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Life Full of Experience
Life Full of Experience
EXPERIENCE
BEATRICE M. OLADOJA
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DEDICATION
This book is joyfully dedicated to all Teenagers, Youths and Adults, who
have purposed never to give up on their dreams irrespective of their
present or past experiences.
Youths, who had their teenage lives filled with situations that are not
palatable and yet they did not give in to depression or made quitting an
option.
Adults, who choose to impact knowledge and wisdom to teenagers
around them based on what they had experienced.
I want to encourage you all to keep standing, never to give up. God bless
you for your determination. Amen.
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ACKNOWLEDGMENT
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My Friends and Brothers; Abayomi Mordecai and Olabisi Ayomide; for the
constant reminder of the book, for the support and encouragement. May
you never be stranded in life.
To my Editor, Okegbile Olawale, for reading through and making all the
necessary corrections, I say, a big 'thank you'.
Lastly, to you reading this book, thank you for the commitment to pick this
up. I hope you are blessed beyond measure with this amazing book.
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FOREWORD
Ms. Beatrice has written in a concise and clear way about some of the
penitent aspects that make up someone's experiences. She did well, as
each chapter is well cut out examples versified with biblical passages.
She said emphatically that life is fun and amazing but not without hurdles.
Life is not bed of roses. There will be a time when people around you will
fail to appreciate you. When life seems not to be fair; choose to be strong.
One of the thrust of this book is irrespective of what you are going through
in life, and you have gone through, stay positive. Don't give up on your
dreams, trust God and when you make mistakes, break free from its
shackles. Every pages of this book is loaded and worth reading. I know you
will be glued to this book until you consume every page of it. No life is void
of experience; life is indeed full of experiences.
Chapter 2: Mercy
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
Chapter 7: Shackles 21
Chapter 9: Integrity 28
Teenagers have emotions, too! My life as a teenager and introvert girl was
full of different experiences. It was full of both good and painful
experiences but remember life is not a bed of roses. Teenage age was
impactful, life changing and most especially, a training ground. Though
being an introvert child was so challenging but the experiences it brought,
is never a barrier to success. Your personality is your uniqueness. It was in
the phase of growth that I discovered that even though I am an introvert, I
could still move out of my comfort zone and break out of shell.
Teenagers are not different from anyone else. They have many of the
same problems adults have, but they are less equipped with knowledge,
experience and ways in dealing with them. The fact is, we learn much
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more about life from the things we go through. We gain knowledge from
books; we gain experience from life.
Some teens do have more common sense than some adults. Not all adults
are doing what they should be doing in life. It seems almost everyone has
personal problems, and I have observed that people with problems
usually cause problems for those they are in a relationship with.
You as a teenager may be facing some difficult problems in your life right
now. Those problems did not just appear suddenly; there is a reason, a
root cause for them. Nevertheless, there is also a solution.
In this book, we are going to explore some of the teenage problems, their
cause and ways to overcome them. I believe that God wants your teen
years to be a happy, healthy, exciting time of life, one filled with positive
learning experiences.
I pray that reading this book will be one of those positive experiences for
you in which you will learn that God loves you, your parents love you,
everyone around you love you and with God's help, you can overcome
every problem and become the person He created you to be!
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CHAPTER 1
DREAM
“If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything.”
When there is no vision, wish or desire, you follow the crowd and get
lost easily. Stop being a follower of someone else's vision or goal. You
are diminishing yourself that way. Have a dream.
Proverbs 2:11 – “wise planning will watch over you. Understanding will
keep you safe.” (NLT)
What would be life without a dream? The life of man has become so
complicated that most has lost the sight of their primary goal; dream,
hope and wish. The dream of our youth, the dream of bliss; what we keep
looking intently at, in the midst of all restraints. What we continue to
thrive at, till they become true and real.
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My wishes, my dreams
The things that I want and hope for,
The things I wish to achieve and acquire
And to live my life in peace and harmony
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From this poem, what Joy dreamt is not yet in existence but she kept
thriving and working hard. Dear Teenagers, giving up on your dream is
never an option. Nobody has the right to make you feel worthless. You have
a worth, know who you are in Christ.
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On the path of dreams, there are doubts on the way. The pathway to
excellence is always rocky but perseverance and endurance pushes you
through. Discouragement will come forth, but they are not for you to give
up, but to keep you thriving. Creations are waiting for your flight.
Generations are waiting. Don't ever disappoint them.
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CHAPTER 2
MERCY
There is always an unexpected moment in everyone's life. A moment where
you got what you don't deserve. The time when you are left in awe and
possibly amazed in response to what you experienced. When such moments
come, do you see everything that happened as what you merited? You are
entitled to every good thing as a child of God but in return, you must have a
heart of gratitude.
Psalm 103: 8-11 -“The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and
plenteous in mercy. He will not always chide; neither will he keep his
anger for ever. He has not dealt with us according to our iniquities. As far
as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions
from us.”
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Going through the poem, I thought of the story of a young lady. She was
dedicated to God's work and was zealous for the things of God. In church,
in school, at home, anywhere she got to, her passion for God was always
shown. Unfortunately, while in the journey, she got entangled in the sin of
watching pornography. She knew it was bad but she couldn't help herself
out of the situation. She was unable to open up to anybody due to fear of
being chastised and rejected. She was on the journey to heaven but not
enjoying the trip at all. She was always home alone, suffered betrayal from
friends, believed she wasn't loved by anybody, had low self esteem which
cost her, her academic excellence. Everybody thought she was strong but
deep inside, she knew what she was going through. Friends didn't notice
her then, she was neglected and it was such a horrible moment in school.
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Almost seven years of being sad and lonely, battling a lot, her trust
betrayed, love denied, and all her soul cried for, was revenge. Then she
met with a friend who looked beyond her sin of watching pornography, all
guilt, all pains of betrayal; He showed her mercy. She was given the heart
that loves unconditionally; she was restored, and released all the guilt.
She remained strong and being dedicated more to the things of God. The
friend's name is Jesus. She focused on the future and forgets the past for
there is now no condemnation for her who is in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:1).
If Jesus can do that for someone like that, then He can do much more for
you.
If Jesus can do that for someone like that, then He can do much more for
you.
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CHAPTER 3
LONELY DAYS
Never must you forget that you are human; likewise your friends. They are not
perfect, neither are you. When friends begin to act like the human they really
are; don't blame them but see beyond the change. Don't be depressed instead
learn your lessons and keep moving.
Deuteronomy 31:6 -“Be strong and be of good courage, do not fear nor be
afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the one who goes with you. He
will not leave you nor forsake you.”
D aily, we come across situations with which we don't agree to. Some
relationships can become bondage and a cause of our sorrow at one point
or the other. We expect happiness out of a relationship but the outcome
sometimes turns out to be just the opposite. At that time, we feel
shocked, making us unhappy. Our trust on others suffers a setback and
we become unsure of ourselves. Most people turns out to be unhappy,
making them isolate themselves from people around them.
Temmy's story:
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Times, seasons and life changes so does man, too. The period when you
are left in sixes and seven, don't start blaming, feeling emotionally hurt or
trust betrayed. You have a decision in such situation; either to learn from
the situation and get better or focus on the dark side and remain pitiful for
being left alone. Remember that God is with you always, therefore, you
don't have to worry.
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CHAPTER 4
John 16:33- “I have told you these things so that in me you may have
perfect pace and confidence. In the world you have tribulation and trials
and distress and frustration; but of good cheer [take courage; be
confident, certain, undaunted]! For I have overcome the world. [I have
deprived it of the power to harm you and have conquered it for you.]”
A pencil is a writing material with an eraser built in. The main purpose of
using pencil sometimes is that, one can easily erase what is being written
with pencil. It's possible I planned my to do list tomorrow starting from
today and peradventure by tomorrow, I did not agree with what was
written yesterday, I can just take my eraser easily and clean it off. The
same is the case with life. Today, friends may promise you heaven on
earth, tomorrow they might say, '' hell no, who wants to be your friend''
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Life situation can be challenging and overwhelming. It could be fun and
amazing. Life's journey has never been on a straight path, it has always
been full of vicissitudes. When you are faced with unpleasant situations,
what will be your actions toward it? Regardless of the situations, choose
to be strong. Some days, staying strong can be so exhausting that giving
up seems like the easiest option. However, what you must always
remember is that God has assured us of victory and he never stopped
reminding us to ask to ask Him for strength.
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CHAPTER 5
Isaiah 59:1- “Listen! The lord is not too weak to save you, and he is not
becoming deaf. He can hear you when you call”.
Can they be recovered? How much I would love if they can be recovered.
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The zeal that was lost to the pleasure of confidently chatting with friends
constantly
Ohhh! I need them all again
I was never bothered about losing them until I became empty of them
Self respect has gone on the lane of asking all ladies that I came across out
Precious self that I lost on the bed of 5-minutes enjoyment
During the gathering and sitting of mockery and making jest, truth
consciousness is gone
I lost interest in fellowshipping with other believers
Ignored church activities
When last I have picked up my bible to read?
Can I ever get back all this?
The answer to the raging questions that traumatize people is YES, all can
be recovered. Provided, you are intentional about getting back what you
have lost. You are aware about the enemy of your soul then you must be
ready to fight back, get back on your feet and restore all that has been lost
with the help and strength of God. It is a great assurance that all can be
recovered and restored back to you.
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CHAPTER 6
PERFECT STRANGER
I have always thought there is a perfect being somewhere. Guess what? I was
wrong as nobody is perfect. You will not always be applauded. Sometimes,
you will be accepted. Other times, you will be criticized. But don't let those
words get into you. Never stop growing to be a better you. Renew your mind
daily on your reality in Christ not what they think of you.
Ephesians 2:9 – “we don't play the major role. If we did, we would probably
go around bragging that we had done the whole thing.”
Are you wondering what perfect stranger could mean already? You
have no need to worry, just follow me closely.
So, combining the two words gave us perfect stranger which I will
interpret to mean '' the flawless being whom I'm yet to meet or get
acquainted with.'’
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People never realize that I was hurting based on words and jokes
And I held on to the pain deep inside.
I learnt to let it go.
I was admonished to be anxious for nothing but to rejoice always.
Finally, to refuse to be insulted by anybody.
I hope you understand my letter to you, oh, perfect being.
With love from,
A princess with a perfect King.
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Your past does not defines you. Your identity can only be defined by your
creator and can be perfectly understood by you alone. You are you!
Possibly you have wandered away from the creator's definition of you and
tune your volume to the perfect stranger's identity; it's never late to turn
back to the creator who knows your real identity. Prove to the perfect
stranger that you have a perfect creator as a father who created a
wonderful and unique being. Remind the perfect stranger that it was then
you lost connection with Him but you have been renewed and perfected
with your perfect father.
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CHAPTER 7
SHACKLES
I know you have a past you wish no one will ever discover, and you are
probably battling with guilt, resentment and pain that the mistakes made,
have caused. It is good to feel sober but being held down by shackles of the
past is dangerous. Though you are being held, you can break free with the
help of God. Choose to be a warrior and not a worrier. If you are yet to be
trapped in it's den; don't give in.
In life, there are different lessons to learn from the mistakes of people
shared in the pages of books. Books that embed in it stories of people of
various ages and categories, who held on to guilt, pain, hurts and
resentment of the past.
Numerous people have been drowning, they have been constrained in
their actions, activities and even progress due to different experiences
they have had.
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Blaming myself for being entangled
I gave room for the unwanted pleasure
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He made every meal void of the nutrient for my growth
The thief comes only to steal, to kill and to destroy
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Bringing his tricks again here and there
Now I am with the lion of tribe of Judah
The enemy of our soul however, has a way of selling us his lies to get us
trapped especially when it comes to pain, hurt, guilt, restaurant may past
life. Remember the consequences of one person differs from another.
The lady in the story got mercy on time, another person may get mercy
but the situation may leave that person in a devastating way Grace differs,
destinies are not the same. Don't wait till you experience the
consequence of being held in shackles. Run back to God. It's for your own
good.
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CHAPTER 8
Isaiah 44:2 -'' GOD who made you has something to say to you; the God
who formed you in the womb wants to help you. Don't be afraid, dear
servant Jacob, Jeshurun, the one I chose.'’
DIANA'S STORY
Thinking about how the past years were,
Thoughts of how things was done started playing back
Remembering the experiences, I had
And the pain, hurt I held on to,
I regretted them all.
The period I held on to the feeling of “I wished I had not done that”.
Memories on how I was neglected by friends.
The challenges I had concerning my body stature and size
Oh! I hate the girl I was
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Those unpleasant periods came fresh on my mind
The thought of “I shouldn't have existed”.
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Why would I have preferred to dress that way?
I kept asking these questions.
Many people have been faced with different challenges during their early
life. Challenges like:
Many young people, who could not let it all off, held on to the pain and
hurt received just like Diana's story. The world is getting to a place where
you cannot base your life on what someone says, unless you will be
deceived if you don't know who you are in God yourself. Many people will
sell to you, philosophies, facts, and opinions that are not yours, thus taking
advantage of your ignorance. Anyone who cannot accept you the way you
are but rather make jest of you in anyway is up to no good.
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CHAPTER 9
INTEGRITY
Trading with the wrong master will cause your soul to be malnourished. Devil
is a bad master that will nourish you with sin. There is a great master who
nourishes His children with every good and perfect thing. Choose the right
master for yourself; stand firm; and focus on who you are in Him.
Deuteronomy 30:19 – I call heaven and earth to witness against you today;
I place before you life and death, blessing and curse. Choose life so that
you and your children will live. (MSB)
I had fear
I had low esteem
I had failed
I had suffered emotionally
Due to different challenges that Diana had experienced, she had hard
times developing and maintaining good relationships because she had
fear of what people will say. For many years, she had difficulties in her life
but she blamed others for her own circumstances. All she held on to was
that all the people in her life needed to change so that they could get
along.
A moment you can't see the next step to take, that moment when you are
put in a six and seven condition, so dark that you have to stay on a spot to
take a decision either to give up or take charge. When you get to that
moment, don't let situations determine what you do. Go back to God and
find out what He says about it.
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CHAPTER 10
ISOLATION
Life will not always be fair. There are times you will be forced to isolate yourself
from others. When such moment comes, always remember the Omnipresent.
He has always been there for the past, yours can't be an exception.
2 Corinthians 4:9- we are hunted down but God never abandons us. We
get knocked down but we get up again and keep going.
Have you ever been isolated or you intentionally isolate yourself from
others? Isolation according to The English Dictionary means the state of
being away from other people, to set apart or cut off from others. Being
isolated or neglected by others could be devastating, but do you know
that someone had been with you all these while? THE PERSON IS JESUS.
We've all been faced with different situations but some people went
through it alone, they motivated themselves, encourage themselves and
yet they stood strong. Some people got rejected by friends due to what
they were passing through, hence had nobody around them. Let's learn
from Sarah's story:
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Ensuring I gave them the best I could afford
Always ready to listen and be of help
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Life turned misery and miserable
I was tagged the bad girl
Her story ended with “How could life be that unfair?” It's possible such
questions has been pondering in your mind too for a while now, but I have
an answer for you today.
Life will not always be fair nor will it always be unfair, but despite all the
situations and challenges of life, remember always that you are not alone.
Periods when you thought all is doom for you since friends has distanced
themselves or life's situations when you thought you need people around
but nobody was there to help out; It's not yet over because you have
someone who is Omnipresent and that's your father. He is ever present
with you.
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CHAPTER 11
Jer.1.5 - "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; before you were
born I sanctified you; I ordained you a prophet to the nations."
That fulfilled the saying that “The best of a man is still a man”.
Most people nowadays relate with others based on how they behave
physically not knowing that behind those broad smiles are hidden tears,
past experiences and all. So the moment you change or you are able to
break out of your tears and they noticed the changed YOU, thereby
criticizing, judging, and creating a distance from the changed you.
HANNAH'S story
I love the lady I am
To the woman I will be, I say kudos to you
Nobody can make me feel worthless
For he has created me to be priceless.
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I am unique
I love how I'm created
The smile I always put on
Yes! I am not an accident.
Hannah thought that due to the change that happened, she would be
accepted of all but her expectations were cut short. The main lesson now
is that change, because you need to change. People's comment will not
always be pleasing but out of the comment, pick the ones that are yours,
shuffle them and throw the rest into the trashcan. Never allow those
comments to hold you down to the extent that it will alter the changed
'you' after. HOLD ON TO THE CHANGED YOU, positively.
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CHAPTER 12
FAITHFUL DAYS
Situations you have been through came to build you up and made you strong.
You might be going through overwhelming challenges but my advice for you
is that you look beyond the situation and see glorious days ahead.
Psalm 30:5 – “Weeping may last for the night but joy comes in the
morning.”
You may have been faced with different life's experiences but there
always lie ahead, faithful days.
“For there is hope for a tree, if it is cut down, that it will sprout again and
that its tender shoots will not cease.”
Though life challenges might have cut you down, that you felt all hope is
lost, but when there is life, there is always hope. The period you were
down might be the darkest hour but there is always a light after each dark
tunnel. Glorious days lies ahead of you, don't give up in the midst of the
storm.
Ireoluwa's Testimony:
The day my hope fades
And on the same day my dream died
The day my life went dead
And on the same day that I was killed
Psalm 147:4
God is not a man that he should lie; he says you are chosen not forsaken;
he heals the broken hearted and binds up their wound. That situation is
not the end of you; it remains a step out of it. Giving up is never an option.
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CHAPTER 13
DATING
Beware of wolves in human skin that will ask you out for relationship, knowing
fully well that you are not their future partner, but just to catch pleasure out of
it. In any way you might have defined the word “dating”, what you get
yourselves involved in during that period matters most. Are you not selling
out your worth for a cheap price because of the relationship you are in? You
are expensive, treat yourself as one. Don't mess yourself up. Be smart.
The word “dating” has thrown many young minds into confusion. As a
noun, date is one's companion for social activities or occasions or it could
mean a romantic meeting or outing with a lover or potential lover. As a
reciprocal verb, it means to be romantically involved with each other. We
see from the definitions that, it is practically impossible to speak about
dating accurately without the word Romance.
It's needful to mention here that research has shown that the most
abused word in our world today is Love. Many people use the word on a
daily basis without actually knowing what it really means. An exhaustive
meaning of love can be summarized in the verses of the following
scriptures: John 15:13, John 3:16, 1Corinthians 13:1-13.
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The oxford advanced learners dictionary provides eleven (11) “noun”
definitions as well as seven (7) “verb” definitions for the word love, but
none of them contains Jesus' view of love. In the 13th verse of the 15th
chapter of the Gospel.
“Greater love has no man than this, that a man should lay down his life for
his friends”. We know and have discovered a lot of lovers who do not
actually love, how do I know? They cannot lay down their lives for the
person they claim to love.
Let's learn from this :
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Will you still be worthy of that chosen call?
When all seems to dawn that teenagers, youth or adult can no longer be
recognized in a society
Where what you know is wrong begins to show forth as the normality
When you feel proud for doing something wrong
Generation where children could no longer harken to their parent's voice
Do you still remain what you are called for?
Will you be bold to stand for who you are, in this contemporary world?
Will you really be that holy one that the Lord has called?
Do you still work with the heavenly principles or just camouflaging?
Are you still the called brethren or just a bench warmer in that vineyard?
Why do you change from the real you simply because things are changing
and in vogue?
I bet you don't want to get lost in the crowd before realizing yourself back
Will you fall or keep moving despite trending things?
When people are making jest, tossing you here and there because of your
decision to stand out
If friends are encouraging you on the other path, you've chosen
If friends are moving off the track
When circumstances are hitting you hard like a stone
When circumstances seems tempting and look fancy
Will you keep going or look back?
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Times when you feel like you are missing out
Times when you are losing your grip
When emotions, feeling start hitting up as sharp as you think of,
Will you still take your stand?
Why are you choosing to have a clear vision when what you are seeing is still
blurry?
Why are you rushing to get inside the mansion even when it is yet to be
thoroughly furnished for you?
Why are you in a haste to set light on an uncompleted candlestick?
Do you want to end up putting it under the bushel?
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CHAPTER 14
SEX
Do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit? If you secretly
give yourself to a man who is not your husband, you are dishonoring your
body, your parents and God. Therefore, glorify God with your body.
So many people have drifted into error and have made themselves
believe the lie that sex is an authentic prove of love or designed just for
fun. Not at all! Jesus loves you eternally, and he knows what's best for you.
Sex does not prove love; it only shows that lust has gained roots in you.
A generation is fast rising that has changed the definition of SEX to suite
their own satisfaction and fleshy desires, such that if they're not taught
the real reason behind the establishment of sex in the first instance,
upcoming generations will lose touch with the original meaning and
reason of sex.
We have often heard about sex here and there but have you ever
wondered how this three-letter word called “sex” has been changing the
world upside down.
Have you ever wondered how this generation is twisting and changing to
suite their own lust and desires?
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How about lessons from teachers, seminars and conferences?
Have you ever thought of how this contemporary world will turn out to be,
on this issue of sex?
Teachings on keeping yourself pure, chastity, the glory of women and all
Teachings that clearly stated sex is only for marriage
Teachings on abstinence as the key
Friends, where have we missed it?
At what point did our parent miss the teaching?
Where have we strayed away from our parents' teaching?
Sex among teens, not married; sacrificing destiny on the bed of immorality
Truncating glory on the bed of lust
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Destroying lives on the bed of fornication
Damaging glorious images on the bed of adultery
Yet, sex is seen as enjoyment
Yet, it is known as something in vogue
Where exactly did we miss it?
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Love or pleasure can never be determined by how much money a guy
spends on you, his sweet words or caring attitude. Sex is not for fun or
pleasure (for unmarried folks) neither to be expressed on a basis of
friendship. Anyone can show you the side of them they want you to see. It
is only what a person chooses to let you know that you are aware of.
You need a different kind of eyes to see clearly in this morally decayed
generation. When you fall so deeply in love with God, you will see through
the lenses of the Spirit. You will not just fall in love with just anybody, your
love for God will drive you towards healthy relationships. You will not sell
your worth for a pot of porridge. Remember, you are not cheap. No
amount of gift or money can measure up to your glorious destiny. You are
not an object of sexual pleasure. Your footsteps can be others direction.
Tread in a pathway that other people can follow.
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CHAPTER 15
PEACE
Whatever is going on in the world around you, has a great influence on you.
It's fine to feel concerned but there's more to that. Ask. Pray. Plead on behalf of
that situation.
John 16:24 – “Until now you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you
will receive, that your joy may be full.”
John16:33 – “These things I have spoken to you, that in me you may have
peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have
overcome the world.”
Nigeria has been a nation characterized as a land flowing with milk and
honey. She is provided with different mineral resources like crude oil,
petrol and all but she has lacked an important feature in times past to this
moment which is good leaders. Nigeria has a bad leadership, since the
head is bad then the whole body too, is sick. Therefore, the citizens of the
nation at the receiving end, experience different situations that affects
academically, financially even social wise.
Taking for example, in a situation when the government refuse to give the
salary of the workers to them, they conclude on going for strike which
they eventually do and all academic activities are put on hold for students.
This is making us to understand that whatever is going on around us
especially in the nation we are in has the power to affect us either
negatively or positively. The question is in such situation, what do you do
as a child of God? Do you feel concerned by standing in gap for the nation?
Or you feel not concerned thinking you have another nation to travel to if
this nation is failing? Or you feel concerned and worried doing nothing?
You can create a good world for us all through your own participation and
concern for this nation. Let's learn from Sandra's story:
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Through negligence and Ignorance
The country flowing with milk and honey
Lost its peace through conflict
Oh, great nation! Where is thy peace?
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Sandra's comment shows a lot of thought going on in the heart of most
teenagers. They fear what the future holds because of what the nation is
going through. Feasibility study shows that teenagers are mostly faced
with the consequences of what the world around them does to them. The
question now is that, do you as a teenager only feel concerned about what
goes on around you without taking any particular action.
C'mon, enough of being disturbed alone without any action. You are a
child of the one who is able to change situations. Why not cry out on
behalf of the world around you today? It worth your cry and plead,
because the impact it gives will certainly affect you.
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CHAPTER 16
LOVE
God is not relating with you based on your performance, what you do or what
you failed to do. He is not imputing your past life or sin into you. His Love is
unconditional.
Romans 8:36 – “Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors
through Him who loved us.”
Your parent, friends and family might have been disappointed because
of your past mistakes to the extent that you felt neglected. You might
have blamed yourself for years to have done what had occurred and you
hate yourself because of all. There is a father whose arm is wide open and
beckoning on you to come and enjoy his warmth, for his love is beyond
human comprehension.
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Each persons with the way they show love to others,
Different tribe with their unique expression of affection
But I've witnessed a specially packed expression of love
For He looked beyond all that I've done and saw the perfect Praise.
Romans 8:35 – “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall
tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or
sword?”
Yes! Nothing can separate us from the love of the father. No tribulation, no
experience, no hurt nor pain, no guilt or disease can separate us from the
overwhelming love of God. Why? Because his love for humankind is
unconditional.
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CHAPTER 17
BETRAYAL
Never allow anyone make you feel worthless or not having value. There is
always a need for you to focus on the positive side of each situation and
experience you are going through. After all, you learn from the situation. Don't
dwell on the hurt, grow with the lesson and experience. You are priceless.
Psalm 118:8-9 –“It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in
man. It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in princes.”
Firstly, one should analyse whether in a given situation, one has been
betrayed or one is still feeling betrayed. If we objectively undertake such
an analysis, we shall find that in most cases (not all though) the alleged
offender had no intention of betraying our trust or the events which made
us feel betrayed are not deliberate acts. They are either on the account of
one's ignorance, mere innocence, misinformation or our own inferiority
complex.
In such situation, it is mainly our own ego, which makes us feel betrayed.
There can be a number of such situations. For example, you have a friend
who happens to be a close friend, but suddenly you noticed distance
between you both, instead of walking up to the friend to know what is
going on between you, you choose to sit and conclude that despite all
things you have done and shared together, all the best the friend could
offer is creating distance.
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There may be another kind of situation where you have been insulted or
ignored deliberately but in good faith. This is done to make you realise
something which will help you. However, the underlying message is that
there is no cause for feeling betrayed. As a matter of fact, these situations
should refine you and you should be grateful to the person creating such
situation. Let's learn from this experience.
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Get up and leave the hurt and memories behind
Rejoice and dance away the sorrow
Yes, your love has been betrayed
The one whom you trust has disappointed
Refuse to be betrayed. Just allow the situation to refine you. Get the best
out of the situation and throw the negative side into the trash bin.
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CHAPTER 17
LIGHT
Each phase of life comes with its own experience, lesson and result. Whatever
phase you are in presently, do ensure to get the best out of it regardless of
what you are passing through.
When someone or a situation strikes you, glorify the pain; be grateful that
you have a chance to prove your steadfastness and loyalty. A person's test
of strength and wisdom rests on this- how great is your sense of
persevering and enduring when life starts hitting at you hard. It is testing
your sense of equilibrium under stress.
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His thinking are not the same with yours
Yet, it will produce the best result
A wise man is one who can live in peace and keep growing with the phase
he is experiencing and still get the best result couple with growth and
glowing.
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CHAPTER 19
GLORY
Look carefully into everything you passed through and give glory to Him who
alone deserves all the praise. The devil tried you but you stood. Situations
shook you but you kept your balance. You conquered as the real son of Abba
who is always victorious. Think deep and have reasons to give glory to Him.
Philippians 4:19 – “I can do all things through Christ which strengthen me.”
Thinking about how the past years had been and how patiently you have
waited for such a time like this, whom do you return all glory to? To the
one who was shaken, abased, humiliated and failed to stop thriving? Or to
the one that stood by you in all the situations, encouraged you and even
lift you up again reminding you that you can't give up at this moment
because you have come this far?
Who do you return the glory to? Let's share from Flora's story:
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Hatred among peers
Glory to God who saw me through.
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I cried all through the night
I was depressed.
Flora is able to recognize the best person who deserve the glory for
staying and pushing her through all. Don't be too overwhelmed to ignore
the necessary things you ought to do. Return all Glory back to God, today.
Do it now!
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CHAPTER 20
RESTORATION
There is more to those pain and hurt; you can always go through each phase
joined with its own experience in peace and not pieces provided you can hold
on to the one who is faithful. They are all grooming and making you better
conjoined with being a strong person preparing you for the future. Don't only
endure the process, but also, enjoy the process. You are getting there.
Job 22:21 - “Give in to God, come to terms with him and everything will
turn out fine.”
Romans 8:18 – “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are
not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.”
Our present and past situation should not define us negatively. You can
just look beyond now and see the glorious future ahead! And finally,
Philippians 4:6 – “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and
supplication with thanksgiving, let your request be made known to God.”
You have the freedom to talk out and speak out your mind to your
heavenly father when it seems all is not going the way it ought to be. He is
always ready to listen to his own children.
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I went forth weeping
I went off with heavy heart
But I came back rejoicing
I returned with armloads of blessing.
What is the state you are presently? A SPIRIT MAN who is directed by the
Holy Spirit or A NATURAL MAN who is guided by his instinct and sense
alone. With the state of man you are right now, do you think it can sustain
you through life's journey and experiences? Do you think it can help you to
keep rejoicing and enjoying all the experiences even when it's looking
otherwise? Reflect on this!
The only person that can help and keep you rejoicing while sorrowful is
Jesus. If you have not given your life to Christ, the time is now for
tomorrow may be too late. Accepting that God exists is not enough but
you must confess him with your mouth as Lord and savior.
God has loved us before we come into His light and salvation. The Bible
says "when we were yet sinners Christ died for the ungodly.” Can you
fathom that kind of love?
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John 3:16 also reminds us that “For God so loved the world that He gave His
only begotten son, that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but
have everlasting life”
Yes, it's true. God loves you and sent his only son to die for you even in your
sin. Imagine what manner of man that would die for you even when he
knows that you are not dong what is expected of you. If you choose to sin,
you choose to suffer. But Jesus is saying come to me and I will not send
you away.
Isaiah 1:18 - “ Come now, and let us reason together,” says the Lord,
“though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be white as snow; though they
are red like crimson, they shall be as wool.”
Jesus is still accepting those who come to Him no matter the measure
of their sins. It doesn't matter how bad or terrible you have been. It's a
new dawn for you. Embrace His love.
Congratulations!
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About The Author
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About The Book
Ayomide J. Olabisi
The book is a very nice compilation of "the commons" of life and it was not
just a motivational piece; I specifically like how each discussion was
justified by the word of God at the end. I'm saying there is strength to
-Joseph Oladiti
This book is a good read for everyone most especially teens and youths,
because it recognizes your struggles as a youth or teenager, it also talks
about certain phases of life no one would really sit down to discuss with
you and it guides you on how to handle those circumstances. Personally, I
was blessed reading it.
-Aina Fiyinfoluwa
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Teenage years are filled with lots of experiences that form clutters and
complex webs in the soul of very many young people. Maybe this book
will reveal to you, that your personal struggles are not unique. But
certainly, regardless of how messy your experiences have been, the
lessons of this book will show you that you're not defined by them and
that you can be restored back to who you're meant to be. It is good news
to know you can rewrite your story by choosing a path with Jesus, and
continuing in His love as you lead a beautiful and victorious life. It will be
worth it to invest a few hours of your time to be reminded of going past
the things that actually don't matter in your life, to being a person of
virtue and substance.
-Rasheed Olajuwon
-Elizabeth F. Ayoola
-Olatubi Victor.
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-Emmanuel AKINOLA
One of the challenges and draw backs teenagers who are to be potential
leaders face today is the one which happens during their teenage age, as
a result it has stolen many future. I recommend this book for every young
individual, who knows he has a great potential, but what he has been
experiencing is otherwise. This is the book you really need. It will guide
you through how you can navigate through that which God has purpose
for you.
-Fashipe Paul
I must say the author of this book; Beatrice OLADOJA, spoke the mind of
Christ. The book is God inspired and a blessing to generations. This book
will make impact on people's life the way it went vast and cut across
necessary areas like your dream as a purposeful man. And we are aware
that a man without vision is blind. It talks about our love walk as believers
and how that replaces offence. It is expedient for us to walk in love. I was
blessed and I encouraged everyone to enjoy, too.
-Bello Kanyinsola.
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Wow, this is a book that I wished I read while I was a teenager because it's
well detailed, full of experiences, solutions, and steps to take if you find
yourself in these vices. Nevertheless, it was still impactful and an eye
opener to me. I employ all teenagers, pre-teens and post-teens that
come in contact with this book to take time to read, meditate and follow
the instructions as stated because it is well loaded and built on the
foundation of the bible. I also beseech all parents to read this book
because it will serve as an eye-opener to what their kids are facing in this
generation and help to know the necessary actions to take to keep their
Children (wards) secured from these vices or help serve as a guide to
coming out if they are in it already. Thank you
-Olatunji Damilare.
-Abayomi Oladayo.
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“Wow”… “Wow”… “Wow”… Those were my words after reading the book
“Life; Full Of Experiences”. Beatrice has defined life beyond the popular
facade of imaginations but make it real. Life indeed is full of experiences
and one has to be prepared for them.
“It has been said and proven over the years that the teenage stage is a very
delicate times in life because the phase is characterized by rapid and
significant physical, emotional, psychological and intellectual changes.”
Beatrice has skillfully put together how a teenager can walk through this
phase in peace and not in pieces, managing the pains and hurt life may
bring maturely.
The book was beautifully written in such a way that, it reveals the possible
unexpected many teenagers faced in their teenage phase with solutions.
She employed her poetry skill and was epigrammatic in her presentation
to convey the message with clarity using life examples. The chapter
eleven of the book got me so much because it reminded me of my
beautiful childhood days with the popular commander Obe song which
says; “ko si ogbon to le da, ko si iwa to le wu, to le fi te aye loru” (meaning
that, there is nothing you can do, no wisdom you can display to satisfy all
of mankind)
The book will deliver anyone who is already in shackles of hurt and pain,
guide its reader on how to live a peacefully and keep growing with the
phase he/she is experiencing and yet get the best result couple with
growth and glowing.
I recommend the book to be read not only by teenagers, but also
institutions and people who need a concise guide to help younger
generations grow.
-DANIEL Oyewale
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