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Marriage Questionnaire Ebook
Marriage Questionnaire Ebook
All you can do is; tie your camel, make dua, Istikharah &
have trust in Allah.
TIPS
1. If you can, ask these questions in real
time. Anybody can craft a perfectly
written answer.
2. Make sure you’re able to answer these
questions as well. It takes two to
tango, and marriage aint no different.
3. Take it easy, treat the questionnaire
as an ice breaker and conversational
guide, not an interrogation. We ain't at
the precinct.
4. Do not ask all the questions all at
once. Space it out.
Acts of service: People who prefer to receive acts of service from partners
love to be shown, rather than told, they’re cared for ex. helpful chore for
them, or takes care of a task they’ve been avoiding.
Quality time: People who feel the most adored when their partner actively
wants to spend time with them and is always down to hang out. They
particularly love when active listening, eye contact, and full presence are
prioritized hallmarks in the relationship.
Gifts: People who feel loved when they receive "visual symbols of love." it is
not about the monetary value but the symbolic thought behind the item.
People with this style recognize and value the gift-giving process: the careful
reflection, the deliberate choosing of the object to represent the
relationship, and the emotional benefits from receiving the present.
Physical touch: People who feel loved when they receive physical signs of
affection. Physical intimacy and touch can be incredibly affirming and serve
as a powerful emotional connector for people with this love language.
State your personality type below
The Inspector – ISTJ Personality
The Architect – INTJ Personality
The Giver – ENFJ Personality
The Artist – ISFP Personality
The Crafter -- ISTP Personality
The Advocate -- INFJ Personality
The Mediator -- INFP Personality
The Commander - ENTJ Personality
The Debater -- ENTP Personality
The Performer -- ESFP Personality
The Caregiver -- ESFJ Personality
The Protector -- ISFJ Personality
The Thinker -- INTP Personality
The Director -- ESTJ Personality
The Champion - ENFP Personality
The Persuader -- ESTP Personality
7. What have you learned from observing your family that you do
or do not want to incorporate into your marriage?
10. What role do you think parents should play in helping to select
your spouse? How involved are they?
Career
1. What career path do you plan on taking?
2. Will both husband and wife work outside the home?
3. Under what conditions would you be willing to move to further
you or your spouse’s professional growth?
4. How much time do you spend at work?
5. .How do you plan to balance time at work and time with the
family?
6. What kind of business functions will you ask each other to
host/attend?
7. Would you encourage/support the idea of me going back to
school for advanced degrees?
8. How would we support ourselves if we both had to be in school?
Infidelity/dishonesty
1. What are your views on infidelity? (What do you consider as
cheating?)
2. What is your experience with families with a second wife?
3. Will infidelity automatically end the marriage?
Social life
1. How much time do you want to spend with friends? By yourself?
2. As a couple, how would you feel about your spouse having
friends with the opposite gender?
Children
1. How many children do you want to have?
2. When do you think you’ll be ready to have children?
3. How will you distribute responsibility for child rearing?
4. What do you think is important to teach children?
5. What is your view on raising children? Do you spank?
6. To what extent would you be willing to utilize family members,
friends, babysitters or daycare to watch your children?
7. How will you ensure your children have a good Islamic
education?
8. What would you do if you/or I could not have children?
9. Do you want your children to grow up bilingual? If so, in what
languages?
House
1. How do you feel about cleanliness, neatness and housework?
2. How do you feel about knick knacks and artwork?
3. Who is responsible for work around the house?
4. What are the household chores you are used to doing
5. Have you ever lived alone? Have you ever had a roommate?
6. Have you always lived with your parents?
7. How do you feel about pets?
8. What are your preferences in terms of food?
9. Mostly from your own ethnic group, or a more diverse palate?
10. Only home-made, or also convenience or from restaurants?
11. Meat or vegetarian?
12. If we were both working and we both got home about the
same time, would you expect the wife to always be the cook?
13. How do you feel about smoking?
Intimacy
1. How important is intimacy in a marriage?
2. Name some of your personal boundaries
3. How would you like your spouse to show up for you
intimately?
4. What are your thoughts on weekly/biweekly date nights to
reconnect?
5. What are the character traits you admire in others?
6. How can I make it easier to discuss problems or areas of our
life that are uncomfortable to you?
7. In terms of intimacy, how important is it when it comes to
pleasing your wife?
8. If your spouse is not in the mood to be intimate but the other
partner is, how would you go problem solving this?
9. How would you go about making your spouse feel more
confident with their body image?
10. What is your point of view when it comes to consent?
11. How important is foreplay to you?
12. Do you think marital rape exists?
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