Dave Tubio November 21, 2021

Grade XII – Schrodinger Siaton Science High School

Personal Development – Quarter 2: Module 1

What I Can Do – Essay Writing

I have not been in a committed or casual relationship for quite awhile now, nor do I intend
to have one. Regardless of this abstinence, I made a great deal of insights that relationship does
not just occur between you and a significant someone – someone you treat more than just a friend.
I may not have it, but I am subconsciously surrounded by other forms of connections such as
familial relationship, friendships, acquaintances, teacher-student relationships, place-based and
community relationships, and even relationship to myself.

My relationship with my family is by far a connection that truly matters to me now.

Although I may categorize this as an empty love – only driven by commitment and biology – it is
still one of the purest connections I have at the present moment. It become a part of my coping
mechanism in times of stress and uncertainties. It helps me continue to fight back at every hurdle
life throws at me. And just like any other relationship, it is unstable and prone to wreckage.

Next in the list is my friends. Friendship is one of the relationships that I have which I
treasure. We consider each other as “second family” for we share everything from our personal
problems to more private matters like our deepest, probably life-long secrets. While friendship
love involves nothing but only intimacy, it has helped me develop a sense of belonging, self-worth
and confidence. It is not perfect, yet we try to make it as better as it can be by instilling trust and
genuinely friendly love.

Even though I have mentioned above that I do not intend to be in a monogamous, romantic
relationship (for now), it does not follow that I do not want one. As a human by nature, I thirst for
a more mature and promising love – one that has passion, intimacy and commitment. Yes! A
consummate love. My past fatuous associations taught me a great deal of lessons about having a
relationship. One of them is to put effort so that trust and rigid love build over time while turning
situationship into consummate love.

All these relationships, including social and communal relationship – which I failed to
mention, are important in helping me validate the overused quote “no man is an island.” Having
all these connections fuel the holistic growth that I need to know more the character I want to
become. They also give meaning to my supposed-to-be-dull life. After all, researches have shown
that positive relationships in all forms are necessary for our physical, mental, and spiritual health.