to
beat the current African
Youth Chess Champion.’
Apart from chess,
Ofentse also participates
in netball, softball,
choir and marimba at
school, and her two
older siblings are also
involved in sports, music,
and the debate club. So
Lorato has her hands
full with three talented
musketeers!
‘Chess alone can
get quite expensive, Putting pros
especially because
of the level at which When her older sister Kaylee came
Ofentse is competing; home with a trophy, little Maegan
Tournament. She also Ofentse’s dad and paying for registrations thought: ‘I want one too!’ – and since
qualified for the Joburg siblings also play chess, and accommodation
then the Webster sisters have been
Metro U10 girls A-team, although as a hobby, when travelling to
which played at the so it really came as tournaments around making huge strides in the sport
South African Junior a surprise when we the world is extremely
Chess Championships. discovered her hidden strenuous financially.
‘We’re really proud of talent. She caught us all So we have to allocate a
Ofentse’s performance off-guard, including her large percentage of the
and achievements. coach of only one year, family’s budget towards
She’s surprised us as Alessandro Parodi. He it. We owe a great deal
her family, as well as her says she’s surpassed to SS Profiling for their
coach,’ says proud mom expectations, even generous sponsorships
Lorato. his own, and boasts that enabled us to attend
But Ofentse didn’t about her being his first all three international
stop there; she went student ever to qualify tournaments,’ says
on to give a stellar at such esteemed levels,’ Lorato. ‘Since Ofentse
performance at the says Lorato. is doing what she loves,
African Youth Chess Apart from taking and seeing her being
Championships in her all over the world, afforded such amazing
Namibia, where she won the game has proven to opportunities, it would
six out of nine games. be beneficial even in the be selfish of me to not
‘Ofentse has shown classroom for the grade make some sacrifices
us she has what it three learner. along the way. And
takes to reach her ‘Ofentse is a very so far it’s been worth
dream of attaining the hyper active child and every vacation and
Women Grandmaster chess has played a Saturday lunch date
(WGM) title one day vital role in calming her with the girls that I’ve
– the highest ranking down and improving missed because of chess
for women’s chess. her concentration skills, practice and games.’

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Watch out Tiger Woods
– there are new golf
champions in town.
Kaylee and Maegan
Webster, who are only
12 and 10 respectively,
are already taking the
golfing world by storm.
‘At just four years old,
Kaylee came home from
school one day with an
24 yourfamily.co.za
intro-golf flyer, after the sister,’ the girls’ parents, championships. seem to run through
coach at school said Karlie and Mark, explain. By the time she was the family. Their great
she had a natural swing By the time Kaylee seven, Kaylee started grandparents both
and great ball sense. was nine and Maegan playing in the SA Kids played golf, their
Maegan, being intrigued was eight, Karlie and Golf Tournaments, granny used to swim at
by her sister’s new- Mark realised they have joined by Maegan provincial level, and their
found stardom when a pair of talented kids. when she turned six. uncle played cricket and
she came home with a The girls have achieved They both play in the rugby.
trophy after her very so much in a short space Gauteng North Junior The couple’s support
first tournament, was of time; with both having League for Waterkloof for their kids has
inspired to join her big played in international Golf Club and the really paid off and has
Nomads Gauteng North contributed immensely
team at interprovincial to the girls flourishing.
level. They also play ‘As parents, we’ve
for Curro Hazeldean’s made many sacrifices to
school league and made make sure we give the
the Gauteng North U13 girls the best resources
Schools team for the to enable them to excel.
last few years in a row. Driving to trainings and
In 2017 and 2018 they spending weekends
represented SA Kids at tournaments has
Golf in the Kids Golf become part of our
World Championship calendar!
Tournament held in ‘Because this is such
Malaysia, where Kaylee a costly sport in terms
came 8th out of 34 girls, of equipment and
and Maegan finished travelling overseas for
10th out of 29 girls. the competitions, we’ve
Last year Kaylee won had to come up with
the Curro Hazeldean clever ways of raising
Golfer of the Year award, funds, like hosting a golf
as well as the SA Kids day in 2017. We also
“Nan Ryan” outstanding do a lot of background
Sportsmanship Award in homework to help them
the same year. with all their games,
And 2020 will just be says Mark.
as busy for the girls – ‘For example, we
they’ve qualified to play encourage them to play
in the USA in various at new venues regularly
tournaments in July and need to do our
and August, including homework to know
the World Stars of Golf distances and difficulty
Junior Championship, of those courses.
the World Stars of Golf Doing this research
Invitational Tournament, beforehand makes
and the US Kids Golf their games more
World Championship. manageable. Kaylee
In February they and Maegan are our
played in another SA first priority and we just
Kids Golf Tournament want to make certain
where they won in we provide them with
their respective age the tools and support
groups, and achieved they need to become
their personal best the best they can be,
scores ever. The whatever career they
‘sports gene’ does choose for themselves.’
 REAL PEOPLE

after 9pm. We miss out

on a lot of family time
The all-rounder as we’re often away
Crylette Kandava is a single mom at practice sessions.
But I’m blessed with
to 15-year-old sports all-rounder an understanding
Tatenda, who excels in four sports, daughter; once she’d
including water polo arranged, all by herself,
a lift with her friend’s
mom to get to practice,
‘Tatenda’s always team and travelled just so I could enjoy an
displayed a keen interest to Potchefstroom to afternoon to myself.
in sports. Growing represent her school last That was so thoughtful
up, she was always year. She’s part of the of her!’
kicking around a ball senior swimming team Despite all the
or swimming at every and is the captain of her hardships, Crylette says
opportunity. She had own age group teams it’s fulfilling watching
an interest in water in both water polo and Tatenda perform so
polo from a very young swimming. well in all her sports
age, which surprised As a single mom of and seeing her happy is
the family as it’s not a an all-round sports star rewarding.
very popular sport in Crylette’s days, including ‘Although it’s a
the black community!’ weekends, are spent struggle sometimes, it’s
Crylette laughs. driving Tatenda to all her worth every moment,
In primary school, practices and games. as I want to give her
Crylette signed her ‘Seeing to Tatenda’s the opportunities I
daughter up for netball, needs is my main focus. never had. She doesn’t
hockey, swimming and She’s my everything for a second take
athletics, culminating and I try my best to this for granted and
in her receiving many put her wellbeing first. has matured into an
medals and the sports I look at my daughter incredibly talented
woman of the year and realise how truly sportswoman. I feel
award in her final year in talented she is and it getting further support
grade seven. She went makes me want to work will only increase her
on to be a recipient of harder to be able to do chances to one day
the same award in her better in providing for represent South Africa
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first year at Fourways her. I subscribe to lots of at the Olympic games.’

High, where she sports newsletters so I
dropped netball, and can be the first to know
joined the water polo when the sales are on
team. at the various sports
‘Since then, she’s equipment shops.
been scouted by the When Tatenda has an
Eastern Gauteng injury, a lot of money
Schools Water polo goes towards sport
team and participated doctors, which medical
in an inter provincial aid often doesn’t cover.
tournament in I’m fortunate to have a
December 2019 for strong support system
the U19 team.’ She through my family and
represents her school school moms, who lend
in many tournaments a hand when I need it.’
and has already been Crylette’s social life
awarded her junior has also taken a bit
colours for water polo. of a back seat. ‘There
Tatenda also made are times when I’m at
the top 30 athletics practice with her until

APRIL 2020 25
‘Adversity
couldn’t keep
me down’
‘I
’ve always been a very realistic person, which CINDY PIVACIC, space of four years. Through all of this, I still refused
I’ve found has helped me cope with many to be overcome by it. I instead turned it into an
challenges in my life. Whenever I encounter FOUNDER opportunity to educate others, especially coming
a stumbling block, I come up with a plan, from a community that didn’t speak openly about
implement it, and get past it. Being optimistic helps
OF PR NINJA, HIV and AIDS.
me accept things more easily and move forward. HAS BEEN ‘It took me six years to disclose my status to my
This mindset is what got me through one of my family and friends, as I believed I’d be rejected and
most difficult challenges – being diagnosed HIV
THROUGH discriminated against. But, to my surprise, I wasn’t.
positive in 2004. MORE THAN They were instead very supportive. I do however
‘I was infected by my then partner, who in understand the fear of discrimination and rejection,
hindsight knew about his status two years prior
HER FAIR and when I counsel others, I encourage them to
to infecting me. But, he never disclosed it to me, SHARE OF disclose their status to a caring person as soon as
despite a condom mishap. The only reason I possible, as it’s a huge relief and feels like a weight
found out about it was because he fell ill and was
HARDSHIP, BUT lifted off their shoulders.
hospitalised. He was tested for HIV for a second SHE USES HER ‘The stress alone of keeping your diagnosis
time, after which I discovered his diagnosis. I then to yourself could potentially make you ill. The
took an Elisa test, of which the waiting period was LIFE LESSONS importance of having someone to support you,
a week back then – an entire week to process the TO HELP should you require assistance getting medical care
possibility of being HIV positive. urgently for example, can’t be stressed enough.
‘I decided that should my tests come back OTHERS ‘Shortly after breaking up with my former
positive, there was nothing I could do to change my partner, the company I was working for at the time
status. It was this mindset moved offices from
that helped me handle Durban to Cape Town,
the news better, and the and I was subsequently
results did in fact come retrenched.
back positive. I fought to ‘This left me in a
live positively and get my financial quandary and
partner and I back on our impeded on my health,
feet and living healthily.’ due to a lack of medical
facilities and income to
The challenges cover medical aid, rent,
‘A few years later I’d food, transport, and
suffered two strokes, other everyday costs.
TB Meningitis, cancer, My car was eventually
shingles and pneumonia, repossessed and I lost my
and my ex’s drinking was house too. It was just a
out of control. I decided horrible time in my life.’
it was time we went
our separate ways. All A change of plans
of this happened in the ‘After applying for over

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 FIRST PERSON

300 jobs to no avail, I decided it was time to redirect

my plans. Enrolling for a Lay Counsellor and Victim
Empowerment Course got me started on the path
that’s developed into everything I’m currently
fulfilling. As an action-orientated person, my eyes
and ears are constantly open for opportunities, and
the chance came for me to move from KZN to Cape
Town in 2014.
‘Realising that I found it difficult to access
support and counselling for my diagnosis was the
major factor in going public. I recognised that if
I, as a middle-class suburban mom, was unable
to get the required services, then surely the
experience was worse for people from less fortunate
communities.
‘I felt that speaking openly about the condition
could help others to do the same. I wanted to help
put an end to the stereotype that white middleclass
people aren’t affected by the virus. I remember
when I initially started with the public speaking,
many people, black men especially, were in disbelief
that I was HIV positive. They’d often tell me that
I couldn’t be HIV positive, because I’m a white
woman. I felt this would sometimes make them
sceptical and didn’t take me seriously when I gave
my talks. So much so that I started keeping my
medication and website details close by just so I
could confirm it.
‘Since my diagnosis, I’ve been afflicted with
numerous health challenges related to my HIV
status, including a heart attack and double bypass
in 2018. But I’ve never been depressed or felt like
it was the end of the world. I have my resilience to
thank for that. I told myself that I can’t turn back
time, and I need to just face the challenges as they
arise and look forward to the future.’
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Staying optimistic
‘I’m fortunate to be surrounded by supportive family,
friends and associates who are always rooting for
me, which keeps me going and helps me to spread
positivity through educating others. I speak on
several platforms and travel around the country
to encourage others to live positive lives and be
supportive of HIV-positive individuals. I’ve authored
two books about my experiences and currently host
a TV show on a community station in Cape Town.
‘I always encourage people to open up to at least
one person in their lives and shouldn’t be afraid to
ask for help. Thinking you can deal with issues on
your own sets you back. I’ve had many cases where
had I been too proud to ask for help, things would
not have worked out in my favour. No man is an
island; we all need someone to lean on. And that’s
how I’ve been able to live a full and happy life and
have continued to flourish even after adversity.’

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 HOW TO...

Improve your
memory
WITH TECHNOLOGY REMINDING US ABOUT EVERYTHING FROM BIRTHDAYS,
MEETINGS, APPOINTMENTS, TO THE GROCERY LIST, IT’S EASY TO FEEL LIKE WE
RELY LESS ON OUR OWN MEMORY. HERE’S WHAT YOU CAN DO TO GIVE IT A BOOST

ouldn’t it be awesome to have the same The digitisation of almost everything has made humans so

W
Good vs bad memory
eidetic memory that the character Mike Ross
from Suits has? When it comes to keeping
your memory sharp, it’s not only genes
that play a role; personal choices count too.

for them. That’s why it’s

dependent on technology that many of us don’t make a point
to remember phone numbers or directions off-by-heart, and
instead, rely on smartphones and GPS. Slowly but surely, this
can influence how well our brains function.

and the letters of the alphabet. keys, create a funny picture

What causes some people to
have a ‘bad memory’, while
others stay sharp as a tack?
Popular to contrary belief,
memory expert and mentalist
Michael Abrahamson doesn’t
believe there are people
with bad memories, and that
we all can have exceptional
memory. ‘There’s a major
misconception about it;
nobody has a bad memory.
We all have the ability to recall
and remember things. The
difference is that some people
have a trained memory while
others have an untrained
memory,’ Michael reassures.
Unlocking your
trained memory
It’s possible to become good
at memorising, even if you’ve
always had below-average
memory. It’s also not true
that some people are bad at
remembering, it’s only that
others have developed the
right set of skills to make their
brains work more effectively
important to distinguish
between humans having the
natural ability of recollection,
albeit to varying degrees, and
being able to develop the skill
of memorising information
very well. Even though natural
memory is largely dependent
on your genes and lifestyle,
your trained memory can be
improved to levels it’s never
reached before.
How to really train
your brain
1 MNEMONICS are different
methods you can use
to recall information. ‘For
example, the colours of the
rainbow are red, orange,
yellow, green, blue, indigo
and violet, so using the first
letter of each colour, you’d
remember ROY G BIV,’
Michael explains.
Another method could be
using music. For example,
there are songs to help people
memorise simple things like
the colours of the rainbow,
However, using the ‘A, B, C’
song can help you remember
much more than that,
including maths equations,
science cycles, and names
of African countries. A quick
online search can help you find
already existing songs to teach
particular information.
2 ASSOCIATION is using
something familiar to assist
in recollection. ‘You meet
someone called Geraldine. In
order to remember her name,
you can associate her name
with your cousin Gerald, who is
familiar to you. Take it further
by thinking of them interacting
together. Then Gerald will
trigger the name Geraldine
and you won’t forget it.’
3 STORIES AND PICTURES
‘The best way to
remember anything is to
make up a story using
pictures, as the mind stores
pictures better than words. If
you’re always misplacing your
in your mind whenever you
put them down somewhere,’
says Michael. ‘If you leave
them on the kitchen counter,
form an image in your mind
of the tabletop “swallowing”
your keys as you put them on
it. Associating it with humour
or something weird will help
you lock that picture into your
mind. Then when you need to
find your keys, you recall the
funny image and know that
you put them on the table.’
4 MEMORY PALACE
TECHNIQUE is a method
used by memory athletes.
It involves associating
information with specific areas
of a place that’s familiar to
you, like your home or the
route you take home. For
example, if you need to
remember to buy a few
grocery items for supper
tonight, use landmarks you
often see on your way home
from work to link to your list
of items. You could link the

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lemon tree outside your office
window with having to buy
lemons, or traffic lights on
your drive home to peppers
(green, yellow and red).
5 GIVE YOUR BRAIN A
CHALLENGE Just like
muscular strength, the more
you work out your brain,
the stronger it’ll be, which
equals better processing
and remembering information.
The best brain exercises
challenge you to use and
develop new neural pathways.
Great examples include
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learning to play an instrument,
learning a new language,
pottery-making and
playing chess.
6 TRY NOT TO WRITE
DOWN DAILY TASKS
OR STORE THEM IN YOUR
PHONE ‘Rather make
your brain work in trying
to remember. The brain is
extremely powerful, but it’s
also very lazy; so the more you
rely on written aids, the less
productive your brain will
become.’
7 DO MANAGEABLE BITS
DAILY ‘When I broke the
Memory World Record for
Pi last year, I broke down
the learning into small and
manageable chunks of
information, and revised
frequently. Then it became
easier. The key aspect is
frequent revision to assist in
locking in the information,’
says Michael.
Michael is the current
holder of the South
African Record for Pi
and the World Record
for Speed of Recall
on Pi Day. For more
information on his
memory, mind power,
study skills and exam
techniques courses, visit
Michaelabrahamson.
co.za
BOOST YOUR
NATURAL MEMORY
Enhancing your natural memory is where your
lifestyle comes in, because it involves forming
healthy habits.
AVOID A BAD DIET
Once again, what we put in our mouths plays a huge
impact on our overall state of wellbeing. According to
Health.harvard.edu, the build-up of cholesterol plaques
in the brain can damage brain tissue, as brain cells are
deprived of oxygen-rich blood they need to function
optimally. In the long run, this can affect thinking and
memory. Make sure your diet consists of fresh fruit,
vegetables, fish, good fats like those found in avocados
and coconut oil, and wholegrains.
EXERCISE REGULARLY
Physical exercise has a direct positive link on brain health,
as it protects the brain against deterioration and reduces
the risk of cognitive decline with age.
CUT DOWN ON ALCOHOL
All those years of enjoying GnTs and cocktails may not
be so good for you long-term. This is because repeated
episodes of binge drinking can destroy nerve cells in the
long run, and damage the hippocampus, a part of the brain
that plays a vital role in memory.
GET SOCIAL
Studies have shown that social isolation and loneliness
are tied to earlier onset of dementia. This is because
people who live socially engaged lives experience slower
cognitive decline, because social interaction boosts brain
performance.
EAT MORE DARK CHOCOLATE
Not only is dark chocolate good for the soul, it’s good
for your brain too! Cocoa is high in antioxidants that may
help improve performance, but make sure it contains
at least 72% cacao content, so you get a good dose of
antioxidants. Studies show that cocoa flavonoids, which
are the active compounds in chocolate, may help boost
brain function by improving blood flow to the brain. But
avoid chocolate with added sugar (which is not good
for long-term brain health) and make sure you don’t
overindulge.
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WORK SMART THIS
GET MORE OUT OF YOUR WORK DAY M
PROD ONTH’S
UCTIV
TIP: ITY
TRANSITION FROM PAUSE
NANNY TO AUPAIR? YOUR EMAIL
Email can feel like a real

Q I’m a full-time working

mom and have a
wonderful nanny who comes
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question is, at what stage do I transition to Supernannies.co.za inbox. Our best advice is
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in that line that I don’t think my nanny is
able to do effectively? I’m only home after
5pm, so we can’t leave homework till then!
WORK WISE pause it (if you have Gmail,
this is an easy option with
their pause function) until
your ‘email time’. This
Would it be rude to ask my nanny to stay
could be, for example,
in our household as our domestic helper?
How can I handle this transition?
Don’t be afraid. Be when you head into
focused. Be determined. work, lunch time and 30
minutes before you leave,
A This is a common problem that many
working moms face these days, with
various activities in the afternoon and
Be hopeful. or merely once a day.
Remember to do the same
homework needing to be done. It comes Be empowered. to your phone, or else
down to the needs of your family and your concentration will be
children and what would be the most — Michelle Obama continually broken by the
important and functional set up that will ping of your device.
result in a happy, stress-free and well-
managed home. We suggest having an open
conversation with your nanny, indicating
where your needs have changed and
highlighting the fact that you still want her to
be a part of your home – this would simply
be a slight role change and you still value
her immensely. Be clear that you require
someone who is able to transport your
children, run them around, manage their
homework and those sorts of things, but that

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you would like her to stay on and take care
of the home and ensure its smooth running.
Let her know she is also welcome to take
care of the children when needed and assist
the aupair when necessary too. The job
descriptions would need to be very clear to
both so that there are no misunderstandings
and no hurt feelings, but the first step is
having that conversation with your nanny.
You could try include her in the interview
process with the aupair, so everyone is
involved and has a positive end goal in mind. Instagram follow of the month
Follow @careercontessa for beautifully pastel
career advice, inspiration and thought nuggets
that help you evaluate your current path.
Do you have a work–related question? Email
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answered by our expert of the month.
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TIPS AND TRICKS TO SAVE YOU A BUNDLE!

CAN YOU AFFORD TO

MOVE TO THE UK?
A
ccording to the UK’s office for national FLIGHTS
TB TESTS
statistics, 246 000 South Africans had The cost of flights varies depending on the time
If you apply to stay in
relocated to the UK as of the end of of year, the airline you choose, whether there are
the UK for a period
2018. Their latest data shows that approximately any stopovers, and other factors. Research your
longer than six months,
7 300 people emigrated from South Africa to flight options online, set alerts for deals, and visit a
you’ll be required to take
the UK in 2017 alone, making it one of the most travel agent or flight centre to figure out the best
a TB test at a specified
popular destinations for South Africans who options for you and your family.
testing centre in South
choose to relocate overseas. If you’re considering
Africa. The tests cost
a move across the pond, there are a few things UK MONTHLY EXPENSES
around R1 800 per adult
to consider, not least among them your finances. Although costs vary depending on which area of
and about R900 for
Ryan Rennison from UK-specific immigration the UK you move to and the type of lifestyle you
children under 11.
consultancy, Move Up, offers some helpful advice adopt, Ryan provides a breakdown based on an
on how to determine if your finances are in line with actual family who relocated to Newbury, West
NATIONAL HEALTH
your immigration goals. Berkshire in 2019. They live in a three-bedroom,
INSURANCE
According to Ryan, these are some of the semi-detached house, and bought a car with cash:
Some settlement visas
expenses you’re likely to incur on your journey to
require you to pay
living in the UK. Rent: £1 200 (R24 000)
your National Health
EE phone – contract: £43 (R860)
Insurance (NHI) fees
VISAS EE phone – pay as you go: £10 (R200)
upfront. ‘That amounts
The settlement visa applications process can be EE fibre (internet): £30 (R600)
to around R41 000 per
complicated and stressful, so it may be worth using Petrol – two tanks: £120 (R2 400)
applicant and is usually
an experienced immigration agency to help you. TV licence (monthly): £30.90 (R618)
paid along with your
Costs vary depending on the type of visa you’ll Other travel (train, tube, bus): £100 (R2 000)
visa application fees,’
need: Utilities: gas: £26 (R520)
says Ryan.
Ancestral Visa: R57 963 Utilities: electricity: £30 (R600)
Tier 2 General: R84 533 Utilities: water: £17 (R340)
PET RELOCATION FEES
Entrepreneur Visa: R84 428 Council tax: £175.23 (R3 504.60)
The UK does allow pet
Tier 1 Innovator: R80 111 Basic groceries: £250 (R5 000)
relocation; however, be
UK Settlement Visa: R71 231 Car insurance: £72 (R1 440)
sure to read up on the
Nails at salon: £35 (R700)
government’s guidelines
FURNITURE TRANSPORT Pet insurance: £27 (R540)
on moving them with
Many families choose to move their furniture and Miscellaneous: £100 (R2 000)
you. Bringing pets to
household goods to the UK rather than sell or Total: £2 266.13 (R45 322.60)
the UK can end up
donate them. The cost of transporting your goods
being quite expensive –
varies, depending on the size of the container you BUYING A CAR
relocating a dog, cat or
require, although, Ryan says, ‘a medium sized cube While petrol is significantly more expensive in the
other pet can cost up to
from shipping company Seven Seas costs about UK, cars are cheaper to buy. ‘You can purchase
R26 000.
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R12 000 on the South African side, and £250 on
the UK end.’ A medium sized cube can hold 12
large and 20 standard boxes. Height 1.871m, width
1.464m, length 1.112m, volume 3.05m3.
PROOF OF SAVINGS
According to Ryan, ‘For most settlement visas the
applicant is required to show they have a certain
amount of savings in their bank account. The
amount varies depending on which visa you’re
granted, but usually ranges from R30 000.’
a second-hand, older car for just a few hundred
pounds, or a newer SUV for around £13 000
(R250 071.87)’, says Ryan.
SCHOOL FEES
‘State schools are provided by the government at
FOR MORE no cost to British citizens and foreigners legally
INFORMATION, living in the UK. These schools are effectively
funded by taxes’, says Ryan.
VISIT MOVEUP.
CO.ZA *Some costs have been rounded up.

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 what’s
cooking
HOT CROSS BUNS SWEET AND SOUR PORK MERINGUE KISSES

USEFUL
CONVERSIONS
3ml = ½t
5ml = 1t

8ml = 1½t or ½T

10ml = 2t

15ml = 1T
45ml = 3T

60ml = 4T (¼ cup)

80ml = 1/3 cup

125ml = ½ cup

160ml = 2 /3 cup
180ml = ¾ cup

250ml = 1 cup
310ml = 1¼ cups

375ml = 1½ cups
t = teaspoon

T = tablespoon

eggs are always

extra-large
Always bake
in the middle
of the oven,
unless otherwise

Easter entertaining,
specified

potato
showstoppers,
and a
If you’re following a vegan,
sugar- or gluten-free diet,
always check the labels on
the products you use to

fresh fruit tart

ensure that they comply
with your requirements.
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 EASTER
 THIS DELICIOUS VEGETARIAN BRUNCH
SPREAD WILL KICK OFF THE EASTER
CELEBRATIONS IN FLAVOURFUL STYLE
34 yourfamily.co.za
breakfast brûlée jars
Makes 8 Takes 25 mins
125ml castor sugar
125g packet raspberries
250g packet strawberries, hulled
and halved
few basil leaves, chopped
squeeze lemon juice
60ml icing sugar
375ml Greek yoghurt
1 Heat the castor sugar on low
for about 20 minutes, or until
melted and a golden caramel
forms.
2 Combine the berries, basil,
lemon juice and icing sugar.
Divide between 8 jars. Set
aside for 5 minutes. Top with
the yoghurt and smooth the
tops. Drizzle the caramel
over the yoghurt and serve
immediately.
optional
Top the jars with extra fresh
berries or speckled eggs.
 FOOD WITH FLAIR

choc hot cross bun french toast muffins

Makes 8 Takes 1 hr
80ml choc spread (like 1 Preheat oven to 160°C. Line a
Nutella) standard muffin tin with 8 tall paper
6 hot cross buns, cut open cups. Spread the choc spread on both
4 eggs  cut sides of the buns and sandwich
160ml milk  together. Chop into small pieces.
10ml vanilla essence  2 Combine the eggs, milk, vanilla,
15ml ground cinnamon cinnamon, salt and sugar. Arrange the
3ml salt buns and chocolate between the cups
15ml castor sugar  and pour over the egg mixture.
180g slab dark chocolate, 3 Bake for about 50 minutes, or until
chopped cooked through and golden.

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 giant veg rösti
Serves 6-8 Takes 1 hr

1kg potatoes, peeled and grated

3 large carrots, grated
60ml olive or avocado oil
handful rocket
squeeze lemon juice
6-8 soft boiled or poached
sour cream, to serve
eggs

1 Preheat oven to 180°C.
Season the potatoes and
carrots and set aside for
5 minutes.
2 Squeeze the liquid out and
mix through oil. Sprinkle into
a greased 30cm x 40cm
baking tray. Bake for about
45 minutes, or until golden
and cooked.
3 Combine the rocket with
lemon juice. Season. Scatter
over the rösti with dollops of
sour cream and eggs.

variation
For non-vegetarians, serve
with smoked trout ribbons,
if you like.

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 FOOD WITH FLAIR

savoury butternut cheesecake

Serves 15 Takes 2 hrs 30 mins + cooling

FOR THE CRUST 1 For the crust, preheat oven to 230°C. Line a 20cm
200g savoury crackers springform cake tin. Blitz the crackers until crushed.
150g butter, melted Mix through remaining ingredients. Press into prepared
5ml ground cumin tin and press 2cm up the sides. Set in the fridge.
125ml sesame seeds 2 For the filling, beat together the ricotta and cream cheese.
Add the eggs, salt, pepper, garlic, butternut and chives
FOR THE FILLING and mix until well combined. Pour into the lined tin.
300g Ricotta, at room temperature 3 Bake for 5 minutes. Reduce the heat to 120°C and bake
2 x 230g cream cheese, at room temperature for about 2 hours, or until the sides are cooked, but
3 eggs still slightly wobbly in the centre. Turn the oven off and
10ml salt leave to cool in the oven.
3ml ground black pepper 4 Turn out onto a serving plate. Garnish with toasted
2 garlic cloves, crushed pumpkin seeds and baby leaves.
500ml cooked mashed butternut
handful chives, finely chopped

pumpkin seeds and baby leaves, to serve

variation
For non-vegetarians, sprinkle
with crispy diced bacon.

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 pear sparkler
Serves 6-8 Takes 35 mins + cooling

4 pears, chopped
180ml honey
330ml water
few thyme sprigs
160ml apple cider vinegar
1-2 x 750ml bottles white sparkling wine or
lemonade
pear slices, for garnish

1 Bring the pears, honey, water and thyme

to a boil. Lower heat to medium-low and
simmer for about 25 minutes, or until
the pears are soft. Remove from heat.
Press through a sieve.
2 Add the strained mixture back to the
pan with vinegar and bring to a boil.
Remove from heat. Cool. Store in an
airtight container in the fridge for up to
two weeks.
3 Combine pear syrup to taste with
sparkling wine or lemonade. Serve in
glasses garnished with pear slices.

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HOMEMADE IS ALWAYS BEST, ESPECIALLY IF YOU
CAN MAKE YOUR FAVOURITE WEAKNESSES TASTE
EVEN BETTER THAN THE FAST FOOD SPOTS CAN!
beef burger
Combine 500g beef mince, handful chopped
parsley and 3ml onion powder. Season. Shape
into 2-4 patties. Heat a splash of olive oil in a large
frying pan on high and fry the patties for about
5 minutes until browned all over or until cooked to
your liking. Baste with 60ml BBQ sauce. Cut open
2-4 burger buns and spread with soft butter. Toast
the cut sides (in the frying pan used for the patties)
until golden. Spread bottom buns with mayonnaise
and top with lettuce, patties, and slices of Cheddar,
gherkins, tomatoes and red onions. Spread top
buns with 1000 island sauce if you like and place
on top of the burgers.
battered fish
Sift together 180ml cake flour, 30ml cornflour
and a pinch of each baking powder, bicarbonate
of soda and salt. Mix in 180ml soda water to form
a batter. Working with one fillet at a time, season
and dip 4 fresh, boneless hake fillets in the batter,
to completely coat, shaking off excess. Deep fry
in hot sunflower oil on medium high for about
5 minutes until golden brown. Drain on paper
towels. Serve with lemon wedges.
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fried chicken
Bring 1L chicken stock to a boil and cook 8 mixed
chicken pieces (drumsticks and thighs) for
10-15 minutes or until just cooked through. Drain
on paper towel. Season. Mix 15ml chicken spice
through 500ml cake flour and coat the chicken
in this (shake off excess and reserve). Mix 250ml
buttermilk, 1 beaten egg and 15ml chicken spice
together. Coat the chicken in this and shake off
excess. Lastly coat in the flour mixture again.
Place the chicken in the fridge for 30 minutes
to an hour or until the coating is firm. Deep fry
in batches in hot sunflower oil on medium high
for about 5 minutes until golden brown. Drain
on paper towel.
Most take-aways just aren’t complete without a side
of chips. Go online for a recipe collection ‘know your
basics - spuds’ for the perfect chip, whether you
prefer them skinny, ‘slap’, triple fried or in wedges.
BACK TO BASICS
sweet and sour pork
Combine 500g pork fillet, cut into strips,
5ml soy sauce, 5ml rice wine vinegar, 1 crushed
garlic clove and 3ml cornflour. Marinate for
30 minutes. Bring 125ml tomato sauce, 45ml rice
wine vinegar, 180ml sugar, drained juice from
440 tin pineapple chunks and 5ml soy sauce
to a simmer. Combine 20ml cornflour and
20ml water to form a paste, add to the sauce
and simmer for 2 minutes. Set aside. Combine
250ml cake flour, 20ml cornflour, 3ml salt and
8ml baking powder. Mix the marinated pork pieces
through the flour batter. Heat a splash of sunflower
oil in a wok until hot. Fry the battered pork pieces
in batches for about 5 minutes or until golden
and cooked (add more oil as necessary).
Keep aside. Heat another splash of oil in the wok
and fry 1 onion, cut into wedges, 1 red pepper,
cut into bite size chunks and pineapple chunks
(from the drained tin) for about 2 minutes until
heated through. Return the pork and pour over the
sweet and sour sauce. Toss to coat. Serve
with steamed white rice.
tip Use chicken breasts instead of pork.
chicken tikka masala
Heat a good splash of sunflower oil and
30ml butter on high and sauté 2 chopped onions.
Add 45ml chicken tikka masala paste and 1 red
pepper, cut into chunks and cook for 5 minutes.
Season. Stir in 4 chicken breasts, cut into 2-3cm
cubes and cook for 2 minutes. Add 410g tin
chopped tomatoes, 30ml tomato purée and
125ml chicken stock. Season. Cover with a lid
and simmer for 15 minutes, stirring occasionally,
until the chicken is cooked through. Stir through
30ml mango chutney, 80ml cream and 80ml
plain yoghurt and heat through. Season. Scatter
with coriander. Serve with tomato and onion
sambal and basmati rice, naan bread or rotis.
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SKILLS AND SERVE THIS
BEAUTIFUL TART AS THE
PERFECT ENDING TO A
DINNER PARTY

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 1-2-3 BAKE

fresh fruit tart

Serves 12 Takes 2 hrs + cooling
FOR THE CUSTARD 80ml castor sugar
125ml castor sugar 5ml vanilla essence
6 egg yolks pinch salt
60ml cornflour 250ml cake flour
3ml salt
500ml milk FOR THE TOPPING
10ml vanilla essence about 4 cups of mixed
30ml butter seasonal fruit (like
strawberries, mango,
FOR THE nectarines and kiwi)
SHORTBREAD CRUST 125ml smooth apricot
120g butter, at room jam
temperature 15ml water

1 For the custard, beat together the sugar and

yolks until foamy. Whisk in the cornflour and salt.
2 Bring the milk and vanilla to a boil, then slowly
pour into the egg mixture, while beating. Return
to the saucepan and cook on medium for about
5 minutes, while whisking, until the mixture
thickens.
3 Pour the hot custard through a sieve, then
whisk in the butter. Place a piece of plastic wrap
right on top of the custard and refrigerate until
completely chilled (you can make this a day
ahead).
4 For the crust, preheat oven to 180°C. Lightly
grease a 25cm round spring form tart tin with
cooking spray.
5 Beat together all the ingredients until just
combined (it will be crumbly). Press into the base
and up the sides of the prepared tin with damp
hands. Prick the base with a fork. Freeze for 10
minutes to firm up. Bake for about 35 minutes, or
until cooked. Cool completely. Beat the custard
until smooth and spread into the tart case.
6 For the topping, thinly slice the fruit (a mandolin
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works best) and arrange on the tart to look like

flowers (this is a good way to cater for those who variation
prefer a specific fruit only). Arrange different fruit
7 Combine the jam and water and heat in the slices starting from
microwave for a few seconds until melted. Brush the outside of
jam mixture over the fruit. Serve within a day. the tart and
working to
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the centre to
create a large
flower. This
is the best
way to ensure
everybody
gets a variety
of fruit.

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 S
SNACKS
A MAKE BETTER CHOICES WHEN THE CRAVINGS
COME ON, WITH THESE MOREISH BITES!

C LOW
CARB
GLUTEN
FREE VEGAN

K
salt and vinegar cucumber chips
Serves 6 as a snack Takes 4 hrs 20 mins

1 cucumber 
15ml olive or avocado oil
10ml apple cider vinegar
3ml salt

1 Preheat oven to 180°C. Slice the cucumber

thinly with a mandolin. Pat dry well with paper

S
towel. Mix the slices with oil, vinegar and salt.
2 Place the slices apart on trays lined with baking
paper. Bake for 3-4 hours or until crispy. Cool.

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 MAKE IT HEALTHY

LOW GLUTEN
CARB FREE

avo crackers
Makes about 30 Takes 30 mins + cooling

1 avocado
180ml finely grated pecorino
5ml lemon juice
serving suggestion
Serve with salsa or top with cheese
3ml garlic powder
of your choice.
3ml dried oregano 

1 Preheat oven to 160°C. Line baking trays

with baking paper. Mash the avo until
smooth. Stir in the pecorino, lemon, garlic
and oregano. Season.
2 Place a teaspoonful of the mixture on
prepared trays, 8cm apart. Flatten each
to 6cm circles with an oiled finger.
3 Bake for about 18 minutes or until golden
all over. Cool. Serve at room temperature.

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 GLUTEN LOW HIGH
FREE VEGAN GI FIBRE
roasted chickpeas
Serves 4 as a snack
Takes 45 mins + cooling
2 x 400g tins chickpeas
30ml olive or avocado oil
10ml garlic powder
3ml salt
1 Preheat oven to 200°C. Remove
the skins from the chickpeas and
dry well with paper towel. Spread
out on trays lined with baking paper
and mix through the oil until well
coated. Bake for 25 minutes.
2 Transfer the chickpeas to a bowl
and mix the spices and salt through
until evenly coated. Spread out onto
a baking tray and bake for about
10 minutes or until brown and
crunchy. Cool.
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variations
ROSEMARY LEMON – Add a
squeeze of lemon juice when adding
the oil. Add 3ml finely chopped
rosemary and the zest of 1 lemon
when adding the garlic powder.
SPICY – Replace 5ml of the garlic
powder with smoked paprika and
add a pinch or two cayenne pepper,
to taste.
BBQ – Replace garlic powder with
BBQ spice and add 3ml ground
cumin and 3ml ground coriander.
tip
Store in an airtight container
for up to two weeks at room
temperature. They will lose their
crispness the longer they stand
but will still be delicious.
 MAKE IT HEALTHY

HIGH GLUTEN LOW

PROTEIN FREE CARB
cheesy tuna fold overs
Makes 12 Takes 40 mins
12 thin mozzarella square 1 Preheat oven to 160°C. Place the mozzarella
slices apart on trays lined with baking paper. Bake
2 x 170g tins tuna, for about 5 minutes, or until melted. Remove
drained from the oven.
60ml mayonnaise 2 Mix the tuna, mayo and onion. Divide the tuna
15ml red onion, finely between the centres of the cheese squares.
chopped Then fold over the filling to enclose, making
15ml sesame seeds triangles. Firmly press the sides together to
enclose.
3 Sprinkle with sesame seeds and bake for
about 20 minutes, or until the edges are golden
brown. Serve hot or at room temperature.

tip
We used already
sliced mozzarella
as it needs to be
paper thin.
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 One dish
suppers
THESE SUPPERS ARE TRULY YUMMY AND WILL LEAVE
YOU WITH HARDLY ANY DISHES TO DO!

meat-free
mondays!

low-carb spinach and feta slice

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 5 SUPPERS

cheeseburger casserole italian orzo meatball traybake

chicken and rice bake frankfurter and butterbean dish

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low-carb spinach cheeseburger italian orzo chicken and rice frankfurter and
and feta slice casserole meatball bake butterbean dish
Serves 4 Serves 4 traybake Serves 4-6 Serves 4
Takes 50 mins Takes 45 mins Serves 4 Takes 1 hr 10 mins Takes 25 mins
Takes 1 hr
6 eggs 30ml butter 500ml hot chicken stock 15ml olive or avocado oil
250ml milk 500g beef mince olive or avocado oil, for 400g tin cream of 1 onion, chopped
8ml Dijon mustard 1 onion, chopped frying chicken soup 2 garlic cloves, crushed
5ml salt 45ml cake flour 1 onion, chopped 1 celery stalk, thinly 292g packet
3ml garlic powder 125ml beef stock 1 garlic clove, crushed sliced frankfurters, sliced
1 spring onion, sliced 80ml milk 500g pork sausages 2 leeks, thinly sliced 60ml chicken stock
90g packet baby 400g tin cream of 410g tin tomato purée 60g butter, melted 400g tin Mediterranean-
spinach mushroom soup 60ml tomato sauce 250ml rice style diced tomatoes
125ml feta, crumbled 4 medium 250ml chicken stock 5ml garlic powder 15ml dried oregano
potatoes, cubed 250ml orzo pasta 8 mixed chicken thighs 3ml paprika
1 Preheat oven to 375ml Cheddar, grated handful basil and drumsticks 2 x 400g tins
200°C. Combine the 1 tomato, sliced finely grated pecorino, 30ml Cajun spice butterbeans, drained
eggs, milk, mustard, to serve lime wedges and 2 handfuls baby spinach 
salt and garlic 1 Heat the butter on coriander, to serve 125ml mozzarella,
powder. Stir in the high in a heatproof 1 Preheat oven to grated
onions and spinach. saucepan and fry the 190°C. Heat the oil 1 Preheat oven to
Pour into a greased mince and onion for in a large oven- 230°C. Combine 1 Preheat oven to
20cm baking dish. about 8 minutes until proof saucepan all the ingredients, 220°C. Heat a splash
Sprinkle over the browned. Season. over medium and except chicken of oil on high and
feta. 2 Stir in the flour. Add sauté the onion and and Cajun spice, sauté the onion
2 Bake for about half the stock and garlic. in a greased and garlic. Add the
45 minutes until a milk, while stirring. 2 Squeeze bite-sized 27cm x 34cm frankfurters and fry
knife inserted in the Bring to a boil and meatballs from the baking dish. for about 5 minutes
middle comes out cook until thickened. sausage casings 2 Season chicken until browned.
clean. Stir in mushroom and cook for about with Cajun spice 2 Add stock, tomatoes,

PROPS: RECTANGULAR DISH WITH LID, SAUCEPAN, SQUARE SKILLET GRILL AND CASSEROLE FROM LE CREUSET
soup, remaining 8 minutes until and place on top. oregano, paprika
stock and potatoes. browned. Add Bake for about an and beans and
Season. Cover and the tomato purée, hour until cooked. cook for 5 minutes.
cook on medium tomato sauce and Serve with lime and Stir in spinach until

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high for about stock. Season and coriander. wilted. Sprinkle with
20 minutes, opening bring to a simmer. mozzarella and cook
halfway and stirring 3 Rinse the orzo under under a hot grill for
often until potatoes cold water. Drain and about 3 minutes until
are tender. stir into the meatball cheese is golden.
3 Sprinkle over the mixture. Bake for
Cheddar and tomato about 40 minutes.
slices. Season. Cook Serve topped with
under a hot grill until basil and pecorino.
cheese has melted.

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 TAKE A BAG

BABY POTATOES ARE REMOVED FROM THE SOIL BEFORE THEY’RE

FULLY GROWN, RESULTING IN BUTTERY, SWEET, BITE-SIZE LITTLE
SPUDS WITH PAPER-THIN SKINS – AND ENDLESS POSSIBILITIES
salt and vinegar potato salad snacking tray
Combine 1kg halved baby potatoes, 180ml cider vinegar, 3ml salt Cook 500g halved baby potatoes and 2 corn cobs, each cut
and 125ml water. Cover and steam over medium heat for about 20 into 4 pieces, in salted boiling water for about 10 minutes, or
minutes, or until tender. Drain. Mix through 45ml cider vinegar and until just tender. Drain. Scatter over a baking tray with 200g
30ml olive oil. Season. Bake at 200°C for 20-25 minutes, or until sliced chorizo, 500g prawn tails, if you like and ½ lemon, cut
cooked through and golden. Combine 6 thinly sliced spring onions, into thin wedges. Drizzle over 80g melted butter and 30ml
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handful chopped parsley, 30ml cider vinegar, 15ml olive oil, 15ml Cajun spice and mix through. Bake at 220°C for 10-15 minutes,
honey, 30ml whole grain mustard and 60ml mayonnaise and mix or until golden and cooked. Scatter with a handful chopped
the hot potatoes through. Serve hot or cold. parsley.

rustic mashed potato steak and potato skewers

Cook 500g baby potatoes (with the skins) in salted boiling water Cook 18 baby potatoes in salted boiling water for 10-15
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for about 15 minutes, or until soft. Drain, reserving about 125ml
of the cooking liquid. Stir through 1 crushed garlic clove and use
a potato masher to roughly crush the potatoes (do not mash!).
Gently stir through 125ml cream cheese, at room temperature,
30ml butter and small handful finely chopped chives. Slowly add
some of the reserved cooking liquid to create a sauce. Season.
minutes, or until tender. Drain. Thread potatoes, 500g beef
steak, cut into large cubes and 2 red onions, each cut into six
wedges alternating onto six skewers. Season. Grill the skewers
on high (you can use a griddle pan or the braai), turning
occasionally, and basting with 125ml BBQ sauce for about 10
minutes, or until charred and cooked to your liking. Serve with
sauce of your choice (like pepper, mushroom or chimichurri).

potato curry
Cook 500g baby potatoes in salted boiling water for 10-15 minutes, or
until tender. Drain and peel. Heat a layer of sunflower oil on high and fry
the potatoes, tossing, until golden all over. Season. Set aside. Heat another
splash of oil and fry 15-30ml crushed dried chillies, 5ml mustard seeds
and 2 cardamom pods for a few seconds until fragrant. Add 1 chopped
onion and 1 crushed garlic clove and sauté. Combine 375ml plain yoghurt,
3ml chilli powder, 3ml ground turmeric, 5ml ground ginger, 3ml Garam
masala powder, 8ml ground fennel and 10ml cake flour and add to the
onion mixture while stirring until it simmers. Add the potatoes and 375ml
vegetable stock. Season. Cover and simmer on low for about 10 minutes
until the potatoes are soft, but keeping shape, and the sauce has thickened
slightly. Serve scattered with coriander and naan or rice.

canapés
Cook 500g baby potatoes in salted boiling water for 15-20 minutes,
or until tender. Drain. Heat a splash of olive oil on high and fry the
potatoes until golden and crisp. Add a splash of white vinegar and
season. Thread ½ strips of cooked streaky bacon onto small bamboo
skewers, followed by a potato. Swirl 30ml harissa paste through
125ml creamy mayonnaise. Serve with the skewers.

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 MINDFUL
EATING
EATING WELL INSPIRES YOU TO LEAD A HEALTHIER LIFESTYLE
IN EVERY WAY. YOU’LL FEEL MORE VIBRANT AND MOTIVATED
TO KEEP GOING, BECAUSE THESE RECIPES ARE DELICIOUS!

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 BOOK EXTRACT

cannellini bean salad

with caramel chilli-lime dressing
Servings: 4

100g whole young asparagus

olive oil
Oryx desert salt
ground black pepper
1 red onion, diced
1 pimiento or red bell pepper, deseeded and diced
1 heaped tsp crushed garlic
50 g flaked almonds
2 x 400 g cans cannellini beans, drained and rinsed
100 g baby spinach

CARAMEL CHILLI-LIME DRESSING

juice of 2 limes
1 tsp caramel essence
¼ tsp chilli flakes
1 tsp dried parsley
1 tsp Oryx desert salt
¼ tsp ground black pepper
3 Tbsp raw honey
3 Tbsp olive oil
5-6 Tbsp chopped fresh chives

Preheat the oven to 200 °C and spray a baking tray

with non-stick cooking spray.
Place the asparagus on the tray, drizzle with olive
oil and season with salt and black pepper. Roast for
about 15 minutes or until cooked to preference. Set
aside to cool.
Heat a drizzle of olive oil in a frying pan over
medium heat and fry the onion, pimiento or red
bell pepper, garlic and flaked almonds until the
vegetables are soft and the almonds are toasted.
Remove from the heat and allow to cool slightly
before adding to the cannellini beans in a large
bowl. Be careful not to stir too much, as it will ruin
quick and easy heavenly hake fillets
the appearance of the beans. Add the whole grilled
Servings: 4
asparagus.
Mix all the dressing ingredients in a jug and pour 800 g frozen hake fillets Preheat the oven to 200 °C and spray a
over the bean salad. 1 tsp Oryx desert salt roasting tray with non-stick cooking spray.
Refrigerate for at least 1 hour to allow the salad to 1 tsp paprika Place the frozen hake fillets on the tray and
chill properly. ½ tsp harissa powder or bake for 10 minutes.
Serve with the baby spinach and enjoy as a main pinch of chilli flakes Remove from the oven and sprinkle the fish
meal or side. 1 tsp dried parsley first with the salt, then with the paprika,
1 red onion, diced harissa or chilli flakes and parsley respectively.
notes 1 Tbsp olive oil Scatter the onion over the hake fillets and
This is the ideal salad to pair with a protein of chopped fresh parsley return to the oven for another 10 minutes.
your choice. It also works wonders with quinoa for garnishing Remove from the oven, drizzle with the olive
and even basmati or brown rice. oil and then bake for another 10 minutes until
No cannellini? No problem! Replace with either note golden brown and crispy.
butterbeans or chickpeas. You may also use Serve garnished with chopped fresh parsley.
Replace with long-stem broccoli if you’re not a fresh hake fillets. If The fish can be stored in the fridge for up to
fan of asparagus. you do, skip step 2. 2 days.

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>>>>>>>>>>
cinnamon sweet potato chips with salted caramel date dipping sauce
servings: 4-6
1 kg whole sweet potatoes, washed
2 Tbsp olive oil
2 Tbsp raw honey
½ tsp Oryx desert salt
1 tsp ground cinnamon
Salted Caramel Date Dipping Sauce
1 cup unsweetened almond milk
300 g fresh pitted Medjool dates
1 cup hot water
2 tsp caramel essence
1 tsp vanilla essence
1 tsp Oryx desert salt
¼ tsp ground cinnamon
¼ tsp ground nutmeg
1 heaped tsp almond butter
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>>>>>>>>>>
healthy bobotie
servings: 6-8
2 tsp olive oil 2 tsp ground turmeric
1 red onion, chopped 5 bay leaves, finely
2 tsp crushed garlic crushed
1.25 kg extra-lean beef 100 g raisins
mince 2 eggs, whisked
¼ cup lemon juice 6 eggs
¼ cup raw honey 1 cup unsweetened
1 tsp ground cloves almond milk
1 Tbsp Oryx desert salt 3 whole bay leaves
1 Tbsp curry powder
Preheat the oven to 180 °C and spray an
ovenproof dish with non-stick cooking spray.
Heat the olive oil in a big frying pan and fry
the onion and garlic until golden brown.
Add the mince and fry until browned, then
remove the pan from the heat.
Add the lemon juice, honey, spices, raisins and
whisked eggs to the mince. Stir well.
Place the mince mixture in the greased dish
and compact with a large spoon.
Beat the 6 eggs and almond milk in a mixing
bowl and pour over the mince.
Finish off with the whole bay leaves and bake
for 40 minutes or until the egg is set.
note
Serve with yellow rice and freshly sliced
banana. Homemade chutney rounds it off
perfectly.
Preheat the oven to 200 °C. Line a baking tray with foil and spray with non-stick
cooking spray.
Thinly slice the unpeeled sweet potatoes into round chips and place in a large mixing
bowl. You want them thin, like potato crisps, so use a mandoline slicer.
Combine the olive oil, honey, salt and cinnamon and pour this over the sweet potato
chips. Mix well until all the chips are evenly coated.
Place on the prepared baking tray and bake for 30-40 minutes until crisp.
To make the dipping sauce, spray a large saucepan with non-stick cooking spray.
Add the almond milk, dates, hot water, caramel essence, vanilla essence, salt, cinnamon
and nutmeg.
Cook until the dates are soft and most of the liquid has evaporated.
Remove from the heat, mash until smooth and stir in the almond butter.
Serve the sweet potato chips with the dipping sauce on the side.
note
Don’t scrub the sweet potatoes, as the skin contains most of the fibre. Rather just soak
and wash them.
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In Mindful Eating (Struik Lifestyle) Izelle Hoffman helps you take back
control of your well-being with delicious, wholesome and deceptively simple
recipes. Izelle is a lifestyle chef on many television programmes, as well
as food editor on a range of fitness magazines. It’s her mission to change
perceptions about food in a fun, healthy way. Her recipes for energising
breakfasts, quick weekday meals, sweet baked goodies, classics with a
healthy, Izelle-approved twist, and family favourites demonstrates that living
a healthy lifestyle doesn’t mean your diet needs to be boring and restricted,
especially where vegetables are concerned. R350.

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 ... and all
things
nice
EASTER IS A TIME TO BE CELEBRATED
WITH SUGAR AND SPICE, SO DON’T
hot cross buns LET IT PASS BY WITHOUT ENJOYING
Recipe on page 58
THESE DELICIOUS TREATS

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 BAKING

simnel cake
Recipe on page 58

optional
Use wire with
rosemary tied
around to resemble
bunny ears.

Simnel cake is a light

fruit cake with layers of
marzipan that is served
during Easter. Traditionally,
the cake is decorated
with 12 marzipan balls to
represent the 12 apostles.

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hot cross buns simnel cake
Makes 15 Takes 1 hr 30 mins + proofing Serves 15 Takes 5 hrs + cooling

FOR THE DOUGH FOR THE FLOUR PASTE 830ml cake flour FOR THE BUTTERCREAM
125ml raisins 125ml cake flour 8ml ground nutmeg 500g soft butter
60ml warm orange juice 30ml icing sugar  10ml ground cinnamon 230g tub cream cheese,
875ml cake flour 80ml water  3ml salt softened
250ml warm milk  zest of 1 lemon 1kg icing sugar, sifted
10g packet instant dry yeast FOR THE GLAZE zest of 1 orange + 80ml juice food colouring of your choice
125ml sugar 60ml smooth apricot jam 200g glacé cherries, halved
15ml ground cinnamon 15ml honey 100g box mixed candied peel
10ml mixed allspice 1kg mixed raisins, sultanas and
5ml salt currants
60g melted butter 350g soft butter
1 egg 375ml brown sugar
zest of 1 orange 8 eggs, beaten
15ml vanilla essence 500g marzipan
100g box mixed citrus peel icing sugar, to dust

1 For the dough, combine the raisins and orange juice and
set aside for at least 30 minutes to soften.
2 Combine 45ml of the flour with 125ml of the milk until
smooth. Heat on medium, while whisking constantly for
about 5 minutes until the mixture starts to thicken.
3 Combine the remaining 830ml flour, yeast, sugar, cinnamon,
allspice and salt. Make a well in the centre and add the milk-
flour paste, remaining 125ml milk, butter, egg, zest, vanilla,
raisins (with liquid) and citrus peel. Mix until a soft dough
forms, then knead with a hook attachment for about
8 minutes until a smooth, soft dough forms.
4 Place in an oiled bowl and cover with plastic wrap. Set aside
for about 1 hour or until doubled in size. Press the dough
down, cover with plastic wrap and proof again for about
1 hour or until doubled in volume.
1 Preheat oven to 150°C. Line 2 x 18cm round deep cake tins
with a double layer of baking paper. Sift together the flour,
nutmeg, cinnamon and salt. Stir in the zests, cherries, peel
and mixed sultanas, raisins and currants.
2 Cream the butter and sugar until light and fluffy. Gradually
beat in the eggs. Add the fruit mix and orange juice and mix
to a soft dropping consistency. Divide ½ of the mixture
between the prepared tins.
3 Divide the marzipan in two balls and roll each out to a 17cm
circle, on a surface dusted with icing sugar. Place each on top
of the mixtures in the tins. Divide the rest of the mixture on
top. Level the tops and make slight dents in the centres. Bake
for about 3 hours 30 minutes until cooked when tested with
a skewer. Cool in the tins.
4 For the buttercream, beat butter until pale. Add cream cheese

5 Press the dough down and divide the dough into 15 equal
portions. Keep the portions covered with a damp tea towel
while working with it. Knead and shape each portion into
a smooth ball with flour-dusted hands (the dough should
be sticky).
6 Place the balls 1cm apart on a tray lined with baking paper
in 3 x 5 rows. Cover with greased plastic wrap. Set aside for
about 1 hour or until double in size.
7 Preheat oven to 180°C. For the flour paste, combine the flour
and icing sugar, then slowly add just enough water to form
a smooth paste that’s runny enough to pipe easily, but will
not run off the sides of the buns. Place in a small piping bag
fitted with a 5mm round nozzle.
8 Pipe the flour paste in a cross over the buns. Bake for about
30 minutes or until cooked.
9 For the glaze, heat the jam and honey until runny. Brush the
warm apricot glaze over the warm buns. Cool.
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and beat until light and fluffy. Add icing sugar, 1 cup at a time,
beating until blended.
5 Place one cake on a cake stand and spread 250ml icing on
top. Place the last cake upside down on this cake (so the flat
side is to the top). Cover the whole cake in a thin layer of icing.
Chill for 30 minutes until firm.
6 Spread another layer of icing over the cake to cover
completely. Set in the fridge for 30 minutes until the icing is
firm.
7 Divide remaining icing between four bowls and colour each to
your desired colour with food colouring. Use a small spatula
or teaspoon to smear different colours around the top 1/3 of
the cake and a few down here and there.

optional
Enjoy at room temperature, warm, or lightly toasted with
butter and jam.

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 BAKING

italian easter cookies

Makes about 55 Takes 1 hr 20 mins + cooling

FOR THE COOKIE FOR THE ICING

DOUGH 750ml icing sugar, sifted
3 eggs 5ml lemon juice
160ml sugar 80ml milk
100g butter, melted and
cooled 2 x 125g packets
10ml vanilla essence speckled eggs
zest of 1 lemon
625ml cake flour
3ml salt
15ml baking powder

1 For the dough, beat together the eggs and

sugar until thick and creamy. Whisk in the butter,
vanilla and zest until smooth. Sift over the
flour, salt and baking powder and stir until just
combined. Refrigerate for about 20 minutes to
firm up slightly.
2 Preheat oven to 180°C. Line baking trays with
baking paper. Take 8ml of dough and roll into a
10cm rope. Shape into a ring and pinch the ends
together. Place on the prepared tray. Repeat
with the rest.
3 Bake for about 15 minutes or until cooked (they
will be pale). Cool to room temperature.
4 For the icing, combine all the ingredients
until smooth. Spread some icing on top of the
cookies.
5 Top each with 2 speckled eggs before the icing
sets. Set aside to harden. Store in an airtight
container for up to a month.

These traditional cookies

are called taralli dolci in
Italian. They are often
flavoured with citrus,
anise, almond, or vanilla
and are made from
a simple, soft dough,
topped with glaze.

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PROMOTION
FAB family
moments
THE EASTER HOLIDAYS ARE AMONG US! SO GATHER
THE FAMILY AND ENJOY THIS SPECIAL TIME
S
pending quality time together
as a family can be very
challenging between work,
school and extra murals.
However, there are ways of making this
Easter long-weekend extra special for
everyone. Try these fun ideas…
Family brunch
A family brunch can be as easy-going or
as decadent as you want. Get the kids to
help make some table decorations using
paper and cardstock, or decorate with
flowers from the garden. Brunch is the
perfect way to some time together after
the Easter egg hunt.
Easter egg or scavenger hunt
Easter gives everyone a chance to
indulge in some chocolate – and who
doesn’t like chocolate? Get up early
and hide some eggs in the garden (if
the weather won’t allow, you can have
an indoor egg hunt). If there are young
children involved, you can mark some of
the ‘hot spots’ with ribbons.
Not into hunting for Easter eggs?
Why not opt for a scavenger hunt
instead? All the fun of an egg hunt,
plus everyone can join in!
Sunday lunch
Eating together as a family over the
weekend is a great tradition to keep
going, as everyone gets the chance to
catch up and share their latest news.
Family picnic
Enjoy the last of the warm and sunny
days by having a picnic, either in the
garden, in a park, or in your local
botanical gardens. Pack a six
pack (or two) of Clover’s Bliss
Chocolate Dairy Dessert for
a decadent treat.
Family games night
Put your phones away for
the evening and get out the
board games or play a game of
charades. Just remember to celebrate
the winner with a bowl of delicious
Clover Bliss Chocolate Dairy Dessert!
Clover Bliss
Chocolate Dairy
Dessert is a ready-to-
eat indulgent dessert that
can be used as a sauce or
topping, or enjoyed on its
own. It’s also a source
of vitamins A, B2
YF8929/04/20 PHOTOS: ISTOCK AND SUPPLIED
and D.
Pour it, sauce it or top it!
FOODIE GIFT OF THE MONTH
Kisses so sweet
MERINGUE KISSES MELT IN YOUR MOUTH, AND ARE PERFECT FOR SHA
meringue kisses
Makes about 50 Takes 1 hr 15 mins + cooling
4 egg whites
250ml castor sugar
30ml cornflour
10ml white vinegar
pinch salt
8g packet freeze-dried
strawberries, finely crushed
pink food colouring
2 x 150g slabs white
chocolate
60ml cream
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RING
tip
Store meringues in
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an airtight container
1 Preheat oven to 110˚C. Line baking trays with baking paper. Beat the at room temperature
egg whites until stiff peaks form. Slowly add the sugar, while beating for up to two weeks.
until the mixture is glossy. Beat in the cornflour, vinegar and salt. Fold Get freeze-dried
in the strawberries. strawberries from
2 Brush strokes of food colouring along the inside of a piping bag fitted Woolworths.
with an open star, or 1cm roucnd, nozzle. Pipe small dollops onto the
prepared tray. Bake for 40-50 minutes, then turn off the oven and
variation
leave to cool with the door ajar for about 1 hour. Keep the meringues
3 Heat the chocolate and cream in the microwave for about a minute, white and colour the
stirring every 30 seconds until melted. Sandwich two meringues ganache with a pinch
together with a thin layer of chocolate ganache in between. Repeat of pink powdered food
with the rest. colouring.
FOOD NOTES
MARGIE ROUNDS UP THE BEST TREATS

DELICIOUS Add a flavour boost

Ina Paarman has created three new Marinade &
collaboration Baste flavours that you’ll love experimenting with.
Sticky Plum is delicious on ribs, pork, poultry and in
We just love it
stir-fries. Apricot Masala & Quince flavours roasted
when two of lamb, chicken, butternut and cauliflower just
South Africa’s beautifully. Try the Smokey Chipotle BBQ on beef,
iconic brands lamb, chicken, mushrooms or in stir-fries. R45.
come together
to create a
delicious snack,
so we can’t wait
to taste the new
Pringles and
Aromat Chicken
Salt flavour.
R21.99.

That’s a first
Fry Family Food Co. have created a range of 100%
plant-based, artisan, stone-baked vegan pizzas. The
Smoky BBQ-style pizza is topped with marinated
chicken-style strips, roasted red

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65 How to calm your baby’s
crying – it’s possible!
67 Kids’ health: Is their
cough safe or sinister?
68 Kids eat the strangest
things. Should you
worry?
70 Know your child’s
homework style
72 Talking to your kids
about sexual abuse
75 Parenting news
76 Kids’ fashion: Jean
therapy
82 Kids’ craft: Fun Easter
decorations to make
84 What you can learn
from Gen Z
86 Mom’s the Word
with Kate Sidley

Learning
from Gen Z
ALL BABIES CRY – IT’S PROBABLY THE FIRST SOUND YOU HEARD AS YOUR LITTLE
ONE ENTERED THE WORLD. COPING WITH CRYING MAY BE DIFFICULT AT TIMES, BUT
IT’S AN IMPORTANT PART OF LEARNING TO UNDERSTAND YOUR BABY
Y
our child is entirely dependent
on you for food, warmth and
comfort, and crying is the only
way for him to communicate this
need. How much babies cry at any
given stage varies a lot. Some infants
cry excessively, well into the toddler
years, while others cry very little.
How parents cope with crying
and how much crying it takes to push
them to desperation also varies. The
unifying factor when it comes to
crying is that we want to settle our
babies as quickly as possible.
Sheila Kitzinger, a childbirth
educator and social anthropologist,
conducted interesting research into
babies’ crying. In her research in the
United Kingdom and Australia she
found that both how much babies
cry and a mother’s perception of how
much crying is normal are extremely
variable.
Some babies may cry for only
an hour altogether in a day and yet
the mother feels it’s excessive, while
others may cry for much longer and
cause no distress at all.
WHAT CAUSES YOUR BABY TO CRY?
Infections
If your baby is ill with either a viral or
bacterial infection, he’ll cry excessively. Hehow to self-soothe. Ask your healthcare
may have obvious symptoms like a fever,
rash, chesty cough, diarrhoea or vomiting.
If he has an ear infection, he may fuss
or scream when moved out of the upright
position. This is because raised fluid or pus
levels in his ear canal may cause pressure
and pain when he lies flat. Sucking may
also trigger this pain, so he may appear
hungry, but cry once he starts to feed.
Oral thrush caused by a fungal infection Discomfort
can cause pain in your baby’s mouth
and throat when he sucks; thrush on the
genital and anal areas causes a red, itchy
and inflamed skin rash. In both cases your
baby could cry and be fretful. All these
symptoms need to be investigated further.
Hunger
Your baby will obviously cry when he’s
hungry. But use your common sense.
Think back to his last feed, and don’t
always assume that hunger is the sole
reason for your baby’s cries.
Separate calories from comfort in the
early days to ensure your baby learns
practitioner about adding supplementary
or complementary food to your baby’s
diet.
Tiredness
Feeling tired and overstimulated will make
your baby cry excessively.
This can be caused by:
A dirty nappy
Digestive disturbances like cramps,
bloating, reflux, indigestion,
constipation, diarrhoea or feeling full
Allergies like eczema
Temperature of the baby and the
environment.
Emotional needs
The need to be touched, soothed and
spoken to.
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KNOW
Babies only learn
to self-soothe from
12 weeks of age, so
don’t expect too
much too soon
from him.
A limp, quieter
than normal baby
is always cause
for concern. Seek
medical help.
Soothing solutions
Movement A drive in the
car, a walk with the pram,
slowly dancing with your
baby or even walking
around carrying your
baby may ease crying.
Music Any music that you
find calming will calm
your baby as he responds
to your emotions. You
can also sing soothing
lullabies or play classical
or instrumental music.
Sucking Non-nutritive
sucking (dummy or
finger) will steady your
baby’s heart rate, relax
his stomach and calm
him down.
Water Your baby spent
the first nine months in a
liquid environment, with
motion and white noise,
close to your heart. At
fussy times, strip down
and climb into a suitably
warm bath together, him
against your chest and
breastfeed if necessary.
Top tip: Try not panic
when your baby begins
to cry. Consider the
possible reasons and
respond accordingly.
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0 TO 3 MONTHS
Crying is relatively minimal in most babies
for the first two weeks, but then increases
until it peaks at about six weeks. Thereafter it
decreases until three months of age, where
it usually drops off.
Problem: Crying in the very early days can
be due to hunger – with your baby signalling
that feed time is due.
Solution: In the first six weeks of life, babies
need to feed frequently (every two to three
hours). Their tummies are still small, and
they can’t manage large quantities of milk.
Thereafter, he will take in larger quantities
of milk and won’t need to feed as frequently.
Problem: Overtiredness and overstimulation
are common reasons for crying at this age.
Solution: If he has a crying spell and you’ve
ruled out hunger, calm him by wrapping him
up tightly, holding him close and rocking him.
Sounds like white noise (soft background
music or running water) and low humming
are soothing.
Hold his hands together to prevent him from
being over-aroused by the startle reflex.
Limit his awake time between sleeps to
45 to 60 minutes in the first six weeks; extend
to 60 to 80 minutes closer to three months.
Problem: Temperature changes cause babies
to protest at nappy change and bath time,
because of the disruption of being undressed
and adjusting to being cold while undressed.
Solution: Focusing on something, even just
your face, will help settle him at change time.
The crying should stop as soon as he’s cuddled
and warm.
3 TO 9 MONTHS
Passing through the early unsettled stage means
that crying lessens and becomes more specific.
You’ll also start to differentiate between different
cries like hunger versus tiredness.
Problem: As your baby gets older and more alert,
you may find it increasingly difficult to put him to
sleep, and he may become overtired resulting in
excessive crying.
Solution: Limit your baby’s awake time between
sleeps to ensure he doesn’t become overtired: one-
and-a-half hours for the three- to six-month-old
baby and two hours for the six- to nine-month-old
baby.
Problem: During this stage your baby’s nutritional
demands will change quite dramatically. First from
needing more than just milk for sustenance, to
needing more nutrient-dense food.
Solution: If your baby is crying for feeds more
frequently than before, this is something you
should discuss with your doctor.
9 TO 12 MONTHS
At this stage babies often start to voice their
preferences quite vocally. Your placid baby may
become more persistent with getting his way.
He may also start crying when separated from you
or passed to a stranger. Encourage a regular sleep
routine by limiting his awake time between sleeps
(during the day) to two hours when he is nine
months old, and closer to three hours as he gets
closer to one year.
Problem: He may resist being placed on his
back for nappy changes.
Solution: A bunch of keys or a squeaky toy will
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Solution: Play hide and seek and peek-a-boo with
him. When you leave him, always say goodbye,
and greet him happily on your return.
Problem: Teething pain may cause your little
one to cry more than usual.
Solution: Allow him to suck and gnaw on finger
foods and teething-specific objects. Ask your
pharmacist to recommend a teething remedy
suitable for your baby’s age.
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Extra TB testing
Tuberculin skin test/Mantoux Skin

Cough alert Test This is the first screening that’s done

after a child is exposed to TB. A small
amount of testing fluid, called tuberculin
or PPD, is injected into the skin of your
– safe or sinister? child’s lower arm. You’re informed within
three days whether the test reaction was
positive. A small lump at the injection
site is a positive reaction and usually
IF LEFT UNTREATED, TUBERCULOSIS indicates TB infection. But, remember
POSES A REAL DANGER TO YOUR CHILD’S that infection with TB doesn’t necessarily
mean your child has active TB. Most
HEALTH. HERE’S WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW people with positive tuberculin tests don’t
have active TB. If negative, this test can
be repeated within six weeks. This test

T
here’s a tendency among South
African parents to think that
tuberculosis (TB) is something
that happens to somebody else.
I was one of these parents, until my
three-year-old’s teacher was hospitalised
with TB. With her diagnosis, panic
quickly set in at the school. We were
all reminded that anyone who’s out in
public could be at risk. Schools, daycare
centres and even your childcare worker
could potentially expose your child
to TB. Professor Anneke Hesseling,
director of the Desmond Tutu TB Centre
at Stellenbosch University, says children
who live in high-burden TB areas in South
Africa are at higher risk of being exposed
to the disease. She adds that because
the disease is spread by breathing in
air-borne bacteria from people with
active infectious TB disease, the general
South African public is also at risk of TB
exposure.
Know the symptoms
TB symptoms will begin to appear
six to eight weeks after the initial
exposure and TB disease can appear
soon after that.
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high risk of being infected and developing
TB disease, regardless of the setting. This
calls for a thorough approach to screening
in children, says Professor Hesseling.
Screening and treatment
The public healthcare sector follows a
standard protocol for children under
the age of five who were exposed to an
infectious case of TB.
Professor Hesseling says, ‘Every child
from birth to five years with significant
TB exposure should benefit from TB
preventative treatment if they have not
developed TB disease.’ It’s a six-month
treatment to prevent active TB disease,
but is very effective. However, shorter
highly effective regimens have also
recently been evaluated and will hopefully
also become available in South Africa.’
In cases where there are more
resources and individual doctor follow-ups
are possible, a patient could go for more
tests before deciding on TB preventative
treatment.
‘The patient’s risk of being infected
with TB following exposure depends
on how close and how infectious the
TB contact was and for how long the
can’t differentiate between TB infection
and TB disease.
Chest X-ray If your child inhaled TB
bacteria, but fought off the infection, the
lungs may be undamaged and the chest
x-ray normal. If bacteria has attacked the
lungs, a chest x-ray may be abnormal. For
example, the lymph nodes will be clearly
visible or there will be opacification in the
lung fields.
Spectrum sample In young children,
a spectrum sample of gastric aspirate is
taken. This is examined for TB bacteria
and is sent for culture to the lab. These
days, faster diagnostic tests, including
GeneXpert, are also available. A negative
sputum test doesn’t mean your child
doesn’t have TB, as these tests aren’t
very sensitive in picking up TB in children.
You must do a clinical assessment and
follow-up of a child with symptoms that
are suggestive of TB.
Know your status Professor Hesseling
says, ‘TB testing shouldn’t have to be
a horrible, stigmatised thing to do. If
you suspect a teacher, family member,
or nanny may have TB, they should be
encouraged to get tested.’

Symptoms include: child was exposed to the person,’ says

coughing for longer than two weeks
children will appear listless
Weight loss or poor weight gain
loss of appetite
chills and fevers
joint pain
excessive sweating; night sweats
shortness of breath.
South Africa has one of the highest
reported TB rates in the world. Young
children exposed to infectious TB have a
Professor Hesseling. Once infected, the
risk of developing TB disease depends on
the child’s age and health, for example, if
they’re under three years old, or have HIV,
diabetes and other chronic illnesses.
‘Should the risk factors be lower and
the patient has access to a Mantoux skin
test or a chest x-ray, doctors do these
first before opting for TB preventative
treatment. But, children who test negative
on skin tests and who have a normal x-ray
should still be monitored,’ she cautions.
Primary prevention
The current TB vaccine, the BCG vaccine,
is generally given to all South African
babies when they are born. This vaccine
prevents TB meningitis (TB of the brain)
and disseminated disease. But it doesn’t
help prevent pulmonary TB (TB of the
lungs). Early detection of adults with
pulmonary TB and prompt, effective
treatment are crucial to control the
spread of TB and limit the infection risk
to children.

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Kids eat

WHAT TO DO IN
AN EMERGENCY
Don’t get your child to
A CURIOUS CHILD WILL PUT JUST ABOUT ANYTHING IN HIS vomit, drink water or
MOUTH – HERE’S WHAT TO DO IN THE CASE OF AN EMERGENCY milk unless directed
to do so by the Poison
Control Centre, advises

T
he mouth is a major sensory organ, up and will pass as your child’s nervous system emergency practitioner
and even if your house is baby proofed matures, says child psychiatrist, Dr Elizabeth Hayley Rosenthal.
from floor to ceiling, at some point, your Berger. ‘Naturally, parents don’t feel enthusiastic Keep the following
curious little one will sample something about this behaviour, so the fact that you don’t information on hand:
he shouldn’t. Taste is closely linked to smell. In look pleased every time your child puts something What was ingested?
fact, 75% of what we taste is attributable to our in his mouth that he shouldn’t, will help phase How much was
sense of smell, explains clinical nurse and author of out this behaviour. You don’t need to show ingested?
Toddler Sense, Ann Richardson. There are, literally, disapproval, but you can say, ‘Oh, no, we don’t eat What is his weight?
thousands of taste buds in and around the mouth plants’, she explains. How is he acting now
that are sensitive to sweet, sour, salty and bitter after the incident?
tastes – and children’s mouths are hyper-sensitive DIRTY AND DANGEROUS OBJECTS
to these new sensations, which is often why they’ll Whether your child has sampled something he’s The Poison Centre
want to experiment with different objects using found on the ground in a public place, or popped 086 155 5777
their mouths. a strange berry or plant in his mouth, a good piece Nationwide emergency
of advice is to stay calm and assess the risks. If response 10111
PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE you’re unsure, it’s always a good idea to call your Emergency Ambulance
As frustrating as this is, it’s just part of growing doctor, who will advise you on the next step. 10177

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EMERGENCY PRACTITIONER, CPR TEACHER AND MOM
OF THREE, HAYLEY ROSENTHAL, NEXT TIME YOUR CHILD
CHEWS OR SWALLOWS ANY OF THE FOLLOWING

INSECTS OR WORMS
If you spend a lot of time outdoors,
chances are your child will eat some sort
of insect, like an ant, beetle or worm –
especially between the ages of one and
three. Experts at the National Capital
Poison Center in the US receive many
calls from concerned parents who’ve
witnessed their child swallowing an insect.
The good news is this is rarely cause
for concern; your child has simply had an
extra hit of protein that will be digested
along with other food. In some cases,
hard, indigestible parts of the insect body
(for example, grasshopper legs or beetle
wings) will be passed in your child’s stool,
which isn’t dangerous either. However, if
you suspect he’s eaten a poisonous insect,
watch for symptoms and check in with
your doctor or paediatrician.
SAND OR SOIL
Although around 20% of children eat soil
often and it’s quite amusing watching
your baby munch his way through
mouthfuls of sand, this isn’t as harmless as
it seems. According to the Environmental
Protection Agency, the soil in your garden
or your local park could pose several
hazards:
Chemical contamination, especially
heavy metals such as lead
Harmful bacteria, mostly from sewage
or manure
Parasites, especially roundworms from
pet faeces.
However, most of us have perfectly
healthy soil in our gardens and a little
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here and there won’t pose any risk to
your child. Experts suggest taking extra
measures to prevent your child eating
soil if:
Your home is close to a gas station
Your home is on land previously used
by a firing range or factory that made
paint, pesticide, or batteries.
DOG OR CAT FAECES
Kids often inspect and eat dog poop,
especially if it’s lying around in the garden.
Dog poop is relatively harmless if eaten
in small amounts, but it may contain
bacteria and sometimes parasites. If you
find your child eating dog poop, wash his
hands and mouth immediately, and watch
for any gastrointestinal symptoms such as
diarrhoea or stomach pain.
Cat faeces and cat litter trays should
be completely off limits as cats are
at a higher risk of being infected with
toxoplasmosis – a tiny parasite that lives
inside the cells of humans and animals,
and is especially prevalent in cat litter
trays – you might have been warned
to avoid cleaning your cat litter during
pregnancy for this very reason. According
to non-profit health organisation,
Nemours, ‘Toxoplasmosis spreads by
touching or coming into contact with
infected cat faeces. A cat can become
infected from eating infected rodents,
birds, or other small animals.’
Symptoms to watch out for:
Fever
Swollen glands
A rash
Bruises that develop quickly
A TOY BATTERY
Batteries contain a corrosive agent and
can cause serious problems if ingested,
warns Hayley. Most batteries are passed
through the system and excreted in the
child’s stool. However, should a battery
get stuck, the danger of the corrosive
agent leaking is high and could lead to
significant damage and even death.
If your child swallows any kind of battery,
it’s considered an emergency. Don’t
hesitate to take him to your local hospital.
A COIN
In most cases, a coin will pass through
the gastro-intestinal tract. However, this
does depend on the size of the coin. If it
can get through the oesophagus, it should
be passed in your child’s stool. Hayley
recommends going to the emergency
department for an x-ray, which can
be done to see if the coin has lodged
anywhere and if it has, in fact, passed
through the intestinal tract.
Symptoms to watch out for:
Should your child show any of the
following symptoms, take him to the
hospital as soon as possible:
Excessive drooling
Noisy breathing or wheezing
Difficulty swallowing
Blood in stools.
HOUSEHOLD DETERGENTS
OR MEDICINES
If your child has chewed, drunk or
swallowed any household detergent or
medicine, no matter what the quantity,
contact the Poison Control Centre while
on route to the hospital.

‘MY SON DRANK
PAIN MEDICATION’
Legal compliance manager
and mom of two, Samantha
Watermeyer, acted right away
when her son drank half a
bottle of pain medication.
‘My toddler wasn’t well, so I’d
given him a teaspoon of pain
medication before his nap.
I’d closed it, but left it on the
shelf in his room. He decided
to investigate the medicine
bottle and drank around 60ml.
I soon realised, because he
came out his room with a red
ring around his lips. I called the
pharmacy immediately.
Because the medication
contained pseudoephedrine,
the pharmacist suggested
we have my son’s blood
pressure taken. Large doses
of paracetamol are also
concerning. On the way to
the GP, I called the Netcare
Poison Control Centre and
they asked how old my son
was, how much he weighed
and how much he drank.
They advised that we take
him straight to the hospital.
Luckily, the doctors didn’t
have to pump his stomach, as
he’d already vomited. They
inserted a nasal gastric tube
with activated charcoal to
help absorb the chemicals
in his stomach. The scariest
thing was the large amount
of paracetamol he’d drunk, as
an overdose can send a child
into kidney or liver failure. My
son was discharged the next
morning, but it was a huge
wake-up call for me to keep all
medicines and detergents far
from reach.’

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THE HOMEWORK WAR
WHILE HOMEWORK TEACHES SELF-DISCIPLINE AND
ORGANISATION, GETTING YOUR YOUNG CHILD TO
SIT DOWN AND ACTUALLY DO IT CAN OFTEN BE A
BATTLEGROUND. FOLLOW OUR EXPERTS’ ADVICE TO HELP
REDUCE ANXIETY AND CONFLICT AROUND THE ISSUE

T
he first thing to understand when it comes
to doing homework is that each child is
different, says clinical psychologist Sumari
van Rooyen. ‘What’s effective with one
won’t necessarily work with another. It’s also why
it’s so important to figure out how your child deals
with homework – and later, study time – and to
make it work for both of you.’
Educational psychologist Suné Scholtz agrees.
‘There are a number of different ways children
approach doing homework and although each
needs to be dealt with differently in order to keep
the peace, they all involve a set routine, a set time,
a visual plan for when homework is done, as well
as regular brain breaks.’ (See box: The importance
of brain breaks.)

WHAT’S YOUR CHILD’S Boosting his confidence with lots of praise

HOMEWORK STYLE?
Suné and Sumari explore the most common
homework approaches and offer suggestions on
how to reduce the conflict.
THE PROCRASTINATOR
This is the child who always finds something else
to do: ‘I just quickly have to… I will later… I’m almost unfair… I don’t understand what to do… I can’t…
ready…’ are common phrases here. Some children
procrastinate because they’re afraid they won’t
have time to do other things, but others do so
because they’re afraid they won’t be able to do
what’s expected of them.
Win the battle by
Allowing procrastination time. Give your child
45 minutes to do absolutely anything and
everything and then start homework right away.
Make it fun, set a timer and count him down.
Warn him when his time is starting to run out:
‘Five minutes left’.
Letting your procrastinator do two things at the
same time, which may improve productivity,
such as doing homework in the kitchen while you
cook or sitting next to the cricket pitch.
and offering rewards such as TV time or play
time afterwards.
THE WHINER
This is the child who always has something
negative to say about the task at hand, the teacher
or themselves. ‘I don’t like maths… the teacher is
I don’t feel well…’ are common phrases used.
Win the battle by
Voicing your child’s emotions or how he or she
feels, for example, ‘I can hear you’re feeling
frustrated/angry/anxious; however, you’re
required to do the homework and afterwards we
can discuss it further if you’re still feeling upset’.
Creating a jar or box where you can help her to
visualise putting in all the bad bits of the day or
negative feelings. Close it tight and say, ‘These
stay in there until we’re done’.
Being aware of the type of complaints your
child may have, such as stomach complaints or
headaches always related to maths or reading.
This may need to be explored a bit further with
your child’s teacher.

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 THE DELEGATOR
This child is usually happy to do his homework,
because you’re usually the one who ends up doing
it for him!
Win the battle by
Taking a team approach – ensuring he is the
team captain and always takes the lead.
Understanding that organisation is key as he
may be experiencing feelings of uncertainty and
therefore needs to be controlling everything.
Passing the ball back to him: ‘I can see you’re
wondering what I think, but what do you think
about the question? I’m still here to help you if you
need me to, but I need to hear what you think’.
THE HURRIER
‘Finished!’ is this child’s favourite word. She’s so
eager to get to do something else that she rushes
her tasks, makes errors, scribbles her drawings,
writes illegibly and often misplaces or loses things.
Win the battle by
Creating an appropriate amount of time to
do homework, even if she’s ‘finished’. This will
help her to understand that finishing homework
in record time will not gain her extra time on
the iPad.
Actively slowing her down by allowing her to
only do a part of the assignment, for example,
complete the first three problems. After doing
so, ensure she checks her work before continuing
with the next three problems.
Calming her down by saying, ‘You’re rushing,
slow down’ or, ‘It’s okay to take your time’.
THE PERFECTIONIST
This child is focused on detail, takes his time and
often wants to restart tasks or feels that his effort is
not yet good enough. He usually has exceptionally
high expectations of himself, can be self-critical
and eager to please others and perform well. The
result is that homework takes much longer than it’s
supposed to and is often incomplete at the end of
the night.
Win the battle by
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Helping him to see the bigger picture. Help him
to rough draft each of the tasks that need to be
completed in that session. Reassure him that the
rough draft doesn’t need to be perfect, and that
he can always come back to it if he wants to.
Frequently voicing that mistakes are okay and
that we can learn from them and try again.
Remember to always praise his efforts.
Breaking routines occasionally. For example, say,
‘Wow, you did such a great job at making that
look beautiful, let’s do something special and go
out for an ice cream’.
WAR-WINNING HOMEWORK TIPS
According to Suné, these apply to every
homework type:
Schedule a specific time to start and finish
homework every day. Discuss this with your
child, bearing in mind that some children may
need to play or rest for a while after school,
while others prefer to eat and start homework
straight away.
Find a quiet place to do homework where there
are less distractions.
Help your child to get organised – especially
initially: check her homework diary, help her
to take out everything she needs, to sort the
homework according to what’s most difficult
and what’s easy, what’s fun and what’s not, and
so on.
Try starting with the easy things to help
motivate her to work on the more difficult tasks
ahead. When finished, tick or cross it out on the
list, allowing for a sense of accomplishment.
Always allow for natural consequences to take
place. If she refuses to do any homework or to
finish a certain task, warn her about the amount
of time still left for homework, and that you
won’t force her to do the work. When the time is
up, tell her. If she hasn’t completed the work, let
her teacher deal with it at school.
THE IMPORTANCE OF BRAIN BREAKS
Brain breaks are very important to make homework
less frustrating and to teach your child how to self-
regulate and to not give up, explains Suné. She offers
the following tips:
Remember that the average six to eight year old can
work for 10-15 minutes, after which they may need
a five-minute break. It’s important to allocate the
break before your child reaches a point of fatigue or
becomes distracted.
See what works for your child. Discuss the reason and
rules for brain breaks together, as some children may
also require a break as a reward or to keep motivated.
According to Understood.org, research indicates that
children learn quicker after they’ve exercised, which
is why active brain breaks work so well. These include
stretching, animal walks (walk like a dog, gallop like
a horse, hop like a frog, etc.), star jumps, dancing,
jumping jacks and push ups.
Quiet brain breaks will also help your child to refocus.
These include sitting quietly, feeling your own
heartbeat, breathing in for four slow counts then
breathing out for four slow counts.
Remember that children with learning difficulties may
need additional support, so always seek professional
help if your child is struggling.
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How to speak about IT’S A SCARY TOPIC TO THINK ABOUT,

sexual abuse LET ALONE ADDRESS WITH YOUR

CHILDREN; BUT IT’S A NECESSARY ONE

I
n a country where sexual violence against women and children is rife, it’s vital that kids of all ages know
what’s right from wrong. Not only is it important for them to recognise it so they’re able to report it,
but also so that they don’t, unknowingly, become perpetrators. Counselling psychologist Siphumlile
Nqoko gives tips on age-appropriated ways to have this tough conversation that could help keep them
safer and empower them to speak out if they’ve been violated.

How to speak to your tween Saying no is okay

‘While tweens are usually taught to listen and
(ages 9-12) respect their elders, it’s also imperative they
Start the conversation with the most basic
develop their own agency in saying no to
information, even if it means reiterating
situations that make them feel uncomfortable,’
what they may have learned at school
says Siphumlile. It doesn’t matter who it is, even a
already. You need to be as frank and open as
close family member or dad’s friend, they should
possible. Siphumlile suggests the following:
still say no. They should also approach you when
someone’s made them feel uncomfortable. You
Don’t use nicknames for body parts
need to be their safe haven where they shouldn’t
‘This will help them understand which parts of their
be afraid to tell you anything.
body are private and which shouldn’t be touched
or looked at. It also facilitates a conversation with
Reassure them they won’t get into trouble
them about body parts they may have questions
Most abusers threaten their victims not to tell
about,’ says Siphumlile.
anyone, or they’ll hurt them. ‘Create a safe space
‘Giving concrete examples helps them
for your child by constantly reassuring them they
understand even better. Using the correct terms,
can talk to you about anything and they’ll not be
point to and touch your own genital area and
punished for it,’ says Siphumlile.
breasts, not theirs, and tell them no one’s allowed
Create an environment of openness and
to forcefully touch them there without their
calmness where they feel safe and secure to ask
permission. Additionally, emphasise that they could
questions without feeling uncomfortable or like
also be touched on other areas of the body and
they’ll be reprimanded. Be open to answering
still feel uncomfortable; for example, a constant
whatever tough questions they have and
brushing or rubbing of their arms.’
encourage them to approach you if they’re ever
curious about anything.
Explain the concept of body autonomy
and boundaries
Paint a clear picture of what it would look like
Body autonomy and privacy is knowing and
Siphumlile says, ‘Give them different scenarios of
understanding everyone’s in control of their
how unwanted sexual contact could take place and
own body, and no one else. Only they can make
what they should do. For example, “Let’s say you’re
decisions on issues concerning their bodies, as long
visiting Cousin Andrew and Uncle Sam calls you
as they don’t use that to hurt themselves or others.
into his room and touches your penis or makes you
Even doctors should ask for permission before
touch his; or your teacher makes you watch videos
examining them, with an adult they trust present.
of people having sex. You should say no to them
Explain to them that sex is something adults do to
and tell mom and dad about it”.’
express love for one another. Furthermore, be very
clear that adults aren’t allowed to have any kind
of sexual interaction with children, and that if any
adult ever touches their private parts, they should
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Date rape
Have an open
discussion about date
rape, even if they
haven’t yet opened How to speak to your teen
(ages 13-18)
up to you about
whether they’re Teenagers are mostly likely aware of what sex Teach them that boys
dating or not. Teens
go to a lot of parties
is and some may already be sexually active.
and girls are equal
(some of which you
won’t know about)
Explain the concept of body autonomy
and boundaries and they should
‘Teach them about consent and that any sexual
where they drink
alcohol and may even activity without their permission is abuse,’ says stand up against
take drugs. Explain Siphumlile. Stress that agreeing because of
to them that rape feeling pressurised, by a boyfriend or a boy any wrong-doing by
isn’t always violent. they like for example, is not consent. If it makes
As too much alcohol them feel uncomfortable, they shouldn’t do it.
Considering gender-based violence is often
another gender
reduces common
sense and loosens about control and power, dispelling any gender
inhibitions, it’s stereotypes may also help. So, teach them
easier for someone that boys and girls are equal and they should
to take advantage stand up against any wrong-doing by another
by having sex with gender. Added to that should be building their
them, even without confidence and self-esteem, so they know
being forceful. Their what kind of treatment they should and
Children can be offenders too
On the flip side, it’s just as important to discuss
drinks can also be shouldn’t allow.
respecting the boundaries and consent
spiked, so they need
of others. At this age, adolescents have
to constantly watch Be approachable
developed a moral compass and have a good
their glass and not ‘Let your teen know that you’re available any
sense of the differences between right and
accept any open time for them to talk to you. Perpetrators may
wrong. However, there’s always room for you
drinks from anyone. try to convince them that no one will believe
to re-emphasise this, especially when it comes
If someone offers to them and that they’ll hurt them if they don’t
to molestation.
pour a drink for them, keep it a secret,’ says Siphumlile. Create a
‘Teach your child to respect the boundaries
they should watch safe and open environment for them and give
of others. We find there are child perpetrators
them closely so they them options for who they can speak to. If for
as well in our communities, so it’s important
don’t slip anything example they would feel too nervous to talk
for children to be able to tell their parents
inside. The best thing to you, they should tell a friend or an adult
about their own sexual desires without feeling
to do is stay sober they can trust, such as their teacher, aunt, or
they’ll be judged or punished by expressing
and aware and go grandmother.
themselves,’ says Siphumlile.
out with a group of
Teenagers can also unknowingly be
friends so they can Paint a clear picture of what it would look like
guilty of sexual abuse, like when spreading
watch out for each When defining sexual abuse and ways it can
an explicit picture of someone as a joke, or
other. If someone take place, be as direct and as honest as
coercing someone to send them naked selfies
does slip them a possible. Furthermore, talk to them about the
of themselves as a ‘love gesture’. To them,
drug, they should difference between sex with someone they like
this may seem innocent. Explain that if they
be aware of feeling and when it’s forced.
get texted naked pictures of someone, even
weak and confused ‘They should understand that the offenders
circulating those pictures to their friends on
and should alert a can be someone close to them, like a boy from
WhatsApp chats is a violation of that person’s
friend immediately, school they have a crush on,’ says Siphumlile.
rights and is unlawful, meaning they could
who should get them ‘If for instance their boyfriend or girlfriend
get into trouble with the police. When they’ve
into a safe space pressurises them to send naked pictures of
been drinking alcohol, they should understand
(like the bathroom themselves, but they don’t want to, this also
that the other person may be too intoxicated
or bedroom and counts as abuse. They should say no when
to make a sound decision, and its’ wrong to
lock the door), and they feel uncomfortable and not succumb to
sleep with someone while in this state.
immediately call pressure from friends, because they’re perhaps
for help. doing the same thing with their boyfriends.’

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Common signs to look out for evidence, and to get them treated. Next is to
Some children aren’t as open as others, or open a case at the police station.
would be too scared to tell you if they’ve been Seek help from a child psychologist to help
violated. You know your child well, and children’s them deal with the trauma. It may be necessary
behaviour usually changes when something of for you to also get some counselling, where
this magnitude occurs. Some of these behaviours you’ll learn how to help your child.
may just seem like everyday awkwardness Although you’ll also be stressed from the
that adolescents experience as they learn to incident, remember to keep your focus on your
understand their bodies, and relate to their peers child. They’ll need your love and emotional
and environment. But if something doesn’t feel support now more than ever.
right, it’s always best to trust your instincts. Here Remind them it’s not their fault and they did
are common tell-tale signs of abuse: a good thing by telling you. Give them your
Regressing behaviour like bed wetting and/or full support and ensure them they’re safe
soiling. and whoever the perpetrator is can no longer
Bruising, bleeding, or discharges in the genital hurt them.
area or anus.
Sexually transmitted diseases or persistent
or recurring pain during urination and bowel
movements.
Anxiety around removing clothes in front of
others.
Not wanting to be left alone with certain people
or caregivers.
Inappropriate sexual behaviour or constant talk
about sexual topics.
Nightmares or general depression and
consistent sadness, lack of energy, loss of
interest in activities they used to enjoy.
Sudden difficulties at school academically and
behaviourally.

If it happened to them
Finding out your child’s been exposed to abuse
is probably the worst news you’ll ever hear as
a parent. To deal with it, Siphumlile offers the
following advice:
The first thing you’d almost certainly feel as a
parent is guilt. You may blame yourself for not
being able to protect your child from this. But
remember that you can’t always have eyes on
your child.
Take them to the doctor or hospital for a
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EFFECTS OF MOM-DAUGHTER KIDDIES’ BOOKSHELF

BONDING
For years, research has been done on how
the maternal bond affects the lives and
subsequent relationships of children, with
many studies indicating the relationship
between a mother and child is the most
impactful.
A study published in the journal Pediatrics Ozzie the Ostrich
has revealed another effect associated with the by Victoria Mallett
relationship between moms and daughters: (Vbinkstudio.com)
WHY YOUR terminology they need teen girls who are close to their moms wait Ozzie is an awkward
to know from the start, ostrich with a gammy
KIDS SHOULD longer before becoming sexually active.
leg who struggles to
so they can understand The benefits of this include fewer unwanted
USE A SCHOOL fit in with his powerful
what is said in the pregnancies and STDs, as these girls are more and athletic peers. A
DICTIONARY, classroom and do well in likely to use contraception and have increased chance meeting with
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Who needs a school Encourage your flamingos brightens
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are that’s exactly what’s school phase they’re Written in rhyme with
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but local educational 12) instead of exposing story teaches kids that
experts are at pains magic unfolds when you
them to the myriad of
learn to embrace your
to point out that while world English (British, uniqueness.
Google may have the American, Australian).
facts you’re after, the When choosing
language expressing a dictionary, look for
those facts is not ones that specifically
necessarily suitable for include South African
your child’s specific age curriculum terminology.
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EASY WEARING AND TOUGH ENOUGH FOR

ANY PLAYGROUND, YOUR LITTLE ONES’
ADVENTURES BEGIN IN STYLISH DENIM

lily
nadia

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pure love are dogs and infants ‘[– Johnny Depp

hlelelwe

OPPOSITE PAGE: NADIA WEARS A DENIM

ALL-IN-ONE, R379, H&M | T-SHIRT, R325
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LILY WEARS A DENIM DRESS, R329, H&M |
BAG, R199 and SANDALS, R249, both Cotton
On Kids | HAIR CLIPS, R99 for six, Keedo
KARLHEINZ WEARS A DENIM SHIRT, R225,
Woolworths | SHORTS, R299, Cotton On Kids |
SANDALS, R199, Mr Price

ABOVE: HLELELWE WEARS A T-SHIRT, R29

AND DUNGAREES, R139, both Ackermans |
HAT, model’s own

RIGHT: NADIA WEARS A DENIM DRESS AND

T-SHIRT SET, R90, Mr Price | SNEAKERS, R170,
Woolworths | HAT, R169, Keedo

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 OPPOSITE PAGE: LILY WEAR
S A DENIM JACKET,
R499 and HAT, R199, both Kee
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H&M | SNEAKERS, R250, Wo
olworths
OPPOSITE PAGE TOP: HLELEW
E WEARS A SHIRT,
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JOGGERS, R229, H&M
OPPOSITE PAGE BOTTOM: KA
RLHEINZ WEARS
A SHIRT, R250 and HAT, R150,
both Woolworths |
SHORTS, R225, Soda Bloc at
Foschini| SNEAKERS,
R380, LTD. Kids at Truworths

THIS PAGE: NADIA WEARS A

DENIM JACKET, R399,
Cotton On Kids | DRESS, R42
5, Soda Bloc at Foschini
| HEAD BAND, R129 for set wit
h two hair ties, Keedo
LILY WEARS A DENIM BLOUSE
, R69 and HEAD
BAND, R25, both Mr Price | CU
LOTTES, R199, Soda
Bloc at Foschini
KARLHEINZ WEARS DENIM
JEANS WITH
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CLIPS, R69 for two, all Cotton on Kids
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���� ³� � EASTER CRAFTS

THESE CRAFTS ARE FUN
AND EASY TO MAKE
WITH YOUR KIDS, SO
GET CRAFTING!

Easter chocolate bark

packet speckled eggs
white chocolate wax paper
multi-coloured knife
vermicelli spatula
bowl spoon

Take a third of the speckled eggs and cut them

in half. Microwave the chocolate for 30 seconds
at a time, mixing in between until melted. Pour
the melted chocolate onto wax paper, spreading
thinly and evenly. Sprinkle with vermicelli
and the chopped and whole speckled eggs.
Allow to cool completely. Break into pieces
and enjoy.

TIP
Make it colourful by
adding a drop of food
colouring to the chocolate!
TIP
If the egg tilts over, wrap
Easter string nest a couple of pieces of raffia
balloon bowl white craft glue together to make a round
foam paintbrush crochet wool marker pen stand for it.
scissors faux flowers ribbons
glue gun easter eggs raffia (optional)

Inflate the balloon to the required size – don’t inflate it completely. In a

bowl, mix the craft glue with an equal amount of water until well combined.
Paint the entire balloon with the craft glue mixture. Wrap the wool around
the balloon, covering it. Paint the wool with the glue mixture, making sure
the wool is well saturated with the craft glue mixture. Allow to dry. Pop
the balloon, allowing the air to release slowly, and then remove. Using the
marker pen, draw an oval onto the string and cut out. Trim to ensure a neat
edge. Attach the flowers and ribbons with the glue gun to the top of the
egg. Fill with eggs and display.

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Felt bunny baskets
felt in colours of your pencil and ruler
choice cardboard
bostik glue permanent marker
split pins
scissors
Draw 5 equal-size squares, one square including ears, onto the
felt and cut out. Cut a strip for the handle. Glue the squares
together along the sides, until you form a box. Glue in the
base. Glue the handle to the sides of the basket. Cut a piece
of cardboard slightly smaller than the base of the basket to
hold the basket open and keep it firm. Draw a nose onto the
contrasting felt and glue it to the front of the bunny face. Press
in the split pins to make the eyes and draw a mouth with the
permanent marker. Cut two pieces of contrasting felt for the
ears, and glue them on. Finish off by placing a piece of tissue
paper in the basket and fill with Easter eggs.
TIP
These bunnies can be used in the
garden as ‘directions’ for an Easter egg
hunt or as name tags on an Easter table.
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TIP
This is a no-sew project, but you can
machine or hand sew, if you prefer.
Paper bunnies
plain paper to make a template pencil
scissors glue
double-sided craft split pins
or scrap book paper
Fold the plain paper in half and draw the head of the
bunny (the fold should be at the top of the head)
then draw long ears. For the body, the fold should be
the spine of the bunny. Draw the body, legs and tail.
Add a rectangle that will become the tummy when
attached. Use this template to trace the bunny onto
the decorative paper, and cut out. Fold the ears in
the centre and insert the split pins for eyes. Fold the
tummy rectangle so that it meets the other piece from
the other side and glue together. Glue the head onto
the body.

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WHAT CAN WE LEARN FROM
PEOPLE TEND TO USE
‘MILLENNIAL’ AS SHORTHAND
FOR YOUNG PEOPLE, BUT
THE YOUNGEST MILLENNIALS
ARE NOW 25 YEARS OLD. A
NEWER GENERATION, ‘GEN Z’,
ARE STARTING TO MAKE THEIR
PRESENCE KNOWN, AND THEY
HAVE A LOT TO OFFER
T
he first crop of millennials are about
to enter their forties, and despite
the many (many) articles you’ll find
online about how they’re ruining this and
that industry, are layabouts sponging off
their parents and have ushered in a new
obsession with avocado toast, they’re
actually old news. Gen Z makes up about
46% of the population of South Africa;
about 27.5 million people. Loosely defined
as those born between 1996 and 2014,
they’re a genuine phenomenon: born
into a world ruled by the internet and
a constant influx of information, never
having known a time without selfies
and social media, their reality is unique,
something no other generation has
experienced.
While we often think of parenting
as a lifelong journey of imparting our
knowledge and experience to our kids
(and grandkids), learning can be a two-
way street. So what can we learn from the
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teenaged and young adult members of
Gen Z in our families, if we take the time
to listen?
Responsible spending
Studies have found Gen Z to be
remarkably astute when it comes to
money matters, which, experts say, may
be linked to the global environment they
grew up in. They emerged during a period
of instability – the 9/11 terrorist attacks in
America ushered in a period of general
fear and uncertainty across the world,
global recession rocked international
markets, and nothing felt sure and safe
with regards to the financial climate.
Gen Z has shown that they’re generally
more concerned and savvy than previous
generations when it comes to issues
of safety, stability and privacy, and,
according to Forbes, they’re motivated
by practical realities and are less likely to
engage in risky behaviours or unstable
?
career opportunities. Studies have also
found they’re more aware than previous
generations of the importance of building
and maintaining credit, which helps them
better navigate the modern economy.
Gen Z has also shown that they tend to
start building financial resumes early
in life, and are concerned from early on
about their financial futures.
One study found that almost
40% of South African students save
20-40% of their monthly income, and
one fifth save 40-60% monthly. They
also spend less on cars than their
millennial counterparts, and show
greater responsibility in managing debt,
focusing instead on the pursuit of financial
independence.
This young generation is also
characterised by a strong entrepreneurial
drive, prompting many of them to
start their own businesses at a young
age and save money for reinvestment,
 rather than simply spending their
earnings. Furthermore, according to
research, despite 2018 being an all-round
challenging year economically for South
Africans, Gen Z has shown surprising
resilience. Their spending remained
consistent and they saved more,
indicating higher revenue and responsible
handling of their finances.
More to life than money
Members of Gen Z were able to learn
some valuable lessons from their
predecessors, and put them to good use.
Millennials suffered under the recession
and faced stunted employment options,
which negatively impacted their plans
for savings and retirement, fostering a
general mistrust and feelings of insecurity
around the workplace. This led to
Gen Z taking a different approach to what
‘work’ should look like and what the end
goal of a career should be. While we may
typically think of a job as going to the
office five days a week in the hopes of
putting together enough money to pay
our bills, Gen Z thinks a little differently.
Although they’ve proven to be
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financially seriously-minded and
responsible, studies have found that
economic security is often not the only
goal attached to the work ambitions of
this generation. They’re also characterised
by a strong sense of wanting to make
a difference in the world, and being
genuinely hopeful that they’ll be able to
contribute to bettering society. Gen Z
workers also put importance on being
able to separate work from life, and take
the notion of self-care seriously – as
opposed to millennials who are known to
work themselves into a state of burnout.
Baby boomers were born Gen X was born between 1965
between 1946 and 1964. and 1980. They’re currently
They’re currently between 55 between 40 and 54 years old.
and 74 years old.
Digital natives
Generation Z were born into the age of
the internet and have never known life
without a world of information at their
fingertips. Millennials were exposed to
the internet early in life – even if it was the
dial-up kind that required no one be using
the home phone and was announced by
an ear-splitting tone – but they weren’t
born into an already flourishing way of
life. The internet was new to millennials,
which meant a learning curve, with a lot of
mistakes along the way. Gen Z understand
the rules of the digital sphere and have
absorbed them through social osmosis.
They know how to use the internet, and
more importantly, how not to. They’re
more conscious of privacy, issues of safety,
and are more discerning about the types
of information they engage with than
older generations.
This can be seen in the types of
platforms preferred by younger people,
which often rely on content that disappears
after a short period of time, like Snapchat
and Instagram stories. They also tend
to share less personal information and
are more careful about re-sharing other
people’s posts. They understand better
than their elders that just because you can
share something, doesn’t mean you should.
Support and acceptance
Gen Z were born into a world where
feminism is promoted by major
corporations, same-sex marriage is legal
in many countries, and a black man was
voted into the presidency of the most
powerful country in the world. They’re
exposed to the ongoing struggles of
marginalised minorities to gain equality,
Millennials were born
between 1981 and 1995.
They’re currently between 25
and 39 years old.
as well as the progress that has been
made in their lifetimes. Members of
Gen Z were born into a movement that
expects society to push towards a better
way of being, and develop socially and
technologically towards greater tolerance,
acceptance and support.
Stand up, speak out
Many of us have watched in awe at the
confidence and righteousness of young
people today, speaking up for what they
believe in, even in the face of seemingly
insurmountable odds. Student protestors
leading the Fees must Fall movement
spoke poignantly about their concerns,
and made sure we as a nation were aware
of their situation. We were introduced to
students who would protest during the
day, then return to study throughout the
night to maintain the high standards they
had set for themselves. Seventeen-year-
old Swedish environmental activist Greta
Thunberg rallies for global recognition of
climate change, taking on the president
of the United States seemingly without
fear. Student survivor of the USA Parkland
school mass shooting, Emma González,
organised marches and co-founded a gun
control advocacy group.
While prior generations can largely be
considered global spectators, watching
events unfold in the news and on social
media, Gen Z prefers to take action, form
alliances via the internet, and rally support
and awareness. They’ve managed to build
a culture of their own, one that believes
in itself and its ability to enact real
change, and that shares values of justice,
acceptance and inclusiveness. They aren’t
waiting to be saved; they plan on doing it
themselves.
Gen Z was born between 1996
and 2014. They’re currently
between 5 and 24 years old.
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parent
Lost property
IS THERE ANY MORE SORRY A SIGHT THAN THE LOST PROPERTY
DEPARTMENT AT SCHOOL... WONDERS KATE SIDLEY
here they lie, the expensive
T jerseys, the mandatory hats,
the partnerless shoes, the
mouldering lunchboxes – all
bought and paid for by some
hard-working mom or dad. All abandoned
by some thoughtless child.
No amount of sticky labels, the
permanent markers and sew-on tags can
save you from the endless disappearance
of bits of uniform, stationery and sports
equipment. There’s a unique sense of
rage and frustration that comes with the
continual round of missing things (not
to mention the mysterious things that
appear in your own house, and which
some other frustrated parent is looking
for – that’s a story for another day).
Because the word ‘lost’ has such
negative connotations – it’s almost as
if you think it’s their fault – kids like to
describe their missing possessions as
‘stolen’. They would have you believe that
someone snuck into their backpack while
they weren’t looking and made off with
their English workbook. These thieves are
seldom apprehended, although they do
sometimes return stolen items, leaving
them in plain sight.
Items are also known to spontaneously
cease to exist.
‘But why did you put just one shoe
back in your tog bag?’ you ask.
‘I didn’t!’ says the indignant child. ‘It
was there, it just disappeared.’
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I was so fed up with the lost/stolen/
disappeared cool bags, lunchboxes and
Tupperware that I stopped providing
them, and for the last year of school my
son took his lunch in a Checkers packet.
Not stylish, I grant you, but it did the job
and there was little harm done other than
the odd squished peach. Although when
I happen on those Pinterest-type pics of
model school lunches with sandwiches
cut into stars with cookie cutters, and
fruit cubes on toothpicks, arranged like
hedgehogs, I do wonder at how far I’ve
slipped.
‘But why did you
put just one shoe back
in your tog bag?’
you ask.
‘I didn’t!’ says the
indignant child.
‘It was there, it just
disappeared.’
I don’t know about you, but I’m always
grateful for someone else’s misfortune
and bad judgement. It makes me feel
better about my own failings. In this case,
my thanks go out to my friend – let’s call
her Clare, although her real name is Caron
– who fell for the ‘stolen’ thing, hook line
and sinker. Her son – let’s call him Jack,
although his real name is Joe – came
home outraged and upset because his
cricket bag had been stolen.
‘I went ballistic,’ Gina told me. ‘That
stuff costs and fortune, and besides, what
kind of den of thieves is this? I went to the
school and demanded they draw video
footage.’
Back up a bit, I asked – video footage?
The school has CCTV cameras?
‘All over the place,’ she answered. ‘I
only knew because of the time Jack got
into a fistfight with Ben. They called me in
to watch the security video footage.’
At this point, there was a small
diversion while we discussed the whys
and wherefores of the brawl, and the very
difficult and, frankly, often disheartening
job that is parenting. Being sat down in a
small room to watch security footage of
your eight year old smack another child is
pretty much a low point, we agreed.
And an additional low point was to
come, as regards the cricket bag. I’m sure
you know where this story was going. Yes,
dear reader, you’re correct. There he was,
on camera, grey grainy Jack wandering
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off, leaving his cricket bag on the field.
Sometime later, a grey grainy teacher
picked up the cricket bag. Off camera,
he apparently deposited it in a special
storeroom near the field. Not stolen.
Not disappeared. But safe and sound.
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your body
communicates
with you
OUR BODIES ARE IMPRESSIVE
NETWORKS OF COMPLEX SYSTEMS,
ALL WORKING TOGETHER TO KEEP
US HEALTHY. THEY ALSO GIVE US
SIGNS OF SYSTEM MALFUNCTIONS,
SOMETIMES IN UNEXPECTED WAYS

Dry eyes Tasting

1 breath
3 metal

WHAT IT COULD MEAN WHAT IT COULD MEAN WHAT IT COULD MEAN WHAT IT COULD MEAN WHAT IT COULD MEAN
You need more You’re at risk of You have kidney Your thyroid is You’re at risk of
vitamin A diabetes disease underactive diabetes
Dry eyes, or being Chemicals called Malfunctioning While eyebrows Many studies have
unable to produce ketones begin to kidneys cause a do tend to thin as linked having a large
tears, is one of the develop in people substance called we age, a lack of amount of skin tags,
major signs of vitamin who don’t produce urea to build up in thyroid hormones which are benign
A deficiency – a enough insulin, and your bloodstream, being produced due growths on the skin,
fat-soluble vitamin as they’re expelled resulting in a uremia, to hypothyroidism to chronically high
often found in dairy, through saliva, the a condition which can make the hair blood sugar levels.
fish, eggs and meat. smell of your breath produces a metallic loss more drastic. Scientists aren’t
In extreme cases, may change. Often, taste in your mouth. This is usually most entirely sure how the
a long-term lack of people lacking in Alone, this symptom noticeable in the outer two are connected,
the vitamin can even insulin – which is the is probably nothing third of the eyebrows. but research suggests
result in blindness. case with diabetics to worry about, but in If you’ve noticed your that people with
Studies have found – will notice their conjunction with back eyebrows beginning multiple skin tags are
that increasing your breath smells sweet, pain and changes in to look decidedly less at a higher risk than
vitamin A intake can or takes on a strong, urinary habits, it could full, visit your doctor others of developing
reduce eye dryness by astringently chemical be indicating chronic for a thyroid check. type-2 diabetes.
more than 60%. odour. kidney disease.

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 YOUR HEALTH

Yellow A grey ring Thinning Cracked Puffy eye

6 bumps on
your eyelids
7 around your
Cornea
8 hair 9 heels 10 area

WHAT IT COULD MEAN WHAT IT COULD MEAN WHAT IT COULD MEAN WHAT IT COULD MEAN WHAT IT COULD MEAN
You’re at risk of You have high You’re iron deficient Your thyroid is Your heart or
heart disease cholesterol According to research, under- or overactive kidneys are at risk
These are known as A grey or white-ish an iron deficiency, Both hyperthyroidism Heart and kidney
xanthelasma, and ring around your which means less (an overactive issues can both stop
are linked to poor cornea is known as oxygen being thyroid) and your body from being
cardiac health. They’re arcus senilis, and may transported through hypothyroidism (an able to properly rid
actually cholesterol be an indication of your blood, might be underactive thyroid) itself of excess fluid.
deposits, and people unhealthy levels of responsible for hair can cause thick, dry This fluid may then
who develop them cholesterol. It occurs loss. If you’ve noticed skin, which is most build up in unusual
are around 40% more because of fatty your hair thinning and noticeable on the areas of your body,
likely to develop heart deposits around the falling out, you might heels of your feet. causing swelling and
disease, and about edge of the cornea. want to up your iron If your heels have a puffiness, especially
50% more likely to intake. build-up of dry skin, around the eyes.
experience a heart which is cracked and
attack, according to Go online to read about appears scaly, visit
research. what your feet could your doctor for a
reveal about your health thyroid check.

Yellow eyes Swollen Ice Feeling Sore ears

11 12 ankles 13 cravings 14 colder than
usual
15 after eating

WHAT IT COULD MEAN WHAT IT COULD MEAN WHAT IT COULD MEAN WHAT IT COULD MEAN WHAT IT COULD MEAN
You are developing You have high blood You’re lacking iron You have an You have acid reflux
jaundice pressure If you’re feeling an underactive thyroid As the oesophagus
If you’ve noticed Having high blood inexplicable desire to If you’re shivering and the ears are
SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL ADVICE, DIAGNOSIS, AND TREATMENT. ALWAYS CONSULT

the whites of your pressure means crunch on ice cubes, while people around both found along
IS STRICTLY FOR INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES. THE CONTENT IS NOT INTENDED TO BE A
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eyes changing to a your heart has to you may need to you are sweating and the vagus nerve,
YOUR GP OR A DOCTOR FOR SPECIFIC INFORMATION REGARDING YOUR HEALTH

bright yellow hue, work harder than it increase your iron by can’t stand to have stomach acid
there’s a chance should, which leads taking a supplement the aircon on, even that irritates the
you’re suffering from to less effective blood or eating more meat, during hot weather, oesophagus can
jaundice. Your skin circulation throughout fish and green leafy there might be result in referred pain
might also take on a your body. This can vegetables. Your body something wrong reaching the ears,
yellow tinge. Many cause fluid to be requires iron to help with your thyroid. or any other point
conditions can cause retained in places transport oxygen to Heat is a by-product along the nerve.
jaundice, but they all such as your lower your muscles and of burning calories, Gastro-oesophageal
point to your liver not legs and ankles, brain, and people so when your thyroid reflux disease
functioning properly. making them swell who are iron deficient is underactive and (GERD) can occur
If your liver isn’t able and feel tight. While tend to have less not burning calories, without a person ever
to effectively break this may begin as a oxygen in their blood. you’re not generating even experiencing
down a pigment in simple inconvenience, Researchers believe heat. About 40% heartburn, but
bile called bilirubin, over time the swelling that chewing ice of people with an showing other, more
the pigment will cause can cause more prompts your body to underactive thyroid unusual symptoms
the yellow colouring. serious damage, and increase blood flow to report feeling – one of the most
Visit your doctor, can affect the blood your brain, which may unusually cold and common being ear
especially if you’re vessels and skin of the make you feel more unable to warm up. pain.
also feverish. swollen areas. awake and alert.

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Successful supplementing
THERE ARE TONNES OF DIETARY SUPPLEMENTS TO CHOOSE
FROM, BUT WHICH ONES ARE RIGHT FOR YOU, AND HOW DO
Did you know?
YOU KNOW IF THEY’RE REALLY WORKING? Certain supplements
can negatively
interact with

D
ietary supplements are a big business. advice on which brands are the most reliable, and medications
You’ll find entire aisles devoted to them check products to see if they’ve been certified by Ginkgo can

TREATMENT. ALWAYS CONSULT YOUR GP OR A MEDICAL SPECIALIST FOR SPECIFIC INFORMATION REGARDING YOUR HEALTH.
in health stores and supermarkets, and organisations like NSF International. While these increase the

THE INFORMATION ON THESE PAGES IS NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL ADVICE, DIAGNOSIS AND
endless pages and profiles on your social organisations don’t guarantee a product is safe or risk of bleeding
media feeds promoting their healing powers. effective (as supplements are largely unregulated), when taken in
Among all the antioxidants, multivitamins, nutrients, they do at least indicate that the products have conjunction with
weight loss aids, protein powders, extracts and undergone quality testing. antiplatelet and
fibres, which are the right ones for you? anticoagulant
Read labels in detail medications, and
Find out what you Labels are designed to be eye-catching, but if is also thought
really need, and why a product is proclaiming something that seems to interact with
Refrain from self-diagnosis and find out from too good to be true – ‘melts fat in one week!’ – it certain glucose
your doctor if any of your specific health concerns probably is. Read through the ingredients list and and psychiatric
could benefit from supplements. Do you have information on the product carefully and ignore medications.
a particular nutrient deficiency, or a condition particularly bold claims. St. John’s wort
such as anaemia or osteoporosis, which might be The fact chart should tell you what the product can impact the
helped by increasing your iron or calcium intake? In contains and how much to take, but you should effectiveness of
these cases, your doctor can guide you on which also be able to easily find out how potent the antidepressants,
supplements to take, which brands to choose, and ingredients are, and whether the supplement as well as

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in what amounts.
It’s best not to simply buy a variety of pricey
supplements and hope for the best if you don’t
need them. Your body will likely flush them out
as waste, unused. If you’re hoping to prevent
illness and covering all your bases with a variety
of supplements, you may want to reconsider –
research has found that while this probably doesn’t
hurt, the foods you eat have a much more effective
impact on your health. We’re designed to absorb
nutrients through our gut, via food, so a change to
your diet could not only be more beneficial to your
health, but your finances, too!
Look for reputable brands
Look for brands you recognise and you know
have been around for a long time. You should also
ask your pharmacist or a health professional for
contains mostly unnecessary ‘filler’ ingredients, birth control,
which won’t do much of anything. For example, cancer and HIV
dextrose (corn starch), wheat, lactose, or dextrins medications.
(most often from potato, corn, wheat, or rice), are Ginseng can
ingredients that are included because they’re cheap cause blood sugar
and bulk up the product, rather than containing levels to drop
effective amounts of the vitamins or nutrients you and interfere
think you’re buying. with diabetes
medication, as
Keep it simple well as boost the
If you know you’re deficient in iron, or vitamin D, stimulating effects
look for those supplements specifically. Avoid of caffeine.
products that claim to add in excessive amounts
of ‘extras’, like a vitamin plus energy and immune
boosting herbs with added calcium. The greater the
list of additions, the greater the chance of side-
effects occurring. Keep it simple, and take only the
supplements you know will benefit you.

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BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE WITH THE LATEST NEWS

COULD YOUR
DIET BE
DAMAGING
YOUR LIVER?
Keeping your liver healthy
is essential to overall good
health. Your liver performs Fortunately, your liver is an
more than 500 vital functions, incredibly regenerative organ,
including removing toxins, and changing your lifestyle
filtering blood, storing can undo a lot of damage
glucose for energy, digesting which may have been done.
fats, and absorbing vitamins Here’s how: PROTECT YOURSELF FROM FLU
and minerals. Research Lower your consumption
suggests that what you eat of processed, junk and fast THIS SEASON
can have a major impact food in your diet.
on the functioning of your Decrease your salt, sugar Influenza causes up to 650 000 deaths worldwide and more
liver. For instance, too much and saturated fat intake. than 11 000 deaths in South Africa each year.
refined sugar and saturated Eat more fruits, vegetables There are four main viruses, including two types of Influenza
fat leads to inflammation, and healthy fats from fish A, and two types of influenza B. These viruses evolve annually
damaging the liver and and nuts. in an unpredictable manner, making it difficult to determine
preventing it from functioning Get active! Regular how severely they’ll affect us when flu season arrives. Severe
optimally. This can increase exercise also contributes to illness due to flu affects around three to five million people
your risks for conditions such liver health. globally, including approximately 45 000 South Africans,
as diabetes, heart disease, Take a supplement annually. Almost half of severely affected South Africans
fatty liver disease, high formulated specifically to require hospitalisation.
cholesterol, liver failure and support and protect your Flu viruses circulate worldwide at different times of the
even cancer. liver, such as LiverC3. year, with South Africa’s seasonal influenza usually occurring
between May and September. The viruses can be particularly
risky for people with chronic diseases, such as human
immunodeficiency virus (HIV), tuberculosis (TB), diabetes and
other metabolic disorders, as well as cardiac, pulmonary, renal,
hepatic, neurological, haemoglobin and immunosuppressive
THE POWER OF PINK disorders. Infants younger than two, elderly people over 65,
and pregnant women are also at higher risk of developing
The Power of Pink campaign, now in its 10th year, has revealed severe and complicated influenza.
that since their inception in 2010 they’ve managed to raise The most effective way to prevent influenza is through annual
over five million rand to support breast cancer survivors vaccination. Flu vaccines are effective and provide immune
who can’t afford reconstructions after mastectomies, and protection against the viruses that cause them. In some people,
assist financially challenged women with silicone prostheses. for instance the elderly and individuals with weakened immune
Reach for Recovery, working together with the South African systems, the influenza vaccine may not be able to prevent the
Mushroom Farmers’ Association (SAMFA) and Pick n Pay for viruses entirely, but it can reduce the severity of illness and the risk
the campaign, achieved the following in 2019: of complications. Vaccinations are recommended for everyone
from the age of 6 months, especially for those who are at high
Supported 5 923 patients in hospitals and through risk of developing complicated influenza.
continued visits thereafter. ‘Vaccines against influenza are rigorously tested for their
Handed out 3 013 care bags with support items and ability to help the body prepare against seasonal influenza
information leaflets to post-operative breast cancer patients strains. This has been further reinforced by decades of broad
in hospitals. use around the world in reducing influenza’s circulation and
Fitted 666 state patients who had a mastectomy and no impact,’ says Merilynn Steenkamp, business unit head at
medical aid with prostheses at no cost to them. Reach for Sanofi Pasteur in South Africa. Due to the mutation of the four
Recovery was able to purchase the prostheses at an average viruses that cause seasonal influenza, the vaccines are adapted
of R881 per unit, whereas the average price of a single accordingly to optimise immunity against the specific virus
prosthesis on the open market ranges from R3 500 upwards. strains each year guided by WHO.
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CORONAVIRUS: WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW
You’ve most likely read stories in the
news about the spread of the coronavirus
across China and other parts of the
world, which has become a cause for
global concern. Are South Africans at
risk locally? And how best can we keep
ourselves safe from infection, particularly
while travelling internationally? Dr Pete
Vincent of Netcare Travel Clinics and
Medicross Tokai has some advice.
While the World Health Organization
(WHO) has now declared the coronavirus
outbreak a global health emergency,
people should not be unduly alarmed by
the coronavirus outbreak, particularly as
no cases have been reported in South
Africa as of 31 January, he says. However,
he strongly recommends that everyone,
especially those travelling internationally,
take precautions, and that non-essential
travel to China be postponed at this time.
The majority of cases of the illness can
be traced back to a travel history from
the Chinese province where the outbreak
originated, including cases in Thailand,
Japan, Korea, Vietnam, Australia,
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Malaysia, India, Germany, France and
the USA.
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SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS
Sufferers of the virus reported coughing,
fever and breathing problems. The virus
can result in respiratory difficulties and
lead to pneumonia, sepsis and even
organ failure in severe cases.
As is the case with other viral
infections, antibiotics are not an
effective means of treatment and
it appears that people who are in
poor health are at greatest risk of
complications from the infection.
WHO reports that the current estimates
of the incubation period of the virus
range from two to 10 days.
TAKING PRECAUTIONS
‘Those who have recently travelled,
or are planning to travel, to international
destinations such as the Far East, should
be particularly vigilant. As in the case of
other airborne infectious viruses such as
influenza, avoiding contact with people
showing symptoms and washing your
hands frequently can go a long way
towards protecting individuals from
contracting an infection,’ advises
Dr Vincent.
The following simple precautions
based on WHO recommendations
can help reduce exposure to and
transmission of the virus:
Wash your hands frequently with
warm water and soap, towel drying
them properly. An alcohol-based
hand sanitiser can also be used.
Avoid close contact with others
who have coughs, chest infections
and/or fevers.
Avoid touching your face, mouth
and eyes with your hands.
Avoid direct, unprotected
contact with farm or wild animals,
particularly when visiting live
markets in affected areas.
Preferably avoid such markets.
Avoid eating raw or undercooked
animal products and exercise
care when handling raw meat,
milk or animal organs to prevent
potential cross-contamination with
uncooked foods.
Although face masks do not
provide complete protection from
the infection from an airborne
disease such as this, they may
provide at least some additional
defence against infection.
Cover your mouth and nose with
a tissue or a flexed elbow when
coughing or sneezing.
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PTSD DIAGNOSTIC CRITERIA
According to Dr Naidoo, these include:
Exposure to actual or threatened death,
serious injury, or sexual violence. This
could be directly, by witnessing or learning
of a trauma, or by repeated or extreme
exposure.
Intrusive symptoms such as physical
distress, psychological distress,
dissociative reactions (flashbacks),
dreams and memories.
Avoidance of external reminders and
distressing memories.
Negative alterations in cognition and mood.
Alterations in arousal and reactivity.
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Understanding
what it means
to be triggered
BEING ‘TRIGGERED’ HAS BECOME A POPULAR
INTERNET PHRASE, BUT FROM A MENTAL HEALTH
PERSPECTIVE, TRIGGERING HAS SERIOUS LINKS
TO EMOTIONAL TRAUMA
Y
ou may have come across people on Twitter or Facebook joking about
being triggered, or using it as slang for anything they find mildly annoys
or offends them. For instance, a gaudily decorated room or a comically
unfashionable outfit might elicit replies like, ‘This hurts my eyes! I’m triggered!’.
You might also have come across genuine ‘trigger warnings’ at the start of
articles or videos, which let you know they contain sensitive information or
images.
The true meaning of the word, when used in relation to mental health, is
worth understanding, and is rooted in emotional trauma. Dr Marshinee Naidoo,
a psychiatrist practising at Akeso Alberton, explains what being triggered
means and how to handle the experience.
What does it mean to be triggered?
‘To be triggered is to have an intense emotional or physical reaction, such as
a panic attack, after encountering a “trigger”, which is a catalyst or reminder
of a past traumatic event. Triggers act as stimuli that strongly recall memories
of traumas, or particular aspects of traumatic experiences,’ explains Dr
Naidoo. She adds that the actual stimuli which lead to feeling triggered may
not necessarily be frightening or traumatic themselves, and are often only
superficially or indirectly linked to the trauma they recall. For example, a
person suffering with anorexia nervosa may be triggered by coming across an
image of a slim celebrity, or a particular smell or sound may trigger a person
who’s suffering with post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
How are triggers formed?
‘Our brains are equipped with an “alarm system” that normally helps to ensure
our survival. In PTSD, however, this system becomes overly sensitive and is
easily triggered. It becomes difficult to separate safe events happening now,
from dangerous events that happened in the past. Key brain areas involved are
the prefrontal cortex, amygdala and hippocampus,’ explains Dr Naidoo.
‘In PTSD, the body’s response system doesn’t know when to shut off, and
the brain doesn’t process the trauma the right way. It doesn’t file the memory
of the event as being in the past, which results in feelings of stress and fear
even when we should know we’re safe,’ she adds.

Dr Naidoo explains a trauma, the hippocampus works to
some of the science remember the event and make sense
behind triggers of it.
The hypothalamic pituitary axis (HPA) The brain attaches details, such as
is responsible for the endocrine output sights or smells, to that memory and
during the fear/stress response, and is these become triggers. Triggers act like
regulated by the amygdala. It’s useful buttons that activate our body’s alarm
to think of the amygdala, which is a system. When one of these triggers
primitive animalistic part of our brain recalls memories of a past traumatic
that’s wired to ensure survival, as our experience, our brain switches to
body’s “alarm system”. In acute stress, danger mode. This may cause us to
HPA activation results in increased become frightened, and often exhibit
glucocorticoids (cortisol). physical symptoms of fear, such as a
During a disturbing event, the racing heartbeat. The sights, sounds,
amygdala is activated and a signal and feelings of the trauma may come
causes a fear response, which sets rushing back in a flashback.
the stress response symptoms into In PTSD, a trigger reminds us of
motion. Activation of the autonomic that trauma. As trauma is typically
nervous system (ANS) releases overwhelming, the information doesn’t
stress hormones, such as adrenaline. get coded correctly. The hippocampus
Adrenaline gives a surge of energy wrongly assumes that we’re in that
that helps us to respond to the threat. threatening situation again and sends
In PTSD, however, the amygdala is a signal to the amygdala over and
overactive, which can make it difficult to over again. We might have trouble
think rationally. remembering important details of the
The hippocampus is the memory event, or find ourselves thinking a lot
centre of the brain. It’s like a computer’s about what happened, because the
memory that writes files to its hard hippocampus is working so hard to try
drive. It converts short-term memories and make sense of our experiences.
into long-term memories. The The exact brain functioning behind
hippocampus helps us remember triggers isn’t fully understood; however,
where and when danger happened, there are several theories on how
so that we can avoid it in future. After triggers work.
COMMON TRIGGERS
Triggers can be or abandonment Seeing someone
anything that cause Frustration else use drugs (for
fear or distressing Feeling out of control substance abuse)
memories, and which Pain or tension News stories about
are associated with a bad events
traumatic experience. Common external The ending of
They can be both triggers include a relationship
internal and external Going to a specific Spending too much
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WELLBEING
How does it feel to be triggered?
‘Certain triggers can set off PTSD, bringing back
strong memories of past traumas. You may also
experience intrusive symptoms, which include
physical and psychological distress, dissociative
reactions, such as flashbacks, and disturbing
dreams,’ says Dr Naidoo.
You may also experience negative alterations in
cognition and mood, such as distorted cognitions
which include shame, blame, and guilt, as well as
negative emotional states such as fear, horror, anger,
detachment, and negative emotions and beliefs.
‘Feeling triggered may also affect your ability
to feel aroused, and may result in feelings of
irritability, angry outbursts, verbal or physical
aggression, recklessness, self-destructive thoughts
or behaviours, sleep disturbances, hyper vigilance,
difficulties in concentration, and an exaggerated
startle response,’ says Dr Naidoo.
Coping techniques
‘First, ensure you’ve received appropriate treatment
to process the emotions you’re experiencing,’ says
Dr Naidoo. She suggests that once treatment’s
underway, you can use some of the following
self-help strategies to cope with situations that are
triggers for you, including:
Practising relaxation techniques
Avoiding unhealthy behaviours
Becoming aware of your triggers
Anticipating and planning a coping strategy for
triggers
Calling someone you trust if you’re feeling
triggered
Keeping a journal
Engaging in regular exercise
Reading self-help books to add new coping
strategies
Practising mindfulness
Practising self-soothing
Practising deep breathing
‘Since avoidance only reinforces PTSD symptoms,
systematic exposure to your triggers offers the most
benefit. Instead of feeling helpless and depressed,

events and are usually
personal and specific, Dr
Naidoo explains.
Common internal
triggers include
Stress
Anxiety
Feeling overwhelmed
Racing heart
Anger
Sadness
Feelings of loneliness
location that reminds
you of a traumatic
event
An anniversary date
A violent movie
A particular smell
Seeing an overly thin
celebrity (in the case
of anorexia)
Loud noises
A particular
interaction
(e.g., an argument)
facing your triggers could help you view yourself
time alone
as resilient, when done in a gradual way. Empower
Feeling judged
yourself by preparing to cope with triggers. Become
Financial problems
aware of signs in your body that you’re reacting to
Physical illness
a trigger, such as changes in your breathing, so that
Sexual harassment you can learn how to calm yourself down and shift
A particular time your emotional state. Your ultimate goal should be
of day (e.g. sunset) to detach yourself from the trigger, re-centre, and
Being in a crowded focus on your coping strategy,’ advises Dr Naidoo.
place If you’re feeling triggered on a regular basis and
Taste unable to cope with various situations or feelings
Textures or that arise in your mind or body, it’s important to
sensations on the skin seek professional help.

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Que e n Be e YOU’VE PROBABLY FELT THE WRATH OF HER STING AT SOME POINT
IN YOUR LIFE, BUT HOW CAN YOU AVOID BEING PULLED INTO HER DRAMA?
O
h no. Yet another school
cake sale coming up and you
already know fellow class
mom Sandy, a housewife/Pilates
instructor/soccer and ballet mom/
self-proclaimed School Mom of the
Year will be bombarding the moms on
the WhatsApp group with messages
instructing you on how to participate
If you’ve watched the movie Bad
Moms, where hard-working mom
Amy (played by Mila Kunis) finally
decides to take a stand against the
parent-teacher association head
and mom bully Gwendolyn (played
by Christina Applegate) you’ll
understand the concept of the Queen
Bee. And just like Amy does in the
movie, counselling psychologist Rakhi
Beekrum says there are ways to
navigate the prima donna in your life.
96 yourfamily.co.za
The Queen Bee Syndrome
Almost every clique of friends in school has
one girl who asserts herself as the leader,
pulling other girls around her to take up the
role of her followers. This concept can be
seen in childhood and runs right through
to adulthood. So how and why do some
women develop the Queen Bee persona?
‘A lot has to do with an individual’s
personality,’ Rakhi explains. ‘A child who’s
always been the centre of attention in
their family and always got whatever they
wanted can easily grow up expecting this
attention from others. And other people
with low self-esteem, difficult as it may
be to believe, need to be the centre of
attention to feel validated, because they
feel inadequate inside.’
So typically, a Queen Bee is a woman
who was a mean girl at school and
continues playing this role into adulthood.
Why don’t women
stick together?
A number of the scenarios where this
trend plays out seem to be as a result
of competition. ‘While it isn’t always the
case that women aren’t supportive of
one another, it is common. Our childhood
may play a role as we’re often raised in
competitive environments, which stem
from as early as school and sport,’ Rakhi
explains. In both these spheres children
are encouraged to compete against
one another to get the highest marks
and come first in the swimming gala,
both of which they’re rewarded for. ‘So,
these environments may instil the belief
that there aren’t enough resources for
everyone.’
Starting from when puberty sets in
right until adulthood, women are exposed

to impossible stereotypes in the media, where
they’re led to believe they have to be the
prettiest and thinnest in the room, so they can
be successful and find their Prince Charming,
resulting in unhealthy competition. Added
to that are the realities of gender imbalances
in the workplace, where there aren’t enough
women in certain careers and higher
management levels, naturally increasing the
competition between the few women already
in those work spaces.
‘The reality is that there’s enough pie for
everyone to share. But when women don’t
realise this, they see their peers as their
competition, and get stuck in this unhealthy
comparison game.’
Why do others conform?
Observing from the outside, it’s difficult to
comprehend why women are so quick to
succumb to Queen Bee’s control. Why don’t
they just stand up to her?
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‘It’s because they’re usually charming and
well-connected, so those who want to fit in
are easily controlled, as they’re willing to do
whatever it takes to be part of the trendy
crowd,’ Rakhi explains. ‘Queen Bees are likely
to attract people-pleasers and empaths
who find it difficult to assert themselves
even when they’re unhappy, or who always
try to see the good in them despite feeling
hurt or unvalued in the friendship. Queen
Bees can also be controlling in that when
they’re called out for bad behaviour, they can
become emotional and make you feel bad
for asserting yourself.’
RELATIONSHIPS
HOW TO HANDLE THEM
1 YOUR MOM OR SISTER
Do you have a controlling mom or sister who is always critical of you?
But you often find yourself giving in and taking their “advice” because you
feel you need their approval. ‘The first step is to be comfortable with not
getting their approval at all. Before agreeing to do something, ask yourself
who you’re trying to please: them or you? Only do what is not going to
cause resentment,’ says Rakhi. ‘You don’t need to do something that you
don’t want to just to make them happy and keep the peace. You can learn to
tolerate the discomfort they make you may feel for saying no. If they try find
other ways to manipulate you, remain calm but firm and say no again. Don’t
make excuses or lie.’
2 THE SCHOOL MOM
She makes sure her presence is felt by the whole school, including her
children’s class teachers and sports coaches. And she wants to ensure her
children are the best at everything. In this case you need to know what your
priorities are. Your only concern should be that your child is happy at school
and try to be of assistance to the teachers as and when you can. If Sandy
tries to bully everyone into participating in one of the school activities, only
accept it if it’s in line with your priorities. ‘If you have different ideas from
her, make your voice heard. You don’t have to accept terms that you don’t
agree with,’ says Rakhi.
3 YOUR FRIENDSHIP CIRCLE
Do you find yourself in a grown-up version of the hierarchical girl clique
you were part of in high school? Unfortunately it does happen that you fall
into the same trap again, or you find yourself just not being able to let go
of your prima donna best friend. Whatever the reason may be, you need to
set firm boundaries. Your concern should be less about getting your friend’s
approval, and more about setting a good example to your kids about what
healthy friendship dynamics are.
‘Reflect on how you feel around your friend and consider what purpose
they serve in your life. If you often feel depleted after speaking to them,
consider whether you need to make yourself less available. For example,
be clear that you feel disrespected when she cancels plans at the last
minute and you’d prefer it if she could give advanced notice; or you feel
undervalued when she doesn’t take your opinions into consideration. It may
be time to start being selective about how much time you spend with them.’
4 THE WORK BULLY
Office politics are trickier to navigate, because you can’t avoid going to
work. The Workplace Bullying Institute released a 2017 report showing that
80% of women bully female co-workers. Furthermore, other research has
found that women experience a greater frequency of abuse, bullying, and
job sabotage when working under female bosses. If you experience this it’s
best to put your head down, remind yourself why you’re in that environment
and mind your own business. ‘You’re there to do your job to the best of your
ability and most importantly, earn a living for your family. Try not to get
caught up in office politics. If you’re their target, be firm and assertive. Most
of the time bullies pick on people who don’t stand up for themselves. Being
courageous will show the bully you’re not an easy target. What’s important
is not tolerating disrespect. If it’s circumstances that you can’t walk away
from, then just focus on your job and let your work speak for itself.
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MAD ABOUT PETS
LIFE ON THE ANIMAL FRONT

with
Dr Michael
Ferreira

Q  My five-year-old dog refuses to eat

her dry canine food. She only wants to
eat the saucy canned meat. This has been
happening since she was a puppy. I’ve tried
buying all kinds of dry food. Tinned food is
more expensive and we’re trying to cut costs.
Is there a solution?

A  It seems she has trained you well! Dogs

aren’t spiteful; they just do what works for
them. If they figure out a certain action leads
to a reaction they like, they’ll repeat this to get
their desired effect. Show some tough love.
Don’t stress that she’ll starve; dogs don’t have
the willpower to commit to a hunger strike.
They’ll eventually give in to their deprivation and
will eat, albeit reluctantly. If she doesn’t eat the
Cats mirror your behaviour dry food on the first day, she should give in by
the end of day two when she realises the soft
It’s a known fact that conscientiousness, who were friendlier saucy food isn’t being served. The key is to hold
pets pick up on their extroversion, openness had cats that were well out a bit longer, because she has realised that
owner’s emotions – if and neuroticism. They behaved and generally if she refuses to eat the food she doesn’t like,
you’re sad, your dog were asked questions healthier. the tastier food will eventually be served if she’s
may try comfort you. about their personalities, The study raised patient enough. Another trick is to turn eating

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ALWAYS CONSULT YOUR VET OR ANIMAL BEHAVIOURIST FOR SPECIFIC INFORMATION REGARDING YOUR PETS.
New research shows in relation to their cats’ awareness about the dry food into a game through making use of

NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL VETERINARY ADVICE, DIAGNOSIS, AND TREATMENT.
AND SUPPLIED THE ADVICE CONTAINED HERE IS STRICTLY FOR INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES. THE CONTENT IS
that cats not only pick behaviour, health, and certain personalities and food-dispensing toys or puzzles. This will engage
up on their owners’ lifestyle. The results behaviours in humans, her and ‘reward’ her every time she puts effort
stress levels, but may found that cats mirrored like openness and in. Consistency is key, so make sure you’re the
also mimic their owners’ their owners’ behaviour conscientiousness being one in control.
personality traits. as the traits were linked healthier for cats, since
The research to different behaviours these behaviours made
was conducted by
Nottingham Trent
in felines. For example,
people with high levels
them more sociable and
less anxious.
PET SELFIE
of neuroticism were
University, where they
surveyed over 3 000 more likely to have
of the Month
cat owners, who were cats with behavioural Archie the cat and Vanessa the dog live in Somerset
scored according to problems like West and are both rescue animals. Although Archie
the Big Five Inventory aggression, fearfulness is almost three years old, he’s never managed to
personality traits: and stress-related grow out of his kitten meow. In fact, he insists on
agreeableness, illnesses; while people starting his day with a bowl of milk. Both Archie
and Vanessa have a strange fascination with
laundry. Archie likes to spend his day sleeping
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a type of whale poop that’s yellowish-grey particularly fond of eating flip-flops, and just about
and greasy, is produced in the intestines anything she can get into her mouth.
of sperm whales. It’s a prized scent used If you and your pets would like to be featured as our next ‘Pet Selfie of the
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BOOK
HOLDER

1.8m leather strap (ours

was 35mm wide) – you
may need to join shorter
straps together using
staples
wooden curtain ring
masking tape
stapler

01 Join the leather straps to

make a continuous length
around 1.8m. Loop the
leather strap around the
ring twice, and tape the
ends together so that the
pieces align neatly.
02 Fasten the edges together
using 4-5 staples. Remove
the tape.
03 Hang from a sturdy screw
(properly drilled into your
wall using a wall plug).
04 Hang your books, mags
and notebooks within
easy reach.

HANGING
PLANTER

2 equal leather straps

(ours measure 15mm wide 03 Make two small holes
by 550mm long) at each of the four

leather punch or hammer
and punch
waxed thread
large-eye needle
01 Lay the two straps
perpendicular to each
other, and make two holes
CRAFT AND STYLING: JANINE COLLINS

ends. Using a long
piece of waxed thread,
thread through all four
intersecting ends, and
through both holes TOWEL RING
in each end. Draw up brass ring
enough thread to make a small leather offcut,
long hanging loop. Knot about 15-18cm in length

through both straps using securely. leather punch or hammer

a leather punch (the holes and punch
must line up). TIP
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02 Use the wax thread to
sew through the two
holes and both straps to
keep them securely at
right angles to each other.
Bind off and trim thread.
Waxed thread is super strong
and is used to hold stitches
securely in place when
working with leather. You’ll
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01 Fold a piece of leather in
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02 Fix to a wall using a
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THESE QUICK EASTER CRAFTS WILL WELCOME YOUR GUESTS
FROM THE MOMENT THEY STEP THROUGH YOUR DOOR

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 CRAFT

SOCK BUNNY
DOOR STOP
Turn a sock inside out and
draw an ear design on the
toe section of the sock.
Hand or machine stitch
around the markings and
cut around the ears. Turn
inside out and stuff with
toy stuffing about ¾ full.
Fill in the base with dried
beans or tiny stones. Sew
the base closed. Stitch a
small ‘T’ for the nose.

EASTER WREATH
Cut off the hook from a wire coat
hanger. Shape into a circle. Secure
the ends together with florist tape
and wrap tape around the entire
circle. Use a thin wire or florist wire
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around the wreath. You can also
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 A laid-back young rider at the
end of a trail ride in Karkloof.

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Horsing about
Midlands
LITTLE BEATS RIDING A WELL-SCHOOLED HORSE THROUGH THE MIST BELTS
OF KWAZULU-NATAL, AND IT’S A TRIP THE WHOLE FAMILY WILL ENJOY
ntil
U recently,
wild
horses
couldn’t
have dragged me to
mount a horse. Majestic
though they are, horses
scare me stiff. Their size,
and hooves that can kick
you into next week, are
some of the reasons I
steer clear of them.
However, equestrian
friends of mine
insist that riding’s an
exhilarating experience.
‘You’ve no idea what
you’re missing!’ And so,
FOMO (Fear of Missing
Out) trumping FOFO
(Fear of Falling Off),
I race off to the KZN
Midlands to conquer
my equinophobia at
selected trail-riding
establishments.
Midlands Meander
Horse Trails
Midlands Meander
Horse Trails operates
from a tranquil farm in
Lidgetton. Belinda and
Adam Campbell offer
OUT AND ABOUT
in the
several trails, starting Club – sharing some
with pony rides for small
children and progressing
to cross-country
outrides to Caversham
for experienced riders.
My level is
Introduction to Riding
interesting facts about
riding. Did you know an
hour-long ride burns
as many calories (in
the human) as does a
30-minute jog? Now
there’s a compelling
(a rung up from pony reason to ride!
rides) and Belinda gives I learn too that most
me the lowdown on of Belinda’s herd are, Adam and Belinda
fundamentals such as like Savannah, rescues Campbell outside
the Waffle Inn, which
where to stand (at the she’s rehabilitated adjoins their book
horse’s shoulder), safety lounge and mohair
wool room at Midlands
protocol, and equestrian Meander Horse Trails.
etiquette, like mounting
on the near (left) side.
That established,
we head out on a
trail though scenic
countryside, Belinda in
front holding a lead-
rein attached to my
ride, Savannah, who
was rescued from the
abattoir. I couldn’t have
anticipated a more
pleasing, confidence-
boosting introduction
to riding.
We chat all the
way, with Belinda – a
Springbok polocrosse Katina and Bruce
Saville with two of th
player and chair of the eir
much-loved horses.
Lion’s River Polocrosse
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that
Katina Saville checks
r be fo re th e
all is in orde
mo rn ing po ny
Saturday
out.
club members ride
using a natural, horse-
whisperer approach.
She has a close rapport
with horses, which isn’t
surprising when you
consider she’s been
around them for as long
as she can remember.
‘I rode with my mother
when I was a baby and
got my first pony when I
was four.’
Back at the farm, I
replace all those lost
calories with one of the
scrumptious waffles
Adam conjures up in
the Waffle Inn, a rustic
café that looks onto
paddocks, where horses
graze and geese mingle
with Angora goats,
whose mohair wool is
spun and sold on site.
An added attraction at
this pleasingly eclectic
venue is the Last Chance
Book Lounge, a treasury
of second-hand books
over which I’d have
lingered if I’d had the
HANDY CONTACTS
Midlands Meander Horse Trails, call Belinda
on 082 401 4361
Karkloof Horse Adventures, call Katina on
083 480 2051
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Katina runs a regualr
Saturday morning pony
club for children .
chance. But I must ranging from rides of
gallop off to another up to two hours on the
appointment, with farm to a three-hour
another horse. picnic adventure to the
Karkloof Falls. ‘We also
Karkloof Horse offer long, peaceful
Adventures ambles through the local
In 2001, Katina and plantations to the falls,’
Bruce Saville opened says Katina.
Karkloof Horse A favourite trail
Adventures on their for advanced riders
165-hectare farm in the is the game ride on a
Karkloof Valley. ‘We neighbouring farm.
were the first to offer Katina also gives lessons
trails in the Midlands,’ and runs a regular Geese welcome guests at
Karkloof Horse Adventures.
says Katina, who started Saturday morning
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riding when she was pony club for children.
eight and continues to Arriving on a Saturday
ride competitively, along morning, I encounter to a tepee on a hill was a Survivor Camp
with daughter Echo- a group of confident overlooking Albert Falls modelled on the TV
Rain who, Bruce says, children preparing for Dam. It’s one of several series,’ Bruce says.
cantered before she their ride. It’s uplifting tepees dotted about the Challenges included
could walk. to see them pursuing a farm. obstacle courses,
The family has healthy outdoor activity. Bruce handcrafts treasure hunts, and
14 much-loved ‘Happy healthy horses them as a side line. an eating trial. By all
horses, most of them and happy kids is our They’re a big attraction accounts, the kids had
Boerperde. ‘They’re a mantra,’ Katina says. for children participating a blast, and so did I!
versatile breed with a The children start in pony camps during Exploring the Midlands
sound temperament,’ out, Katina and I school holidays. ‘The on horseback is not to
says Katina. There are and sundry dogs most famous one so far be missed.
trails to suit all levels, accompanying them
on foot across unspoilt
grasslands where the
ALONG FOR THE RIDE
Most of the venues offer instruction and
rest of the herd grazes. tailor-made riding packages. They will
They gallop over to join also recommend nearby accommodation.
the party. I’m wary of Alternatively, consult the Midlands
those hooves, but not Meander guide. Call 033 330 8195 or visit
in a panic. We come Midlandsmeander.co.za
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KEEP YOUR BRAIN ACTIVE WITH THESE FUN DOWNTIME ACTIVITIES

1 2 3 4 5-MINUTE ENDANGERED
SPECIES WORDS
5
CLUES
ACROSS DOWN
6 7 2 Species of 1 Flightless bird native
endangered shark, to New Zealand
…..(5) shark 3 Long-fingered lemur,
8 5 Large herbivore, …-aye
resembling pig 4 Large mammal,
7 Species of African or Asian
endangered tuna, 5 Varieties of this dog-
big … (3) like animal include
9 10 11 8 Large ungulate swift, arctic, grey, red
native to north 8 Pymgy chimpanzee
America 10 Canis lupus arctos,
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native to central and 11 Endangered cat
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13
11 Saltwater fish
belonging to
Thunnini family
13 European sturgeon
14 Type of bear
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MIND MATHS
Use the small numbers once each to make the large
number. You may multiply, divide, add or subtract,
but make sure you use all the numbers only once.
2 5 7 7 50 100 917

BOGGLE WORD WHEEL

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W A R I Make as many words
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